Best way to fall pregnant?

What is the best way? I have been having sex every 2 to 3 days to try and fall pregnant, only been trying for a few weeks though so i understand i may not have ovulated yet. But i want to make sure i do not have to wait ages before i fall pregnant? I fell pregnant about a month ago and at the time had to have an abortion due to my family deciding to at the time due to some health issues which are resolved. I can now support myself after moving into our new property my partner and i just purchased and decided to have a child so am trying to find the best way to fall pregnant again.

Post edited due to people posting harsh comments without knowing full details.

Hi there,

Sorry to hear about your termination, especially if it was not 100% what you wanted at the time.

Seems like your are fertile (congrats!) so I'd say doing the BD (baby dance - another word for sex!) every 2-3 days should work again for you.

My GP recommended every second day to give my hubby's swimmers a little time to regenerate.

Good luck, I hope it happens for you soon.

Hi OceanPrincess! Thank you for you're reply. I'll try stick to it every 2 days.

Thing is i am not sure if i am fertile again or not? The doctor said i would be straight away after the termination but i am yet notice any signs that i have ovulated. It has been 21 days since the termination in which i bled for a week. So bit confused as to what my body is doing.

Are you kidding. Just because i am young does not mean i can not financially support myself and a family. I am a mature adult who has worked very hard since a young age. My partner and i have been together for many years and were able to support ouselves very well! living out of home we were financially stable and talked about kids in the future and we have moved back home to purchase land and a house which has happened. I think it is very rude and arrogant of you to say such a thing and ASSUME things you do not know. I was living at home at the time i fell pregnant in which my mother said i was to young for a child and she had me booked into the doctors within a few days. You have no idea about the personal things i went through so please keep your opinions to yourself if all you are going to do is put me down. Not all of us make the right decision and you are in no right to tell me to get professional help and to assume i would endanger a babys life. Having help raised 2 younger sisters when i was a teenager, i know full well the responsibilites of raising a family and have a far better income and life to be able to bring up a baby succesfully and provide a baby with a great life.

"And now ONE month later you want a baby because you feel you can support yourself now" ONE MONTH AFTER MOVING INTO OUR NEW PROPERTY!

I no where stated i was married either so get your facts straight. Did it ever cross your mind there were other issues such as health issues that were part of the reason and decision along with my family that were part of the reason for a termination! In which i felt was no need to talk about on a public forum.

Bugger it, everyone else here seems absolutley lovely but i refuse to continue to justify myself and personal things. Go lecture someone else.

Have a nice night everyone.

Im not sure I've read everything correctly, but if you only had a termination last month, it might be best to let your body recover first. I would first probably check to see you're going to return to your normal cycle straight away, then you can plan from there. Just makes it easier to work out ovulation etc. Also you want your body to be able to carry the baby, so another reason to give it another month or two. xo

:hug: to you hun
im sure it wall all happen when it is supposed to i dont really have any advice, maybe try what webmeg suggested?? give your body a little bit of time to heal itself and then go for it ;)

Serenity

Have you considered temping / charting? It is a great way to see what your body is doing, especially if you are new to conception or have recently had a pregnancy / miscarriage / abortion. I used it to identify my fertile periods and had sex almost daily in that fertile time.

Good luck.

Hi there SL,
The 'every 2nd day' advice is good.
Have you ever monitored your cycles? It's a great way to get to know your body for a start, then to pinpoint a more accurate time to BD more often. If you don't fall pregnant this cycle (though I wish you all the best in doing so!) your next cycle will start on the first day of your next period.
Check out the charting threads for details and good luck :)

ETA: Oops, ditto Candice :) I was too slow.

Snacks - great minds think alike huh? LOL

Hi Serenity,

First of all shame on people who judge other peoples choices without knowing the background of their decision.

I think that at the moment there is no harm in DTD every 2-3 days and in the meantime if AF comes you can then have a better understanding of when you are ovulating. No point in wasting time and waiting for AF when you want to start trying now I say!

I wish you the best of luck with TTC :goodluck:

Deanne.

Thank you everyone. I hope in the future this happens. If it does not in time then that is fine. I certainly will take on all your advice.

onlyone - I do not believe in terminations nor the death or abuse of any living animals. I am a commited animal lover and saver and will never support the abuse and cruelty of them. But being in the situation i was in health wise and family wise it seemed it was the best to terminate at the time. The family all sat down with me, i personally would have wanted more time to think about the situation i was in but my mother was pretty convincing. Yes i can make my own decisions, but sometimes it is good to look at your families perspective. I was also currently living with my family at the time while in the process of buying a property with my partner, we was told the property would be a while before the contract would go through and for us to move in, and also i was carrying a very severe infeciton that needed treating straight away with special medication that could have harmed the baby. I was less then a month pregnant at the time and after deep thoughts decided it was best to terminate, even though i would have loved to have the baby. After the infection cleared with special treatement and the good news that the owners of our house found a place, we moved in and i am now 100% health wise, and decided that we would love a child. Yes i made a horrible decision, one that i regret everyday, but if i knew i would be better so quick, and i would have our property within the month, i would have tried to keep it. I am sorry to anyone i have upset. I didnt come on here to be put down. I came on here to get advice to start a family which i would love. I will certainly take on all advice and wait until my body has recovered.

Thank you to everyone for their advice and help. Sorry if there are lots of spelling mistakes, i quickly typed this up before i head off to do the dishes.

Regards
Tamara

Tamara, thankyou for taking the time to share your story. However never feel that you have to explain yourself to someone who does not aggree. I think that you made the decision that was right for you at the time and I completey understand.

I truly wish you the best of luck with starting your family :hug:

Deanne.

:hug: Tamara, you don't have to explain or justify yourself to us. You came on here asking for advice on how to fall pregnant and explained your background so that it could be taken into account. You certainly didn't ask for our opinions on your personal circumstances. I'm so sorry you have been through a difficult time recently and I wish you all the best in your TTC journey :hug:.

The girls have given you some great TTC advice. You may also learn more using the website fertilityfriend.com. You can chart your cycles there which will give you a better idea of when you are ovulating.

Again, all the best!

Hi Tamara

Just wanted to say Welcome to BB and big :hug: to you for what you have been through. Hope you find the answers you are looking for. Goodluck on your TTC journey. All the best hun.

Thank you very much everyone. You all seem like such great and understanding people.

Thank you again.

Serenity, there is a termination support group here at BB that you might like to join. I am sure you will find a lot of women who understand the issues you are talking about because they have been through it themself. Check out the private support groups on the board or let me know if you can't find them.

Thank you Oscaroscar. I did find them yesterday and requested to join but was not sure if i have been accepted?

Thanks

Hi Serenity, you need to have 50 posts before you can join the closed support groups hun, so any applications you have for them will be denied until then OK?

Oh ok, thank you for that Trillian. I didn't realise that. Thanks. I will just have to wait.

my original post was deleted

How boring the world would be if we all agreed on everything, no freedom of speach or opinion.

Tamara has now provided more information, I was not given that opportunity as my post was removed, however I did recieve private posts from other members who supported my opinion and that is all it was a view not fact.

onlyone - im sure im not the only one who found your post a bit offensive.
yes you have your right to an opinion, but i have read a few of your other posts in other threads and it seems you never have anything nice to say.
serenitylee came here looking for support and advice - not for someone to put her down.

For me these forums are not worth the hassle if there are constantly people like you onlyone who come on here and having nothing nice to say to people. Such a shame when there are fantastic people on here with beautiful hearts who just want to make friends and help other people. Especially the people who are very understanding.

Thank you to all who offered advice and kind words. Thank you Laura133 for standing up for me as well.

I wish those who are pregnant a happy and safe time, and for those with children already a great life with your family and for those who are still trying, i wish you the best of luck. There are some very lovely people here. A pitty one has to ruin it by being so judgemental. Luckily i missed onlyone's original posts.

I'll definitely keep this site in mind for when i need any other information and will definitely recommend it to a friend who needs some help and information.

Best wishes to everyone. Bye for now.

Thankyou everyone but enough is enough. This thread will now be locked.

i'm sorry your first experience here was so negative. mostly here i've found great support - i hope you come back and try again.

:hug: and i do understand why you would decide on a termination, i did a similar thing when i found myself pregnant, single and with a severe bacterial blood infection, in 1986. i never regretted that decision.