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SLEEP OVER!!!
Tonight dp and I are having a night without dd, she's going to the IL'S for a sleepover and i've been excited about it allll week, having a night off. But now the day has come im sad :( I've never spent more than 2 hours without her. So my question is, when was your first night away from your baby and how did you cope... Im trying not to let it get the better of me and just cancel cause we've planned to have people over for drinks..
Oskar hasn't had a sleep over yet...lol. Joshua was around 5ish months I think and I called EVERY hour...hahaha.... !!
No sleepovers here yet either LOL. Just haven't had a need! Altho our anniversary is coming up, so I might try and palm off at least DS to nana's house for the night :)
Sleep overs haven't appealed to me, coz I would have to spend the night off expressing LOL. Easier just to have the baby there to feed. hehehe.
You'll all be just fine, I'm sure. Have a fantastic night off! :)
Awh. I'd be the same as you. I'd be so excited the time came around I'd be so worried and probably be crying. Lol.
DS1 hasn't had any sleepovers as such. The only time we weren't sleeping in the same place was when I had DS2. I cried and worried through my pregnancy about it too. I'm such a sook.
I hope you have a great time with just you and your partner, and your little girl is good for the ILs.
xx
i think with DD it would have been my 21st so she was just over 4 months, and tommorow night will be the first night away from DS, i know i will msg my mum plenty to check lol but i know everything will be ok.
hope you can enjoy your night
DS is having his first sleepover in a couple of months. We're going to a family wedding in the country. I'm really looking forward to it, but I'm sure I will miss him heaps and text/call my mum all evening! We would have sent him for sleepovers earlier, but he doesn't sleep through and I feel bad for my mum to have to get up to him LOL.
I'm hoping it will be the start of a long tradition ;)
Well we have had a few attemps at sleep overs which have ened up in Dp and I going and picking Annabelle up as mum said "She's just not settling." :rolleyes:
But one night where she was meant to sleep over I kept thinking of her but knew she was in good hands and if worse came to worse Id just go pick her up. Which in the end at 2am is what happened:rolleyes:
But Im very nervous also Kirsty_Lee as my 21st party and 'night out' is on the 26th of September and a sleep over will HAVE to happen. So you'll have to let me know how to cope through a HOLE night without her ;)
Dont forget it's you break and DD is very safe! And will have a nice refreshed mummy once you have that night off. Also it's DD break from mummy :lol: she can get up to all sorts of things :hug:
No sleep overs here yet.... and mine are 5 and 7 ;)
Oh hooray Christine - makes me feel better! LOL.
Well my first sons sleep over (apart from when I was in hosp having siblings :lol: ) He was 6 and I cried myself to sleep :(
infact just the other week my 2 eldest had a sleep over at the inlaws it was my ds 2 first sleep over and I cried.. I am not good with being separated.. thier empty beds make me cry
I even cried each night I was in hospital having babies :lol:
ps I am the worlds biggest sook
its a really emotional time isn;t it? When DS was 4 months old we went out for tea without him for the first time and left him with my Mum. The whole time we were out i had such awful anxiety, i very nearly passed out at one stage, i didnt enjoy myself at all! Its only just now that i can happily and comfortably leave him for a few hours and not worry at all, but even then i will only leave him with my parents or sisters.
It will be hard for you, but i bet bub wont be worried in the slightest! The bond we mothers have with our bubs is just so strong, it can be hard to let go even for a couple of hours. Don't feel that you have to leave her if you really are feeling uncomfortable without her. Only a few months ago my mum had DS overnight while we went out. I ended up going home to mums at 9:30pm and taking him home! I felt so weak and silly doing that, but my mum made me feel better by saying that DS is my child and i can do what i want with him, its not a bad thing to love your child so much!
GL i really hope you have a relaxing child free night
DD's first sleepover was when DP & I had the flu so badly we couldn't move off the couch so my mum came and took DD for a couple of nights. DP and I were so sick that we didn't even have the capacity to worry. So although it wasn't optimal circumstances, the outcome of DD having a ball and being really good was great and meant that we didn't worry so much with subsequent sleepovers.
I know exactly how you feel! You look forward to it but when the time comes it is very different.
I guess you handle it by knowing that they are in the hands of someone you trust, and who will call you if there is a problem. Make sure they know all of the things they need to know and have everything they need to have. And then just try and relax. It really seems with most kids that they don't miss you until they see you at pick up time. I am sure she will have lots of fun.
Ive only just recently let my 4yr old DD stay at my mum and dads place (grandma and pa). I found it reallllly hard to let go and even cried that night to DH.
It wasnt the fact that i couldnt trust my mum or dad, it wasnt the fact she would cry for me in the night (coz she wouldnt)...i think it was another realisation that my first baby is growing up...
to be quite honest it didnt worry me too much when DS had his first sleep over i was happy because i knew he was in good hands (my mum) although it did feel weird not having him there.
Cooper is having his first sleepover in Sep, at my mums, though I hope he wont be 2 bad as she is having the 4 kids while we go to sil wedding she is thinking of having my sisters 3 the same night so dont think the kids will sleep anyway.
Paige's nanny and poppy live 2-3km around the corner, so I was calm in the sense that I could just go and get her if there was any problem.
I got fidgetty during the dinner/bath and bedtime hours...but after that I was fine!!
The first one is the hardest!
My DD was meant to sleep over at the inlaws when i went in for my laparoscopy, but I just couldn't do it, LOL. So you are doing alot better then me.
Enjoy your night out :)
Oh i looooooved the first sleep over......2 whole nights..no kids...= BLISS!!
i called maybe once...and i knew they were both fine with MIL....in their own home (we went away for the weekend...MIL flew down from NSW).
In December they are going away for a week....OMG i cannot wait!!!!!
My almost 6 month old DD hasn't had a sleep over yet but she will be sleeping over at her Grumpy & Gran's in a couple of weeks probably. Was thinking about doing it this weekend but her 1 & 2 year old cousins are sleeping over my parent's house & they can't handle 3 really young kids over night just yet - maybe when they are all a few years older.
I'm really looking forward to her first sleep over and being able to sleep in.
My DD had her 1st sleep over at 2 months and although I hardly noticed the 1st night cause I was so sick, I made the 2 hour drive the 2nd night just to be in the house with her, but my wonderful SIL still got up to her in the night...
But as for the 1st one that was knowing, it was hard, but my parents were so looking forward to it, I dragged myself away and cried for the whole 2 hrs home..
I find it easier to leave when my DD can wave goodbye, not that she knows, but she won't associate sleep with mummy and daddy leaving me..
No sleepovers here yet either. I have been out without him for one hour since he was born and he was a crying mess when I got home, so I haven't left him since.
Your dd will most likely cope better than you. If she doesn't they can call you. Just enjoy yourself. I hope you have a great night.
Ours have never had a sleepover, per se, but we have had a night without Molly for our second wedding anniversary when we stayed at a hotel, and MIL came over to stay at our house. We were okay - we certainly missed her, but it was a nice break.
Wow, none of mine have ahd sleep overs yet. I don't see sleepovers happening till at least when they are 10 & its at friends place.
I just don't have the need/see the point in having them sleep over at grandma's etc house.
Even when I had Isla, Grandma came over & stayed in the house for the 3 or so hours I was giving birth. We left at 10pm & DH went home again at 1 am ish.
I remember the first time we left Evan with Grandma so we could go see a movie during the day. I think he was about 5 months old. That was terrible & the movie just went on & on (2nd Lord of the rings) I almost ran all the way home once I could get out of there LOL. Evan was fine.
I very rarely had sleepovers as a young kid, until I started having them with friends (maybe about grade 2 or 3?) as all our family were too far away. But my step sister's boys have had sleepovers with many different family members since they were babies, most often with us (I was a teenager at the time). Their parents are actually quite conservative, and not keen on them having too many sleepovers with friends, but family was always okay. The boys have LOVED it, they get spoilt rotten, and have a wonderful time. It's given me a great insight into how wonderful it can be for kids to spend lots of time with their extended family (if they want to of course) and I can only hope our kids will have the same. My nephews have a wonderful bond with most of our family members, particularly with my mum, who they spent so much time with. Even when I moved out of home, they came to stay (and still do, although they're now 14 and 11 LOL). It's been good when it came to staying with friends, they were cool about it, because they were used to being away from home at a young age.
Our nieces (SILs kids) have had sleepovers with us since they were about 4 and 2. It was just easier than their parents waking them up to take them home late at night. And they get pancakes in the morning LOL! They love it, and often ask when they can come to stay next.
So while I think there's nothing at all wrong with kids not having sleepovers, I can certainly see the benefits if you have people who are excited to have them stay :) My mum is, my MIL isn't. I'm not fussed either way ;)
Well a quick update for you all... Had a good night, it was nice to have a break.. but as I was drinking (alot i might add *rubs head*) I walked in the house to go in and check on her, got to her cot and realised she wasn't there and ended up in a bubblery drunken mess LOL But when I got her home today I was so excited and she was excited too she was squeeling and giving me cuddles soooo cute....