How often does your DH or DP touch your bump?

I was laying in bed this morning thinking that I really wished that DH would touch my bump more often. When we had our 4D scan back at 28 weeks there was another couple in the waiting room and her DH was all over her bump. He couldn't keep his hands off it. It made me realise that my DH doesn't touch my bump that much.
He makes sure he says good night and good morning to it, and a couple of time he might put his hand on it and talk to the bump but he doesn't just lay or sit there with his hand on it for very long.
I know he is looking forward to meeting our little man. I just love it when he touches the bump its a comforting feeling. How can I encourage him to touch it more, after all its only going to be there for a few more weeks and thats it?

when DH is home, he is always rubbing my tum - not so much when we're out and about, but if we're home or at rello's places, he's always gently rubbing or tickling the bump. when we're in bed, if i'm suggling behind him, he reaches back a hand and rubs the side of my tum then snuggles back so his back is against it - if we're the other way around, he rubs my tum til we fall asleep.

it's not something everyone does - DH is a very tactile person - he strokes my hair or holds my hand all the time - my dad finds it appalling cos he's not a touchy person... everyone is different...

When I was pregnant DH constantly would touch my bump. Not out in public he wouldn't but especially in bed he would always fall asleep with his hand on my bump.

Regards,
Dianne

My DP wasnt the touchy type... he was more the wait til bubs arrives type... Once bubs was born he was all over bubs..

I wished he would touch more... But more i asked him to do it the more he wouldnt do it...

DP used to always touch my bump when preggers. He talked to it a few times too. lol. The only time he didn't like touching it was iin bed when I used to press it against him and they used to kick him. haha.

My DH was exactly like yours. I got the odd rub and that was about it. Sometimes I would just grab his hand and make him feel bub. Once DS was here though he was all over him. I think for some blokes since they don't experience the pregnancy first hand it isn't all that real for them until their child is in their arms, then they freak out :lol:.

Nup....rarely here unless i ask for him to touch..

Have you tried telling him when bump is moving and getting him to feel him moving around? The Bear loved touching my bump, talking to it etc. Even used to say "put the bump on the phone" when he called me at work!

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My DH was exactly like yours. I got the odd rub and that was about it. Sometimes I would just grab his hand and make him feel bub. Once DS was here though he was all over him. I think for some blokes since they don't experience the pregnancy first hand it isn't all that real for them until their child is in their arms, then they freak out :lol:.

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:yeahthat: mine is exactly the same!

Mine hardly ever touches mine and doesn't have the patience to sit with his hand on there waiting for a kick either.
he says he can't wait for him to be out and doing stuff because to him its just a tummy

Shel never touched unless bub was kicking, otherwise she said it was boring LOL. She wanted to feel the action, and if nothing was happening then why have her hand there? Which I figured was fair enough and pretty normal.

I tell Dh when bub is moving and he'll have a feel but TBH i count stand it if he was all over me all the time. Sometimes he'll suprise me by coming over and giving the bump a big kiss which is sweet

Yep like what Macca 79 said.
When I was preg with DD I thought he'd be all over the bump wanting to touch it pat it etc bu was really dissapointed that he didn't show all that much interest, odd touch here and there if I mentioned it or put his hand on it.
But as soon as DD was born he was all over her, he was hands on dad, singing to her doing everything so this time round being pregnant doesn't bother me as much cause I know once bubs is here he is great.

My DH didn't touch my bump at the begining much as it probably didn't seem that real to him iykwim? Once i started showing more from say 16 weeks onwards he started touching my bump heaps more :D
And now he touches it daily and rubs and kisses it because we're getting so close now to meeting this little monkey it's even more exciting!
I love it when he surprises me and gives my belly a big kiss! It's sweet.

DP loves to snuggle the bump in bed especially in the morning - but bubs does tend to be more active at that time so he gets to feel movement. Sometimes he will sit with his hand on my belly if we are watching tv. He will also give it a kiss if I am undressed after having a shower or something. He's not all over it all the time though.

DH never touches mine either. It's a bloke thing. I wanted him to touch it more first time around but now seeing him with DD, i really don't mind at all if he touches this bump or not, as i know he is an awsome Dad when the bump actually arrives!

Mine only touches bump if I ask I too wish he would touch it more

DH doesn't touch my bump a great deal. Occassionally he will in bed. Usually, as he's saying goodbye to me in the morning, he'll say "Love you" and then touch my belly and say "Love you too". I'm not too worried about him not touching my bump a lot, cause I know he's happy and excited about the baby, and it will seem more real to him when we actually have a baby in front of us!

Mine used to paint my bump....

Dh only touches it when we are in bed and then he'll do it until we're asleep. This is also when bub is awake and active so he'll play games with him then too. But he only started doing this around a month ago. Before that he wouldnt so i asked why and he said he didnt feel bonded to bub and was scared of how he'd handle 3 kids! But after a little chat he got over it.

DH will only touch my bump in the morning. All other times it is me pulling his hand to feel bubs. Same with last pregnancy too. Infact it wasnt' until DD2 was 6 weeks that he bonded. I would like to say though that he is a fab father and loves her with all of his heart. Definite daddies girl. So I have just come to accept he's not the touchy feely type.

Funny I found this thread. Just yesterday I said to DH that there was a photo on facebook of our friends who are preg, and they were standing together and he had one arm around her and one on the bump . I asked DH why can't he do that to me!!!!!

How interesting this thread is!
I don't have a massive bump yet (but a pretty generous sized tummy, LOL!) and DH does occasionally give my belly a rub. TBH, I don't like it overly much! I am not as tactile a person as DH and after having been married this long he's pretty aware of it. So once bubs is bigger and can be felt from the outside I will tell DH so he can feel it too, but apart from that, I really don't care if he touches me or not!

DF loves touching the bump. He can't get enough of it, and tbh I love it when we're down the street and he moves past me and just brushes his hand over it, makes me feel all gooey inside lol
He also can't wait until bub is out either so he can give him cuddles, so I guess it's his way of cuddling bub before he's born.

On the odd occasion Andy will... but not usually. If I tell him where there's movement he will. To be honest I'd actually find it really annoying if he was touching, rubbing, feeling my bump all the time. lol. That's just me though...and maybe cos it's sooooo hot too.

Lulu... dare I ask what he used to paint your bump with??? lol.... hmmmm.

My dh touched my bump all the time, whenever we were at home snuggling on the couch, or me cleaning he would come up and rub and hold my belly. We'd be at the shops and he'd put his hand on my belly. I found it embarrassing in public but my dh said he wanted to show the world this is his baby and was proud of it. I liked him being touchy with my belly its really the only thing that could make him close to his unborn child. He used to always say i was a baby hog while i was pregnant. I had the baby to myself all day and when he was around me it was his turn. I liked it, it made us closer as a couple.

My DF is constantly touching bump!

he even lays there at night and puts his head on my belly to feel it kick him in the head!

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Nup....rarely here unless i ask for him to touch..

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Same here for both my pregnancies, I felt like I was the only one excited not only about the baby itself but also the miracle of pregnancy & a baby living & growing inside my belly.

I feel very alone when I'm pregnant but at least I have the baby for company & unconditional love.... along with my children :)

So you're not alone :hug:

i could count the amount of times dh has touched the bump on one hand , not sure why he just doesnt seem interested.:rolleyes:

Last night while watching McLeods Daughters. I was crying cause Alex died and Stevie was so heavily pregnant. So DH said don't get upset or bump will be upset so he put his hand on bump and I put my hand over the top so he would keep it there. He kept his hand there for about 15 minutes and bump loved it and was playing with DH hand. Thats the longest he has kept his hand there. It was great. i find his touch so comforting and I am sure that bump does too. I hope he does it more cause we really only have 3-4 weeks tops left before this pregnancy is all over.

Puppies I bawled my eyes out at it while DH was sleep

So glad that DH played and was concerened for you and bump :clap:

With DD he couldnt keep his hands off my bump but with DS he only did when I whinged and *****ed.

I don't remember DP touching my bump at all which is perhaps why DD got cross with him and used to kick him in the back when we were in bed spooning - probably want to jolt him into giving her attention! But he is a very good dad.

oh i feel your pain! :wall:

DP is not into touching or stroking bump or really talking to it at all. I have to grab his hand when we're in bed when the baby is kicking so he can feel it. He's just not that into it. I think it's really hard for men cos they don't get to 'feel' preg that maybe it's not really real til the baby is here.

I know DP is super excited to meet the baby but i think to him it's just a tummy that's getting bigger. :rolleyes: