Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2010

Hi Ladies


OMG Murarycod. No wonder you were in sooo much pain. Do you have any eggs left in your ovaries lol? Fx you get at least 3/4 fertilized.

Reet- I'm so sorry the camping didn't go so well. I've never had a problem on clomid with bleeding. I didn't know it was a side effect even. Maybe give your FS a call for a please explain?

Hi Alice- No more news on the cramps front lol. I'm still getting them and backache but my temps are all over the place so I can't explain it. They do feel like AF pains but she's not due till next Friday. I don't normally get AF pains until I actually have her. Perhaps it's just my uterus contracting getting ready for AF after the M/C?

MURRAYCOD!!! Amazing news my love, this is so your month! You've got stacks of eggs and you've been taking exactly the right meds, so impressed with you for getting the doc to put you on meds! It doesn't matter if you get a dodgy fertilisation rate (you won't anyway!) cos you only need one that's gonna get all cosy and snuggly for 9 months :) Oof I'm so excited for you! I can't believe you pretty much put yourself on the right medication, you did so so well. This is it babe :)

Reet: Oh no that sucks! I'm sorry it didn't go as planned, those lil spermies can live for a few days so hopefully there will be one waiting when you O. Deep breaths darling, it will be ok.

Porsche: Hope your not too uncomfortable darlin, I got AF like pains the week before I got my BFP...so....y'know...could be very good!

Alice: Sculpture sounds amazing, one of my friends just had her second exhibition, she works mainly with paper though, does a lot of collage, it was incredible to be in this room filled with things she'd created. Hope your going well on the food front! 2 weeks til June now, anxious is good, it means you know the right time is coming :)

T-hopes: Oh no, I'm so sorry your homecoming wasn't so relaxing! I hate preg announcements, I still hate them actually, they just don't go to who they should go to! You can do this darling, you can *hugs*

Crafty: I can knit scarves, but that's about it. My mum tried to teach me to crochet, she said it would be easier. She lied, I found it so much harder! lol! I hope those lil baby clothes your knitting end up on your very own bubba, mwa xo

AFM, I singlehandedly made every person I came into contact with at the Dr's yesterday feel uncomfortable. Sigh. They all kept asking me if this was my first pregnancy, I'd say unfortunately no, they'd laugh and say ah children can be horrors can't they, I'd say I had a miscarriage. Cue awkward silence. I didn't wanna lie about Splat, so it wasn't really the joyous occasion I was hoping for. I came home and cried :( I've got a referral for a 6 week scan next week, praying so hard I get to keep this one. I remember Dory saying once that everyday she was pregnant was a good day, I'm taking that :) So today is a good day :)

:o:o MurryCod!! Have you got any eggs left!!! I really applaud you for being so forthright and getting done what you needed to get done - sometimes WE JUST KNOW SOMETHING ISN'T RIGHT and there he is now, you FS, in shock. Well, I'm glad you aren't the one in shock after another disappointing IVF. This is a really important message for everyone doing IVF. I wish I had been more proactive sooner so well done lovely that is fantastic news and you are so going to get your earth baby I can feel it in my bones!! I remember on my first IVF when I got 5 day 5 blasties and my FS said to me "You could have your whole family in the fridge!" Well girl, I think you could have a few families worth in there if all goes as well as I'm hoping and praying it will for you. Wonderful. I am so stalking you and Kit in the BB forums!!! CONGRATULATIONS brave woman! I hope they all get snug and cosey with DH's swimmers and you get wonderful results. Now rest up!! Let him treat you like a princess, you deserve it!!

Kit - I'm sorry love, it must be such a mixed bag of emotions for you right now. I'm glad you are getting your 6 week scan. I want you to repeat after me "everything will be O.K" - please promise to think about this little one attaching and growing strong and healthy. You can conquer this fear, you can. Bright thoughts, every time you feel it creeping back. x

Reet - sorry you had such a disappointing time :( I hope things settle down and you can figure out what is going on.

Got to get on with work now so back later for catch up with everyone else.

Alice xx

OMG Murraycod - 27 eggs :o well done chook!!!

HI to everyone else - just was popping in to see how murraycod was doing. Will do persie tomorrow once I finish this assignment today...

AFM: 9DPO, I did do a test this morn just for the hell of it but was a BFN...FF has me testing next wed which is the 19th - not sure if I feel comfortable testing on that date as that is the date in jan that I got my BFP with lil one

talk to you later lovelies xoxox

morning everyone!
Yay murraycod, lots of little cods! So excited for you, cant wait to see your bfp!
Just wanted to pop in quickly, tested this morning, bfn, wasnt really expecting much but there is always that glimmer of hope isnt there.....Im going to be sticking around for bfp june! Who is joining me?
Xxxx

Murray! Awesome girl! 27 is just awesome. You must have felt like a jumbo jet! OMG about the NKC! Good for you for insisting. That just makes me so happy (a) that you got that news (b) that you are already being treated. It really augers well for this cycle. Tell your DH you ARE a princess! FET on Monday! That means another trip to Adelaide...

I know how much you hurt after the bioposy – so totally worth it now..... be strong girl. Oh and hope you are feeling less doped up today. Almost wetting my pants from excitement over here!

Ric – good to have you back. Of course you are still welcome :)

Reet – oh sweetie. I don't understand either – can only offer you hugs. Hope your puppy's xray's go ok today.... poor little poochie.

Crafty – thankyou sweetie. I didn't share my thoughts to try to tell you how you should think, just more, sharing how I worked through something that was really hard. Just because you are proud of the man your son is becoming doesn't mean you can't be sad for yourself either.... I saw on the TV that you got a stack of rain over there. Well done. Hope the garden picks up for you.

Thopes – now you've made me blush....

Forshelby – you made by blush for entirely different reasons. Glad you're not broken anymore and good luck with the Bding. A bit of shower time is always good...well except for us, our cubicle is a bit small and we have to open the shower door.... and in winter it means the cold air comes in, not so good for either DH or me! Is that TMI? Anyway – make the most of it! I know what you mean – the other day I was saying how I was knitting and someone retorted - “what are you sixty or something?”. They just don't know what they are missing.

Alice – you are always manage to find such inspirational words! Well done you. Sculpture... I wasn't much of a fan and still am not really, but the occassional piece just hits the spot. When the Gallery of Modern Art opened in Brisbane, I went to check it out and have only been back once since and that was for an exhibition. But there was one room that was quite big and it had a big red dougnut looking thing on the wall. I was mesmerised and must have just sat there for 20 mins or so. It was an amazing experience.

Porsche – poor blossom – you are going through some confusing times. I hope like Kit says that they are signs of something else much longed for.

Kit – so good to hear from you. Sorry yesterday wasn't what you expected. I so know the feeling of “cue the awkward silences” , sometimes I even actively create them., which is a bit naughty. It's not you – people make all sorts of assumptions and then have to try to extract their feet from their mouth. You will say what is right for you at the time. You will find a way to honour both Splat and this bubs. I remember when I first got a BFP the GP was really excited and was saying congratulations all the way out of the consult and was really excited. Not so much with Amelia, and then even less again with the twins and no obvious excitement at all this last time. A bit sad really. Maybe she just ran out of excitement for me cause it was all used up the first couple of times? Sweetie – I still say that! I need to say it to get through! Today is a good day. One day at a time.

Ionna – good to hear from you. How did you feel getting the one line today? Did you expect it? It is early... just couldn't resist huh? Do what you need to to get through. If you're worried about being jinxed by the date, then test on a different one. Hoping you get those two lines.....

Bons - oh bugger about your BFN, When ar you expecting AF? June sounds like a great month for your BFP......

morning everyone, murraycod-great news,hope those swimmers have had a busy night...kitfaerie-i think it is lovely that you acknowledged splat,he'll always be your 1st pregnancy,no-one can take that away from you..ttcalovechild-how did your dr's app go?..bons-sorry it was a bfn...possummagic,porshe & gem-how are you guys?..reet-sorry the trip didn't work out as planned,how did pup go at vets?did you ring your dr about the bleeding..missk-cycles can take a while to get sorted out after a loss , your body has been through a lot.I too find songs emotional..craftymummy-you help keep us sane as well...alice-june will be here soon & your body will be in tip-top shape...dory-how are you feeling,sending dh out for mid-night cravings ??.t-h hopes-you'll be making your own announcement soon...forshelby-sounds like the fun has begun,our ensuite has a double shower,big selling point with dh when we were looking at properties...saffy-have you got any dates for your ivf?..afm-thanks ladies for your well wishes,flu doesn't want to leave me,af doesn't want to arrive

Murray cod yeah I am so excited for you and praying like mad that you have an excellent fertilization rate and don't need any more stim cycles as you have all your babies in those 27eggs collected yesterday. And well done to you on requesting that nasty biopsy for NK cells. You clever girl for insisting and been right. Hope the treatment for it means your BFP is here in a fortnight amd you have a H&H pregnancy with lots of little snow bubs for later on.

