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ds is 12 months old and people keep telling me (constantly :wall:) that i need to get his hair cut. we were just going to leave it for a while to get a bit longer, but apparantley he needs his first cut for his hair to thicken up properly? :dunno:is this true or can i leave it to grow???
No, how would what you do to the end of their hair affect what is happening at the roots?
As children get older their hair gets thicker and coarser regardless of cutting or lack thereof.
Imran has wonderful hair and he has only had one haircut in his life (other than his fringe- I do that myself)
Hi,
I've never heard about that, my kids never had their first hair cut til they were about 3. I think it's really up to you whether you want to get their hair cut or not.
Regards,
Dianne
thank you, i thought it was a load of bull
i'm leaving it till he's 3!
With my DD's I didnt cut eaither of there hair ( well been girls for ages ) DD2 still hasnt had one... But my point is DD1 has wonderful hair very think and lots of it and has had maybe one hair cut this been a small trim... Poor DD2 who hasnt yet had a cut has thin and almost cat like hair, as it mats all the time and is so fine it just falls out if you try to brush it or get mat out...
So I really dont think cutting your childs hair will change what God has given them...
DD1 has BHL hair and DD2 has mine simple as that....
Dont listen to them Rain. STOOPID Dp gave DS a number 2 and cut all his lovely blonde curls off and left him looking like a SOCCER HOOLIGAN.
I'll never forgive him, I even get upset when I see the photos.
Ahhh Chlo, the voice of reason. That's good to know! People are on to me about this as well, and it's got me mystified...I've got fine hair, dh's isn't that thick...where is ds going to get his thick hair from again? And I DID have a haircut when I was 2, I cut it myself and looked like a boy. Didn't make a difference.:
No, how would what you do to the end of their hair affect what is happening at the roots?
IMO the thing about the hair thickening is actually an eye trick ...
When you get the dead ends or stringy bits cut off - it LOOKS thicker because it is usually all one length etc ...
My DS had his first haircut at 6 months cos he had heaps, but DD poor darlin was 2.5 and it was just to get the wispy bits neatened so they stopped getting caught in her buttons and zippers etc!!
I was going to get Alister's done soon just because it's starting to look a bit straggly and would look tidier if it were trimmed (I'm a short back and sides girl LOL)
sophie has had about 5 hair cuts only becasue she was born with heaps and its needs trimming!!
i dont do it myself though!!
Pip's had one haircut cause the hair was in his eyes. He needs another cause he keeps getting his hair caught in his favourite bib snap.
I think this is one of those silly subjects where people should keep their opinions to themselves!! I mean really where do people get off telling you you should cut your childs hair & if my MIL mentions it one more time!!!! arrrggghhhh.
Last time I was home is was "oh Erin how many times has Charlie had his hair cut....ooh none, X has had hers cut twice now"(X = SIL child) well she looks like a boy so perhaps you should let it grow LOL sorry just letting off some steam.
I'm about to trim Charlies fringe so he can see but he has such yummy blonde curls & I'm not cutting them off til I'm ready...so I say do it when you want.
I truly believe that when people tell you to cut your child's hair they are jealous! That's my experience. I haven't cut DD's hair yet (she is nearly 3) and don't plan to. My MIL keeps going on about it and Im SURE it's because she cut her DD's hair and regrets it (her DD is now 11 and her hair is MIL's pride and joy). As for boys, if longer hair suits them, you are lucky and people will definitely be jealous. Wait until I have a boy and I don't cut it, MIL will SPEW!!!! :D
DS has had plenty of hair cuts to neaten it up. We used clippers all over for a while - was easy - and kinda cute :)
I think the people that think it's going to make it thicker are thinking of grass! DUH. Tell them to go mow their lawn if they want something to thicken up. I agree tho that tidying up the ends and making everything the same length does make it 'look' thicker.
I would delay cutting his hair until you're ready. Dh got quite antsy about our boys having "longer' hair, so we cut it before I was ready and it was so sad watching the little curls drop to the floor!
I have heard that cutting thickens it too (apparently with adults too). I'm not sure how that works, but to me that was even more reason not to cut it. To keep that beautiful soft hair for as long as possible!
I am not planning to cut DS hair til he is 3 (for cultural reasons) - and you know how much he has and how wild and curly!!! Ppl keep telling me he will look even more girly....
Anyway, I know HEAPS of boys who dont have a haircut til 3 (for the same reason) and they have normal hair when they are older!
HOnestly, is there no end to the areas that people feel a need to comment on!!???
i didn't believe this either, my hairdresser kept telling me to get my dd's hair cut... i thought 'yeah right what a myth'...
all i can say is i am SO GLAD i got it done a couple of months ago... her hair looked so much healthier, has grown in so much thicker and faster... within 3 weeks i got it cut again, purely because it had grown so fast...
i strongly believe it now, because i've got the evidence to prove it, but i know beforehand i honestly thought it was a myth... the way it was explained to me is the ends of the hair get wispy, and if left alone the wispiness will travel up the hair shaft towards the root, so the overall condition of the hair is not as good as if the ends of the hair are regularly trimmed...
RE: THICKER HAIR - the hair is thicker because you have gotten rid of the thin unhealthy dead wispy ends.. the longer the hair is uncut, the thinner and wispier and worse condition it gets...
GET IT TRIMMED!!
i promise you won't regret it.
My poor DD is 2 1/2 and has absolutely no need for a haircut yet. Plus, since it took her 18 mths to get anything truly discernible I'm not about to lose it! She also has cute blond curls, but not from the root, so I know once we cut them, there'll be no more. :(
Your child's appearance is your business. Do whatever you like! Honestly, if someone told YOU to cut your hair, would you listen to them?
Nah, I reckon you should just dread it up and go hell for leather for a spot in the Guiness Book of Records! :lol:
Of course you don't have to cut it! Not until it starts interfering with his breakfast, anyway :lol:
We clipped his hair..
and I regret it soooo much!!!
I'm growing it out again - stuff what the IL's have to say about it!!!!
And I'm not sure about the myth - but MY GOD his hair is thick now..
Ummmm right and it's their business because??? aarrrghhh.
Oskar has had a trim at the back which I did because it looked all ratty and I just evened it up and now he won't get a haircut for a while cos his dad wants it to grow a bit cos he thinks toddlers look cute with long hair...lol...personally I think it's cos DH used to have long hair (which looked sooooo bad on him, but hey the whole rebel rock n roll ahaahaha) and he wants to live it through him. I've also cut his fringe but only to get it out of his eyes. Other than that, that's it! Nothing major at all and like I said, won't be for a while either and he's 19 months now.
I think we need to start our own thread for long-haired babes, here on BB - a long-haired baby buddies group!
If you don't want to get it cut, don't. Is it really going to make other people feel better if it's cut? If so, why is it that their happiness is so precariously hinged on what your DS's hair looks like? Wouldn't it make it THEIR problem?
People soon got off our case after starting on the 'oohh, it's time he had a haircut' and I tartly replied 'no, he doesn't, and we're letting it grow long'. DP doesn't want it to grow long but is willing to go along with it because he knows that it's not worth going against me on it...I'll be devastated, and I told him so! So then he reverted to the 'but it will get in his eyes, can we cut his fringe?'...ummm, no! Now that MIL hasn't taken to his fringe (again) with scissors, it's a nice length to tuck behind his ears...and, admittedly, she didn't cut so much off that it was noticeably shorter at the time (not the point, though - she hadn't asked me).
Yes, if you cut the hair, it may grow back changed...not necessarily in a way you'll like. One reason I'm not touching DS's hair is that there is no guarantee it will grow back curly. Some 'experts' say that it's just the weight pulling the hair straight from the top...what if it's not?
As for looking like a girl, I just say 'he doesn't care what he looks like ATM, he doesn't have such prejudices', especially as wherever he goes there are always more people who coo over his hair and say how much it suits him than people who shake their heads.
The people who know him and love him won't care how long his hair is. The ones who don't just don't matter, do they?
Final note - 100 years ago it wouldn't have mattered about long hair on boys, for some reason, adults feel threatened by little boys who aren't blatant ambassadors for all they hold dear about their version of masculinity!
OK.. just because I'm in this kind of mood this morning.. ;):
It seems that people's happiness is precariously hinged on NOT getting it cut! LOL. It's just hair!
He he that's me, I'd sook if we had to cut Imran's hair. It's so lovely and thick and shiny. We got it cut once before and I so regretted it.:
On the other hand, I couldn't care less what other people do with their children's hair which I think is the issue here - the people who seem to think that their idea of appropriate hair care for a child should be applied to other people's children.
BTW - I do trim his fringe whenever it starts to get in his eyes so going by the cutting hair improves it theory, his fringe hair should be thicker and faster growing - it isn't.
As he gets older his hair is thicker and grows faster which is pretty normal I think. So many babies are born bald or semi-bald but most of them seem to end up with a full head of hair regardless of how many haircuts they get.
Rainy, DS had a lot of hair as a bub, and he had his first cut at 13 months, cos it was starting to get out of control (neither of us are into long hair on OUR boy, he can do what he likes when he's old enough to decide though ;)). He has now had 3 haircuts and I can honestly say that with each one his hair gets thicker, grows faster, and looks healthier. I don't know why that is though! And that's just my DS too.
You do whatver you like hun, I'm failing to see how your baby's hair is anything to do with anyone else!
We have a video of DS's first hair cut.. DH did it.. first with scissors, but that looked wonky, so we went at it with the clippers hehe.
But it wasn't until it was cut that we realised how WRONG it was looking uncut LOL. I wish we had done it earlier, coz some of his photos before it was cut are ruined by his hair do!
It makes them look grown up too when it's cut, probably part of why it's hard to do that first hair cut! heh.
DS has hd his clippered since he was 1 cause he was born with lots of hair and I have to say it is much thinker and healthier once we cut off the fine baby hair.
Its such a personal decision that its very polarising of people cause of course everyone thinks their way is right!
FWIW I have one of each. Yasin has regular haircuts and Imran doesn't.
Yasin's hair is pretty much the same as Imran's, it is a teeny bit coarser because he is older and it gets coarser with age but other than that there's no differance. It looks like Imran's hair is shinier and healthier but I think that's just an optical illusion because it's longer so it reflects the light better.
The difference being that my happiness is not hinged on OTHER people not cutting their OWN childrens' hair :D I'm not threatened by my own child's long hair, it doesn't violate my ideas about boys and girls and as long as other people's ideas aren't imposed on me, I'm a happy camper :):
It seems that people's happiness is precariously hinged on NOT getting it cut! LOL. It's just hair!
Just simply saying, if you don't want to cut the hair...don't.
haha... do you want you like. i am a hairdresser. if you cut the stragely bits off it visually looks thicker. it doesnt grow thicker from the roots. it will just look less thin of you get rid if those endy bits. my son is going bald on the sides so i cut the top so it didnt look like such a contrast. if you get them use to the scissors the less problems you will have in the long run. i think with anything, if they are familar with scissors (dentists, doctors whatever) they get use to it, the less problems you will have. even if if you trim it slightly your self.