Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ December 2010

thanks alisha, i had maybe baby but found it a waste of money, i looked at the chemist today for the clear blue 7 day tests digital thingy but its expensive too. Do they sell the cheaper ones? Coz of my pcos i dont no whether i do o or not so think next week i might get it. With the twins it was just pot luck. Im gunna try getting the ovulation thermomiter in the mean time and start charting....coz im not working and school holidays i dont always wake up at the same time

i bought the thermometer and i found it was no good! plus my doc told me that the thermometer only shows the spike in ur temp after youve ovulated!
my friend bought a bulk lot of ovulation pee on the stick tests from ebay when she was trying, like 100 for $20.. they didnt work for me but they worked for her.. its like they werent strong enough for me or something?? i reckon its worth spending the money on expensive tests!!

Hello Ladies,
Hope everyone enjoyed their NYE. We are having a lovely sunny day for a change.. soaking it up while we can.

I haven't taken too much notice of my cycle.. But seeing as I bled like a period when I M/C early last month. I am quessing ill be seeing AF at about the 8th onwards. I keep telling myself that short of a miracle.. I won't be pregnant. Then I look at my diary.. and we DTD loads all this cycle. So if all was working as it would otherwise. We are at least in with a chance. Especially considering that I concieved in October and we DTD only 3 times!!! AARRGGHH I think that Im thinking too much!!! It was my original wish to have a September baby... so id would be AWESOME to get that!

Ill be back later.. hugs

tascha, there is always a chance!! you cant help but not think too much, i do it all the time!!

same here, I dtd basically from the day AF stopped and sort of havent stopped bd'ing since then lol Im hopeful and if AF isnt here by the 20th then ill test but screaming at the back of my brain is "i have never had a regular period since i was on the pill so whats going to be different this time"
I guess like all of us TTC im just sick of getting the BFN hpt :(

I too am not trying to let TTC rule my life but i just want my own baby for us, i dont want to hold someone elses baby and then have to give it back, or write congratulations again and try be happy for my friends when inside a lil peice of me is breaking all over again.
to be continued

shan: have u spoken to ur gyno about your options? i had irregular period and he was going to put me on medication, i dunno what it would be now, but surely there is something they can do for you?

Thank you everyone! It was a super start to the year; I didn't even get the champagne bottle out of the cupboard because I was so sure I'd see the two lines!

MummyDeb, between the loss of the Little One and this pregnancy there have been two cycles. We started trying again straight away, but that miscarriage went on for a full month and a bit, so "straight away" was a bit later than it sounds. And I too hope you can join in at the end of this cycle!
I'll post again once I've read the other page of this thread. :)

yeah iv spoken to gyno, got another appointment next month with him (he is fantastic) and endo. Gyno is talking about clomid if im not utd by then so im confident this year is our year and im trying not to get too carried away lol

thats good then! fingers crossed it is your year

Morning ladies, hope everyone is well....me on the other hand is a different story....
Feeling a tad sick this morning, not sure if its coz of the pain patch but it hasnt made me sick yet :(
hoping it passes soon
11 days to testing

Hey girls

All is well here, but have noticed I've been going to the loo alot more ... don't know if its a sign or not, wish i could test already lol!! Had some shocking headaches :( and the heat is full on! Had the aircon on a bit more then I usually do in summer!

I hope the 11 days goes fast for you Shan85... lets hope we both get nice BFP :)

Big hugs to everyone and lots of :bluedust: xoxo

yeap same with me mummyDeb, Blinding headaches and hot hot hot!! I really hope i get a BFP.... would be such a great start to the year. The thread has been quiet loanly now, so many getting thier BFP, Hope its our turn soon :(

EDIT: oh and another friend just announced on fb shes UTD :( Im very happy for her and her first lil girl is so cute but its breaking my heart. I wanna make that announcment and then not have to say "sorry everyone another m/c"

Hi ladies. Sorry to hear about the headaches. Hope it means you are getting some good news soon. Nothing really interesting to report. Just sitting here at 3 dpo, waiting for something to happen. I didn't think we had a chance this month because of everything going on, but we managed to BD 3 times around O time, so we actually do have a chance. Really trying not to obsess this time though because I can't take much more disappointment at the moment. Just waiting to see what happens.

your about the same stage of cycle as me ck08. Im hoping we all get great results, hopefully all the ladies getting BFP are drinking the same water as us lol TMI
I also found last night after going to the loo i had slight brown DC when whiping, i was so paraniod i was getting AF again but today its gone. Im feeling sick every morning until i eat something and even then iv gone right off my food..... wonder wtf is going on lol

Oh I had light brown DC the day I tested positive for my angel...I was about to take the test and thought Oh crap AF is here but tested anyway and got a nice BFP...just wish it had stayed that way!

I'm trying not to obsess either...I don't wanna be disapointed...but this is only my first cycle so it can still happen... I also heard another of my FB friends are pregnant and as much as I wanna be happy, its so hard...

Surely its all of us who are next to announce a BFP!!

i just got a 7 day urine testing Ovulation kit, its a clearblue one with the hpt in there too, im trying to resist testing as iv still got 9 days left before i test. and now u said u had the same thing mummydeb im trying to resist even more!
We all deserve the BFP so im hoping....
Im selling some of the baby clothes and toys and the porta cot tonight so that gunna suck :( My babies should be wearing the clothes and playing with the toys....

Hello and Happy Friday!

Im sorry for once again not personals. I shall improve my support once this first cycle is done and dusted.

I just have a super quick question.

I have been taking notice of my CM. So I can track my cycle that way next month and hopefully pinpoint O. All this month its been pretty steady .. no major changes. But last night (a few days out from when I could start expecting AF) I got this huge jelly like blob. Now I know a jelly consistancy is a sign of O... but this late? Before my MC my cm would be thick and kinda jelly like when I would O. But never like this. SO WEIRD. What does it mean? What is it? Why? Any info would be greatly appreciated. If i did O last night.. then we are not in with a chance... DH is on night shift. Fat chance of DTD. LOL

Thanks : )

Tascha- I have that too. I looked it up online once and found a site that explained the stages of cm. I'll have to try to find it again. That sticky stage happens several days before it becomes more wet and slippery (fertile cm) and I am not sure but it might return to it after O. If you are waiting to O, its a sign that it's still a few days away.

Hello Ladies,
I am currently on my 2nd miscarriage. We are going to keep TTC but dont know yet if we want to wait one cycle or not.

Im sorry to hear about ur loss Jessica, but welcome. We waited about 2 months after we lost the twins before we started charting etc. Well the time has come that again I dont want to listen to the news etc. Its wonderful princess mary had healthy babies but i was due around this time and just want to cry when I hear about it. Also ladies not sure if you heard on the news last night about the STUPID women who aborted twin boys coz she wanted a baby girl. That makes me and DH so bloody mad and I think she doesnt deserve children!
Hope you have all had good weekends

hi all,jessicarabe-sorry for your losses..ck08 &tascha-i find my cm can be a bit confusing at times,i keep an eye on it,but use the 'o' wee sticks as well usually i find them fairly accurate...mummydeb-there is always hope,lots of ladies have had short stays in this thread,been over 2 years for me but i've had infertility issues holding me back.you'd be due to test soon??..shan85-i've still got my baby things,i feel greedy keeping them when another baby could be getting use out of them,but i just can't part with them yet,their Matthews.I think you're very strong,brave &generous to be selling some,hugs...mummytotwo-where are you up to?...afm-testing in a few days time,if bfn, i'll ring ivf clinic & try another frozen embie transfer..i think of you all much more often than i post

So sorry you are here Jessica :( I hope your stay is very short and you don't have to come back xox

Shan its so hard to hear those stories :( Those poor baby boys, I know that wat ever sex I have I will love it just as much, no preferences here!

Thanks Matthews Mum :) I am due for AF tomorrow, had a few tingly twinges and not sure if its AF coming or hopefully I'm UTD :) Will keep you all informed!

Right now Im just sick of this rain! Going for my 2nd driving test tomorrow!! God I hope I pass! A lil nervous! Hopefully if its raining it just means I drive a bit slower so no chance of speeding lol and try not to cross double white lines like I did last time!

If I don't get AF in the morning, going to buy some tests after my driving test and will wait a few days...at least I'll have some on me... Will try wait until I'm 30days before testing!

Hey girls - I'm around just not an awful lot to say at the mo'.
Jessica - so sorry that you have to join our little thread but welcome. Hope things happen again for you soon x
MM - how you going? Good luck for testing day but also good to have a back up plan jic. Hope you don't need it though!
MummyDeb - good luck for your driving test tomorrow - fingers crossed you pass with flying colours!! Also, good luck for testing in a few days also.....
Hi to anyone I've missed - not a lot of time for full persies at the mo...
AFM.... af is due tues & by the way Iam feeling she will be here for sure. Don't think I've much chance of a bfp this month but time will tell.
Hope everyone is doing ok & will be checking back in the next couple of days hopefully to read about some bfps!!!!!
xxxx

hey all..
hope youre all doing well..
im going to leave this thread for now.. ill pop back in every so often to see how youre doing.. i hope to see you all in a new thread (pregnancy after miscarriage or loss) VERY VERY SOON!!!!

love & hugs xoxox

Yay I passed my driving test!! I finally have my licence at age 27!!! Better late then never :) Couldn't be more happier! I know my lil angel was up there helping!

And still no sign of AF... going down the shops once Harley wakes up...not sure whether to get some tests or not...will be handy even if AF comes as we are TTC!

Hope everyone is well and those waiting to test, i hope the time goes fast and you all get nice BFP :) xoxo

I know this might be hard for some of you ladies but I was curious how long it was after you miscarried that AF arrived. My last miscarriage I immediately got pregnant with DD so I have no idea. Thanks

Mummytotwo- FX that AF doesn't come. AF symptoms and pg symptoms sometimes feel the same, so hoping there's a BFP for you soon. I'm not due until Saturday....

Bye alish, have fun in your new thread. Hoping we all get to join you there soon!

MummyDeb- Congrats on your license! If I were you I would test since there are no signs of AF!

Jessica- my AF came exactly 4 weeks after my m/c. I read somewhere that it usually takes 4 to 6 weeks.

AFM- Just waiting. Debating whether I will test early or wait until after AF is due if she hasn't come yet. I guess I could just be patient because I will find out eventually, but what if I could know sooner? However, a BFN would be too sad, and then not knowing if it was really neg or just too early.... or if I got an early BFP and then AF came. That would be even sadder. I think I just talked myself out of testing. lol

Jessica my AF came about 5 weeks after my m/c...It was roughly 36 days I think...

So sorry you have gone thru another m/c :( :hug: I hope that you can fall pregnant straight away and that this time your baby sticks xoxo

MummuDeb- Congrats on ur licence, 2nd times a charm but im hoping 3rd time preggers is lucky for me

AFM- I started day one of clinical placement for nursing in an aged phyic so iv i am UTD im gunna stop that quick smart (the ressies like to punch etc)
5 days til AF is ment to arrive but with the PCOS who knows. I have a clear blue pee on a stick HPT and am still resisting weather or not to test just coz of the clinical placement. The sooner the better. Doesnt feel the same as last time AF came but.... having minimal cramps etc
I wish it were friday again, tramping from frankston to flemmington sucks every day :(

well suprise suprise i cheated and paid for my naughtyness BFN once again grrrr :(

It may still be early Shan... I still have hope for you :)

Still no AF here and I never got any tests yesterday and now I'm flooded in!! We are ok where we are but can't get to the shops!! So I guess if AF is going to come then she will otherwise could be a long wait to find out if i get a BFP!!!

