Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage/Loss August/September 2009

maddison: haven't seen you in here for a little bit, hope you are ok?

ferrals: no, didn't upset me. I think my main issue is that i need to talk about stuff and DB is NOT a talker. Even when at work on sunday i sent him a txt saying I think I'm going to move to our other property and just get away from everything...still does not talk to me!

I'm so glad I have on here to spack out with. My 'thing' now is to be glad that by the time i end up utd the vitamins etc should be at full strength and giving the bub best chance. Still not impressed to miss out again this month but coping ok with it.

Got new lingerie up in store and website so that was heaps exciting! have a great week everyone

how do you have your location up in the corner with your stats?

Morning ladies,

Thanks for all the lovely comments about my BFP! I went to the doctors yesterday at 11DPO (early I know) and it showed well on their dodgy HPT! Yay! Maybe they should get FR they are soo much better - but I guess so much more expensive! Am having the day off work today..got a bit of a tummy bug and TMI am running to the toilet for no 2, feeling quessy in the tummy and my mouth is watering! Dont want to share it round at work, it might come back to me in a few weeks! Also feeling a little stressed about things so a day off will do me good! My doctor told me as soon as I get a BFP to go and see him for BT to check my HCG and progesterone! My doctor is lovely...wish you guys all had fabulous doctors like me...he suggested this time the obstretician may want to see me earlier than usual because of my loss, now I just have to pick my hospital and then my ob! It is all so difficult...they all only go to one hospital which sucks cos I really wanted the lady doc and she is not at the hospital I am leaning towards! Anyway, I am not sure exactly how much private care is going to cost me, so I am going to phone all three ob's today that are on my nogap list and find out what the costs are. I have been told there can be thousands of $$$ difference between them. I am so indicisive...maybe I should go public...I am by no means a snob, but have had this private health insurance for this exact reason for the past 3 years now I feel I need to use it.

Anyway, enough about me...

Tina - Dont worry I can understand the jealousy - you do honestly deserve it more than me sweetie, I cant even imagine what it would be like to have lost 5 bubbas. I felt jealous all the time when it happened for others I think it is completely normal to feel that way. I guess I cant answer why it happens for some easier than others but I do know it sucks and it is really not fair! I really wasnt expecting those two beautiful lines this month so I hope your time is coming really soon it just may happen when you least expect it. Just a question, do they check your progesterone when you fall? Just asking as my doc said it is a reason for many MC.

Ferrals - not long to wait for the IVF...and that call is coming! You really do make me laugh with your posts!

Chickybabe - awesome news about your HCG numbers! And that lady...how insensitive...aaarrrgggghhhh! The lady who I had at my EPAC if you know what that means was absolutely awesome only wish they were all as good hey! I have to get my numbers checked every few days...it is a little nerve racking but at least it keeps me knowing everything is on track until the my dreaded scan (thats where we got the bad news last time - not looking forward to it)

Cherished - sweetie, how long until testing? I dont even have a BB group yet it isnt opened yet! I thought it was open when I got my BFP last time but nope cant find it. Would be awesome if you were in with me again - a familiar face! Hopefully there are some more to come this week who can join me - Who's testing in the next week? I think from my calculations I am due around 6 May 2010 so there is 10 days for you guys to still sneak into my belly belly group - yay!

eliselouise85 - I am feeling a bit better today - kinda feel like this might be my time! As for you - go yet that egg :fertilise:

zstar - hope all is going good for you. That awful discharge just needs to go away!

LladyR - welcome! Everyone here is so supportive and lovely...fingers crossed the pains turn into a BFP and we can be BB together!

Coco - hope you are feeling better today...you so deserve a BFP...8 months is certainly enough! It really just isnt fair, big hugs :hug:

Sparkles - how is everything in your neck of the woods?

Anila - my dear sweet Anila, I cant wait for your to announce you are UTD again cos you are obviously a born mother! You were one of the first ones to make me feel welcome on BB so I have my fingers and toes crossed your :bfp: is just around the corner!

Superstar - Good to hear you feel this is youR time. Wishing you a happy, healthy, sticky little bub!! Hope the tummy bug gets better quickly.
Thanks for asking how i'm going (that goes to Tina as well). Just cruising along, am 2DPO so just waiting see when AF comes and then decide whether to try next month or wait one more. One doctor said wait 3 months for my mega folate to build up, the other ob wasn't really bothered. And i figure folate is a water soluble vitamin so you wee out what you don't need, so how long can it really take for your folate to be absorbed. If we decide to try next month and conceive i will have been on the mega folate for 11 weeks from d&c till the day we conceive anyway, i think thats long enough!! Been having a few tears lately, my sister had her NT scan yesterday and it all went well, stoked for her but had a few tears to DH, just that i want that to be us as well. I know, it will happen. Enough about me....hope everyone else is well!!

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Anila - my dear sweet Anila, I cant wait for your to announce you are UTD again cos you are obviously a born mother! You were one of the first ones to make me feel welcome on BB so I have my fingers and toes crossed your is just around the corner!

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awe hun, thank you so much, that actually put a few tears in my eyes, (gee hormal already :pray:)lol, You are most welcome my love, as my mother has always said "treat people the way u want to be treated", so i always make sure that i surround my self with love, so i can pass it on to others, and hopefully get the same back in return, and that is what i do get from all the wonderful ladies here on bb, including urself.

Sounds to me like u have a sticky babe there hun, and i wish u all the best, fingers crossed i can follow u to the belly group.
My angel went to heaven on May 5 2009, if i am utd i will be due May 4 2010 (subject to change of course), i am kinda hoping that is a sign, i suppose time will tell.

musch love to u hun, u deserve it :)

superstar-just a little of my opinion on public vs private when it come's to having babie's i have had been through both and i found the midwive's through the public system the best they deliver far more babie's and see everything from normal easy birth's to emergencies there is alway's ob's on hand if needed and then when i went private i was told that my ob would be available on my due date but there was no guarantee he would be there then i was told that if there was a problem i would have to be transferred to a public hospital as there might be no anesthesiologist on duty and i was told the gap amount you have to pay for a standard normal birth and if other thing's pop up you could get charged extra also if the baby needed special care or nicu they would have to transfer to a public hopital as they have better facilitie's so make sure you do your homework and get all the cost's and info i'm in NSW so it might be different where you are but i love the midwive's down here when they delivered Abbi they were so compassionate and caring and made the worst day of my life a little easier and i couldn't fault them.
I hope that give's you some amo to ask your ob and health fund as many question's to get all the info needed for a safe birth for you and your bub.

Sparkle's-NT scan's are hard for me to everyone that's pregnant around me past there's with flying colour's and i was of course happy for them but also jealous it wasn't fair that mine started the ball rolling to losing abbi so i hate thinking about having another one.

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Llaydr - welcome. you will find mountains of support here. you are in the right place! i so hope you have your wedding wish and you are pg as you walk down the isle!!! i lost my first at 5wks 3 days and the ob said i could start straight away. i fell on my 2nd cycle so i was very lucky. we had been trying to a year. its a long tough journey and the support on here was what got me through and still does. amazing group of ladies. i hope your stay here is short. take care of yourself. i love your affirmations!!!!

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YAY - that gives me lots of hope!

Thanks. :) I really find they help & spurr me along.. I've also got a 'mood board' at the end fo my bed on the wall which has others.. I read it every night before bed, and every morning before I wake up.

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:welcome: LladyR Gee doesn't it feel like summer today on the coast! I've been outside in my bikini and all hehehhe

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Oh, didn't it!?? It's not much better today - seriously hot!!! Suit + this weather = does not mix

Sorry to hear of your BFN. :crossfingers: September is your month!

Thank you to everyone else for your welcome's. xx

Hey everyone

Superstarmumsy-=- BIG CONGRATS HUN! And Im glad u got such a dark BFP at the docs witht here crappy el cheapo wizz sticks :p Looks like things are going to go smoothly!

Hope everything gos well for you over the next 8 months or so and beyond! Lets hope we can be sticky together!

Coco-=- Im sorry your having such a hard time atm.. I MC last November after ttc for over a yr, and with no explanation i havnt been able to fall pregnant again until just now.. and atm Im dying of anxiety every moment of every day! I hope things start happening for you soon hun <3 You deserve your baby maddison!

Chicky babe - YES!!! I told you it would be over 1000!! HAHA go the sticky baby! Your gonna do fine hun <3 I just know it :)

Ladye- Welcome! I myself wont be on here v much anymore.. But The girls in here are definately exactly the right remedy for a struggling mum to be, theyve certainly given me streangth the last couple months or so ive been on here! But i do hope ur stay is short, maybe even very short... a few days even :) I hope so !! gud luck!

TinaR :hug: Thanx for thinking of me :) I hope ur doing ok! This next month will be yours kk, just keep reminding ureself that!

BIG HI AND HOPES TO EVERYONE ELSE!

AFM -=- Went to the docs yesterday ... feeling even more nervous and bummed than b4 I went.. My BFP still hasnt gotten past faint, still isnt as dark as the C line.. And in the doctors crappy test, she could barely see anything.. and im supposed to be 4 and a half weeks... :wall: (counting from the first day of my last AF)

Im so scared.. I keep checking for blood every time i go to the bathroom expecting to see it there.. Nothing yet, and no cramping.. but im so worried about the p tests being so faint still..

