Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - November 2009

Hi ladies. Haven't talked to you guys in awhile (not been feeling too well), and I've missed chatting with you guys. I've read through most of your posts but there are too many to reply to. Looks like sadly a few more people have joined (sory to read of your losses) and no luck yet with anyone else moving on to PAML, but I have all my fingers crossed for everyone.

I've hit a bit of a rough spot and am hoping I can lean on you guys. I've been having kind of spotting (pink and red streaked CM) since yesterday and am getting really nervous. I went to see my Dr today and he wasn't too concerned yet as he did an initial HCG at 4 weeks and my levels were nice and high (365 I think he said). He did another HCG on me today (now 6 weeks) to see how things are going and I should have the results back tomorrow. I have no cramping and it's not a lot but I'm obsessivley running to the loo to check (my girlie bits are getting a bit sore and I am going through loo paper at an astronomical rate but I can't stop myself). I'm trying not to worry too much yet but it's still really scary. Please let this little one stick! Please please please!

Twin sister - I had spotting (brown, pink and red) at least once a week from 5-10 weeks. Just rest as much as you can. No heavy lifting, no sex. It freaked me out everytime as that was how my last m/c started. Im now 16 weeks and everything is going well. I even got to hear the heartbeat at the drs this morning. I also had scans at 8, 10 and 12 weeks to check everything is ok. Dont be scared to demand a scan if it will help you rest easy.

helle everyone

Aternoon all,Craftymummy-did you get a pos 'o' stick?....Cookie-How did you go at dr's...Murraycod-can't wait to hear how your app went...ferrals-hope you can get af over with soon,ready for some chrissy b'ding...Sparkles-sorry your been down,happens to us all,good luck this cycle...Scarypinkfairy-looking at your ticker,might have something to celebrate after all,are you testing soon....Dory-thinking of you...Twinsister-Try to think about all the pregnancy's that go full term yet had spotted throughout the 1st tri...Ric-sending you best wishes

MurrayCod - Hows your DH's health now. seeing blood must be scary and frightning, but you are really strong, i am not. AND hows your appt went with the dr.
Twinsis - Be positive, and stay calm, i know your concern, but dont worry everything will be allright.
Eliselouise - how are u feeling now? it must be very hard sometimes to deal with present, u know what i mean...i hope you get BFP soon.
SPF - When are you testing? And must be tough when DH is going thru' one after another thing. hows his headaches and health, must see a Doctor, afterall "health is wealth". Look after him and yourself.
CraftMummy - So "O" sticks worked well for you? All the best for BDing and Catching that EGG and TWW.
Matthew's Mum- Thanks for thinking about all of us and the heavenly ones while decorating the X-mas tree...And did you get the Dark line on the stick...so time for action...;)
And to every member of the group - Hello and Happy day.
With me - nothing happening, just have real sore boobs since yesterday (must be ovulating or something else:D), but we are doing it every other day (just in case) i dont know where my cycle is and when i "O"ed (according to my 28 cycle - i have passed ovulation, but with this new cycle - i will be ovulating somewhere this week or next - only my hormones and body knows...). i will just wait for this month and then i am heading to GP so that she can recommend some Vitex to fix my cycles...but i wish to see my GP with the good news...
But thanks girls, for the idea of trying Vitex, i never ever have thought in this way to get some natural suppl to fix the body's imbalance...Thank you all.

Hi everyone

Twinsis try not to worry I know its hard but you have to stay calm and relax as much as possible,
Spfairy hope DH feels better soon and you both get a nice BFP to brighten your spirits soon !
Murraycod waiting and waiting for some news !
Matthews mum I did my opk yesterday at the same time as the day before but the line was still faint so will do again today at around 3pm but can the stick pick up LH after ovulation as it was darker but not dark on tues but nowhere near the colour of the test line ! last month was light then really really dark the next day so a bit confused will :bd: tonight anyway just incase he has had 2 days off !
Everyone else fingers crossed for some more BFPs really soon and :stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl: to all in the 1st trimester !

Speak soon :)

Thank you all for the kind thoughts! Saw the Ob, he's really positive about my scan (I'm completely empty), concerned about my hcg. He made me visit the vampire again this arvo, to make sure everything is dropping. Get those results tomorrow, then we can talk about what is next in terms of monitoring/treatment/etc! He was full of jokes though, and now I'm in an excellent mood! (wonder how long that will last?)

Murraycod - what IS IT with DH and their "I have to drive cause I'm an obsessive control freak!"? It's the same gene that makes them hog the remote I bet!Hoping everything times nicely for you!
Ferrals - a nastier AF just means more massages, and more chocolate remedies!
ScaryPinkFairy - I'd recommend scan, or even xray - DH gets the headaches and migranes when his neck/back aren't aligned - Even a trip to the physio might fix the problem! A massage perhaps?
Twinsister - relax. Lie down. Watch a movie. I know it's hard. Have a nap! A massage! Mind over matter is about the only real course of action. From what I read with my first m/c, spotting (especially pinkish) at the 6 week mark is unbelievabley common. I know how scary it is - I've been there - but bubby wants you to chill!
Hello to Sparkles and Ric!

I say - massages for all! :loveshower:

OMG I'm so exhausted, but needed to pop by and let you all know I'm back home safe and well X Got up at 3am, appt at 1130 and home 630. Sooo tired.

My Adelaide FS is a LEGEND, we love him already. Sounds very positive and very experienced. REPROMED nurses were so welcoming and kind, made us feel like we had been there for years!

Heap of bloods done today, more tomorrow morning if AF hasn't come cuz we might hav to 'make' her come so I can start my cycle BF Dec31st. (im not PG, tested for that).
Picked up my script for the pill for slight antagonist cycle so not due for egg pick up at Xmas.
Girls I am on cloud nine ATM!
Depending on amount of eggs they retreive at egg pick up, 4 will be ICSI and the rest natural fertilisation, so they know what is best for us if more needed in the future, I think that's a great idea and am so happy with that.
It's all systems go! And to think I only rang them 7 days ago, and ended up with the best FS he has the greatest reputation, and a 1yr waiting list, so someone is looking out for us 'up there', perhaps a little angel.

Sorry girls I'm rambling, got so much news today I dunno what to say first!


Cookie I'm so glad to hear that your OB visit went well too X

Ferrals hope you are doing alright, hope AF isn't too rough on you when she comes X It's like another kick in the butt! Sooner she's over the quicker your in the game!X

Hope you catch that eggy Craftymummy X

Ric I hope your cycles are back to normal soon so you know where you are X Just BD every second day for a while! If he starts to hide from you, just jump him when he gets home from work!:shhh: Tis alright when they want it!X

SPF hope all is well with DH, get the catscan if headaches persist, just to be sure everything is where it should be X

Hi Sparkles, don't be down babe :comfort:

Hi Maddison gosh time goes by so fast, I can't beleive you are 16wks already!:dance:

Twinsis, stickyvibes sent your way, you are doing so well, take it easy hun X

Coco and Snuggly..................miss you :bump:

Everyone I missed I hope you are all well, and Take Care babesX

Hi Ladies, thanks so much for all your well wishes. Dr rang earlier and said my blood test looked great and not to worry, though I had some more red streaked CM this morning. Feeling very poorly today though (brushing my teeth makes me vomit) so that must be a good sign. Trying to take it easy, will let you guys know how it goes. Thanks so much.

Murray - good luck, i hope it goes well!

Cookie - glad you are in a good mood, hope your blood test goes well and your HCG drops

crafty - GL catching that egg!

ric - hope you don't need the vitex and get a BFP from all that BDing

Mathews mum and Maddison - thanks for the kind thoughts

Murraycod, I am SOOOO happy you love your FS - I know how much difference that can make to an otherwise stressful experience!!:leap: Although, I have to admit you say egg pick up, I have these images of playing on those skill testers at timezone!

Twin Sister - glad you're feeling pukey this morning (how odd is that!) And that your bloods look good. When I was spotting prior to my first m/c, my bloods had already started well dropping. Keep resting!

Got the call from the ob, my hcg is only about a third of what it was 6 weeks ago, so everybody is pleased with the result. :dance:

Scarypinkfairy - it's good DH went to the Dr! They don't tend to want to go. It's hard to know what to do, especially if they have gone away. Probably a good idea to agitate for more investigations if they reoccur. Then the question about whether to go to the same Dr or a different one comes up. I have changed Dr's before when I haven't been happy with the service or wanted a second opinion. Obviously I have changed Dr's when Ihave moved too. Once you have made the decision to change the hardest things are finding a Dr that you like and then waiting while you develop a rapport and they get to know your history.

hi everyone,ric-yes got my pos'o' stick,did the b'ding so hope caught the egg,slippery little things...craftymummy-i would say you'll be 'o' soon...cookie-glad you got a good report...murraycod-so exciting for you...twinsister-great news...ferrals-how are you?Busy shopping for your boys.My 4 year old was looking for presents the morning after we set the tree up...Dory-What's happening with you?

Mathew's Mums - strange you should ask. I am not a work today and that is good but I have had some conflicting advice about registration of births in Qld and just trying to sort it out. Crazy bureaucracy.

