Does the universe hate me

Yesterday I asked the universe for something, something I have been wanting and waiting for, for a long time.

It seems like as soon as I asked I got some pretty bad bloody news from XDH. I also got bad news when I thought about asking the same thing a few months ago.

Do you think that means something or is it just a coincidence? Does the universe hate me? Should I just keep my mouth shut and not expect anything? I'm a nice person, I don't hurt people, I try to be kind to the world, recycle etc - why would the universe hate me??? I can't think why I would have bad karma coming my way :(

It doesn't hate you babe. Maybe you're just on a wave and have to ride out the low tide before you find what you are looking for....

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If I can help - give me a hoi!

Awww honey, don't beat yourself up. It may just be bad timing. Never be afraid to ask for what you want.
I don't think it's bad Karma. Just a bit of bad luck maybe.
Chin up kiddo, be happy.
xxx

Its a fine line huh? But I think its bad news for you and probably bad karma for XH IYKWIM??
Big hugs darl hope it gets better

Ah STOP IT you big bloody sook.

You are getting The Universe mixed up with Leprechauns. You don't make a wish and get it granted...especially one you made yesterday! FFS if recycling got you a lotto win I'd be pretty fricken rich right now.

I know you are worried about a few things - but you will be alright. xH will find another position and will support you and the kids. FACT. He's not some dipsh*t and you guys have got to a really great place right now and you didn't think that was gonna happen but it DID.

Just because things aren't going exactly the way you wanted doesn't mean it is total crud, nor does it mean you will not realize your dream on the PT front. It just may take another form and you can't see it yet. Open your mind and let things flow in, don't close it because your wish didn't come true. Find another one. This does not mean accepting second best.

I've seen you come through worse. I know you have the intestinal fortitude and the ABS to keep going and find a way. You will do it yourself and when you do, don't give the fricken Universe the credit, take it for yourself.

P.S I love you, and you know that XOXOXOXXO

The universe definitely wouldn't hate you! Bad timing is maybe what i would call it.

NEVER be afraid to ask for what you want...how else would we get it? ;)

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The universe doesn't hate you. Seriously!
Things can take time to manifest... it depends what you were asking for.
And the bad news from XH, well that is his bad karma, pity that it is affecting you too. You just need to ride each wave hon.
Sometimes we are tested, again, and again, and again, and again. But if you really really feel that you need/deserve/want what you are asking for, then keep asking, and stay determined, and do your best to strive through all the other cr@p that surfaces...
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Aww thanks guys. The silly thing is that what I want has nothing to d with the situation i'm in at the moment.

And Lulu I didn't just ask yesterday I was thinking about asking a couple of months ago and that's the same thing isn't it :redface:

You're all right, maybe I just have to be more patient but it's so bloody hard. I will though, patience is my middle name - right after impatience!

And i'll keep recycling!

Fingers crossed :crossfingers:

You'll be fine, I know it. I thought I must have pulled lots of wings of flies in a previous life or something, I know that feeling too.
Nothing will just end up in your lap, at the end of the day it will be your hard work that gts you what you want. You might as well plaster a grin over your face while you do it!

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And Lulu I didn't just ask yesterday I was thinking about asking a couple of months ago and that's the same thing isn't it :redface:

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thinking is the same as asking - the minute you put the thought into your head, you're putting it out to the universe :)

All will be ok. Life can be summed up by "The Wheel of Fortune" tarot card.

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What goes up must come down - we all know and understand this, yet when we are down, feeling low or unhappy, it can be so hard to believe life will ever get better!

Sometimes we experience good luck and good fortune unexpectedly, and when we do, oh how joyful and exciting it is! Getting a phone call out of the blue from the person
you?ve fancied for ages asking you out on a date, winning some money, getting an unexpected promotion and pay rise at work, friends and family throwing you a surprise party ? all these experiences or surprises make us feel on top of the world.

Conversely, when you hear through a friend that your lover is seeing someone else, your bank surprisingly turns down your request for a loan, your boss unexpectedly announces you?re going to be laid off or you lose a loved one ? these experiences and shocks can leave us emotionally devastated, feeling as though the world is somehow against us.

The Wheel of Fortune represents such unexpected turns of fate and fortune. Sometimes the wheel will turn in your favour and bring unexpected good luck and fortune, sometimes it will turn against you and you will experience bad luck
and misfortune. However, the wheel suggests that these turns of fortune are beyond your control, they are part of the eternal movement and cycle of life.

When the Wheel of Fortune appears in your readings you can expect an unexpected change in your fortune ? so if you have been experiencing a run of bad luck or misfortune and the Wheel of Fortune lays in your near future, then the cards are suggesting that it won?t be long before fate will come into play and your luck will start to change.

Conversely, in the situation where the Wheel of Fortune is ahead and things have been going great for you up to now, read it as a warning that something unexpected may throw a spanner in the works and bring a challenging time.

The appearance of this card in answer to a question about what you should do about something or someone, can suggest that, whatever you do, fate will determine the outcome. However, if surrounding cards are negative, it could be a warning that making the wrong choice could backfire on you.

Life has its ups and downs, and understanding and accepting this helps us to hold a more realistic view of life itself. Remember that the wheel turns up, just as surely as it turns down ... it?s just the eternal and constant rhythm and cycle of life.

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Thanks for posting that Schaz, that makes sense. It's hard to really look at your life and whether it's going well or not. Honestly i'm really lucky about a lot of things, I have my health as do my kids and I live in a country like Australia! It could be a lot worse. My bad luck oculd be someone else good fortune so who knows really...

I'm just going to keep hoping and wishing :)

The other thing I thought of when reading your post was that although you are asking the question, it may not necessarily be for your highest good at this stage ie its not the right time, or its not the right answer, and things are working in the background to create something better.

An example: two years ago we were living in a rental property with cheap rent, had almost paid off a personal loan, and things were looking up. I thought 'yes, things are working the way I want them to.'

Then circumstances changed completely. However after much angst we are now renting a better house (with air conditioning thank goodness), we spent our money on IVF, and although we didn't get the results we wanted we now have an answer to work with.

On bad days I am the same as you - and have a bit of a sooky la la as Lulu so aptly put it.

But on good days I think "I have put the thought out there, now I have to wait and see how it manifests, rather than forcing it to my own will."

Here is a song that helps me in times like this (especially when questioning the Universe):

Whenever life get you down, Mrs. Brown,
And things seem hard or tough.
And people are stupid, obnoxious or daft,
And you feel that you've had quite enu-hu-hu-huuuuff!
Just - re-member that you're standing on a planet that's revolving:
Revolving at 900 miles an hour,
It's orbiting at 19 miles a second, so it's reckoned,
the sun that is the source of all our power.
The Sun and you and me, and all the stars that we can see,
are moving at a million miles a day,
In the outer spiral arm, at 40,000 miles an hour,
of the Galaxy we call the Milky Way.
Our Galaxy itself contains 100 billion stars,
it's 100,000 light-years side-to-side,
It bulges in the middle, 16,000 light-years thick,
but out by us it's just 3000 light-years wide.
We're 30,000 light-years from galactic central point,
we go round every 200 million years,
And our galaxy is only one of millions of billions
in this amazing and expanding universe.
The universe itself keeps on expanding and expanding,
in all of the directions it can whizz,
As fast as it can go, at the speed of light you know,
twelve million miles a minute, and that's the fastest speed there is.
So remember, when you're feeling very small and insecure,
how amazingly unlikely is your birth,
And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space,
because there's bugger all down here on Earth

(Some of the figures have been simplified... for example, we go round the galaxy approximately every 180 million years, not 200 million years, but it's not a bad approximation.)

Haha that'a awesome! Is it from a film, it seems really familiar?? Thank you for posting that.

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So remember, when you're feeling very small and insecure,
how amazingly unlikely is your birth

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thats so true ans another reason to feel lucky I suppose.

Gargy, I suppose thats a good way of looking at things. I just get so frustrated. I just the the opertunity to begin something, then I can either make it work or not but I just want a chance!!

Hey, you were given a chance - you were born whole and healthy.

You still have the defeatist attitude - "i just want a chance", you can't wait for an opportunity to fall in your lap - go and MAKE IT HAPPEN.

I just don't believe that putting positive thoughts out there is enough, you need positive MOTION on your behalf to start attracting it to you.

I know and i'm trying, I really am. It just seems like there are so many hurdles and no one wants to help. Nothing, I mean NOTHING is falling into place.

I know i'm being a defeatest sooky lala whinging pom with a poor me attitude and I hate it. I'm ususally so positive but everything seems to unatainable - esp what it is that I asked for :(

Look wallowing is ok - just give yourself a time limit.

I strongly and clearly asked for 20K to start a new business once and it didn't come. When I look back I can see it was because I had other things to do (like sort out my family) before that could happen properly. If I DID get the money back then, it actually would have added to all my stress. I can only see that now. But that's me and my sitch.

If no one wants to help, you just have to find a way on your own where you do not have to rely on others to get you where you want. Yes, it may be harder but if you get an end result where you are able to have your dream without worrying if the support network will collapse.

From one single hot mumma to another it is always better to not have to rely on others too much. You don't have to be LONE WOLF, but from experience if you need others good will to continue, it will run out sooner or later.

There are absolutely ways around all the problems. Put your music on or go sweat or something until you get back into your COMBAT QUEEN mode. A shift in perception is all that may be needed here. Go have a read about really successful business people. Most don't have a complete secondary education and it didn't stop them from becoming millionaires (or losing it all and getting it back AGAIN). They don't tend to see setbacks as setbacks - just a different opportunity, and they are always looking out for one. Keep looking!

Firstly CQ big hugs darling woman... :hug: Life is really really tough sometimes - and what we are all feeling is relative.

I have some thoughts/beliefs that I will share - sift thru it and take what feels right and think about what doesn't! I agree 200% with Lulu - putting thoughts "out there" is necessary - but we have other parts that need to be worked on. We need (I believe) to work on our mind, our bodies, our emotions & our spirit. To only read self help books and do nothing else means we forget 75% of us! To only meditate and read religious/spiritual teachings means we forget 75%. To hone our bodies and not take care of the other parts of ourselves etc etc...


Are you familiar with Rumi?

"I saw grief drinking a cup of sorrow and called out, 'It tastes sweet does it not?' 'You've caught me,' grief answered, 'and you've ruined my business! How can I sell sorrow when you know it's a blessing?'

What that says to me is that we look at something as awful, terrible "bad" but we choose how to perceive that. Yes, there are awful things in life that are very difficult to bear - but we can still ultimately choose weather we grow from them, learn from them - thus they are not truly "sorrows" but amazing teachings. Sometimes it feels like life just throws one curveball after another - we as humans can truly reach a place where we thank those curveballs - for they can (if we choose) help us to further our spiritual journey. For that's what we are - spiritual beings having a human experience! :D That's a really tough gig to choose but we chose it. Now we have a responsibility to live the best way we can. Not to run from the difficulties - for it is in them that we truly test our mettle.

I do not believe that there is a "bad" or "good" situation. They are all how we perceive them. We need to really KNOW that just as one foot goes after another so life chages. What is happiness today can toorrow be sorrow. So, living in this moment is really important.

Journalling is a great tool in times like these. Thinking of you... :hug:

CQ, it's from Monty Python's The Meaning of Life.

I agree with Flowerchild: struggles are a blessing in disguise. Only FC put it better!

CQ - if you are trying to manifest something (anything, really) - break it down until you understand the ESSENCE of the thing that your spirit desires. Eg I might say "I want a new house" but maybe really what I want is a sense of organisation (achievable through a clutter clean-out and a trip to Ikea) or a brand new lovely friend close to where I live, kwim? Once you have understood completely, what the ESSENCE of the thing is, you can go about drawing the essence into your life in other ways. Which in turn attracts more of the same.

In answer to your original question:
Do you hate you? The universe is only going to send back at you what you broadcast out to it in the first place! :hug:

It's one thing to put a thought or a request out there to the universe, its another thing entirely to actually believe that you are going to get it. If you ask for something, but deep down don't actually think you will receive it or don't believe you deserve to receive it, then it won't happen.

Wow you've all given me a lot to think about. Thank you so much for your replies and your honesty, I really appreciate the time and thought that you've put into your advice. Everything that everyone says makes sense.

I guess I just wander if things will happen if they're meant to be or if we should try and make them happen - or if we try and we're not supposed to willl that make it not happen?

I feel really superficial becasue the thing i've askd for seems to have paled in the wake of the bad news that I found out after I asked...but I still want it. I feel like I should be asking for a way out of this mess but i'm not, i'm asking for something else that isn't anywhere near as important.

Wow, the ramblings of a confused woman lol!