Mathew's Mum - I love the sneaky reference to "double shower", all this tcc makes us saucy minxes.... as if we weren't before. Hope you are feeling better, enough to make good use of that shower. :)

Embryologist just rang, he said it is the best fertilisation rate they have seen for a long time, 19 fertilised at perfect grade, so everyone is super happy.
Just drinking river loads of water to hold off OHSS, because the last thing I want out of this is a cancelled ET !!! Am a little sore today, nothing major, just taking it easy as much as possible.

Matthew's mum, tell AF to hurry up, and I hope you start to feel better soon X

Mildez, thanks babe X Yeah I have to admit it was a long shot, every one IRL told me I was pulling at straws and looking on the internet too much, but in the end, it was the most painfull thing I have ever been through, but the most importaint decision I have ever made, and payed off.
I was told, with such a high reading of KNcells, there was no chance anything would survive in that uterus of mine.

Dory, yeup, another trip to Adelaide, 5hrs there and 5hrs back!! Mad aren't I ?!!!!! What we do.

Bons, so sorry you got a BFN, hang in there X

IonaMacca, darl I see you have a significant date comming up, there always seems to be one lurking around the corner isn't there?? We are here for you, and if you decide not to test on that day, well I don't blame you at all. I will send you strength to hold it out and ride it through XXXXXX Take care X

Alice, :hug: I just want to thank you for not telling me how excrutiating that darn biopsy was before I had it done, otherwise I would not have gone through with it X So thanks X Your next babe, and I will be here for you every step of the way, like you were me XXXXXX
I know all of this waiting sucks, but you have done us all so proud getting yourself so healthy first X
Good luck today with your Job/ non-job, whichever works out X Am thinking of you!xx

Kit, sweetheart, you have every right to feel anxiouse ATM, no matter what you say, and no matter how you remember Splat, most people won't understand, I wish you the very best for your upcomming scan, you are a very brave girl.
And yes, as Dory has said, try to be happy everyday, and only feel sad or worry when you have to. You have finally got your BFP, so relax, enjoy what you have, and we can help you get through the rest, so don't go running off on us just yet!! XXX

Reet, oh Darling I hope your Puppy is ok....again!!! You definately aren't having a good
run ATM. Sorry your camping trip was a bit of a disaster, that sucks.

Ric you could never be intruding :hug: We love to hear from you, and I am so happy to hear that you have been having a revitalising and happy time XX Yeah I understand that the forums can get us a little obsessed, I too have my quiet moments X It is really nice to see you pop by XX

Crafty, yeah got more than a bakers dozen and feeling it too!! How are you doing?X? Thanks for asking of me X

THopes honey, Big Huggs to you XXXXX Give yourself time, and look after that heart of yours XXXXX

MissK Gem Porche Saffy, Love you all thanks for being here for me while I am going through Mad Woman stage, I appreciate it more than you will ever know XXXXX

Well, I did it!! I quit my job!!! I am sooo relieved, I can't tell you. I've had such a knot in my stomach all week about it and it worked out fine and they were very understanding. So that is 10 hours/400 kms less travel every week - yah for me! DH has been lovely about it and I will look for something closer to home after our IVF so I am home on this lovely sunny afternoon, watching the chooks enjoy some lazy time out scratching in the yard (my poor garden but I just can't help myself) and relaxing.

MurryCod - 19 grade ones! It's amazing what a 30year old body can do!! I struggle to squeeze out one these days. Such good good news. We're all a bit giddy with excitement in here for you I think!

Forshelby - I must have missed your saucy post :) ah looking forward to a bit more sauce myself now I'll be more rested! We have a shower over a half sized bath so it would take a bit of gymnastics to make that work but you never know! Glad you could have some fun in this crazy TTC business!

Ric!! Welcome back! We've been wondering and wondering...glad you were having some much needed time out - now you're back in time for June (Possum - I forget the rhyme?)

Mildez, MatthewsMum, Dory, Kit, Gem, Porsche, MissK, T-hopes (join us for June!), Possum, Iona, Bons, Saffy, Reet (how's the pup?), Crafty, TTCaLC and all our other lovely women - hi and hope you have a good weekend planned.

Off to put my feet up....or maybe have a bath... or a nap!! Oh yeah, that's right, I have an essay to write!

Alice x

PS Kit, I sometimes do that too, I can't help myself but I'm sick of strangers (or people I hardly know) not thinking about what they say. So good, maybe next time they'll be more sensitive (just sorry you had to cop that). Hugs to you x

Oh and Porsche, I had bad bad cramps before I got my BFP - I was CONVINCED it was going to be a BFN so here's hoping it isn't!

murraycod-those swimmers did get to work,didn't they,now those nasty cells are being dealt with you'll be rolling them out,we'll all have to get the knitting kneedles out to clothe all your little ones...alice-glad your work was understanding,makes the world of difference...ric-welcome back,what is your cycle up to...mildez-how are you going?...

