Nicknames as full names??

confusing thread title, i know,but i'm just not sure how else to put it. :doh:

dh has suggested a new name for bubs, but i feel like it's more of a nickname, or a shortened version of a 'real name' iykwim?

i think these days, you could probably get away with it, but i just wonder what peoples' opinions are on the matter. do you think the kid will always get asked what their real name is...and would find that annoying?

i don't want to give the name away, as i'm not looking for opinions on the actual name- but i guess i'll give an example to explain my position a little better :lol:
for eg. if you called your ds Danny- do you think people would automatically assume it wasn't his 'real' name- and that his name was really Daniel?
or if you called a dd Frankie instead of Francesca...
do you think it even matters? or are these kind of shortened names accepted as full names these days?

sorry about the rambling/confusing post....i'm just a little torn. i like the name, but don't always want people asking 'is that their real name? is their real name.......?"

as someone who's first name is similar (it is a nick for at least three different names) you get used to it and just igore it to be honest! it's much more common now to have names that are "traditionally" nick names (Danni, Bella, Ella, Beth) as first names now - i think most people would just ignore it!

we have a friend who has a Billy and a Sam - not shortened (or lengthened) for anything - and noone thinks their names are anything but Billy and Sam...

I suppose it depends on the name. He is likely to get asked if his name is shortened, but does it really matter?

My sister's name is a shortened version of an old-fashioned name and she gets asked about it a lot, but it may also be because it is usually known as a boys name (just with different spelling)! I used to work with a Steve and that was his given name. Everyone assumed his full name was Steven which I guess would have gotten annoying at times. But I personally don't think it's that big of a deal.

Heck, if you've found a boys name you are happy with then go with it! Boys names are SO hard LOL!

IKWYM. My cousins name is Mark and he gets asked if it's Marcus a bit. I think it bothers him sometimes but he usually shrugs it off.

I have had a lot of people say (on here when i was looking for name suggestions) that they believe babies should only be named what you intend to call them. But I like the opportunity of a nickname so I disagree.

Anyhow, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. My sister is Charli and that is Charli, not Charlotte. I guess it depends on the name, but i think most are okay.

The other thing is, if you name them the 'full version' at least they have the opportunity for choice?

I think its fine. I was going down the Dan path with Chase. Because i like Dan, but not Daniel :)

thank you so much for your opinions ladies

i'm not such a fan of the full name, but we both really like the shortened version. i would be so annoyed if people called him the full name all the time, so that's just not an option.

thanks for reminding me of the name Billy- BG. that is a similar example to the name we're thinking of. i think it's a great name in itself, but i wonder if most people think it's from William?

trish- yeah i'm thinking along the lines that we both really like the name, so it doesn't really matter what other people think.

thanks again for your responses everyone

I know a Pete & he used to get really annoyed when people called him Peter.

My mum had wanted to call my sister Mandy, but was convinced otherwise so she used Amanda, even now 24 years later my mum only calls her Mandy.

i think there is so much variation out there now that people just won't care! you have people like Sarah who used the full name of Alexzander, but another BB'er who just used Zander - both boys get the same name most of the time i'm sure! i think go with what you like hun - and if people don't get it - stiff!

My DH wanted to name our DD Tori but I couldn't get past the Tori Spelling connection :rolleyes: so we came to the compromise of Victoria which I loved but thinking she would be called Tori once she was born. Funny thing is, it didn't really stick and she is called Victoria 99% of the time.

If you like it go for it! Even if you use a full name and then call your child by a nickname, like we do with Iz, we get "Oh is it Isabelle or Isabella?"! DH's brother is called Ben, it was meant to be Benjamin, (hence one of James' middle names) but my IL's forgot to put the full name on the birth certificate! His mum still calls him Benjamin at times but most people call him Ben. Wow Im rambling but I guess what Im getting at is that if you like it use it, and no matter what there are always those silly questions from silly people about your choice of name! ;)

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i think there is so much variation out there now that people just won't care! you have people like Sarah who used the full name of Alexzander, but another BB'er who just used Zander - both boys get the same name most of the time i'm sure! i think go with what you like hun - and if people don't get it - stiff!

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Hehehehe my boy is Zander - we liked Alexander but knew he would get Alex, which personally (please no offence to anyone!!!) I don't like for a shortened name, hence just going with Zander!

i'm with the thinking you should name them what you think you are going to call them!! - maybe we should have named him Boo then ... oops :ROFL:

You can call your kid anything these days without anyone really blinking an eye. Infact i think nicknames are becoming very common as full names.

A GF had a Billy last year, another had a Jimmy, just those names, not short for anything.

If someone said to me their boy's name was Will, i would think it was Will, not William, not Wiloughby just Will, as that what they said.

My brother's name is Bobby, sometimes he was asked if it was short for Robert, but not often. Doesn't seem to bother him at all. Infact he told Mum recently he likes his name, when she secretly confessed she didn't want to call him that but Dad did! lmao

I think its fine to have a shortened name as a name, as long as its not one of those 'cute' babies/kids names that is silly for an adult IYKWIM? Just think how would that name sound for your child when they are an adult :)

Yeah, I agree with Joeve - as your example Rainy, Danny isn't really a grown up name as such. Although they could shorten it to Dan I suppose. I know a Jamie and that just seems weird for a 30 something year old man (but was fine when he was in primary school!)

I LOVE Will for a name, and wouldn't call my bub William I don't think. I also love the name Lucy...although I don't mind Lucille.

I think it's fine. :)

What about Jamie Durie Cally?

:rofl: For a moment there, I thought you were suggesting Jamie Durie Cally as a NAME!! :doh:

I know a Jaime, used to be my boss, suits him perfectly & I never thought of it as a juevenille name.

I agree with most of the ladies on this one - if you like it - who cares?! I think you'll find that whatever it is will come to be the perfect choice & your child may even be protective of it, proud of it... happily correcting people that call him Gregory instead of Greg for example, all that does is make the person addressing him feel like a bit of a dork lol.

I am the opposite, I have a long name that can be shortened but I abhore the nickname these days. (Preffered it in my youth mind you!!) Long story short, you can't please everyone but the most important thing is how you feel about it, good luck coming to a decision!!

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I abhore the nickname these days.

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:rofl: I call you by aforementioned abhorred nickname all the time!! Well ladies and gentlemen, I, Nelle McNelle, will bear witness to the fact that QueenMab is very polite. :D

Shall I use your full name then, m'lady?

Punctuation was never my strong point Nelle, but Jamie Durie Cally sounds like a lovely unisex name to me. :p

Nelle - okay, I should have said I abhore one of the nicknames... THAT one is fine, just never, ever, add a 'y'. ;)

Sure does Ange! :D

Oh Phew QM!

:wall: Oh derr... I totally forgot why I was replying to this in the first place... :doh:

...it was because you'd written 'Frankie' in your first post - what a cool name!! :lol:

I depends on the name. Some that I like are

Leo
Charlie
Archie
Will
Jake

but not necessarily the longer version of any of them.

I personally prefer having a full name and using a nickname. I have done so with both girls, I like that they will have some choice as they grow up as to what they want to be called. If someone else prefers to just use the "nickname" on a birth certificate then that is their choice and I do not assume that it is short for something else. These days most people will ask something about their name no matter what you do. There are so many spellings of names used now that many people will no doubt be asking how their name is spelt.

QM - I was getting really confused there for a second - because I've only ever known you as your aforementioned abhorred nickname without the 'y', it's how you introduced yourself to me!

We were contemplating Will - I like one syllable names or those which are unable to be shortened.

I also know quite a few girls whose full name is Charlie.

There will always be some people who will invariably stuff up whatever you call him whether it's short or long, common or uncommon, so go with what you like!

i want to know what queenmab's name is now!!

well, you've convinced me. i'm definitely going ahead with the name now. i love it!

ange- i thought you meant i should call him jamie durie cally too. what a crack up!

qm-i loooove the name frankie for a little girl. it's gorgeous

thanks for all your replies everyone, sometimes you just need some confirmation from other people you know. phew, it's sitting heaps better with me now.
i think we finally have a definite name!

Wooohoooo!................. so jamie durie cally it is! :p

wooo hoooo

we're gonna get all his towels embroided JDC

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My mum's name is a shortened version of a longer name. She's told me that all her life she's wished she had been given the full name, instead of the shortened name. Some people consider nicknames to be diminutive (indeed some of them definitely are, though others not so much in my opinion). I can understand why Mum feels about her name the way she does, even though her name isn't one anyone would normally consider diminutive or demeaning. I can understand her wish that she had a complete name rather than just the shortening.

My sister is always called by the shortened version of her name. I don't think anyone would call someone who obviously like Alex, Alexander, or who obviously likes Jon, Jonathan, for example. I don't think that's going to be a problem at all.

I think that giving a child a "full" name rather than a shortened name gives them the choice, when they get older, of having more variety in what they are called. And I think that's a good thing. None of my kids will be called such nicknames - they'll all get the full names to give them more options when they are old enough to decide from themselves.

My eldest son has a name that can be shortened but never has, not by family or friends, one of DH's aunties tried when he was little, but I stopped that straight up. It's only in the last twelve months that it's been shortened to the second half of his name, and that's only by the group the boys go camping with, Funnily, the shortened version is the same name as his great grandfathers name, which had nothing to do with the reason we used that name.

My youngest son is Alexander. When he was very young, we always used his full name, when he got to school, we had issues with teachers writing Alex on all his stuff, including reports, certificates, etc, I spoke with them over that, and now mostly it comes through properly. We usually call him Zander or Zandy, occaisionally it will be Alex but not usually from us.

Another issue completely OT, both my boys have two middle names, the schools do not recognise the second name and certificates come home missing them, I feel this is wrong as the certificate is in the wrong name, (obviously not belonging to one of my boys).

I have a friend named KRISSY ... and she often gets asked if it's shortened for something else like KRISTEN, KRISTINE, ... etc ... I know it drives her nuts at times :rolleyes:

I know a Dan "as in tribe of" and not as in Daniel. It was an issue for about 1-2 months, then everyone stopped asking.

I'd rather someone said "Hi I'm Billy" and you could spell it rather than "Hi my name's Jaymz" or "I'm Phred" and are constantly hassled about the spelling. You get more grief over spelling than over a nickname.

I know I get more grief over Caryn not being spelt Karen (even though I don't pronounce it like that) than I do over people thinking it is really Carolyn or Cathryn. And no-one bats an eyelid when my dad tells them my name is Charlie Alpha Romeo Yankee November - they can spell that, who cares if my parcels are addressed to Charlie A XXX?

My parents were going to name me Kirsty, but decided on Kirsten because my mum didn't want me to be 80 years old with a 'little girl' name like Kirsty. So I got Kirsten, but the whole family called me Kirsty until I was old enough to tell them I hated it. Now it's just Kirst.

My aunt is a Judie (not Judith). My grandmother was Beth. We have a very good friend with a Sam and a Max (the joke was that she only had to learn to pipe 5 letters on cakes to cover both kids birthdays :lol:).

The point I thin is (and this is pretty much what everyone has said) is that if you two like the name, and it's not hugely boyish, go for it! Who's got the right to disallow you?

We named our son Zeke. This is a shortened version of Ezekiel - it means the same thing and used to be the nickname of people called Ezekiel. However, we just liked Zeke.

DS2 has the shortened/nick name of a long name and so far i always get people repeating it to me as a question, and i just say it again, then they realise and they seem to get it. I think theres so much variation especially in spelling too that its fine. People will understand eventually!