IF you were going to take a week for an overseas holiday... at what age would you be comfortable going without your babies???
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IF you were going to take a week for an overseas holiday... at what age would you be comfortable going without your babies???
Depends who I was leaving them with... with my MIL - NEVER!!! lol
With my mum - probably when they are sleeping through the night, can dress themselves, eat all their meals and aren't too rowdy...
Hmm... so that would be when they are... teenagers? lol
We won a trip to London in June next year (yippppeee!) and are taking our 5mth old with us.... no way would we ever leave our baby with someone at that young age.... and i'll be b/feeding too.
Everyone has asked us "so who's minding bub" and i'm like "NOONE!!" as if....
I would probably consider once the baby is 2yrs old to leave with a very close family member perhaps? But then that seems so young..... I'm not sure....
I don't think I could leave DD for a week but I'm a big sook lol.....
Good question PP. Friends of ours just left their nearly 3yo twins with grandparents for 2 weeks while they went away, and I keep thinking that I could never do that. I went away overnight when DS2 was 11 months and I cried at the airport LOL! I think by the time they are in their 30s I might be ok with it ;) .
I may be going to Bali for 2 weeks at the end of March and my DS would be staying with my mum, who we live with at the moment anyway.
Recently i changed my mind to 1 week only as i couldn't bear to leave him for 2. 1 week will be hard enough! However, the way things look in Bali at the moment, the 1 week may be cancelled too!
Dh is fine with it and he really wants to go on our belated honeymoon but wants it to be child free.
He is happy with ds 12 months and DD 2 years but i think i would be stressing the whole time!
Hmmm when he is 30... I haven't left him yet for me time, only for work.
DD has stayed with my mum a few times for up to 3 nights and she just loves it! My mum looks after her 1 day a week though so they have a very strong bond and close relationship. I think she would have to be 5 or older though for me to leave her for over a week.
i left my DS for 1 night when he was 18 months old with my mum. We went and stayed 2.5 hours away, by the next day we couldn't wait to get back home to see him!
I wouldn't go overseas without him til he is a teenager
TT- our trip to Bali (with kids) is sooner than that. So hoping that things stay calm there for a while.
PP - IKWYM. I would be stressing too. And you want to be able to enjoy yourself. Maybe you could go somewhere where your parents or ILs could go too and stay nearby to baby sit the kids, but somewhere where you can still have time apart and privacy. Just a thought.
i told DH maybe when they are 5 or 6 and at school. Then we could have a week off?
I think it will be a while anyhow. I would take them with me.... perhaps i could find somewhere with good kids club?
I'd be happy to leave DD (15 months) overnight with my mum now (not that that's an option because she's in the UK) but any other family member, NO. Not that I don't trust them but because I would hate DD to feel scared, worried etc. when she woke up in the morning and we weren't there.
I can't imagine going away for a week unless they were at an age where I could tell them what was happening and knew that they understood that it was only temporary. So I guess around 5 or 6ish maybe.
I've left DD overnight with grandma & grandad and that was fine, however we are going on our honeymoon overseas next March and are taking DD, who will be 18 months, along with us. We would just be too worried about her to enjoy our honeymoon. Just praying she will be ok on the flight, now that she's older & walking she might be hard to keep under control!! :rolleyes:
For an OS trip..maybe when they are 5 and can understand better....at their age now (1 and 2) im happy to leave them with relos for a week.....they are off to Grandmas next month!!
Woohooo...sleep ins here i come....ill need it before BumbleBee comes!
Ive got a 5yr old now and there is no way i could leave her for a week....i felt teary on Sunday when she slept at grandmas !!!!
I dont think i would enjoy myself anywhere i went for 1 whole week without my girls....me and DH went to Japan last year for 3 days (business) and i hated every second.....even when he made me go shopping with his credit card......;)
When we went to Melbourne for our belated honeymoon we left the kids then aged 2.5 and 12 months with MIL for a week. Was nice to finally have a break although i did ring every day to check up on them. They were fine and loved spending time with nanna. Although MIL is probably the only family member i would leave them with.
When they are 25. We are going on our honeymoon in 13 months, when ds is 23 months. He will be coming with us. I couldn't leave him anywhere, I would just worry the whole time.
ummmm well I have been fine leaving Jake from 10mths if I was secure in who he stayed with....
we left Jake for a weekend last Sept, he was 10 months, for a wedding. My boobs missed him (we were still BF) but I enjoyed the break w DH. Then in April this year I went to Perth for a conference, but he stayed with DH for the week so really he was fine.
We have just got back from a trip to Hong Kong, totally free, but because was a TW incentive trip was child free as well. I thought I was fine until the few days before we left... he was looked after by mil who flew up with her partner to stay at our place w him. He was dandy, asked where mummy /daddy had gone a few times but really didn't seem to miss us that much. We told him we were going to work because he knows when we go to work we always come home and telling him we were going on a holiday or trip was not a familiar image for him. He has been more clingy the past 2 weeks but sleeping etc has almost settled back into our routine.
guess I am in the minority here......
I can't imagine leaving my little guys behind while I go OS.
Yasin still talks about the things he saw in England and Paris when we took him at the beginning of the year. Travelling with children makes you experience/see a place in a totally differant way and the people you meet travelling react to you differantly when you have children. Yasin's rather bumbling attempts at French won him instant friendship with people who otherwise may not have spoken to us.
Also I couldn't leave them with my IL's. I would be so worried I couldn't enjoy my holidays.
I won't leave my children alone with anyone until I'm confident that they have the language skills to express any discomfort or uneasiness they might have.
we will be taking our DD overseas with us, there is no way we would ever leave her with anyone. so the answer to your question would be....18 years of age maybe, LOL!!
I would for a short weekend away.
If it were a long trip it would depend on a lot of things.
i think u need to feel very comfortable with who ever u are leaving ur children with.
We left DD & DS when they were 3 & 1 1/2 for a week just this last august gone with my in laws. They had a ball & DF & i had some well deserved time out.
We are actually leaving them again this saturday for another week with the in laws. Both dd & ds are super excited. They both have their own bedrooms & toys when they go for stays with them.
Next feb we are thinking about going os for 10 days - 2 weeks. This i think i would be alot harder.
My kids have had alot of overnight stays since they were quite small, with my mum & in laws. So i guess we feel comfortable leaving them for longer periods of time.
Thats just us tho. Like i said at the begining, u really have to feel comfortable doing it & with who they are with otherwise u just wont be able to enjoy urself.
THis year we took Ds at 18 months to Europe and he had a ball. Just a couple of weeks ago we went to NZ for a weeak and left DS with my mum. Ahe didn't miss us one bit! In fact if I say do you eant to go to nanna's he gets so excited
Nelly- You made me feel better...thank you! I was in the minority too!
Like i said though, IF i go to Bali (im not even sure i could be away from DS for a week yet) DS will be with my mum, who we live with now. If we didn't live with her, there's no way i could leave him with anybody for a week.
Well lets see, Iain being the youngest I think it would depend on him...:
So when he is 18. I think the others will be fine by that stage also.
LOL FJ maybe after they have their own homes - once they hit the teens you don't want to leave them behind in case they are the next Corey.....
I wouldn't go without my DDs. As far as I'm concerned, either we all go or none of us go. I just wouldn't be happy away from my girls. Its not a matter of trust - I would trust my Mum with them completely, and have no doubt that they would love a stay at Gran & Grandad's - but we didn't have kids to go on holidays without them.