Ionamacca- Oh i hope ur spotting was implantation and not early af. FX! I hate seeing blood when ur not expecting it.. it just wrecks everything most of the time.. unless it is implantation for u.. oh i hope it was! anymore bleeding in the last couple days?? Its too early to take notice of bfn.. leave it a few days.. ur not out yet! x

Porsche- Oh i hope ur utd! ur symptoms are looking good. U are so so lucky ur body has sorted itself out so soon after ur m/c.. i am EXTREMELY jealous! U shld be proud of ur clever body :)

Bons- Im joining u in getting that bfp in june! x

Matthews Mum- Go away flu and hurry up af!!!! i hope ur feeling better very very soon and af shows.. i hope shes nice to u tho when she does x

Crafty- so hows the 2ww going?? keeping urself busy and ur mind occupied i hope! when are u testing?? once ur late or as soon as u can??? :)

T-hopes- Oh i hope this is ur month! Right now u will probly be doing a lot of bd'ing.. yay!! Good luck!! I have been thinking the same as u with the exercise thing, wld love to get my body exactly how i want it.. and now is the perfect time.. ill join ur lose 5kgs club! im actually going to start my health kick on monday.. u feel so much better when ur doing exercise daily.. i just lack the motivation and love my bed too much in the morning to get out any earlier then i have too!! I hope ur dh doesnt end up having to do sperm test.. actually it will be too early to know wont it whether ur utd or not.. so hes going to have to do it regardless?? poor bugger! my dh was going to have to do one and then i fell pg, thankfully for him.. he wasnt looking forward to it very much!

Alice- Good on you for quitting ur job! I can just imagine how good ur feeling. So happy for u. Im pretty sure im with u in the 'in tune with june' club! Bring it on!!

Saffy- so sorry to hear ur going thru a rough patch.. i can understand completely how ur feeling with the clomid. I cant remember feeling overly emotional last year when i was on it.. but i guess i was a bit more naive and carefree back then. I have my days now where i cld just cry and cry. I have never been like this in my life. I hope u start feelin a bit better once ur not on it anymore xx

Forshelby- Love ur positivity with thinking ur not going to be waiting too long to fall pg! I hope ur UTD in no time at all! :) Are u going to do OPK's to determine when u will be ovulating?? How long were u on bcp's for? I was on them for 8 years straight and stopped them last may.. I didnt get af for 4 months and then had it for 3 months straight.. i went on clomid, fell pg, had a m/c, and now my body still doesnt know what to do.. Drives me insane! I hope ur body is kinder to u. Hope ur shower bd was a good one! & ur practicing heaps!! :)

Possum- Sorry that af turned up. U might make the yay for may club though! I hope so! Oh and since ur the 20th too... guessing ur very stubborn like me??! :)

Kit- Did u get the blood tests done that u wanted?? I love urs and dorys 'motto' --everyday ur pg is a good day. Pls remind me of that when i fall.. i think ill be a nervous wreck! Sorry that ur doctors appointment wasnt too pleasant :( put a smile on ur dial.. remember.. positive thinking!! This one is urs to keep.. and i know ur little tiger will need u to be happy and healthy for the next 8 months x

Murraycod- Once again.. WELL DONE!!! am so so happy for u.. it sounds like it couldnt have gone any better for u! x

Hi to dory, ttca, gem, mildez, miss k and everyone else i have forgotten - sorry its getting late! big hugs!

AFM- Well i did a opk last nite before going to bed and the line was darker, so i guess we cld have a tiny chance that it might have worked this month.. still dont think blood wld be the best environment for the little spermies so if it were to happen it wld be a miracle. I have a little hope still tho. But am thinking next month will be more likely to be our month.. i just think my body is confused.. its probly better off that i have a proper cycle after m/c before falling again anyway. I didnt call my gyno, i just didnt really feel he wld have been able to tell me anything, he cld have sent me for blood tests to see where my hormone levels were at.. but i dont really want to know if 'o' is still to come cos dh wont be here anyway! i think i will just get thru this month and go hard next month. He wants to see me at the end of next month anyway. Hopefully im UTD by then! FX!!