Births Deaths and Marriages (BDM) says all births must be registered including still births ( which in Qld is defined as 20 or more weeks gestation or weighing more than 450g). So based on the def of still birth in Qld I didn't register my son Nicholas or daughter Sophie's birth. And didn' get any advice to either.

But during my consult for a second opinion recently, I was advised all live births irrespective of weight or gestation are required to be registered. Both Nicholas and Sophie were alive at birth. Well Sophie certainly was but it's less clear about Nicholas according to the 2nd opinion Dr. BDM doesn't define "live birth" on their web site and its sort of implied that "all live births must be registered but it doesn't actually say that. I am waiting for a call back. It's just so confusing, and a bit of a set back emotionally. I am worried if I have to it will mean having to chase up the Dr's in attendance at each birth and get them to fill in paperwork... but then having the birth certificates would also be quite significant, even though I had just gotten used to the idea that they wouldn't have one. I should just quit worrying and deal with it if it comes up. Will keep you posted about what I find out.

Good news for you - you must be excited! That is such good news.

dory - how messy and confusing - theres nothing more frustrating than mixed messages and crossed wires!Hope you get it sorted out soon - without too many emotional drains. :hug:

Afternoon ladies
I have a shocker of a headache usually a sign that AF is not far away so hoping they come by monday.

Mathewsmum-i have to much time on my hands now i done all my chrissy shopping before we started our ivf i like to be organised i have even wrapped everything and done there santa sacks aswell i even went as far as buying all next years school uniforms bags books ect so that has left me nothing to do except count days to BDing LOL.

Murrycod-have fun on the rollercoaster it is exhausting wait til all the BT and U/S start and the injections at one stage i was up to 3 injections in one day 1 had to be taken at 1am so had to set 3 alarms for that one it is a very busy time and with me i had to add 3 kids going to school and work some days i was up at 4am to make it to appiontments by 7 and i had to drop my boys with family at 6am so they could get them to school for me plus i had all the genetic and PGD testing ARRRRG!!! the waiting for the results of the fertilisation report and the day 3 are worse if people on normal ivf get to blast stage even if grade 1,2 or 3 they get a T/F we had to go one stage further and they had to be a stage 1 or 2 only to be tested and then if normal they could be T/F so all you need is a couple of blasts at the end and you will be fine i have confidence you will have a new year BFP.

SPF- men hey!they can be a worry my DH has a shocking bad tooth giving him hell he wont go to the dentist as he thinks it's to expensive :o we just spent $14,000 on ivf i'm sure we can afford for him to get a tooth pulled.

Dory-we lost abbi 1 day short of 20 weeks and we were told that she would not be registered unless she took a breath the weight comes into it if people are not sure of the due dates abbi was registered as a death though because we had her cremated so i find it weird that she wasnt classed as a registered birth but was for death i wanted a birth certificate but in the end i have plenty of hospital records and U/S and one photo of her and her little footprints on a hospital birth card so that is enough for me i am not sure how far you were but if they made it to 20 weeks or took a breath they should have been registered and centerlink recognise it and you are eligable for the $5000 baby bonus we missed out by one day which i think is petty of the goverment when you think about it.

AF is here! now the countdown begins

hi all,Ferrals-hope af not as bad as they thought she'd me,there little blue tablets you used to be able to get from the chemist to help wit the pain sorry forget the name...Dory-did you get your phone call,everything about this journey is so emotional,hope it gets sorted soon.I wasn't entitled to a birth certificate for Matthew but i did get a life certificate from 'bears of hope' they do ones for all gestation and all circumstances.thinking of you all past & present ladies,just reading or posting

Hey gals. So much has been happening in here.

murraycod - that is awesome about your FS. It does make a difference to have someone you like and who is knowlegeable and well regarded. Well done.

It makes such a difference. I dropped in to see my obstetricians receptionist yesterday as I was in the same building paying an account and was walking past the rooms anyway. Whilst we were gossiping, the ob came out and joined in ( there were no other appointments waiting, which is strange) and it felt so nice to be welcomed and just have a relaxed conversation. It was good to see the ob for things other than trying to ease my anxiety or a scare or the beginnings of a loss or during a loss or the aftermath of a loss.

ferlas4 - good ole AF - does that mean your headache went away? I can't believe you are THAT organised. That is simply amazing. How do you do it?

Thankyou so much for the support yesterday esp Mathew's Mum and Ferals4. Births Deaths and Marriages (Qld) did call back! No need to register Nicholas or Sophie's birth.

A live birth in Qld, as relevant to me anyway, is one that occurs after 20 weeks gestation or if the baby weighs more than 450grams and if neither of those are met, then there is no need to register.

Hope you can have an enjoyable sunday.