When can i try again after miscarriage?

Hi everyone,

I'm new to this and not so sure how it all works.... however I have finally found a way to open a new thread.

I am 35 and have only recently miscarried (2 days ago!!). :wall:

Fortunately it was very early on at almost 6 weeks. I'm bleeding quite heavily and have been told that I won't require a D & C (I think it's called) as the bleeding will remove everything. My Dr (didn't quite make it to see OB as yet) said I can try again any time. Does anyone know when I can start trying? Is this bleeding classified as Day 1 of a period and therefore possible ovulation would occur in approx 2 weeks? Is it too soon to start trying in 2 weeks again? or is there a certain amount of time that is required to wait?

If anyone has any knowledge on this subject - I'd appreciate it. This is very unknown to me and I have no idea.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read/respond!

I'm so very sorry for your loss. :hug:

Its pretty much up to you when you feel ready to TTC again. But the bleeding does not count as a period and you probably won't ovulate again until your HCG levels return to 0, which can take several weeks. Some doctors will advise waiting 2-3 cycles before trying again and some will say there is no reason to wait. Waiting until after the first period will allow the next pregnancy to be dated. But really, its up to you when you feel ready once this bleeding stops.

I hope this helps.

Hannah

Sorry about your miscarriage :hug:

Yes doctors have different opinions on when it's 'safe' to try again, but in most cases the only reason to wait is so you can emotionally recover, and to date any new pregnancy.

It may be 6 or so weeks before you have a period again, and the bleeding from the miscarriage doesn't count as a period. You could ovulate any time this month and could conceive. I conceived my son the day after my miscarriage (8 weeks) ended - the same can happen to you.

Thank you so much for the replies. It was very helpful to have responses. Emotionally I'm OK about it (most likely because it happened so quickly; both the pregnancy and the miscarriage, so I barely had time to get used to the idea!). Yes... it was sad when it happened, however I'm grateful that we'd already booked in for holidays to the Gold Coast and so was able to get away and enjoy the sunshine!

Good to know that conception can occur quickly and more importantly lead to a child (Congratulations on yours Gabi)

Thank you!

Irena :D

Hiya!

When I saw the OB after my second miscarriage, he recommended waiting three months to let the uterus heal. I got pregnant and miscarried a few weeks in, then had a period at the normal time, then got pregnant again and lost that one as well very early. Two miscarriages in ten weeks--it's been a rough couple of months!

Anyway, that's what a doctor told me, just thought I would pass it on....

B

I am so glad that I found this site.

DH and I have been TTC for 6 years and I have had severe endometriosis and blocked tubes which have been "fixed". We were about to start FSH injections and were waiting on my next period when I found out that I was pregnant last wednesday. Unfortunately I miscarried on sunday and am devastated.

We have an appointment with our FS on monday to chat about what next but I am hoping that I am more fertile now and might not need the FSH injections.

I'll get to the point though.

I too am wondering when will be good to start trying again. I guess that I will be able to chat to my FS about that on monday but I just wondered what other people had been told.


S X

I m/c twins in March 2007 at 6 1/2 weeks. I asked the doc how long I had to wait and he just said go for it when I was ready (I had a great doc :) )

I o'ed on day 28 and was pg then and there (it only took the once) . I now have a gorgeous little man who is 9 1/2 months.

My honest opinion, everything happens when your body is ready for it to happen. If you dont fall pg straight away then your body isnt ready.

I wish you the best of luck and a nice big sticky preggy next time round

make sure you let us all know to

HI ladies- just a quick question to add here- Are the rules different if you have a D&C? I had one last week....my doctor says to wait until after I get my next normal period before trying again ....we have to wait until Jan to resume IVF, but we have a very very slim chance of conceiving naturally and thought we might try while waiting for our next IVF cycle....just wondering if we do need to wait until after the next period?

hugs to all of you!

possums - apparently a d&c can actually make it easier for you to conceive, and I have heard of people falling pregnant without having a period following a d& c. Some work out, some don't - often it is advised to wait for a period so that your dates are correct - and to allow your body time to heal from the d&c.

