Trying to conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2009

Just a quick update.
No more blood :pray: but my belly is doing flip flops, really bloated lots of twinges and my back is still really sore. Rang the clinic and they got me to up my progesterone which means I now feel grosse 3 times a day. Trying to rest but I"m a pacer when I'm nervous. DP has been really good but is also frustraighted as he can't 'fix it' we're just :pray: for a good HcG result tomorrow and no more spots streaks or anthing.

Thank you all for your support
:grouphug:

Hi all,

Coco I am sorry that you are feeling low. Its so hard to hear someone else especially a friend or family member is pregnant. I know i always feel sad and then feel worse for feeling sad about it. I have a cousin thats pregnant (16weeks) at the moment. She emails me her ultrasound pics and tells me all about it and i pretend to be super happy for her. Feeling secretly so jealous i could scream. But i guess when we all get our chance again we will surely be telling someone who is in the same boat our happy news.

Greenslw - i am so happy your spotting has stopped. You will get great HcG results tomorrow!! Keep thinking positive.

Smallfryplus - It will happen for all of us. You are so right. We will all be great Mums one day. I think feeling happy is a great medicine to keep you strong and positive.

:bluedust: to everyone!

Greenslw, i am so happy that the spotting has stopped, keep positive and just relax.


asm, 9-10 dpo and bfn on second morning wee and a forelife brand.
all symptons are gone today.

Thanks for the welcomes everyone!

It is unfortunate that any of us are here but at least we all have a place with people who understand what we've been going through.

Thanks for the info about the Pre-Seed Emmy!

I'm crossing my fingers that I'll O this cycle as it has been a bit weird. I had a 28 day cycle before we started TTC and as we started it slowly stretched out to 32 days. After my m/c is went to 28 days straight away and over the last 3 cycles has started dragging out first to 29 then to 31 so I'm not sure when I'll O this cycle.

I'll keep you updated...

Hi Ladies,

Greenslw - I am so glad to hear the bleeding has stopped. Try and rest, and my fingers are crossed for you for your HCG tomorrow. Sending sticky vibes.

Coco - thinking of you, I know that feeling.

AFM -
AF finally arrived, today is CD 1 for me.
I'm finding the abdo cramps more difficult to deal with than the blood.
I am confused though. I know I ov'd late following the m/c, but AF was still late following ov. And usually AF is super heavy on day 1, and this isn't that heavy. So I'm really not sure what's happening with my body.

Hi ladies
i had a not so good day at work today another friend told me she is 11 weeks pregnant that makes it 6 now and there was no one pregnant when i was and when i lost abbi they all came out of the wood work so today they all had a granny session about their morning sickness and the ultrsounds they have had and maternity leave and i felt so left out and lost it should be me i would have about 8 weeks to go and i just put on a brave face smiled and walked away absolutly shattered i dont think i can take much more of this i feel i'm going to lose it if another person tells me they are pregnant.
Anyway enough of me sooking.

Greenslw- praying for you tomorrow

Coco-thinking of you hunny i know how you feel.

Anila-cross fingers it is to early yet.

Poppy-i diddnt m/c but after we lost abbi my cycle was a bit off at first lasting a bit longer and 2-3 days of spotting before they even start which is not my norm

Milly- same as what i said to poppy your cylcle can take a while to get back to normal.

i'm off to pick my son up from work be back soon

ferrals :grouphug: just for you. Sounds like you need it badly, hon.

On a daily basis I wish I had a wand to wave away all the sadness in here.

ps. Greenslw, glad the blood is stopped :hug:

Ferrals: Hon its so good to have someone know that feeling and be going through it at the same time. Hope you're feeling better..

I saw the friend today who is pregnant..the girl is a mutual mate and she said she was due jan 30th and she said "oh im 4 weeks" and I was thinking "um no you're 5 weeks...and you should CARE enough that you're pREGNANT and you DIDNT want a baby yet to KNOW HOW FAR ALONG YOU ARE!!!!!"

Instead I smiled weakly.

Also today went to darby street coffee festival & we were going to be meeting up with them but I called my sister instead and hung out with her. But when I saw Zoe, (thats her name) she was VERY cold towards me clearly because I chose to not hang out with them....Well excuse me for having grief feelings & Im sooo sorry that you are being ignorant to my feelings and think that a couple of months after my miscarriage I should be TOTALLY over it and TOTALLY happy that a friend who didnt want to be pregnant yet is pregnant and doesnt appreciate the feeling like someone like us ladies will!

:angry:

smallfryplus- thanks hun i know what i'd do with that wand we would all have our babies back where they should be in our bellies safe and sound.

Coco- it's awlful isn't it pretending to be happy for them and faking it around them when they don't consider our feelings they talk about their pregnancies like we should be over it and that it would'nt bother us but deep down inside we just want no one around us pregnant to remind us of our heartache they will never understand until they go through what we have.

Hi Girls,
I did not log on all weekend so there was heaps to catch up on.

Greenslw- I'm sending you a truck load of :stickyvibesgirl: hope todays HCG levels put your mind at rest.

Maddison and Coco I think we are all in the TWW together now so :pink-babydust: for all of us.

