i lost my son at 25wks on 30th of sept

i feel so empty and depressed and the only way to get relief is to hear and be encouraged by others who have experienced a loss just like i just did. i went for my routine prenatal check up and the doc couldn't find the baby ,s heart beat. since then , i have been living in one pain filled world which i cant come to terms with yet .took 4days in the hospital before i could deliver my dead baby .those were four days of unimaginable pain and anguish knowing that my dear precious one was lying there without breath i couldn't eat and had to be given drugs to sleep.After 12 hours of excruciatingly painful and hard labor my baby was brought out and my heart broke when i saw how tiny and like a doll he looked with a full head of hair already. its been very hard for me especially with my fiancee far away in china workin and cant come to be with me.::pray:

I am sorry for your loss :hug:
I have t got an experience to share with you, but there are girls in here that have experienced similar situations, hopefully they will pop in and offer some assistance
With time the pain will lessen.
Take care of yourself

:comfort:

:hug: I am so sorry

So very sorry for your loss, you will find lots of very supportive friends here xo

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Unfortunately there are many other women here who have been through the horrible pain you're feeling. I'm sure you will find the advice and support you need right here :hug:

Hi,
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your precious son. I too lost my son at 24wks and I know just how unbearable the pain you are going through is. I hope you have family and good friends around you to support you with your partner being away. Two years on for me and the pain is still with me but gradually with time you learn how to live with your pain. I wish there were words I could say to make you feel better but there aren't. I'm so glad you found BB, I know I found lots of comfort and support here. Please if you ever need to talk we are always here for you.
Take care.

Regards,
Dianne

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious little boy :( I can't offer any advice or stories but I can send you some big :hug: :hug: My thoughts are with you during this hard time.

So sorry to hear of your loss :hug:

The pain and sorrow is overwhelming to begin with. With time it eases.

Sorry to hear your partner cant be with you.

Sending you all the strength you need right now :hug:

Mamaglo I'm so sorry your baby passed away.

I'm so sorry for your loss, please look after yourself

I am so very sorry to read of the loss of your precious son.
Hugs to you,
Debbie

I am so sorry for the loss of your son - I am glad you have found Belly Belly. Lean on us all for support as you go through this heartbreaking time. Big hugs my love... :hug:

O Mamaglo, my heart is breaking for you.
How terrible to have to go through this without your fiancee.
It must feel so surreal and at the same time just too real.
Does he have a name yet? Where you able to take pictures of him? So you have something of him, anything?
I feel for you and if there is anything you need, let me know! I can not bring him back for you or make the pain hurt any less, but I can be there and listen to your story.

Big hugs,

hi...
i know that devastation first hand of the doc not being able to find a heartbeat as i have experienced this twice now.
Allow yourself to grieve and feel angry, sad etc, anything you need to and try and surround yourself with supportive people who will take care of you, even in silence! Its hearbreaking to go through a delivery, mine were long but one small positive is that you got to meet your baby and see a beautiful head of hair. i would not take back meeting my angels for anything and i feel blessed to have had the chance to hold them after their passing as many do not have the same opportunities. Although those memories are still raw, i do treasure them and hope in time you can do the same...
lean on the bb girls, its a wonderful support site!
take care
x jo

I am so sorry to read of your loss. I lost a baby at 8 weeks when they couldnt find a heart beat.

I hope you have family and friends for support, huge hugs and I hope your fiancee is back with you soon.

Mamaglo I am so very sorry for your loss. I too lost a baby at 21 weeks and it's so heatbreaking. Your feelings are natural and even though we never stop thinking about our angels, in time the pain eases little by little. I hope you have some good friends or family you can rely on while your fiance is away but we are all here for you in the meantime. Sending you alot of strength and big hugs:hug:

hi everyone,
i just want to say thank you to everyone who read my thread and sent those wonderful replies.you all dont know how much comfort and healing your kind and loving words gave me.actually made me feel that am not all alone with in my loss and there are other people who i can bare my heart and pain to who would also share theirs with me without reservation . thank you all so much since am new its a bit difficult to mention names of those who words touched me most but i treasure them in my heart and as time goes on i know i will have more to share with all of you wonderful ladies. i need it more than you can imagine especially when i am not welcome to share so much with the people around me where i come from. everybody is uncomfortable to hear you pour out your pain of losing your babies and they just want you to forget about it quickly and move on.i am so encouraged and glad to know that i have found other women like me who i can pour out my feelings to and i know i am welcome all the time . thank you and God bless you .

Hi,
I'm so very glad you found BB because it is so important for us to be able to talk about our angel babies. I found also that friends and family didn't want to talk about my loss, it was like my baby had gone and was forgoton. All I wanted to do was talk about Emmanuel which is where BB helped me heal because I was able to talk to others who had also had a loss and truly understood what I was feeling.
I hope you are doing ok. Take care of yourself.

Regards,
Dianne

i was pregnant with twins and at 21 weeks i lost them, i had lower abdomenal pains and i was dismissed saying it was probably just the babies moving or the uterus stretching, the next morning (which was fathers day) about 2am i had to go to the bathroom and was undecided if i really wanted to get out of bed to go, hehehe, i finally decided i really had to go, when i went i noticed a little blood, i went running into bedroom screaming for hubby to wake up and told him about the blood, so he tried calling the dr and while he was trying to get ahold of the dr for some reason i went back in bathroom and there was even more blood then first time, so hubby hung up phone and called 911, i was rushed up to the maternal ward and hooked up to fetal monitors, and the nurse had trouble finding both heartbeats cause babies were moving all around, finally she got them and said they sound good, so hubby went home to get some sleep and i stayed at hospital, well about 45 minutes later nurse checked me and said things weren't looking good and the dr had to examine me further, so i told the nurse to call my husband and tell him to come back to hospital, he said when he answered phone he knew it wasn't going to be good, he flew back to hospital and dr examined me and said these babies are coming, that my son had dropped into birth canal, some time later i started having contractions and nurses trying giving medicine through iv but nothing was working, i finally gave birth to my son at 9:41am and my daughter at 9:53am, they both passed away in hubbies arms, they lived for about 5 minutes give or take, so by the time i got to see them and hold them they had already passed away, we had them baptised, and dr told us that i was able to stay in hospital for the 3 days cause i had vaginal births, so we had babies stay with us the whole time in room with us, held them as much as possible, took pics,
hospital told us about a professional picture guy that takes pictures for couples that loose there babies, so we had them contact him for us and he came in and took a bunch of different pictures and he put them on cd and has music playing in background, we had them cremated and now they are both in our bedrooms in there erns, i did a march of dimes walk
september 27th in there memory, we're hoping to release balloons this wkend in there memory as a little memorial just hubby and i, i switched obgyns, we met with a maternal fetal medicine dr so that's all set when we decide to get pregnant again, we got pregnant by ivf, only had to do it once, they put 2 embryos in hoping 1 of the 2 would stay and both ended up staying, i had an appointment with my obgyn the monday before fathers day and she had told us after we lost them that it's common if a cervix is going to go that it goes at that time, well if that was the case why isn't she checked my cervix at the appointment that monday, especially since i was carrying twins and carrying low and have had complications in the past with pregnancies. well i hope to hear back from you.

brtcttabitha

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your little boy. It is the worst and loneliest kind of grief, and one that is hard for many people to understand. Please know that there is plenty of support and understanding to be found in this site. I too found out at a scan at 20 weeks that my baby boy had passed away, and it was the worst kind of pain imaginable. Through support from family, friends and the ladies here, I have been able to move forward always remembering and missing my boy but knowing that he is with me forever.

Take care. :comfort: