Trying to conceive after miscarriage or loss - January 2007 #2

Congrats Sarah that is fantastic news.

AF arrived yesterday which is the first since mc so we are gearing up TTC this cycle. I grabbed some of that baby dust - thanks Hope! Fingers crossed. Hope everyone is doing well.

Ok,well I couldn't get in to see my doctor yesterday, and I really don't want to see someone who doesn't connect with me the way she does. Hopefully will be in to see her Monday arvo:)
My man was a little shocked, so we brought another pack. He's like "but honey, its not really really dark. (sigh. should of brought a digital one that exclaims in huge bright letters - PREGNANT!) and then he goes "What if the test is dodgy and its a false positive?" Mister Optimistic he is.
Nevertheless, he's excited, but after last time is a little worried. I told him that its a good sign that I showed up so early - my angel baby only turned up positives after 5, nearly 6 weeks, and that was only with morning wee! So it's looking (and feeling) good so far:)
Anyways, rambled long enough. I'll keep you all posted.
Hoping to see many MANY other :bfp:!!

Best Wishes,

:confetti: Sarah :confetti: Good luck tomorrow with your appointment.

Where are you Mummyto1? I have a feeling about you!! Have you tested this morning? :crossfingers:

KBowman - I am too scared to test! As you all know there is nothing worse than seeing a BFN when you sooooo want a BFP. Since I tested -ve at 11dpo I thought I would wait it out this month & if af doesn't show by early next week then maybe, just maybe I'll test. I really have no symptoms though but didn't really with my last two pg's either....hmmm.... If I do test today I will be back on here straight away either way....
KBowan -hope your lack of symptoms mean nothing & that you are on your way to a BFP also. Happy packing!!!
Sarah -congrats on your BFP & all the best for the Dr's appt!!
Tinsel - good luck to you next cycle - hopefully this will be the last af for a while!!
Janeo - hope you let your hair down the other night & enjoyed yourself - you deserve it!!
Went to see Babel last night at the movies - has anyone seen it? Very intense but would highly recommend it. Just goes to show how one persons actions can affect so many lives. Anyway enough from me - will probably check back in later.

I wouldn't be able to resist the temptation to test at 15DP), Mummyto1!!! :biggrin: I'm so keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!! I'll be peeking later to see if you've weakened!! Good luck!! No, haven't seen Babel yet, but did see Pan's Labryinth and was very impressed. Some good movies out at the moment! Ok, ok, back to sorting, packing and cleaning...

Well I cracked last night & did a HPT - not the news I wanted though - a BFN! At 15dpo that can only mean af is on her way.....very disppointing...
BBL for a chat!

Just a quick post, last for a little while too, just waiting for the removal van to arrive! Sorry you got a BFN Mummyto1 - *hugs*. Still hoping that elusive BFP is just around the corner for us!

Gotta go!! bye for now!!

Sorry to hear about your bfn muumyto1 maybe next month is our turn ::pray:
I was wondering about this fertility friend thing I keep reading about, what is it and how does it work?

Sarah

Hi

Mummyto1 Sorry that you got a bfn last night sweety. Remember its not over until the witch shows up.

Kbowman Good luck with the move hun. I hope all goes smoothly for you. Good luck to you for a bfp this cycle. We are only a day apart in our cycle, although mine usually goes for about 35 days or so.

Tinsel Sorry to hear that af arrived the other day. I wish you all the best for this cycle.

Sarah Have you been to the drs yet to get confirmation of your pregnancy. I'm sending you so many sticky baby vibes your way.

A big Hi :hello: to Shan,Sarah066,Janeo,Miss Belinda,Missykg, Tori and anyone else Ive missed today. I do hope you are all great.

As for me I had a very busy weekend diong my course and with my brother and his family visiting. We had a great time together though. I'm on cd 25 so I have another 7 to 10 days before af or testing. I will ring up my specialist tomorrow to get my progesterone results from last Thursdays B/T.

Hi girls,

Sorry about your bfn Mummyto1.. Here we come FAB FEB!!!!!!!!!!

Just incase i forgot to say congrats Sarah congrats!!!!!!!!

Well still nothing on my front see dr tomorrow arvo.. My temps are low as if i had af and its start of my cycle so hopefully he can shread some light on it. My temps arnt on my chart cos i cant access it on this computer and im still waiting for my new net gear GRRRRR telstra......

Hi girls,
Is it okay if i join you guys??
I recently suffered another m/c over xmas and i am just trying to put it behind me!
It is seeming more difficult than i originally thought.
At the moment i just can't help thinking that i will ever have another sticky bub, and that its all over and i should stop trying now to avoid any more heartache.
I spose i would just like to join you guys to get support and advice from you girls.

Am i supposed to take my sig off when posting in here? Please let me know and if i do i will gladly do that while posting in here.

Kristee - welcome & sorry for what you've been through - you will be sooooo so glad you found BB - it makes those hard times bearable. Hope you have a sticky BFP in no time at all...
Sarah066 - Fertility friend is a web site that helps you chart your temperatures. You can get a months VIP membership for free & in that time you learn all about charting & how to optimise getting a BFP! Heaps of the girls in here use it (myself included) & I find it really useful although beware it is something else to stress/ obsess over! Give it a go & see what you think.
Ladies, still no af for me but a BFN at 15dpo I am keeping a wary eye out for her. Maybe my cycles are going to revert back to 31 days (from 28 !?!). Hi to everyone else & good luck to all!!

Hi there Kristee, Welcome to this thread although I'm very sorry that you've suffered m/c's.
We are a very supportive bunch here and welcome you with open arms.

Thanx for the welcome Mummyto1 and Mako.
I wish none of us had to be in here!!!!
I am just going through a really rough patch at the moment and any support is great even if it is only cyber hugs.
Anyway was just popping in here before i log off and i look forward to meeting you all.
TTFN

Well, af showed this morning - at least she wasn't totally unexpected. Feb is going to be a tough month for me as I would have been due with Angel baby on the 28th. Also some friends are having babies in Feb so you will need to bare with me...On the up side I could be announcing a BFP around the 28th so I will go with that thought.
Hope the tough times get easier for you Kristee - just know your not alone.
Mako - hope the BT results are good!
KBowman - hope things are happening for you too & look forward to hearing from you again once you are settled. Hi to everyone else!

Sorry to hear about the arrival of AF mummyto1 but at least you can forget the ttw for a few days! Thanks for the info on fertility friend, I went for a visit and I might join after my next AF as it says to start on your first day and mine has just finished (TMI)
Welcome Kristee its nice to have another "newbie" in here with me

Sarah

Hello Everyone?
I want to let everyone I'm doing fine its been a minute since I last posted. I been trying to heal and so far everything is going well. I am trying to decide when to try again I am nerves but also have faith. I want to wish everyone the best God is Great remain strong and hold on.
God Bless Everyone

Congratulations Kottenkandie! Heaps of sticky vibes coming your way!

Thanks for the baby dust Hope! In another week we can start trying, first time after the miscarriage so we need all the baby dust we can handle! I dont know how I will be able to wait another 4 weeks to start testing - just praying for lots of sticky vibes so this little one stays put!

Welcome Kristee - sorry to see you here honey - big hugs to you and we are all here for you if you need to get your thoughts out. Its hard when people dont understand what you are going through if they have never had a miscarriage but the girls on here are all so lovely and supportive and they have lived through it too so know how you are feeling.

Fingers crossed Mummyto1 that next month is your month! xx

Hi girls,
Mummyto1 as posted in ttc buddies i am sorry to hear AF turned up for you, and the fact that Feb is one of my tough months as well so we will be able to go through it together.

Tink07 i will be praying that you get a BFP in another 4 weeks and the bubba will be as sticky as ever. Thanx for the welcome and yes it is hard when every one around me is falling preg real quick and are announcing it to me atm and wondering why it is upseting me and they know i have just had a m/c so they just don't understand. I mean i am happy for them nut it makes me sad atm as well.

Well i am 12dpo today and did a test this morning and all that was staring back at me was a BFN. Still tiny hope though as maybe just a little soon as my luteal phase is usually 15-16days long. But am not to confidant about this month.

TTFN

Kristee its one of the hardest things about m/c to cope with that no one realises how much it hurts and how hard it is to be happy for other women who are getting pg but everyone here will understand
Sending :hugs: and lots of sticky baby dust

Hi Girls,

Sorry Af arrived Mummyto1 Feb is going to be a GREAT month i can feel it......

