Freaking out!! Please help calm me!!

I have been so calm this whole pregnancy about the birth and everything. Not worried at all, I know I can do it.

But I was just making an appointment with my Acupuncturist because I'm 6 days overdue and want to get things moving and he said to come in today and depending on how things are going he will probably get me to come in sometime tomorrow aswell. And then all of a sudden I just started freaking out and started crying!! I don't know why! Maybe because it sounds like he's actually going to make things happen and this whole labour and birth thing is going to happen very soon. Up until now I actually haven't been able to imagine it actually happening even though logically I know it's going to.

What's wrong with me!! I'm all prepared, I know how I want it to go. I'm aiming for a natural birth and am confident I can do it. So why now am I freaking out and thinking what if something goes wrong or what if I can't do it or what if something happens to my baby??

I probably know what you're all going to say but I still need to hear it :redface: So please, help me calm down!!

SJ :grouphug: you CAN do this! You are a strong birthing mother! Perhaps it is just reality hitting home...

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Up until now I actually haven't been able to imagine it actually happening even though logically I know it's going to.

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You are so prepared, you have done your homework, and you have a great support network around you. Not long now and you will meet your new little bubba.

You can do it! All the scans have showed absolutely nothing wrong with your baby! Embrace it :dance:.

CALM DOWN!!!!!!! :lol:

Dont be scared :hug: I understand completely :)

My hole pg I never thought about the birth. I never imagined, not being pg IYKWIM. Then 'it' started happening. Once it starts your mind, body and soul goes into a trance and you're in the moment. Your body KNOWS what to do. OK......

Be as calm as possible and keep thinking, this is natural, your body was designed for this and a womenS mind is tuned to this :)

Such a short amount of time and you will meet that little wonder who has been kicking to around from within ;)

You WILL be fine and you WILL get through it. Dont antisipate whats going to happen just go with the flow. Thats what I did and thats all you can do :)
Take care, thinking of you :)

SJ you can do it!!!

PM me if you need to chat chicky

you'll be fine!
have you got some meditation cd's you can listen to?
It sounds to me that your body has just been overwhelmed with hormones ! ( which is great! :D your body is ready!)
I would just chill out, have a nice cold drink, lie back and imagine holding your baby in your arms and soon the out of control feeling will turn into elation!
Best of luck chick:hug:

you can do it!
you said yourself, you're well prepared and you know what you want- that's half the battle.
i think you're just freaking out cos it seems 'real' now that it's so close, iykwim??
have you got lots of support?

sweety, its ok, its all going to be OK and you are going to enjoy every minute of the ride.......

the day I had little laaa i had an osteo session and it made me feel so gaga, calm, and relaxed - the world was so beautiful when I walked out from that massage - might be something you want to look into, I highly recommend it!!

My mantra when i started to feel a bit like you (I was also at least a week overdue with my first 2 pregnancies) was "I will get to the otherside with my baby in my arms". No matter how scared i got I kept visualising already being on the 'other side' of the birth... tucked up in bed with my baby. During my third labour I found it incredibly helpful to stare at photos of my first 2 children when they were newborns.... I did this when I was in labour too... whenever I felt demoralised (my labours were slow). I know this is your first time but maybe gather up some beautiful photos of babies and look at them alot.... this might help to stimulate your natural oxytocin and help you manage things better both physically and psychologically.

The acupuncture sounds like just what you need, babe :) A chance to lie down and have someone look after you.
Like Amy and Bath said, think about holding your baby. Don't think too much about being in labour - you WILL cope spectacularly with being in labour, so just don't think about it now. Think about how every day you are one day closer to meeting your precious baby :)
Can you have a massage as well? (Might blow out the budget a bit, I realise, but even if your DH can give you a lovely back rub in the bath tonight or something else relaxing ;) that may help!)
Chin up, mate. You are going to be amazing, stunning, a birthing goddess. Enjoy these last moments of pregnancy as much as you can *mwa*

Oops. Sorry - double!

SJ, you can do it! It is normal to get some anxieties over it all and being your first there is the whole unknown aspect to it. But you'll do great just tell yourself you can do it and overcome any obstacles that may arise.
I still have days where I find myself panicking about things, talk your anxieites over, like you are in here and to your partner and it should help to get everything out.

Some people believe that being overdue can sometimes be attributed to unresolved feelings of fear or repressed anxiety over the birth.

What it sounds like to me is that you are letting these emotions out and are working on them and getting yourself to a good psychological and physical place to birth, and that things will happen for you soon. Treat your emotion like a catharsis, an emotional enema if you like, pouring out that negative stuff into your tissues and your pillow so that you'll be cleansed and energised for what's to come. Let it all out, and happy birthing!!

That overwhelming emotional meltdown for me was an indication of imminent labour ;) Use the acupuncture by telling them of your anxiety before the session - they can stimulate a few points to ease that as well and it leaves you feeling like you are floating on a cloud of bliss. Get as much sleep as you can and keep telling yourself you are strong - you can do this. And focus on that beautiful baby on the other side. Any of the labour experience melts into insignificance when you hold that child you created for the first time :hug:

Thankyou everyone!! I feel a bit better already after reading all that! Feel like a bit of a loony, a couple of days ago I was crying coz it felt like it was never going to happen, now I'm crying coz it is going to happen, lol.

I am just going to try and relax today and get some rest. You're right, I can do it, I'm prepared, I have lots of support. I think I'll read some of the lovely birth stories on here when I get back from my appointment, they always make me feel good about it.

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Well, had the Acupuncture. Can't say it was relaxing, lol, OUCH!!!!
Hope it does something and I can meet my baby soon. It was moving around so much while I was having it done! Hope that's a good thing.
Thankyou everyone for all your support :hug:

I have regular acupuncture and find that it's painful when I am tense or agitated about something (even if I have just had an argument with my DH before the appointment) but otherwise it's not painful at all... the therapist says that's common. But you will still benefit from the allignment of energies. I also agree, reading lots of birth stories will help too... even the ones that were challenging... your brain will register that in every case the person got through to the other side, usually feeling triumphant :) I think the thing with labour is that whilst it was the hardest thing I have ever done it's BECAUSE of that I that felt soooo totally thrilled by what i had achieved. Please know that on the other side you will feel totally amazing darl... on top of the world... and this confidence will most likely stay with you for the rest of your life :)

Sweety YOU CAN DO THIS!!
I promise!! I know you can, you know you can, we just need it to happen!
;) Don't be scared! RELAX!!

Thanks Skye and Bath. Can't wait for that feeling afterwards and can't wait to meet my baby!!


Yeah, Acupuncture doesn't usually hurt for me but he warned me today that it wasn't going to be like normal and would be pretty full on which it was. And I had the electric current machine thing too which I haven't had before.

Oh SJ I hope it gets things going for you soon.

I agree with the others and there's some great advice above - you'll be fine - we'll all be fine. I think it's all the waiting that does everyone's head in at this stage. It's normal to start to think 'what if'. When your labour starts, you'll find that relaxed groove again, I just know it :hug:

I hope the AP does its job. I believe in you and so do all of us in our BB group. I cant wait to post your Birth Announcement and find out if you are carrying a little boy or a little girl! I have been reading quite a few bith stories lately which has really helped me to know that there are many different experiences people have with birth and there is so much inspiration from each woman who has posted their story.
Big :hug: to you! and lots and lots of labour vibes!!!

Hun, even third time around, I had a freak out when my waters broke - I walked around shaking like a leaf thinking oh my goodness what do i do know - silly huh!:rolleyes: Once I calmed down I had a beautiful birth, once the contractions kick in you will be fine. It is scary cos after all the talk if you havent experienced it before you really dont know what they will feel like, how you will cope etc.

Good luck, any hour now ;)

I think bubs will be born tomorrow :D.

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I think bubs will be born tomorrow :D.

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Exactly what I was going to type!!

Good luck SJ :hug: You WILL do a fantastic job & have bub in your arms very soon!!!

xxxxx

Hi Sj.. firstly i need to tell you something... completely off topic and may even deserve a whole new thread, but i hope it at least makes you laugh and takes your mind of things for a bit!!

I deserve the award for the least observant person on BB... i didnt realise you had changed your username!!:p

I was just thinking today that i hadnt seen a post from you for ages, and i thought- surely SJ is due soon, and i started checking the birth announcements thinking i had missed it- and no- no birth announcement, so i tried to search for a recent post from you to see how you were getting along and my search came up that there was no user called SaraJane.. lol so i am racking my brain to see if i had spelled it wrong lol tried sarahjane Sara Jane, Sarah .. anyway you get my drift lol, then i thought ok- i will check somewhere i KNOW SJ has posted and make sure i have the spelling right, and low and behold no SJ ANYWHERE and then it hit me i saw a thread i KNEW you had started.... but that said that Heaven had started it... lol oh and it solved my other question of who the heck was this chick called Heaven who has appeared out of nowhere!! lol I am sooooo observant!!!

I hope the accupuncture helps your body and mind get ready for birth!! It seems your little one is quite cozy and content where they are!! Its amaing how things change during a pregnancy, for so long we wait for them to get in our bellies and STAY there!!! Its strange when we then have to think about them coming out! I know you will do a fine job of birthing your precious bub, and i hope for you it happens soon!!!

All the best mate
xoxox SB

:rofl: SB that's funny. Glad you worked it out!!

Thanks girls!! Still no action here :( I'm feeling better today, just back to being impatient again. Come out!!

Go have a hot bath, then sex, then a long walk, then more sex, then your accupuncture, then sex again!! Ooh, then a hot curry for dinner, another long walk & more sex!!!! :rofl:
A good shopping trip could sort things too :) I went shopping the day before 2 of mine were born!

DH isn't here so there goes the sex idea and the bath idea coz I might get stuck in there :rofl: Maybe I can manage a walk. I'm trying some nipple stimulation! Wish something would happen before Acupuncture again this afternoon!

Just think of meeting that little bubba you have been feeling move around in you for the last 9 months. Touching their little face, holding their little hand, stroking their (maybe) hair. Getting to kiss those perfect little lips and watch them pull those adorable little faces they pull. All those great newborn snuggles and that yummy baby smell...

Oh and did I mention you can finally see your feet, sleep on your tummy and not need to pee every 5 minutes :)