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i have my ultrasound next friday and i am worried. i had my last when i was 11 weeks and things were fine, but because there has been no sign of the bub for the last 8 weeks, i start to get paranoid and ask myself if its still there as there is only my small tummy.
its this constant worry because i dont see any signs.
With my first two DD's I didn't even notice I was pg until late at night in bed when I felt some flutters at 22wks + Don't stress, you'll feel better on Friday ;)
Sarah
P.S. This time DS has been kicking the crap outta me all the time since 9ish wks and I am wishing for some peace! :rolleyes:
I think between those two u/s can be the hardest time as there is no proof!! I don't like it either and I definitely worry until I get the 19 week done.
Good luck xo
skoon - i didnt get a belly with DD until 31 weeks!!! and no movement until 24 weeks.
And no symptoms either! lol so i understand that feeling of ''they say im pregnant but i dont feel it!'
you will be amazed at your next scan to see what i wonderful little human is secretly growing in there!! :)
Yeah its so hard between the 12 week and 19 week scan, the morning sickness has died down but bub generally isn't kicking very consistently or very hard, and there isn't a midwife appointment between 12 and 20 weeks to reassure you (well wasn't for me...) so it can be a very nerve racking time wondering if everything is ok.
I'm sure bub will be fine! Try to relax, don't worry too much, and enjoy your pregnancy (before it all becomes too much LOL!).
I know exactly how you're feeling. It is really hard to wait that long between scans, especially when you just don't 'feel' pregnant. I'm 22 weeks now and still don't look pregnant at all, but bubs measures perfect and healthy - so don't worry if you don't have much of a belly yet. Don't worry about not feeling movements yet either. I only started feeling movements around 20-21 weeks. I know it's a hard, long wait - but I'm sure everything will be fine with your bub! Good luck! :)
if i wasnt all swollen and fat and getting kicked i STILL wouldnt believe im pregnant and ive only got 4 weeks to go!. im a huge believer in ill believe it when i see it! i felt the same as u. I have my first scan at 12 weeks and the next one at 19 weeks. I was also freaking. But everything was just fine and u will be suprized how much they are moving around in there even when u cant feel it.
Good luck sweety and im so sure everything will be just fine!
I'm feeling exactly the same...can't wait to reach the 19 week milestone. Then maybe I'll believe this is real???
I felt the same way before my 20 week scan - sending you a big big hug!!! Am sure everything is going beautifully.
I feel the same! Hoping to get in for my scan this week or early next week.
It is natural to feel nervous I think. Maybe because you arent experiencing any symptoms you could ask your doctor to use the doppler so you can hear the heart beat when you visit. I thinkyou can even hire or buy these as well.
thanks for the reassurance, starting to feel less anxious
Hey there just go to a GP if you are worried and they should be able to hear babies heart beat from 16wks.. I haven't had a scan since 12 weeks and don't have one til next wed but I have heard babies heart beats (I have twins) twice just at the doctors.. Mind you I am at docs all the time as I am a high risk pregnancy, but if you go and ask to hear heart beat I doubt they would say no.. Good luck.
yep I was the same, but before I knew it I was in the waiting room, and everything was fine. Our little champ was in there as happy as a pig in mud.
Good luck mate
hi girls, just thought id update you. Went to the ultrasound and bub is still there. The lady doing the ultrasound was terrible. She took 1.5 hr. She could not see the head properly because baby was in awkward position. So then she did vaginal ultrasound. Then consultant came in and said she missed one part. So had to get on the bed again. She still could not find it so consultant tried and found it instantly. I asked about the gender and she said legs were too close together and i should of asked her at the beginning. She was so cold and didn;t give much feedback when doing the ultrasound. I kinda feel ripped off as i was so looking forward to this ultrasound.
That's terrible about the ultrasound woman not being very friendly or competent (by the sounds of it). Are you having any later scans? I hope you get a great scan experience, because it really can be a magical thing seeing bubs on the screen.
How horrible, I'd make a complaint about it to the head of department!
I've never heard of having to have an internal at 20weeks!
Snoopea
Good heavens, that's terrible! Was it through the hospital, or a private company?
When I had my 19wk scan last time the u/sonographer was a right cow too, she practically ignored DH - had her back to him and told him to just watch the screen. Then she just talked to me, basically. And told us the same about the sex - "You should have told me earlier." Well we've never done this before, how are we supposed to know?!?
Really sorry that you had a crappy experience. Don't blame you for feeling ripped off. BTW, if it is a private clinic, I'd be requesting another one as the technician sounds like she was below par - I've never heard of them having to do an internal at 20 weeks either!
