People saying how huge I am!

Hi everyone. I am currently 16weeks and 2 days. At work today the staff were commenting on the size of my bump saying I look just as big as a girl at work who is 2 months ahead in her pregnancy than me. Does anyone have any comments to say back. Im already feeling uncomfortable with my changing body and its just upsetting me! Is it normal to show at 16 weeks in your first pregnancy? I havent put on any weight yet just have a huge stomach!

Congrats on your pregnancy.
I used to get the opposite, everyone would comment on how small I was, it was frustrating because I just wanted a belly to show off.
Maybe when they say to you about how big you are say I know isnt is amazing and wonderful. Dont let them bother you. You are creating a miracle in there so just enjoy it.
Sorry i cant think of anything more creative.

i used to say at least I have a good reason not just fat

I am HUGE - and I'm not exagerating either. When I was about 24 weeks I met a woman who was 38 weeks and I was bigger than her! Admittedly she was a bit small but it made me realise how big my belly is. I get those comments all the time and now I just say: 'I have a big DH (6'2), DD was big (9lb4), I'm small (5'3) and the baby is all out the front so of course I am huge!' I have also put on a bit of weight :blush: (15kg so far) but I'm not telling them that!

But take it as a compliment of the healthy happy baby that you are growing. I was also feeling a bit too big as well so I just had some professional photos taken of my belly - I'm so proud of the way it looks I could almost burst! It has really helped me get in touch with how my body looks and to be proud of how big it is.

HTH

oh i know how you feel, with all three of my Bubs i was constantly being asked if i was carrying twins and bets where on that i was.

I just had to deal with the fact that when i am pregnant i carry alot of fluid. My babies have not been what i would call big 7lb ers. Yet i was massive. Hun we are all different and all carry bubs differently. Try to just enjoy your growing bump and pregnancy. Just tell the oh so annoying people that you noticed they seemed to have put on a bit of weight lately too........ that will shut them up. I just used to say yep i growing a super baby.
Congratulations on your pregnancy

I wish I had enough of a bump to show off :p

You could say at least I will lose my belly after the baby is born (to those pudgy staff)!

I got that when I was prg with DS but also comments from family about how I was 'carrying behind too' ie my butt was huge.

Seriously NOT a cool thing to say to a prg woman and I used to get really upset about it. I will never understand why people think it's OK to comment on a woman's size during prg when they wouldn't comment if she weren't prg :wall:

This time, I'm not getting those comments yet...but if I do I'll do my best to ignore them knowing that any excess weight I gain has always come off very easily and I'll hopefully be back to my old self in no time.

Try not to let it bother you too much :hug:

I was always being asked if I was having twins!! Terrible!! But guess what, now I miss my huge bump! I look at photos and I think I looked really good. Enjoy it! And ignore the stupid ppl. Start commenting on their size, pmsl.

I use to love it when people commented on the size of my bump. Like you I looked an easy 2-3 months ahead of where I was at. I like the comment "at least I ave an excuse" as a slight retaliation, but what you are doing is growing a baby, your body will change thats part of the wonder of creation. Be proud of all the lumps and bumps it truely is a wonderful time in your life and one that you will remember always.

Nae x

Oh we were just talking about this the other day on our Belly Buddies thread!
There seems to be such a huge variation in ways to carry your baby even from one pregnancy to another in the same woman - it really is none of people's business to comment inappropriately. Having said that I do marvel (and comment myself - nicely tho!) at the difference between my good friend and a colleague: both are due within a couple of days of each other (currently at 34 weeks). My friend is a small framed yet reasonably tall gal and sticks out a mile with a lovely perfectly round bump whereas my colleague is a tall, braod-shouldered athletic build - also a pilates buff for years (ie very strong stomach muscles) and seriously you'd hardly know she was preggers even though she's almost cooked!
I'm copping lots of the 'small for dates' comments myself - I reckon this baby just takes after me (oh please let it have my small head :lol: ) - small runty child that shot up to be strapping teen :)

I get them too - more so with this pregnancy (#4). At 26-28 weeks i went thru a huge growth spurt, and i honestly looked and felt bigger than i had with previous pregnancies.....im now just all belly, and ive looked at my past pregnancy journals, and im carrying the same, weigh the same etc....but yes, those comments arent nice to hear. I had one the other morning at school drop off 'gosh....your HUGE'....ummmm gee thanks, ive still got 4 weeks to go.....so yeah, its not something you like to hear, i guess in a few weeks i will be getting 'so is he/she a good baby'...etc, etc. It goes in cycles hon...people just cant help themselves......

Good luck with rest of pg.

I hear you, I was the same at around 16 weeks... All you can do is take it in your stride as much as you can. Of course, on a bad day you're more than within your rights to make an inappropriate observation back about the person making comment 'gee I didn't realise you had so many grey hairs' or 'yes my belly is growing, but at least mines all baby' :lol:

It annoys me no end how many people think that because you're pregnant they have the right to make comments about your body, that otherwise would be completely inappropriate and even border on sexual harassment. There have been a couple of occasions where people (FIL being one of them) have asked to see my belly and I've cheekily responded with 'I'll show you mine if you show me yours'... it certainly put them back in their place.

Thankyou so much for your comments. Its good to hear I'm not the only one going through this at the moment! you have all made me laugh hehehe!

fatty!! :P hehehehe jkin embrace it, be proud of ur tum coz after october it'll be gone and then you;ll miss it, a big belly doesnt mean a big baby, also a small tummy doesnt mean small bub, when i went in to have miss c the midwife said i looked tiny and she'd be no bigger than 6pd....haha 8pd 2oz thank u very much!!

I don't think I "popped" until about 18 weeks and I was sooooo hanging out for a fat belly to show off! I would just let people know how proud you are of your belly and how you are creating a wonderful watery environment for your healthy little one!

I guess I got what I wanted because my belly is so huge now that a stranger commented on a photo of me on a friend's facebook and she said "OMG, did your baby eat a watermelon?!" :ROFL:

I started showing quite early, and now I am 30 weeks I am getting mixed responses.. within 5 mins of each other I can be told..

"Gee your tiny for 30 weeks"
"What a cute little bump"
"Thats a nice size bump, all out in front" or then
"OMG are you sure your not having twins"
"Geeze your huge"

I cant keep up, so I just smile and nod.. but I swear it does depend on what I am wearing as well! But everyone def just has to share their opinion!

hmmm...people can be stupid at times! I totally know how you feel, having not been able to wear my normal cloths since about 10wks pg! At 24wks I've already put on 10kg (so not as luck as you) and been told by my OB to do more exercise!

I wish that I could help you with some smart comments back but I dont know what they are either! At the moment I'm just trying to focus on being healthy and trying thinking about the baby rather than how I look (easier said than done). I hope that the people around you quickly pull their head in and let you enjoy this time rather than making you feel negative about it!

Good luck and congrats on your pg.
FG

i love how people 'think' they know if you are big, small, dropped blah blah

i have been told i look like i'm ready to pop, and 'gee, you're not that big are you!' in the same week!!!

i just say, well i feel really well, thats all that matters hey!

dont take it to heart! my boss was 13 weeks pregnant when i finished up at work, and had soemone say 'ohh look you have alittle pot belly!' she is slim as, with no bump at all??? lol

I have a photo on my computer screen at work and it is of me and my younger sister and the photo was taken a week and a few days ago and the boss just cracked up laughing because apparently I have grown huge since that photo...:rolleyes: I am wearing like 4 layers today because it is so cold and does everyone else notice that with different clothes you look different? Like some clothes I look extra small and others my tummy looks huge!

I dont worry about what people say though, I just enjoy my pregnancy and laugh it all off :lol: (But secretly think "**** I hope I'm not having a 10pounder like my cousin!") :lol:

I am paranoid now but come on I am only little and stand at like 166 cm....do I really look that big?

bump.jpg picture by maralee15 - Photobucket (at 28 weeks and 5days)

Today - http://s87.photobucket.com/albums/k1...untitled21.jpg

My fundal height is spot on as well, 30cm at 30 weeks.

Isn't it funny how paranoid we get :lol:

it feels a bit like you become public property when you're pg. people think it's okay to comment and offer opinions on absolutely everything :rolleyes: i agree with serenitylee & think it really does depend on what you're wearing. yesterday i wore a tighter singlet under a cardigan & someone told me i finally look pg :rolleyes: noooo....i just usually wear looser tops!

i didn't show for ages really (i put it down to already carrying weight on my belly :redface:) and i was so jealous of a friend who was 5 weeks behind me & at 17 weeks had a beautiful bump. i think having a 'big' bump & looking obviously pg is awesome - be proud!

serenitylee - you don't look that big at all - and afterall, you do have less than 10 weeks to go!

I also agree with you Sloane! People think they can just comment about how you look and also just come up and touch your tummy! Like this morning I bought a hot choc from this cafe and a lady rubbed my stomach and said ohhhh look! I just smiled and walked off thinking what ever happened to personal space!

Other people feel free to post your photos lol! Or am I the only paranoid one at the moment :lol:

Anytime anyone said something about my bump I'd say "Well you better stand back. This thing could drop at any minute." That usually made them run :p