As for the puppy situation, my poor little darling has an absyss, its on the inside of her cheek area, so basically from her eye down to her mouth. There was no sign of a bone so they think that when she either swallowed it or vomited it back up it cut her and then got infected. Shes on antibiotics and painkillers for the next 2 weeks now. They said if that doesnt start clearing it up in the next week then its quite possible that a bit of bone has splintered off and is stuck and they just cant see it with the xrays. If this is the case she will need extensive surgery to remove it. I so so so hope its just an absyss and will heal quickly in the next few days. FX. I cant handle seeing my babies in pain :( shes sleeping in my bed for the next couple nights.. she is such a snugglebug.

Anyway i better wrap this up.. i have been reading and writing for the last 2 hrs!!
Love all u ladies and thanku once again for all the kind words and support u have given me.. it is defintely making my journey a lot easier.. i dont have anyone that i can relate to and talk about my 'issues' with in the real world. xx

u can check out my gorgeous girls on my facebook page if ur bored! :) x

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Reet, your pupps are gorgeouse I checked out your facebook page, and I LOVE the comment about the money growing on trees....awesome!!!!!

Reet – ur girls are stunning, such posers!!! Hoping that it’s just an absyss on ur poor lil girl. I had some pink CM last night when I wiped but nothing more, it didn’t even look like the usual CM I would get before AF. Who knows!!!

Alice – yay on quitting your job, I remember when I quit my job, I think I made myself so sick as I hated going to work for so long and when I finally did it it was such a relief and now hopefully you’ll be able to concentrate on the things you want to without the stress of your work.

Murraycod – thank you so much for your kind words, after feb I had written the 19th of every month off as we had too many things happen on that date but it doesn’t help that my birthday is the 19th and it will be my 30th so really can’t write off every 19th :lol: wow 19 fertilised at perfect grade, that is just awesome. In no time you will be announcing your BFP!!!

Mildez – hi sweety, how are things going??

Matthew’s mum – hope the flu disappears soon for you and AF shows her face!!

Dory – i didn’t feel too bad about getting the BFN, i knew it would of been too early but couldn’t resist hehe

Bons - :hug: for the BFN, if AF arrives hope that she is kind

Kit – oh sweety, it’s hard especially when you get comments like that, sending you heaps of sticky vibes chook we are all here to hold ur hand thru the next few weeks

Crafty – how are you going chook??

Hi to everyone else!!

AFM: as i mentioned earlier, last night I had some pink CM but it wasn’t my usual pre-AF and then this morning nothing. My bb’s look so swollen and i’m feeling nauseous so will see how things go. DF is out all day today playing golf and then he is off to the AFL so will just be my 3yo lil man and me, so an early night on the cards since I handed my assignment in last nite – now onto the study notes for my exams in a months time
Talk to you all soon lovelies xoxox

So many things going on in here!
Sorry for all the BFN's they suck and are such a disapointment. The time will come again for us all to be happy again.

and the few of u waiting af - i hope she stays away! I have myfingers crossed and will be looking out for the good news.


atm - got my af last night! I was so convinced i was pregnant but i guess im not. I though it would just go back to normal :( i guess it hasnt ive now had two complete cycles though. I was ok, i thought there is no way i could be pregnant because when i got the positive o test we didnt do it till 2 days after but when the af didnt come for 5 days i thought i must be.
Not much i can about it. Going to diet for the month as ive put on alot of kilos since the lost. Im 76 at the moment and i was 69 when James left me. before that i wa 58 so its gone up a bit. Im starting a new job at the beginning of June. :( Might take my mind of things.

I do the Tony Fergouson diet - not sure if it would affect the bub when there is one if im on it when i concieve does anyone know?

baby dust to all.

Morning ladies,

Just a quickie -

Reet - hope pup heals up quick - poor little thing with an abcess :( Hope next month all things are back on track for you.
MissK - re the diet, just thought I would share this with you, for what it is worth. With the diet I am on now, the idea is to have your biggest meal at lunchtime. This is one thing I will definitely stick to because it has meant that I no longer get the sugar cravings I used to get every afternoon where I would just want to eat junk and at night I only feel like eating a small meal - more like a snack. Anyway, I've lost weight (not the intention of the diet but a happy side effect!) and I was speaking to a friend who is just trying to get a bit more fit and healthy who is doing something similar (but without all the diet restrictions I am on) and she said the same thing. In fact, she has lost heaps just by doing this alone. I wonder if it is worth trying this before you go on an official diet? It seems to even out the blood glucose levels and I have more energy and my friend said the same thing. So it's things like no carbs at night time and at lunch having protein and carbs when you need the energy the most. Worth a try?

Gotta go but back later for more persies. Hope everyone is well this morning.

Alice x

Iona-Macca - fingers crossed x Sorry the 19th is such a hard date for you but hope you can enjoy your 30th