After all is said and done though, its up to you as to when you are ready - body, mind and soul. GL to all of you

Hey Possums,

so sorry to hear that mate.
I had a D&C in late April. My Ob said there was no real harm in trying if that's what we wanted. They never took levels to see of my HCG had dropped so i'll never really know how long they took to fall, but by the end of June....well here I am again.
Hope it goes well for you.

Sorry for your loss. I had a dandc and I fell pregnant 2 weeks after the procedure.

Ok thanks for that ladies.... our chances of conceiving naturally are pretty slim, so I think we might as well try... we are still grieving and regrouping, but I'd rather try than not

It's worth a go Possums if you feel up to it. I had a m/c (no D&C) at the start of January last year and was pg again with DS2 by the end of that month, so it can work out positively. Wishing you all the best :hug:.

Hey everyone,

I have heard that right after a d&c is a great time to try. It is the waiting that sucks I think. People say wait until you recover emotionally, but what better way to feel "recovered" than to be pregnant, which is why you're upset in the first place!

I don't know.....

B

lol brooke...that's kinda how I feel

Just wanted to add for anyone else who may have the same questions, that my IVF nurse said, yes, we are fine to try straight away, while waiting for our next IVF cycle...no physical dramas

The last few replies to this thread have given me real hope.

I am hoping that it happens again quickly for DH and I. The miscarriage was only last sunday but by the sounds of things there is no harm in trying again while we wait for our fertility cycle to come round.

Thanks guys
Sue x

Hi Possums,
My FS told me the same as you, to wait until Jan to start a new cycle, I m/c naturally & the doc told me to wait for my next period (whenever that will be). However, I am still going to keep trying naturally - why not! I have been trying for 4 years, why stop now? And if it doesnt happen, then I will be ready for my cycle in Jan - just like you!
Shell xo

Well I pray we all have a little miracle happen while we are waiting to resume our fertility treatments!

Hi,
So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. i also miscarried at 6 1/2 weeks in my first pregnancy. I was told to wait till I got my next period (which arrived 6 weeks later) and then start trying. I think OBGYNs differ in whether they think you should wait or not: I guess it helps with dating your next pregnancy, and also gives you a bit of time for your hormones to settle and for you to have some time to recover (physically and emotionally).
I am really sorry it didn't work out this time. I am continuing to try.
C

Good luck with all the conception to everyone. I'm glad this has helped others since I posted the original question. I was originally afraid no-one would reply.

I have found out that I am once again pregnant.
M/C was 16 Sept 08 at just less than 6 weeks (No D&C required). My period re started on 18 October and I have just taken a stick test to find out that I am pregnant. (I was trying to work out why I was so crabby and losing patience with my kids in the classroom - year 5/6 class). I took the test and 2 strong lines came up - on 2 different branded tests (needed to be sure). Thank God, I'm turing 36 in 3 weeks and need to get a move on!

The Dr did say that at this early stage, I can still get a period and naturally miscarry as it's a 1 in 2 chance. They prefer to wait till 5 weeks to call it a viable pregnancy.

Fingers crossed this Pregnancy works.
Good luck with everyone else trying to conceive. I'll keep you updated with any info I find out that may be relevant to others.

That's awesome news, congratulations!

I am praying for a nice & sticky bub for you :)

CONGRATULATIONS! We will all be thinking good thoughts for you...My period was October 19--maybe I should check too! We haven't been trying or not trying, just letting things go for a bit...

Keep us posted on how things are going...

Hi
We tried for over a year to get pregnant. I miscarried at 10wks. We tried again two months later and I got pregnant straight away.
I guess it depends on how far pregnant you were and how long your body needs to heal. I was 39 at the time so I wasn't going to wait any longer than I had to.
Hope it works out for you.
L.B.

