would you still use it?
We had decidedon first names, but what do i do if my GF, who is due 5 weeks before me, uses the same name?
Would you still use it or feel like you had to change, we see them at least every couple of months.
would you still use it?
We had decidedon first names, but what do i do if my GF, who is due 5 weeks before me, uses the same name?
Would you still use it or feel like you had to change, we see them at least every couple of months.
my best friend and i were due a few weeks apart (had bubs 6 days apart)
we both liked same girls name (my dh wasnt that keen but also had no other suggestions he did like)
we had discussed it and decided it was up to 2nd person at the time of they were comfortable to use but other would be ok IYKMWIM
in end both had boys
If you really like the name, I think you should still use it. I know growing up, my mum had a friend who called her daughter Allie and I was Ali, she was a year younger than me but it was always the two Ali/e's playing together and not a drama.
Did they know know that you had already chosen the name?
I would use it anyway....especially if you had chosen the name first.
when my gf & I were due within a week of each other we decided to "check" if we had picked any names the same, so we started by revealing the first letter and if they were the same we'd then reveal the name. Luckily we didnt even pick anything with the same letter so it was ok :)
I wouldn't use it. Even if you're only going to see them every couple of months, it could still be awkward. It would be for me anyway.
Dh has a close friend who has a son with the name we liked for a boy, he and his ex are separated and he doesn't get custody of the kids often, so we see his kids even less, but I still couldn't use the name. Luckily we are having a girl :D
However one of our other close friends is due a week before me and they could possibly use the name we like! If that happens, I will change.
abuse the cr@p out of her and then blame it on pg hormones :ROFL:
no seriously.......I couldnt use it..Id fele like everyone we'd know was thinking I was copying her.
Hav eyou got a back up girls name hon?
she doesnt know, and i wont tell, cos last time i did her DD ended up with my favourite girls name.
I know shed change hers if i had my bub first and it was the same, but we're really quite attached to the names we like now..have been talking with DS about them etc..
ETA: girls names are fine there no way shed pick the same one, its boys names im concerned about if we have a boy
then tell her the most poxy name out babe and tell her how much you 'love it' so she names her daughter it and you can chuckle everytime you hear her call her
I don't think someone can 'steal' a name off someone, Id use the name anyway!
For me i wouldnt use it....im funny about people have the same name as i had picked
I'd just use it. Our Molly has a cousin Mollie.
If she does end up picking the same name and you both have the same gender children... send her a congratulations message admiring her taste as that's the name you're going to use for your child if he's a boy!
You don't have to change it, but letting her know early on would be polite, I think, that your children will have the same first name.
what does DH think hun?
given she doesn't knwo of your choice (and it's a cute name!) i'd say it's just a fluke and run with it. your bubba will have a different middle name and will be an individual anyway.
i agree with RH - let them know, if they use the name, what great taste they have in names - either that, or get DS to blab and tell them you're naming your bubba X and then see if they change lol
If she was a very close friend then I, personally, would change the name we'd picked (very begrudgingly - names are hard!) because I'd feel a bit funny about having the same names.
But go with how you feel, if you absolutely love the name and can't imagine another one for your bub, then go for it!
Hopefully you will both have different gender bubs and it won't be an issue ;)
If she has a boy and does choose the same name, I personally couldn't use it.
But it's such a personal thing - if you and DH are OK with it, then go for it!!
I'd use it still. Will you really see them that often? Maybe now you will, but when your kids are 5, 10...?
The only time I'd maybe change it is if my sister (or BIL's, if that ever happens, c'mon guys!) used the same name. Cos we see each other quite a bit.
It's possible that I'd change it if the name was really uncommon too. But maybe not. It would depend how sold I was on it. If you LOVE the name, then stick with it I reckon.
My GF and I were due a week apart. In the end we agreed to discuss our chosen names shortlists (had spoken of them to no one else) and it turned out we both liked a variant name. I like Tobias, she liked Tobiah. In the end, we agreed first across the line got to pick their favorite. Anyway, she had a boy and I had a girl and that sorted that out.
So I think you should talk about it with your friend. In a shortlist kind of way. Decide between yourselves what's ok and what's not ok. In real life, you're just as likely to make a new friend who ends up have the same named children, so does it really matter in the long run?
she wont have a shortlist before the birth, they kind of decide on the day.
I have decided I will tell her we're having a XXX and naming the baby <name>
That way if she uses it, she already kows that we will be - if it doesnt worry her it doesnt worry me.
Sounds like a good plan rayray. It is sooooo hard to decide on a name, and if you and DH really like it, then i say run with it. When my mum was preg with my bro, her and dad decided on Steven. It was difficult for them to agree. 2 months before he was born my aunyy had a boy called Stephen. They stuck with Steven and it seriously has NEVER been as issue. I never thought it was even wierd until i had to name my own children and i asked mum about it. ;)
We still havn't got a boys name. :rolleyes: perhaps i should start a thread and throw some ideas around.....
Given that I have a preference for uncommon names I would change it... to keep it uncommon... but that's just me. I would have been devestated if anyone close to me had chosen my DD's name because I was VERY keen on that one... but the boys had a few alternatives i could have drawn upon if necessary.
Maz your a classic LOL!
im the same as Bath i like more uncommon names and if it was used by a close friends id be devistated and probably voiced my opinion!
i think its only classed as stealing if u have had a convo about names and told ur friend what name you will have and THEN they have a bub first and use it. if its a strange co-incendance i think it would be quiet ironic and be a bit special....
I would still use it!
Oh... this is a touchy subject for me ATM!!!
I went to a baby shower a couple months ago (I was just about to have the 19 week scan). The mother-to-be asked me if we'd come up with any names. I'd said we'd come up with a boys name, but no girls as yet. I knew she was having a boy, but the names she liked were nothing like what we'd chosen, so I didn't feel too concerned about telling the the one and only boys name we had come up with.
She had her little boy last week and guess what name she picked... YEP! THE ONE I TOLD HER!
There's NO WAY I'd use that name now... even though people have told me that it doesn't matter because I only see her once in a blue moon. It's tainted now a far as I'm concerned!
Moral to the story. If you've got a name you like, keep it to yourself!!! :(
:yeahthat:pmsl!!:
