I can't do this alone

im so sorry u are going through this :(

Is there anyway u can stay with your mum until u save some cash to find somewhere else, and bigger?

You should contact the your maternity hospital and tap into the psych unit. Hopefully there is a mother and baby unit local to you that you can use to get back onto your feet.

Im not up to speed with what your going through atm, with your dp, Im sure the whole police situation is stressing you out beond belief. I am not sure if you want to stay with him, etc,etc, however I wish I could put an old head on young shoulders ( I am 41) and try to get you to focus on you, and think of ways that will make your future better for you.

Your dp will have a lot of support through the prison system, have you spoken to the jail, and asked to be put through to welfare, they will be able to help you, they are run by churches a lot of the time, and the people are very very helpful.

:hug: hun, I've PM'd you :hug:

i just wanted to give you hugs and say you are not alone....me and dh have just broken up for the hundreth time but this time hes not staying here anymore and i am expecting #4 so i know how you feel,just take one day at a time and just do the best you can

He's in prison for domestic violence.

That means he HIT someone. And that person is YOU.

You don't need to have anything to do with this man, at all.

Get in contact with DOCS and they might be able to help you with accommodation. They can certainly help you to STAY AWAY from this man. He's not a dear ANYTHING. He's a violent, aggressive PR!CK.

Get yourself together. Get support workers to find you a new place. Stay the hell away from him.

Do you want your two children to grow up thinking that it's okay for Daddy to beat up Mummy? That Mummy isn't strong enough to say ENOUGH?

You know what you need to do. And you are strong enough to do it. You have done it before, you can do it again. We are all here to help and support you. Believe in yourself - one day at a time. One minute at a time.

Thinking of you.

Just wanted tolet youknow that there is help out there if you need it, do you have a someone very supportive that can actaully be with you at the birth, i cant really give you any advice on being single and pregnant, but i lost my husband a year ago, and i had a 3 month old and 20month old, it does get very lonely, its very hard work to do it by yourself, just take it one day at a time ..tomorrow is a new day, i didnt thinki i would get through it thats for sure but im here a year later and survived..still a long way to go, so you are not alone, there are lots of girls on here that will support you as well..take care hun :hug:

i've done it hun. I had a 3 month old and a 17 month old on my own. It was hard but it gets easier. Ashtons father walked out when I was a few months pregnant and I had to do it alone until Ash was 4 months old. He has just started taking him overnight so it's gotten easier too and I get some me time.

Check out my blog if your interested in my story.

Oh Neen, I am sorry that you are going through this :hug:

I can even understand why you don't want to go on with everything you have been going through....

But the reality is that you have a beautiful little girl and another on the way and these are the things you need to be focusing on, to keep you putting one foot in front of the other. As Lulu said is there a mother and baby unit you can stay at? or a refuge? can DOCS equivalent offer any assitance? see the local salvo army people and ask them all if they know of any other organisation who might be able to help you.

Darl, this is some pretty heavy stuff you're dealing with so don't feel silly for feeling scared. Anyone would be feeling ovewhelmed, confused and daunted in your situation.

I do agree with Divvy - if the police won't drop the charges, it must be pretty serious. Please take care of yourself, NOT him and perhaps firstly, get some counselling for yourself. I know it won't happen straight away, but one day you will realise that you deserve much better than that.

Secondly, there's been some great advice on here about support networks. I know it's hard to motivate yourself when you're feeling down - is there anyone who could make some phone calls for you. Perhaps as a first step, call Lifeline and see what they have to say.

Honey, you are not alone.

Do you see a Maternal Child and Health nurse? Maybe you can make an emergency appointment, and they can direct you somewhere that can give you some much needed support, even your gp can help.

Everyone, including yourself and your children deserve to live a safe and happy life.
Please, please, please, please seek out some help, you deserve it and your daughter deserves it too. You are worth so so much more than this.

I agree with all the other girls, hun, you are going through so much atm, please do not be hard on yourself, it is perfectly normal and understandable for you to be feeling this way. You are a strong person and you will get through this. Please realise that you and your babies are worth so much better than thisxx

You've been given some great advice hun and you really do need to get the focus back on you and DD for now and worry about all the other stuff later. If you dont have a lot of help from those around you - go and look for it, find someone who can help you find accommodation (considering your circumstances for needing it, this should be easier to access kwim :hug: ) and get you set up.

And dont concern yourself about him not being able to be at the birth - if he's already in prison for what he did to you, then it must have been bad and he gives up any right he had to be a part of something so precious, something that should be shared between loving partners. I know it will be tough and so emotional for you, but again, the focus has to be on you and this baby OK?

With the newborn/toddler stuff and how you will cope with that, you're putting a newborn into the situation now, with D the age she is and still being dependent on you, still doing all the stuff she's doing now, but when this baby is born, she will be a lot older, a lot more capable of doing stuff for herself. She's a pretty switched on little girl already and I'm sure that she will transition fine for you once the baby comes.

NeeNee - If you need any help of any kind, feel free to PM me, even if it's only for a chat :hug:
I've never been in your situation (and never want to be) but I just want you to know I'll be here for you

Neenee - been thinking of you - hope things are ok.
x

Neenie big big long cuddles honey... :comfort:

Now, I haven't read all the replies just yours. It concerns me that you mention suicide. Do you feel that you want to hurt yourself? If you do you need to reach out. I understand life seeming so so dark that there is no light. But there is ALWAYS light. Always. Sometimes we need help to see it - but it's there.

If you feel very desperate I want you to pm me. I can help you with some contacts. Your baby and your daughter need you my love. And you know what? You need them. You are a family. Not the family that you envisioned. Not at all how you thought it. But you can do this. You really can.

Keep talking in here. Keep reaching out.

Now, your partner is in prison for domestic violence. Sweetheart that means he has hurt you so badly that he is now a criminal. He is violent. He has hurt the Mother of his babies. It's not okay. Leave this to the police. Now is the time to be strong. I believe that DOCS could help you with accomodation or even relocating you.

YOU have got away from this man for now. That is a blessing. Now you need to stay away. Men who hit women very ery very rarely change. You are so very young witha wonderful wonderful life ahead. You can have a relationship with another who will not hurt you, emotionally, spiritually, physically or financially. There are wonderful parters out there.

I want you to pm me if you feel you can't cope and I will help you with contacts. Alternatively you can reach out to your largest local hospital. The police that are dealing wit your case and I am sure they will have referred you to a social worker.

This is a dark time but it WILL get better. sending you love and support. :hug:

You can also apply for the relationship crisis support group here on BB... :comfort:

Neenie I am just checking on you honey... How are you travelling??? Love and support being sent your way... :hug:

Neenee - I've just noticed your in Perth - Whereabouts? I'm in Perth too - and if you ever need anyone to go out and have a coffee and a chat, I'll happily meet up with you and have one :) If you need ANYTHING at all - PLEASE don't hesitate to PM me!