Well i had my drs appointment yesterday and still no real answers as to what has been going on... Basically he just thinks my body is getting back into gear and being that a couple of the spottings happen after dtd wasnt a worry as my cervix is all good and healthy.. I had some bt to check for pg did a hpt and it was -ve i dont think im pg.. I have been having niggling pains which i had last time but no sore bbs and they were unbearable last time, and no other symptoms that i had last time other then niggly pains.. So i should have results at end of the day.....

With my temps they are all low too like i have had my period and its the start of my cycle but still off line at home and using works computer so i cant put in my temps but they are all around 35.8 which they were with my first cycle i temped for so fingers crossed its just the start of my cycle and when i get back into FF i will be putting in all my temps and seeing what happens.. Oh and im back to having watery cm again so pretty sure thats what it is happening...

HERE WE COME FEB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi to all you beautiful women in here.

Janeo I'm sorry that you've not been given any real answers hun. It can be sooo very frustrating when you can't be told anything definate. Have you got your results back yet from the tests you've had?

Mummyto1 Sorry that af showed up. Bring on February I say!!!!!

Kristee It may be just a little too soon for a bfp. Will you test again in a couple of days? I do hope that your bfp is just around the corner and its the stickiest ever. Just know that we all understand how difficult it can be when our friend/ relo's fall pregnant so easily and they forget what we've been through.Hang in there sweety.

I hope everyone else is going ok. Is anyone up for testing???? I'm in the tww which seems to be dragging on this time. Some months it just seems to fly past and others drag on don't they.

Jane i hope your test results hurry up for you and giveyou some answers.
Mako i will be testing again maybe tomorrow...oh i don't know might just wait and see if she turns up....as if i can make it that long LOL. I hope that the rest of your TWW flies by and you get a BFP at the end of it.

TTFN

Well I saw my doctor today - finally. There have been issues in the surgery, with doctors only working mornings, so there has been a massive backlog of patients, etc.
I can now confirm my bfp! My doctor also told me that just a week to the day after my miscarriage my HCG level was just 52.:o A massive drop from 1900 in just a week!

Thanks to all you guys, for giving me hope, even thought I didn't post much, I read all the other posts. I hope you all get the BFP you have waiting for you just around the corner. Good things happen to good people, and you girls are great people, so I'm expecting great things to happen to each and every one of you.

Hope to see every one of you in the PAML thread very very soon:)

Best wishes to you all!

Sarah Thats great news from you. I wish you a safe and happy 9 months sweety.I pray that this little bubba is the stickiest ever :stickyvibesboy: :stickyvibesgirl:

Kristee How are you doin hun? Have you tested again yet? When is af due? :SAAF:
I'm a bit unsure if I'll test or wait and see if af arrives. She's due any time between next Monday - Wednesday. One part of me wants to test asap but the other part is telling me to wait. I really don't cope well when I see the BFN. OH the trials of ttc!!!

Hello to everyone else. I'll try to pop back in later to catch up with you all.

Hi everyone! While I'm sad to read that so many of us have suffered a miscarriage recently, it's also a bit comforting to know that I'm not alone. I have a 3yo DD and we've been trying for baby #2 for about 6 months (got pregnant very easily with DD). I got my positive test on January 16 and started bleeding this past Friday. I was 5w 1d. I was SO not prepared for this. The weekend was rough, very sad but I'm moving forward now. Still in a bit of shock that I'm not pregnant anymore but getting past it. Anyway, the bleeding has almost stopped and I didn't have to see my OB but I did talk to her and she "suggested" waiting 2 months. She said she wouldn't "yell" if we showed up pregnant next month but she did suggest waiting. I don't want to wait. Emotionally, I know I'm ready and I was reading a poll on here and most of the women got pregnant right after their miscarriage. Anyway, just wanted to say hi and see what people are doing about TTC after a miscarriage.

Well got tests back and it was a -ve but all good i knew that.. I think im coming up to be fertile at the moment had watery cm and stuff but not really into dtd think at the back of my mind im scared and not really ready so wait and see tonight.... I think by my temps and stuff the spotting i had was a short odd af and that im back into the swing of norm start of the cycle temps so wait and see....