Had a BT and going back tomorow to see how it is all going.. Doc said its perfectly normal for it to be that faint this early and DH keeps reminding me of that and trying to comfort me but I just cant get it out of my mind.. Even my last MC was Dark as it could be and i was only 5 or so weeks then i think.. (not sure whether that was counting from my af or concieveing date i just know thats what they told me in mc's blood test) What do they usually count by? Like if the blood levels are of about 5 weeks is that from af or concieve date?? Cuz from that im only bout 2 and a half weeks... Im so confused..

Anyway so thats why im still lurking in here.. Sometimes i feel like everythings going to go fine.. But others I just feel like im waiting for it to all hit the fan and come to an end.. Im not looking forward to seeing doc tomorow.. Im just so scared she wont have gud news for me..

Kyra

Hi everyone

Im on an internet kiosk..itsucks..

I am so sorry for my me me me post, it has been eating at me like nothing else!!!

I dont think im pregnant..I didnt even test this morning till 2nd morning pee and also I had a bout of :tmi: :tmi: soft stools which tells me she is coming...Im so deflated.


I have had no spotting which, if I am getting AF is a great sign as it means the laparsocopy worked. I was getting spotting at 11-12dpo before and now...nothing..as yet. Im due tomorrow.

Cant wait to be back home using my own computer and not a kiosk where the kets dont work and I miss my bed :( feeling very very down. It sucks..
I try to get on to BB via my phone but its reeeeally crappy, BB is the ONLY site I cant get to on it..ugh

Talk to you all soon!

Afternoon all
Kyra i think the dates go by the date of your last Af, at least thats the dates i was told to go by last time. Keep your chin up and hopefully this is the stickiest bub ever for you, you deserve it :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:
Coco i really hope that you are pregnant, its not over till AF shows up and that is great that you have had no spotting, hopefully it has all worked for you. How long till your home, theres nothing worse than another bed other than your own and i know what you mean about needing to get on BB, when i had no computer for 3 weeks it was torture :lol: luckily i could use my phone but it just wasnt the same.
Sparkles hope you are feeling better hun, i know what those feelings of jealousy are like. You try so hard to be happy for people and really we are but deep down we just want it for ourselves so much. Hang in there and you will get your sticky bundle very soon.
Tina :wall: to DB not talking, mine can be a bit like that at times and its so frustrating, feel free to vent on here as much as you need, were all here to listen :)
AFM have had all the signs of ovulation ( cm, abdo pains, temp rise ) but still no positive on the opk's so have no idea whether i actually have or not but going by days im assuming i have so i guess im now in the 2ww. Who is there with me???

Hey superstar! I think I woudl be due around May 18th IF I get a BFP but it's not looking promising actually :( I am sick and my temp was high today so I don't really know for sure if I ovulated iykwim :( my OPK was positive yesterday and neg today so I think today is o day??? we arent' bding because dh is workiing tonight and already left... he opted for snuggling me during a nana nap in my lunch break instead of bding becuase he wanted me to feel better and get well :inlove: besides yesterday's bd should be enough :rolleyes:

Coco there's always next cycle, give your body time to get it's act together after your op and as eliselouise said it's not over until AF shows up

eliselouise I think I am in the tww now???? you woudl have read above that I dont' know what is happening now due to this stupid cold :wall: fingers crossed for both of us :crossfingers:

gotta go BBL xox

OK I'm back but still at work so may need to go at any minute!

LladyR not sure why your post quoted coco as saying it was hot on the coast etc... Cause that was me :lol: .... darn' computers :dunno: And isn't it STILL hot! We had the aircon cranking today and it's beautiful outside now... wish dh was home tonight, I'd drag him down to hasting st for a walk, dinner and icecream :p I was thinking of you today! I met a girl who had jsut moved to the coast (a while ago) and had a DD age 7 and I thought it could have been you... But it wasn't as she isn't a forum girl ;)

:hello: hello to Ferrals, Tina, Anila, zstar, Kyra, CB & sparkles & everyone else who I have missed!

well I am all confused. There are still some signs that RB is on her way BUT...there are some signs that I could be preg. I'm kind of 50/50 on it. One minute I am all "OMG I'm preg" the next I'm "stupid girl bits messing me round!".
TMI alert - had very tiny amount of pink mucus then light brown mucus a coupld days ago then nothing. I usually get that yuck brown stuff for a few days plus now my :redface: (how embarrasing) poops are a little towards the solid side.
Could be the vitamins - could be that I have a gut full of arms and legs! If no RB will test Friday night/Saturday morning.

Hello to everyone - good luck to those testing (that means you Coco!) and those in the tww. I have my fingers and toes crossed for a flood of BFP's with sticky bubs.

Kyra - just want to say, as hard as it is try to enjoy your pregnancy...remember being preg with your little man - not your angel and concentrate on all the good things. I don't mean forget your angel - just to remember that there are plenty of perfectly normal pregnancies out there :)

:bluedust::pink-babydust::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: to everyone xxoo

Sorry you're feeling down over it all Coco, but as the other ladies said it ain't over until the wicked witch appears..!