Hi I'm Leslie, and I had a miscarriage on November 30th the day after my 27th birthday.
This was my first pregnancy and I was nervous at first and then a little miserable because I was having a lot of the symptoms and you know your like "ughh, I feel like crap today", but you still love being pregnant and love knowing your going to have a little one soon, and happy with that. But then the worst thing happened.
I wasn't sure what was happening until I started bleeding and having really bad labor pains. It has been the most painful experience of my entire life.
I was 16 weeks along and I was so excited that I was pregnant, something I wanted for the last 3 years. My husband is in the army so I had to wait for when he was going to be home for us to get pregnant and also him to be here for the whole pregnancy (which he really wanted to be here for).
So we had gone to the Dr. about 2 weeks before and no problems were found; we had a sonogram done and the nurse who has done this job for 20 plus years said she thought we were having a boy! My husband and I were so excited because all we wanted were little boys. Well, were going to have a little boy until that Sunday morning I woke up feeling bloated and I thought it was just gas, but I was wrong. The labor pains progressively got worse and I told my husband there was something wrong. I was in so much pain I could hardly move. I tried to control my breathing to get through the contractions, to say the least it was very hard.
Finally I started to feel the pain lessen after about 6 hours of pain. Then my water broke. I will never forget that. And then our son was born... but he was too young to survive outside of my womb. He was only 16 weeks and there was nothing I or my husband could of done to save him.
My husband called our emergency doctor's number at the special birthing center we have in our town and they told him we had to cut the umbilical cord and separate the baby from me and bring us into the birthing center. I was in such shock, I mean I was holding our son hoping to see some sign of life in his little body and there was none.
My husband rushed us to the hospital where the nurses and doctor took very good care of me. I spent about 12 hours there waiting for my placenta to separate from me, but it didn't so I had to have a D&C surgery to remove the tissue. I was sent home shortly after the surgery.
I was off from work about two weeks and the whole time I couldn't be left alone for very long. I had horrible anxiety attacks and I cried for hardly no reason. I was an absolute wreck.
I eventually learned after waiting for all the test results that came back from examinations and blood work on myself and the pathology reports from my son's autopsy that there was no reason why my body could of caused a miscarriage, and nothing wrong with my son physically or anything wrong with his chromosome count.
I was put on antidepressants to help with my anxiety attacks and how depressed I was with the loss of my son. The baby I had been dreaming of for so long.
I would love to be pregnant again and the doctors say I should have no problem getting pregnant again however I am so worried I will miscarry again. I don't know how to feel or what to think...
If someone could let me know that they had a similar experience and had a full term pregnancy after their first miscarriage and that there is hope... please tell me your story.

Hey everyone!

I am a little worried, I m/c'd on Nov 30th, 2008. and my dr. told me to wait three months since I was 16 wks. I have been ttc but no luck. It took 3 months for my hubby and I to get pregnant, after he came home from Iraq. I understand wanting another baby so badly.
I am afraid it will take longer this time. Does anybody else feel the same?

Leslie

Hi Leslie,

Don't know what to tell you really. It's going to take as long as it takes I suppose. I found ovulation tests to be very helpful because then I knew what was happening with my body and when to really kick up the trying. Sadly, we really just need to be patient. It feels like forever. Waiting 3 months after my second miscarriage seemed like it would never end, but it did and now we are 14 weeks along. Fortunately you are still young and time is on your side!

Good luck and don't give up yet!
B

brookevb,

Thanks for the info on the ovulation tests. I was kind of skeptical about using them. I have been using an ovulation calender to determine my fertile days, but no luck yet.
It doesn't help having a husband in the military who seems like he's gone all the time:wall:. Maybe it will happen in April or May, who knows:crossfingers:

Well, hopefully the tests wil help you know if all is a go when he is home! I suggest ordering ovulations tests online--they are way cheaper--20 for $20 as opposed to 5 for $25 dollars. I think I got mine off of Conceive.com or something like that.