Anila- :pink-babydust::stickyvibesgirl:for you too, it is still very early so don't lose hope. I have tests that I go off the net that test positive at 10miu where as shop ones are not positive till 25miu in theory they should hopefully be able to detect a BFP way earlier. :crossfingers: for you.

Milly- I have been taking Vitex for 2 years. I do find it helps level out my hormones, not so many up and down days. Not sure it has done heaps to help my cycle but other than my eggs refusing to hatch sometimes my cycle is not too bad.

Ferrals- your DH souds so lovely. Just a little question, hope it doesn't upset you but do you feel Abbi still with you, you obviously still very lovingly honour her memory. I only ask as since the first m/c I never really felt that my baby was really gone and that when I feel pg again I felt it was the same spirit. I saw a psychic lady (quite by chance) and she said it was the same soul and that next time she comes to me she will stay. I guess what I'm saying is maybe the ones we lose come back to us when they are ready. Not sure if others believe in this stuff, hope its not too "out there."

Have a good day everyone.

Hi Girls,

I've posted randomly in here a couple of times, and have lurked around reading how everyone is doing, and thought I felt like posting this morning.

I have a 10.5m DS. I had a natural m/c 20/4 at 11w, but bub only measured at 6w2d. fell pregnant again after m/c before i got a period, but seems that may have been a 'chemical pregnancy' cause I got my period as expected. so still not sure whether i classify that as a second m/c or not?? i guess i do.

I'm wanting to ttc straight away, in fact this weekend was the time for me. Had a positive opk on saturday and temping has just dipped so am expecting the rise tomorrow. But DH thinks we should let one cycle pass and start again next month. in my head i know that's the right thing to do, but in my heart I wanted to be ttc straight away. on the other hand, i wouldn't want to lose another bubba and think that things may have been different if I let at least once cycle pass to give my body a chance to catch up with itself (if that makes sense?!?).

So for me now, i'll be waiting for AF to come, and interested to see how long me luteal phase is so i know what is going on.

someone asked about supplements and I'm on heaps! B6 - for luteal phase support, Fish Oil, Preg & B/Feeding Gold, I-Folic, Vit E - for egg strength, Magnesium and Calcium, Inner Health (just finished antibiotics) and some chinese herbs from my acupuncturist. I was on Vitex but have given that a rest.

Sending everyone big hugs. What a great group of women you are - finding strength in the support that seems to oose from this forum. It's a beautiful thing to see.

Jules

Sunbeam-it's uncanny that you ask because it is a feeling that is hard to describe but years and years ago when i was with my ex i went to a clairvoiant to see about my 3 boys future and he said to me the usual things and then out of the blue he said there is a daughter waiting in astral space( his words not mine) for you but you wont have her but she want's you to be her mum i thought nothing of it as my marriage was on the way out but it popped back in my mind when my new DH and i decided to try for a baby and then when we found out it was a girl i thought she made it to me it wasn't until i knew i would not get to bring her home that the clairvoiants words rang home( you wont have her) i feel like she is waiting for the right healthy body to be born but i also have a feeling i cant give that to her so i do feel like she is with me maybe that's why i feel so guilty that i had to make the decision to end the pregnancy when she was so desperately loved and wanted i did every thing in my power to get a better diagnosis but it only got worse and i hope if i do get pregnant again she chooses me to be her mum again

Juleswa-Hi i'm happy that you can get the support you need here i know it is helping me i think i would be a mental case by now if i couldn't vent and winge and cry to the girls who know just how i feel and know how to respond and say the right thing's thank's girls

Hi ferrals- what you wrote brought tears to my eyes. Here's hoping our much loved souls make it safely to us soon so we can show them all the love we have for them. You have nothing to feel guilty for you did all you could for her and I'm sure she knows that.

my 6YO daughter shed a tear when I dropped her at school this morning, she was trying so hard to be strong. I won't see her again until Friday. God, I hate shared custody.

Hi Ladies Thank you for all your :stickyvibes: it must have worked my HcG is 12000+ and all is looking good. Have decided to calm down and keep on keeping on. I am so happy. Rang DP and he screamed at work.... He wants to tell the world but I said no I want to hear the heart beat first......

:hug: Smallfry, I know how you feel my Step son is 15 and I miss him so much when he goes to his mums.

:grouphug: I am so greatful for all your support

yay Greenslw thoose numbers are awesome! Im so happy everything is looking good.

Sunbeam, juleswa, Smallfryplus, ferrals4, hello :hello: and anyone else i missed.

juleswa like ferrals sad, glad u can get support from here, i know it has helped me.

Thanks for the babydust sunbeam, im sending some straight back to u.


afm, well i tested again using miday wee and got a bfn using a forelife and a ebay cheapie.
although i dont trust them, im really not feeling very pregnant anyway, and that makes me sad and depressed.

I have posted this in another thread, but thought I might ask you ladies too....

I think I'm getting ovulation pain? should be ovulating today and am having small twinges in my right side about where i think my ovary would be. I have never experienced this ever at all, so I'm confused as to why i'm getting this now? I'm on chinese herbs, so not sure what they're doing - maybe it's that? maybe cause this is first cycle after m/c?

I just feel so acutely aware of my body at the moment - it's wierd?????