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I think all children should learn that their actions have consequences and what you are doing is fantastic! You were not too harsh - you were spot on. Seeing that they understood what they had done and made up for it accordingly the next day shows that it made sense to them.
And good on you for making sure your boys are housetrained!! If only DP's mum had done the same when he was growing up :lol:
I actually think this was very nicely done. It was a great way to reasonably and logically make your point. And it really helps them to realise the cause of effect of their actions. After all, they don't have to do the chores. But then you don't have to make them dinner. I think you did well to logically show them it is a two-way street.
Good work!
I think what you do with your boys is SENSATIONAL! I am definitely going to take some ideas from you for my boys :). I think you are doing the absolute best for them by teaching them responsibility and consequences. This will pay off for them when they go into the workforce, they will be seen as hard workers and great team players. They'll also make awesome husbands ;).
Well done to you! Don't give that other mother's words a second thought.
awesome, fantastic!!!!! wow just think how independant, helpfull, selfless young men they are becoming! bring it on!!! if only more mums allowed and made their kids do more to help!!
My two boys are now 16 and 11. We have had job rosters for years. I believe in teaching responsibility. My 16yo does all the ironing for me (he refuses to iron shirts and thats ok with me), but does do all the school pants, and any thing else in the basket, he cleans the bathrooms. They take turns on a roster basis on other jobs, emptying dishwasher, garbages, feeding animals, vacuuming and sweeping, mopping floors, picking up after the dog, etc, etc. I wash and dry all our clothes, then fold them into the owners piles. it is then the boys jobs to put away the folding. They are both sent to the local shop for any extras. DH and I will do the shopping (sometimes the boys come with us). The boys pack everything away. They strip and re-make their own beds. The eldest has a night each week that he must cook tea for everyone, the youngest is just starting, so needs bits of help. They both look after their grandparents by mowing and/or gardening with & for them, also with helping out with odd jobs. Both boys will wash our cars (usually takes a money bribe - but seeing as though I can't reach the top of the car I don't mind that). For all these jobs there is no pocket money, although if we have a little spare, we will give them some or buy a dvd or something for them. My 16yo will also babysit for the 11yo when we go out by ourselves. (no money attached) My boys are wonderful (most of the time).
We've had a few problems along the way, and I found that was when they were being paid pocket money for jobs. One way around it was if one refused to do a job, I would sell the job (using the others pocket money) to the other. so if R refused to do a job A could pick up the job and that week he would get an extra dollar in his money, and R would get a dollar less. Didn't take long to work out that it wasn't worth refusing the job.
my mum was exactly the same when we were younger , i hated her for it at the time but now i cant thank her enough!!!!
it made me realise what responsibility was and i have also noticed from living with friends they simply have no idea how to do anything because it has always been done for them, one of my friends i will never forget lol she didnt know how to hang out washing and had no idea how to cook a chicken kiev - she burnt the a$$ out of my fry pan!