Janeo I'm sending you a hug right now sweet :hugs: . Only you will know when you are ready to start trying again. Please don't rush yourself hun. I still have an odd moment where I panic and think maybe I'm not ready but I find as soon as I talk to dh I feel I'm ok and know that I can do this ;)

Lily's Mom Welcome to this great thread. You have found the right place to receive soooo much support from fantastic women here although I'm very sorry that you've suffered a m/c. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to heal( not just physically but also emotionally). I think some drs tell us to wait a certain amount of time before ttc again but I would say it is up to each women as an individual as each one of us is different. I wish you all the best for your ttc journey.
I started trying again after 1 af after my 1st m/c ( I was told to wait 3-4 months by the dr at the hospital and my own gp said I could start as soon as I felt ready) and started trying again after the bleeding stopped with my 2nd m/c.

Evening Ladies, how are we all?
Welcome Lily's mum, sorry for what you've been through but the support & understanding of these girls will make your TTC journey soooo much more bearable. I started TTC straight away as you don't know how long it will take to get that BFP again. That said I hope it is no time at all before you get yours!
Janeo - hope you time things perfectly this month & get that BFP!
Mako - to test or not to test, this is the question? Good luck to you......
Sarah - glad the Dr confirmed your pg - congrats again & all the best!
Kristee, Sarah066 - how are you both & where are you at?
I'm in the "boring as batsh't" stage of af - I despise these first few weeks - I just want to get back to baby making. The first of my friends popped today - a baby girl - I was 2 weeks behind her but I know I must stop thinking like that! Maybe after Feb is here & gone things will get easier. Heres' hoping.....
Hi to everyone else - hope we are all in a good place!

Welcome Lily's mum sorry for your loss and i hope your journey is short and sweet and you have a really sticky baby.....

Big hugs to all you girls you have all been so amazing listening to my ramblings but i guess thats what we are all here for.....

Well all is ok here i think being back at work and around babies and kids has taken its toll i went and saw a friend last night and had a cry feeling a bit better but just not myself iykwim... Apparently all my friends have been worried about me cos i talk about it all the time but its sooooo hard it is my life at the moment, im grieving, its all i think about... She sort of suggested i talk to someone but i dont feel i need to do that i just need to keep moving forward but it will just take time... I think they think i shouldnt be talking about it our something that im not moving forward.. Not sure.... They have trying to get someone to talk to me about it but didnt know what to say or who to do it... Im think ill send them a email explaining how im feeling and how this is my way of dealing with all of this and that im grieving as anyone would after losing someone.....

Anyhoo i dtd last night will see what happens over the next few days as to whether i continue for a few days until i know i have oed......

I hope everyone has a GREAT weekend...

Hi girls back again
Had my mum over yesterday and we took my DD to her swimming lesson then stayed to swim and had lunch etc etc before you know it its time to go to bed ho hum there goes another day now into another tww (just) dont know how i'll go waiting b4 testing
found out my boss at work is pg the other day and I was surprised to find I was happy for her and not just jealous- maybe it means I'm finally feeling better about the whole m/c ttc merry-go-round
hugs for all and lots and lots of baby making sprinkles for us all. Heres to lots of :bfp:s this month

Hi all,

Just a quickie to throw some :bluedust: around for everyone.

Welcome to the new ladies, but I really wish you didn't have to be here. Hope your stay is short.

Sorry, no time for personals these days. DD is sick with high fever & uber clingy, I'm looking down the loo every hour (eeeeuuuggghhh!) & am extremely tired. I'm 7 weeks now. Still haven't had bt's, but have Dr appt next Wednesday. Hopefully she'll stick an u/s on my belly & we'll see that little heartbeat. Not sure if she'll do that as it's a first visit. I lost my last bubba at 10w3d, so I'm trying to be cautious with my enthusiasm - m/s all day is helping with that!

Midwife appt went well - now thinking of having a hbac. Dunno yet.

Anyway, hope we see many of you, especially some of the longer term ttc'ers with :bfp:'s very soon! Shan, have you tested yet? If I post you one, will you do it?

Evening ladies,

Just a quickie as I am off to Scotland tmw...

Big hello to all the lovely ladies... Big hugs to all the new ladies sorry for your loss but you will find huge amounts of support from all the wonderful ladies here...


GL to everyone on TTC and I hope that the TTW isn't too long :p

I want to see all :bfp: by the time I get back and have this thread closed ;)

I will try and pop on line to see how everyone is going ... I will miss you heaps.... I am sorry if I haven't posted much but I wasn't sure if I still could post here or I should be posting in the other threads (hmmm bit unsure)...

Shan - I want you outta here by the time I get back :pray: love ya babe

Ok my friends Take care and I will talk to you all in three weeks
mwahxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hey girls,

Congratulations Sarah for your confirmed BFP.

Mako i haven't tested again yet....trying to hold out. Might test later today as it is 1:30 in the morning at the moment. But the evil witch is due Sunday. I really have a feeling that she will turn up, had cramps yesterday and just feeling blah and very bad pms.
I totally understand the not coping with the BFN i am another one that can't handle seeing BFN staring back at me.

Welcome Lily'sMom, it is sad that any of us have to be here but you will get a lot of suport from these girls. Sorry to hear of your recent loss. Hope you make many friends in here.

Mummyto1 thanks for looking out for me, i amok i spose. As i stated before Feb is a very hard month for me as well, so totally understand my auntie is due topop in the next couple of days and i amputting on the happy face but deep down i'm screaming ''WHY IS IT NOT ME??"

Chepie hope your trip in Scotland is great i would love tobe in your suitcase.

Well i am currently just sitting round waiting for the witch to show her face....hohum hohum. She is due on Sunday as in tomorrow i am 15dpo. If i am preg this month it would come as a total suprise.
As i mentioned earlier my Aunty is due to pop anyday and i have to be nice...i didn't knowit was going to be this hard.
Well i am off to get DH to massage my back and maybe get one more BD before AF arrives. :redface:

TTFN

Hi Girls,

Cilmum and Kez - thanks for looking out for me. I did put a post in last week or the week before, to say that i did poas again, but it was a -ive. I'm happy to just wait it out now and see what happens, but Cilmum, thanks for the offer.

Kez - hope you have an absolutely fabulous time in Scotland. We'll see you when you get back, and yeah, i probably will still be here...

Sorry i haven't posted much lately, but i'm trying my hardest not to think about things too much iykwim, but i have been keeping up with you all, so know that i am here, just not posting.

Tomorrow is the 3yr anniversary of losing my angel, so there will no doubt be a few tears shed. I just need to get through tomorrow and hopefully will try to get back to a little bit of normality.

Good luck to everyone else, and i'll catch up will you all soon...xxxx

Have a GREAT time in Scotland Kez...

HUGE hugs for tomorrow Shan i will be thinking of you.....

Well i think i have oed not sure as i still have no internet at home and cant access FF to get a coverline but by temps and cm it happened wed/thurs we dtd Thursday night might jump him tonight LOL just incase i havnt but im pretty sure it happened around then so fingers crossed wait and see.... Oh if your wondering i had a chat to a friend Thursday arvo and made me realise yes i am ready to fall pg if it happens and also will be ok if it doesnt iykwim.....

Shan I'm sending you great big :hugs: sweety. Please know that I'm thinking of you.

Kez Enjoy your time in Scotland. It sure is great to see you pop in here and check up on us.

Kristee I have everything crossed for you that af stays away and you get a BFP soon.

Janeo Please know that we are here for you during your so called "ramblings". I peronally don't see it as that hun. I see it as you needing to get these thoughts and feelings off your chest and thats what we are here for, to support and care for you in your time of need. You must remeber that you are still grieving and all this takes time sweety.

Cilmum I'm sorry to here that your DD is unwell. I hope she starts to feel better really soon.
All the best with your drs appointment on Wednesday. I'm pleased that all is well with your little bubba though I'm sorry you are suffering terrible m/s.

Sarah All the best for the tww. I hope this time goes fast for you and you'll have a BFP to announce at the end if it.

Mummyto1 How are you going hun?

As for me I'm almost at the end of my tww. I don't have any signs of anything what so ever happening apart from getting cranky at times and I've had tingling BB's so the crankiness is most likely happening because af is possibly on her way but unsure about the BB's though! I have decided that I won't be testing until atleast Friday next week :pray:

I hope everyone is having a great weekend.

Mako i hope that isnt the case that they are pg symptoms.. I got grumpy and upset easily leading up too bfp... I have everything crossed for you.........

Shan, thinking of you, babe. Big hugs. xx

Shan,
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I know time is supposed to heal but it can also be a ***** of a reminder of just how long our journeys to have our families can be! I totally flipped out on Australia Day and didn't even realise until the next day that I'd been having my d&c that day a year ago-- it certainly explained how flat I'd been. I'd really tried to put it out of my mind and nearly succeeded-- it obviously got to me anyway.
Massive hugs from me to you!!:hug:

Hope xoxo