Trying to conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2009

Question ladies - does the first cycle / AF after m/c, well does it hurt more than usual??

the reason is - if you count the m/c as CD1, then I should have ovulated last week, but only just getting the the signs today, so I am going to be a week later than usual I think.

Yesterday was sticky CM, this morning EWCM, and this evening - ovulation pain, that I can't recall having ovulation pain like this before. I mean, its not as bad as abdo cramps (and certainly not as bad as the m/c) but for ovulation pain, it's pretty bad.

Is this normal, or are my hormones still just out there, and is this causing it, or is it all just a wierd co-incidence?



Coco - if AF is not due just yet, could it be the signs of implantation bleeding? fingers crossed.

sorry about your BFN Sunny. :( But it ain't over till the fat lady sings!! I tested negative the day before AF was due, and wasn't until she was a day late that I got the BFP.

Anila - my m/c was 3 weeks tomorrow, so still quite recent too. And I was 8w5days, so even though it was early, it was much wanted and planned for, and we had so many hopes and dreams. Thinking of you.

Ferrals - your teddybear sounds beautiful

Greenslw-feeling sick sounds good to me i can't help with eostrogen pills but i think you should be fine if you still took it just a bit late.

Anila- what is happening all these people losing their babies.

forgot to add in last post i am still getting niggly pulling feeling and this might be TMI but i feel very h###y and wet and i just feel really good so :crossfingers::crossfingers:

Milly5-my 1st AF after i lost abbi was horrendous it was soooooooooo heavy the first 3 days and painful the all of a sudden went back to normal and stopped but my loss was late so not sure if an early loss is the same

Ferrals: Abbi loves you just as much as you love her. Dont ever feel like you didnt do enough. She knows you did. Happy Muvva's day hun! Enjoy snuggling the teddy! :p
As for you last post, im in stitches! You horn dog! Go get 'em tiger! Grrrrrr! :dance:

Anila: I hope you continue to find strength and get the much needed support you deserve!

Greenslw: Ive got a cheeky grin on my face right now..........I think you might be.........................you know! :pray:

AFM: Just being impatient as per usual! Give me my BFP! :lol:

Sunny09-LOL:ROFL:i would'nt mind it but poor DH is at work until 8 30 tomorrow morning so i will just have to watch my sex and the city dvds and hang out until tomorrow awwww! not fair why is it when i'm not ovulating and DH not here i want it and when we need to BD we have to force ourselves (just not right)

Hi ladies, Thanks for the chanting :) Stupid RB...

Im not due for another 4 days going on the standard 28 day cycle..my chart showed triphasic shift on monday/tues so wouldnt it be late for an implantation bleed? Im holding onto any grain of hope until she rolls into stayfree* with wings land..b17ch.. :(

I noticed a little red when I checked my cm again...it was a goopy red, just a little bit, and when i got out of the bath i had slight aches so Im not being positive at the moment...Im sure she is coming but wasnt preceeded by a temp drop hence my surprise :(

Sunny thanks for your :pray: I'm doing the same for your BFP :pray: :goodluck: to both of us.

FYI Just phoned the nurse at the clinic (feel like a goose) and it doesn't seem to matter so much, just need to reajust my times for the next few days to get back into the time's I'm used to..... (big sigh of relief) nothing to chance.

Good morning ladies :D
well i have some development happening my way, im still not clear on excatly what it means, and i dont want to ask for fear of ruining the moment we had, but last night hubby and i made love for the first time since the mc, and didnt use any protection, now he had a few wines, and i did have a half wine and half oj, but he was definatly not drunk, so he knew what he was doing.
So i dont know if it was a once off, or if it will continue and lead back into ttc.
But for now, i think it was a step in the right direction :)
It was so nice, we just held each other after and said i love you, it was really nice.

So for now im still in limbo, and i think it will be a if it happens it happens kinda thing with hubby, rather than yes we are ttc, iykwim.

My RB is coming and Im so over the whole charting being depressed every month thing...I cant stop charting though until after next cycle assuming i dont get pregnant, because my gyno will want to see the charts to see whats happening with the cycles. Thats not until june 22 so IF by miracle I fall pregnant I wont need it but after june 22 Im putting my account on hold at FF and going with the stupid "FLO" :(

Hope you're all having a better day than I am... I feel like an absolute failure that I cant do a simple thing like fall pregnant and keep the baby...I feel like my body is just useless..I knwo there are others out there who have done it much harder than I have but please, keep in mind that to me this is the worst in the scheme of my life.

Im sick of buying the vitamins, and I eat well, I do excersise like walking and light running, I dont drink, I dont smoke, I dont do drugs, I dont abuse myself you know? Its just so unfair!!!

oh hunni, coco, its not u please dont ever think that its you, i dont know why these things happen to some women and not to others, but it will never be your fault.
Your precious bundle will be here soon, there is probably just a little comunication problem, and u guys got on different trains or something, but im sure soon, you will both find each other really soon, and you will be inseperatable.
Please stay strong hun.

and i have found that venting is a good way to do that.

MORNING!!!
DH is home i got my laptop back( i missed it )

Anila - i'm happy you and hubby are working things out if he is willing to for go the protection then maybe he still wants to try but without all the stress and timing and temps ect (i could go on and on) maybe you should just keep an eye on your cycle and on the right day's make sure you get him in the mood without being to obvious that it's ov time.

I am still getting very light period like feeling in my lower abdo same as when i was pregnant with abbi also i noticed this morning in bed i could'nt lay on my belly as my boobs were tender not sore just a little tender and my nose wont stop running and i don't have a cold i have a good feeling but don't want to get my hopes up

Coco-dont be so hard on yourself it seems easy to get pregnant for some but really it's luck getting pregnant is not easy when the egg only lives for 24 hrs and can only be fertilised for 12 and many eggs and sperm have faults so everything has to be perfect to concieve my 1st son i fell on the pill my 2nd took 9 mths my 3rd took 1 mth my fourth was accident i m/c at 7 weeks my 5th also accident when my marriage ended so i had a termintion then met my wonderful DH and it took 5mths to get pregnant with my girl now i'm here again wonder how long it will take give yourself time you have been pregnant so you know it works for you and DH i know waiting is the worst but if you stress it wont help have you tried a natropath my friend was trying for 2 years she put her on disgusting drink and more tablets and got pregnant within 3 mths.

Sunny09-how are you feeling today?

Greenslw-hope your still getting those symptoms.

Rb is here. She's very different though but here all the same. Ive got very light brown spotting, no back ache, no jelly legs, no pimples, no cramps, just spotting and nausea. Did a test this AM and it was BFN.
Feeling very alone even though surrounded by so many loving people........

Good luck everyone else!

feeling crap, so going shopping after work. i just want my pregnancy back and all the hopes and dreams that came along with it. having RB just sux hairy cat balls! sorry for a horrid image. :redface:

Hi Ladies,
Good news on the BD Anila, :crossfingers:
:hug: sunny Sorry to here RB arrived. Shopping sounds like a good idea. retail therapy is always a plus.
Coco I get those days too. I work with alot of very ungreatful mums. (not all of them) in my job and sometimes I just wish that all babies would go to the mums that really really want them. What is your most favourite thing to do? Maybe that will make you :D again. :hug:

Ferrals, my signs are still lurking, not so many cramps which is good but another ichy symptom apeared today that I don't miss at all, no #2 for days. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh but again a good thing. I still feel sick but not as much, I think not rushing helps (no work today :D) but I did call work, I'm such a sucker. I have a good feeling about what you're describing too. :pray: I love sleeping on my tummy and am finding it difficult too. :goodluck:

I went for a massage yesterday before my chiro and I feel sore but so much better. I got way too stressed at my step son about only wanting to take mars bars and yoyo biscuits to camp and am a little over everyone else being able to drink coffee. Yep hormonal. Although I found a good place that make non chemical decaf which isn't bad (not good) but not bad. Is anyone else doing the no caf? HOW DO U COPE?

Hope everyone has a nice relaxing weekend.

Hi Ladies,

Sunny - I agree, and am right there with you!! No need to apologize to me for the description.

I am having A SHOCKER!!!!! PAIN ++++++++++++ although AF not here yet, she is sure announcing her arrival. It's like a double whammy, no triple - first the m/c, then the no TTC this cycle (though that was my choice in having the booster), and then a really painful AF just to rub it in. Grrrr.....

Coco - so sorry, no other words of wisdom, just sorry.

Greenslw - my fingers and toes are crossed for you - and I have no idea about the caffine thing. I do know that as much as I try and not drink it when TTC, I can't help it, I still do, just limit it. And when I am pg, I don't feel like it, I don't even want it. Decent decaff would be great though, because then I could still get my nice coffee ... mmm.. coffee... (like my homer simpson impersonation?? LOL)

Milly I'm a homer simpson with coffee too :lol: Gloria Jeans does the no chemical stuff as do alot of markets around the place, I know in adelaide they do anyways. The other stuff is decafinated with all kinds of nasties. Last time I limited my caffine but this time it's out all together, not even chocolate. But white stuff is ok, and white hot chocolate.

I'm doing honey and lemon drinks to give me a bit of a warm buzz. It is freezing. I hate winter.....

Sending you a virtual heat bag for your tripple wammy. :hug:

Hi ladies
I found 2 houses and applied for both so hope i get one of them.

Sunny09-hope you feel better after your shopping trip as for hairy cats balls :ROFL: i can't comment as i hav'nt tried them but got a pretty funny visual though.

Greenslw-CAFFINE what is that i gave that up june last year when trying for abbi then while pregnant and now TTC again so it's been 12 mths almost with decafe coffee caffine free diet coke and even decafe Mc cafe but i won't give up chocolate.

Milly5-:hello:

Well i'm not sure if AF might turn up as i am so irritable and snappy i don't want to be around anyone DH is S#####g me i feel like crying i get like this before AF but i feel like going to the loo all the time to so i don't know still a few day's until i can test i can't stand it anymore i hate the wait everyone around me is pregnant all excited and i was before them i should have about 10 to 11 weeks to go i'ts not fair .
sorry for the winge i feel so cranky