That sucks, maybe you will get the chance to have another a little later on.
thanks for your replies. it was at a public hospital, RPA. Everything has been going great at that hospital till that ultrasound. Yeah since its my first time doing it i dont understand how they expect me to know to ask earlier about gender. I thought she would ask me when she got up to that part. Anyway will talk to my doctor and see if i could do another ultrasound or something.
Hey Sakoon,
Sorry to hear squishy's 19 week sonographer was a bit dodgy...
:crossfingers: you can get another more qualified technician to ultrasound squishy again.
at 19 weeks my sonographer took about just as long, but he was real chatty about things and described a lot of things for us. One thing he couldn't really decipher was the baby's gender ...he had to get a colleague in...and even HE couldn't really tell. lol Maarty and I didnt find out Cierras sex until she was born, its like this bub is doing the same thing! The sonographers ended up giving us a percentage of it it being more girl than boy coz its legs were like squishy's and too close together and nothing poked out so to speak! Hmm im not so sure about that.
I have been thinking alot about this baby and whether its a he or a she :lol: :think:
Maybe ill book a 4d ultrasound
Hi sakoon,
The sonographer sounds like a grumpy old B@#%h to me.How dare they talk to an anxious expecting mother that way.Im sure you could get another even if its private.
Im glad to read that everythings fine.
Another symptom of pregnancy im afraid is paranoia.Im deep in the throes of it myself LOL.
Goodluck with the rest of your PG:D
It sounds like her bedside manner left a bit to be desired, but honestly, it *can* be difficult to get good shots. And sometimes by the time someone else comes to have a look, the baby has moved to a more co-operative place. It isn't unusual for a full morphology scan to take a good long time.
The 20 week scan is important to take measurements of all the organs and limbs and to check that things are okay, and that's the main thing. Also, some hospitals and practices do have policies that they will not even bring up gender identification unless the patient does. That is something that you should really be discussing with your OB/midwife at the time of the referral. I'd be more annoyed that your OB/midwife hasn't really properly prepared you for what to expect from your scan, to be honest. Too often they are presented as almost a social visit with the baby when they are in fact serious diagnostic tests and the ultrasound tech is right to treat them so.
We had our 19 weeks ultrasound last week, it did a lot to put my mind at rest, but they tell you so much about what could go wrong that you spend so much time thinking about the whatifs you forget to think about the whatifnots! We have another scan at 24 weeks because bub was all curled up and comfy so they couldn't get one of the measurements they needed... I'll be just as paranoid from now until that one as well, because I'm as yet to feel any real movement, even though on the ultrasound bub was happily kicking away. I'm hoping I get movement soon, that will help to put my mind at rest as if I can feel plus one in there I'll be much more comfortable knowing that he or she is okay.
I think it's a mum thing, especially for us first-timers... my mum told me to get used to it because you'll never stop worrying about your children... so I think paranoia is good, to all those soon-to-be mummies that are currently going grey with worry that everything is okay welcome to the world of parenthood... hopefully we all survive it without going totally nuts! :lol:
Toomanytoomany - are you a sonographer? LOL! My BIL is and he says the same thing, that people come in expecting a 'photo opportunity' of their baby, rather than an important test. I understand this, and of course you are right - we should put things into perspective.
I just really can't stand rudeness, from any professional. Customer service is really important to me and I get massively impatient with rude doctors and midwives too. The techs have done it all a million times before, but the patient's feelings are still important. That scan had a massive effect on my DH - I reckon from then on he felt that he just wasn't important in the scheme of the pregnancy, which is a shame because it was his experience too.
Interesting point about the gender - I didn't realise some places have that policy. Good to know - I shall no longer blame our sonographer for that ;)
You're absolutely right - there's never any excuse for rudeness, at all! And with health professionals it goes so much further than customer service, doesn't it - it's all about recognising that while it might be routine for you, this is people's bodies, lives, babies, they are dealing with. And like you say, it can be an important moment for a father who may be feeling a bit disconnected. There's never any excuse for being dismissive with someone else's major issue like that.:
I'm not a sonographer - I'm just a veteran of ultrasounds, having had five babies and three miscarriages and about eight bazillion ultrasounds LOL. Plus, I am a bit of an earth mother type who prefers to avoid intervention and thinks that the medical profession is a bit too blase about stuff that is "routine" but which can actually have really important implications. How many women are counselled before their ultrasound, "While it's unlikely, we may reveal information that may compel you to make a decision about the future of your pregnancy"? Not many, in my experience!
Totally. It was only because of a family history of heart abnormalities on my side that I was a little concerned about this ultrasound. And while I did mention it to the midwife, and she said she would make sure that they spent extra time looking at all the chambers of the heart etc (which they did), other than that there was no discussion about possible outcomes of the ultrasound.
It's a great point you raise.