Good luck!

B

I am so sorry for your loss...


I had a D & C done 1/23 after a missed m/c at about 7 weeks. I was just as early in my pregnancy as you, but that doesnt ease the pain of the loss. My OBGYN told me to wait to TTC again after 2 cycles. I finally had my first at exactly 6 weeks to the day of my D & C (usually waiting period for your first period is 4-6 weeks) So you can imagine my relief when I got it on the 6th week!! I am eager to TTC now but a little voice in my head is saying to wait. Whats one more month?!

Anyway hope my blabbering helped! And good luck and have fun making babies!!


Lindsay

Thanks to everyone who posted in this thread... I was going to ask a similar question as I just had a D&C last Friday, my OB & the gyno who did the D&C both said there is no reason to wait but after thinking about it I was going to wait until I had one period than start TTC again.... BUT after reading about some success stories I think we will try before then, I guess you never know, I would be very surprised and HAPPY if we did get pg :)

Hi..

I'm new here and I've been researching everything since I had my miscarriage. I've had 2 healthy pregnancies.. I have a son that is 4 and a daughter who is 2. Never had any problems with either pregnancy.

I found out I was pregnant in March of this year..the 19th.. then I started bleeding and cramping the 24th and went in for some bloodwork. My hcg was 32 and my progesterone was .7. . which is pretty low from what i've read but my dr says normal at that stage of a miscarriage.

when i found out i was pregnant my hcg was 36 on the first draw..but I didnt think anything of it because when i found out I was pregnant with my daughter my first draw was only 27. But when repeated it was in the 70's so the dr figured early pregnancy. So thats what i thought this time too and the dr also. When i had my second draw with this last one.. my hcg had only risen to 56 but was only 40 hrs apart so dr said it was ok.

I bled for about 5 days.. and cried... shortly after my miscarriage I began lactating.. still had pregnancy symptoms..etc.. its been the hardest thing i've ever gone thru.. when I went back to my dr a week later to have my hcg level checked it was back down to normal ..less then 2... i wanted my progesterone checked also..but she said at that point it wouldnt have any value to come back on cd 21. Well it was time for my pap on cd 23 so i just waited til then. My progesterone level is only .8 which she says means I havent ovulated.

My question is.. does it take time for all your hormones to go back to normal..?..or for your body to return to normal? By my dates I should be getting my first period since the miscarriage..but will I get a period without ovulating? Could i still ovulate before i'd get my period?.. its all so confusing and my dr isnt one to take the time to answer questions.. i'm really thinking about changing.. i've read alot about low progesterone.. i dont know if i have that problem or not.. but with such a low number at that point in my cycle wouldnt that be a signal that it is?

i was so sure i had all my signs for ovulation 2 weeks after my miscarriage..but with my progesterone level the dr says no i didnt.. and i've never missed them before with my other 2..so i'm so confused at this point. I asked for progesterone and she said to call if i get a positive on a pregnancy test and they'll check my levels right away and see if i need it.. but also said since my level is low i havent ovulated anyways.

Thank you! any help..opinions..advice would be so welcomed!:)

Hiya,

I can't remember my cycle dates after my first miscarriage, I think they were normal for me (35 day cycle), but my second was a bit off. Started bleeding, but it was about ten days later than I actually miscarried fully. I bled lightly for a full four weeks, but at the end of that was actually a period, so I would have ovulated only a few days after actually miscarrying. Then I had a 27 day cycle, then a normal 35 day one in which I got pregnant (ovulation tests showed I ovulated around day 21). My doctor had said to wait about 3 months for the uterus to "heal" after the miscarriage. Point being, my cycles were all over the place which I guess means my progesterone was all over the place.

If your doctor "isn't the kind to answer questions," bloody hell get a new one! Some doctors out there just have an overinflated sense of self--their job is to answer our questions!

Best of luck,
B