Dylan......

Oh Jo... it's hard with teenagers sometimes huh! I think that you're doing the right thing going with the clean slate. Like you said, hopefully it has opened his eyes up a bit. They do tend to run around thinking they know best and know all, but they don't and we know that. Joshua spent a lot of last year getting suspended from school! This year only twice but he thinks that is good! Hmmmm none is good...lol. I do hope that things will be better when he's home and yep I know what you mean. It's hard on them too though I think, growing up but still being mummy's boy and also dealing with all the hormones running around and then on top of that there's dad in his ear for Dylan. Give him a big hug and maybe now he's a bit older are you able to go to a coffee shop for an hour and just have a drink with him and a chat? Joshua loves that, I think it makes him feel more grown up ;) He's just turned 14 and I let him have a latte.

Oh Thanks Cass. I am a bit worried how things are gonna be when he gets home,I feel so sorry for him, but then again what did he expect from his father, all the promises of how much he has changed ha, when will he learn he is a liar?
Really looking forward to seeing my boy again, but I still haven't been told when, I bumped into 2 of his mates on Sat & they said that Dylan told them to come up this sat, so Hmmmm wish he would ring me.

Well I know why he hasn't called me, it looks like he isn't coming back now. Just got off the phone from his father & he wants to try & make it work with him :(

Oh dear, obviously dad is talking **** again.
I used to see this happening all the time at work, sometimes they to and fro a bit (depending on what each parent is offering!) and it can be disruptive for all, and sad for mum too.

The poor kid may get his heart broken by his dad again, but you can't stop that (ouch). If you want him to learn about his dad, he will have to do that on his own, and come to his own conclusions.
I would let him know that your door is open if he needs to come home, but that there will be rules you all need to discuss first, and he can have some input if he can be mature about it.

It may just be a matter of time before he does come home, so at least you have time up your sleeve to determine the 'conditions'. My DD and I had family counselling to help resolve some issues and it was magic for us both. You might find it helpful too if there is that sort of thing around your area.

Poor you, it's not nice being on the sidelines like this......

Awww Jo that's a real bummer!

You know, his dad sounds an awful lot like my dad! When I left home (18) my bro (16) decided he wanted to go and live with dad. Dad made him all these grand promises about how they would do this and that and dad would get him all this stuff... well dad just chucked him in boarding school! Mind you one of the most elite in Aust.. Scotts College. However, my brother started getting into fist fights etc and thought it was cool. He is now 33 and still hasn't grown up, he's been into drugs and alcohol and thinks that it's fine if it's sometimes... JOKE! Not trying to scare you but just keep an extra close eye on him if you can... I think that boys tend to go off the rails a bit more when their dads do crap like this to them. :hug: for you and I sincerely hope that it works out for Dylan and that you feel better.

So sorry Jo.

Well I just booked & paid for Dylan's plane ticket.
He will be home on Monday, I am so so happy now.
Thank you to everybody for offering me your help, support & sympathy through all of this.

Wonderful to hear Jo!!!

Did you order a guard to escort him to the airport and get on the plane/?? Just to make sure;)

Jo, that's wonderful news!

Looking forward to updates Jo :) I hope the flight and transition goes smoothly.

Thank you so much ladies!!!!
Chon what do you mean by a guard? Is it for the flight?I've got no idea. His father is taking him to the airport, "with pleasure" he reckons cos he has had enough. How Lame is that 1 month & he cant take anymore

Jo you can ring the airline and have him put on as an "unaccompanied minor" which means that the hostess will take special care of him. They will take him from his Dad at checkin and give him a special seat on the plane and then wait with him at your end until they hand him over to you. There used not to be any extra charge for it but there may be now - but possibly worth ringing them to check.

Oh I cant do that, cos he is classed as an adult. I checked that out before he went away.
It's up to the age of 12.

Sorry Jo, didn't make much sense with everything you have going on:doh:

I meant have someone with him so there is no more 'changing his mind', especially now you have paid for the ticket! Make sure he DOES get on that plane.;)

Oh Dah me!! He is more than happy to come home, so I not worried about that.( crossing fingers now though)
Even after I gave him a quick run down of the changes that needed to be made.

2 DAYS TO GO WOO HOO!!!!!
Just wish the plane didn't come in at 10pm, argh that's all day Monday to have butterflies!!!

Storm, are you nervous? Excited?
Have you got anything planned?

I don't know Tiff, I'm a bit of both!! And a tad worried too.
I haven't anything planned, except his favorite dinner, which will have to wait til Tues night, as the plane gets in at bedtime on Monday LOL.
I've made an app. with the school principal for Tuesday, so it's gonna be straight back into the swing of things for him, he has had enough time off school. I have brought him heaps of stuff though, 1 part of me says he doesn't deserve them, but the other part says spoil the little ****!!