I'm feeling quiet positive this morning!!

I've been getting noticeable cramping on & off, side to side, for about the past 3 or so days.. desperately hoping it's my little bundle of joy settling in for the ride..! <3

On top of that I've been getting increased CM as well, which is out of the ordinary for me, and another early preg sign I've heard! PLUS, I had quiet a substantial temp dip yesterday, went down nearly a whole degree, then straight back up this morning - hoping that's the implantation dip!!!

So I'm really really excited - hanging out to test with a FR in a couple of days!

It would just be the best wedding present, ever.

May I ask what a couple of things mean? What is AFM>? Has it got something to do with AF (aunt flow a.k.a. period)? Also, what are stools? I prob should know these ones, but don't.. :redface:

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May I ask what a couple of things mean? What is AFM>? Has it got something to do with AF (aunt flow a.k.a. period)? Also, what are stools? I prob should know these ones, but don't.. :redface:

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Stools = your bowel movement (poo) :lol:

AFM = As For Me

Your symptoms/signs sound promising ! Goodluck !!

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xoxo

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LladyR not sure why your post quoted coco as saying it was hot on the coast etc... Cause that was me :lol: .... darn' computers :dunno: And isn't it STILL hot! We had the aircon cranking today and it's beautiful outside now... wish dh was home tonight, I'd drag him down to hasting st for a walk, dinner and icecream :p I was thinking of you today! I met a girl who had jsut moved to the coast (a while ago) and had a DD age 7 and I thought it could have been you... But it wasn't as she isn't a forum girl ;)

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Lol, my bad. Sorry, still getting used to these double quotes, keeping track, etc!

YUP!! It's a shocker... so much for being Winter! & it's got me worried if this is winter, what the hell is Summer going to be like!? :o Thankfully it's a bit cooler today - although they're still saying it'll hit 28.

haha, nope, not me.. I don't think so anyways....

Gee, listen to me.. sounds like I'm complaining..! Admittedly I love the warm weather, I really do... just don't like it when it's combined with suit-wearing.. that's when I need the dislike button! hehe.

Thanks for clarifying chickybabe.

Hello everyone... Well my heart is on the floor. After ovulating for the 1st time after the mc (which took like 80 days as it is) I don't think we bd at the right time :crying: I really don't feel like I have any hope of being pregnant. I thought ovulation was a little way away becasue my OPK's were so faint and we have ended up bding 5 days before ovulation and the day after ovulation... I know it is still possible but it's really a long shot. After waiting so long to get back into it I feel like my heart has just been stomped on

Well i went to the docs this morning for my results..

She said teh blood tests confirm that im pregnant (kinda already knew that lol)
Wasnt very helpful tho.. She said the hcg levels are very low and she doesnt know how far along that makes me (even tho i told her the first day of my last af) WTF!! She said that i could be 5 weeks according to that or 3 weeks according to conception date.. well.. um which one do i go by? she wont tell me said it could be either, and wont even tell me wat it might be based on my hcg levels.. just said to early to tell... im even more confused *cries*

Is this normal? Arnt the hcg levels supposed to be able to tell more by this stage?

She gave me more pregnancy blood tests to do and told me to come back to see her on the 23rd of september to talk about the results of them and book in for us?

Is this all normal? Ive never known i was pregnant this early b4 exceot when i mc before i had a chance to do anythimg..
Is it really this confusing? Is it every doc that wnt give answers or tell hcg levels or is it just the one im seeing.. she said its normal but just very early,,

i dont no.. :( im just a nervous wreck.. She did say everything seems normal tho and is planning me ahead so i guess everything must be ok??

I am trying to think positive but i guess i was just waiting for her to say smething along the lines of, you hcg levels are good and are working accurately to 5 weeks (or something along that line) ...

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Hello everyone... Well my heart is on the floor. After ovulating for the 1st time after the mc (which took like 80 days as it is) I don't think we bd at the right time :crying: I really don't feel like I have any hope of being pregnant. I thought ovulation was a little way away becasue my OPK's were so faint and we have ended up bding 5 days before ovulation and the day after ovulation... I know it is still possible but it's really a long shot. After waiting so long to get back into it I feel like my heart has just been stomped on

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Ooh hon, whatever you do don't jump to any conclusions just yet... you just never know..! Try to think positive... how have you established you didn't BD at the right time? Did you BD around the time of getting the + OPK? (((HUGS)))!

Kyrawolfe, Did she tell you what your HCG was? Have you made another appt for a bhcg (quantitive) at all? Is that what the 23rd Sep appt is? Just seems awfully long away to be testing for bhcg?

I'm just having a look for this website I know of that's really good for listing what's 'normal' in different stages of early preg.

BBS with it.