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    Hello i am hoping someone can help me with my question / questions.
    Im 34 and have suffered 3 m/c and currently experiencing my 4th. Currently 10weeks pregnant and went to have our first ultrasound yesterday to be told "one sac, one jellybean no heartbeat" sadly our baby has died.
    After consultation with our gp i was told to go home and take one day at a time. as you can imagine both my husband and i are having a very difficult time. as i have no bleeding, spotting, pain or cramping part of me wonders "could it all be wrong"? With the previous m/c at 8, 14 and 7 weeks i experienced a relatively normal pregnancy until spontaneous bleeding and cramping resulting in our m/c. We have had some testing after the third to be told there was nothing wrong medically and was all put down to "bad luck".
    What is really doing my head in is the thought that although i have been told there is no heartbeat and the baby has died i am still experiencing all the "pregnancy" symptoms i was up until the news; and was wondering when the bleeding and cramping is likely to occur. the doctors are unsure as to when the baby died but the thought of carrying around my dead baby while still feeling pregnant is daunting and terrible. can anyone help me?


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    Kirstyn... i am very loss for your sad losses

    It sounds like what would be a "missed m/carriage" so if you hadnt gone for your scan- you may not have known that your little bubba had passed. With these you can continue to feel symptoms long after the baby stopped growing.

    I have had one of those, and i got to 12 weeks before i started bleeding, and the baby had passed at around 5 weeks.

    It seems very unfair and sad that your Drs have just sent you home to wait for natural m/c... it is very hard emotionally to know that you are walking around with a little baby that is no longer growing is it possible to go back to the Dr and request a d&C? HAve you had to have those with your other losses? I would say if nothing happens in a few more days, i woulkd def go back to the Dr and request one- for sanity sake if not for medical reasons.

    Hope this has helped a little
    xox SB

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    Kristyn, It does sound like a missed miscarriage to me too. I had one in Jan this year. Went for the 12 wk scan to find out the baby died at 8 weeks. I felt something wasnt right through out the pregnancy although it was still terribly upsetting to not see a heartbeat on the screen. I was booked in to have a d&c the following week and started 'spotting' the day before.
    Its a personal decision, but I chose to have a d&c because I didnt want to m.c naturally.

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    thankyou both for your replies. i have since done a little research and although i have experienced 3 m/c previously had not heard of a missed m/c or a silent m/c. but i agree with you both that this seems to be the situation. I have had 1 D&c post the 14wk m/c but feel i will be phoning both my ob-gyn and gp tomorrow to request one espesh if nothing happens in the next couple of days. the pain of waiting for a spontaneous m/c is too painful. hugs to you both for helping me out and answering my question

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    Kirstyn, I am so so sorry for your losses hun. I can't even imagine what you must be going through now, my heart is just breaking for you . I just want to send you a big cyber hug , and let you know you're in my thoughts and prayers.
    Beata x

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    Hello I just thought i would let you know the latest. After an emotional weekend of lots of crying and swearing i saw my ob-gyn yesterday morning whom did confirm that it was a missed miscarry. although i had convinced myself that as i had no bleeding or pain that the results were wrong. he let me down gently yesterday and confirmed that the bubba had in fact died and a d&c was organised for last evening. what was a positive is that he is on my side and going to do further tests to rule out what is happening and why this keeps occuring. he took sample tissue last night to check the babys chromosome makeup and to rule out whether there was something wrong with bubba. he is going to consult with a specialist at the royal melbourne about the tests we have had to date and what further tests to have. i have a list of questions for my next appointment. although i feel numb at the minute im relieved that he is going to look into it all further and help me the best he can to achieve our dream of becoming parents. thankyou once again to all of you that have helped me during this journey. big hugs to those going through a similiar situation and know that like me you are not alone. xxxx

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