Jessica - my af returned 28 days after my D&C. Good luck.
MummyDeb - congrats on passing your test :) :) Hoping for a BFP for you too & that you stay safe wherever you live. Can't believe the flooding going on in QLD - it is quite surreal!
Shan- fingers crossed it is too early.
My af is due tomorrow & am still sure I will be seeing her. Oh well not gonna let it drag me down.
Hi to eveyone else - bbl for more persies x

Still no AF here...Hope i haven't spoken soon, but in saying that no real cramps!! I still have no tests either lol!! So wanna take one!!

We are going good with the floods as well... I think my area is good again but in saying that I couldn't send Charlotte to daycare today! Hope everyone is well and those in Qld are safe xoxo

Hey ladies...hope everyone is going well in here....I have some OPK's that i am now willing to give up since im 13 weeks and feel a tiny tad safer....

First one to PM will get them...just leave me you're name and address and ill send them too you and maybe they will send you luck like mine did to me

:D:D

Melster- Congrats on 13 weeks! Hoping the rest of the way is safe and worry-free.

Shan- sorry for the BFN. What dpo are you? Maybe it's just too soon?

I also tested today. BFN. But I have two kinds of test strips and realized after that I didn't use the early detection kind. I guess I will try again tomorrow with the right one! I'll be 10 dpo, so it's possible....

Found out today that a coworker just had a m/c. I didn't know she was pg, but another coworker told me that's why she's not at work. She said she wanted to keep it quiet and not tell people, but I guess she thought I could know because I've been there. When she told me I started to cry. I texted the poor girl to tell her I'm here for her. Maybe I'll recommend BB to her. I just feel like I'm reliving it all again. I thought I was getting on pretty well and not thinking about it; focusing on ttc instead. But I guess the hurt is still hanging around in there. I feel like if I could just fall pg it would be like replacing what I lost and I would be okay again. I don't know if it's the right thinking, but it's how I feel.

Still no sign of AF...unless its going to be a long cycle...I'm pretty sure i O'd on CD 14, so u would think that means I would have a 28-30 day cycle... I'm going into town soon so going to get a test! Just wanna know wats going on lol! If its neg then I'll just wait for AF... then try again

Sorry your test was Neg ck08 :( Hopefully it was to early... I hope we all get BFP :)

ETA: Well I spoke to soon, got the start of AF :( I really thought it was my month! So seems I do have a 32 day cycle and I think I'm getting O wrong...so therefore not doing enough BD around it...so will work it out better this month!

Bom bom - I'm out too!
Here's to a FABULOUSLY FERTILE next cycle for us all!!
GL for those still in with a chance or testing soon.
MummyDeb - you will crack the TTC code next month for sure :)
BBL for persies :)

aww Mummytotwo you are so sweet...sorry it wasn't your month either!! Lets hope we both get it next month!! An October baby sounds nice hey! I already got one :)

I'm actually getting back into my fitness and weightloss so gives me another month to lose more kilos! Going to try stay active once pregnant, just not push myself so far! Hopefully if I catch O at the right time I will be right!!

Well just coz i need more drama in my life looks like i have early onset of osteoparosis at 25!! Im going to do another HPT later next week just to make sure but feels like AF is on her way. I too am going to keep watching my weight and try get my knee sorted before we get medical intervention for having a healthy pregnency. I also need to sort my homelife which i feel is in bit of termoil at the moment (see my post in young couples)

shan - the early onset osteo bizzo sucks!! Hope they have a good treatment in mind for you. Sorry to hear things haven't been so good at home lately - blame ttc - it can have that effect on your relationships :)
Hope af stays well clear anyway - good luck hun :)
Hey to everyone else - anyone got anything remotely exciting to report? Things have certainly quietened down in here.....
Hope everyone is well xxxx