Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ July 08 #6

WTH - :hug: I am so sorry to read your sad news. Unfortunately I can never seem to find the right words so I don't know what to say.

I'm glad they are only making you wait a month before you do the tests. I had a hysteroscopy done as part as my m/c investigaitons last year & ob found a uterine polyp & removed it. Whether it caused my last m/c I will never know but I felt so much better having done some tests & knowing my uterus was as good as it could be for a future pg.

:hug::hug::hug:

I know the coming days & weeks (I won't say months because you are going to have your tests and whether they find anything or not you WILL have a bub in your arms & :pray: that it's sooner rather than later) won't be easy but we are all here for you.

hey girls

WTH- so sorry hun, like the other girls i wish there was something i could say to make it better but there really are no magic words. we are always here for you :hug::hug::hug:

issy- got so excited when i saw ruthies post congratulating you! what a let down! hope you are still feeling good and positive and glad to hear you are giving yourself a bit of a break, am sure it will do wonders.

mollycat- was so sad to hear about your dog, big :hug:

big hello and hugs to all of you- i have been reading and lurking but nothing exciting is happening so nothing to report...about to head into the best time of the month (o time) so looking forward to having lots of fun with DH ;)

WTH - I am so so so sorry that this bubba was not able to make it to meet you and feel your touch - i am truly sorry. This angel joins his or her siblings as your precious guardian angels. However, i won't give up on you - there WILL BE a baby for you to have and to hold. I wish i could give you a true hug but accept my heartfelt cyber one for support.

Hi!!
I just had a natural M/C yesterday....:( is may sounds weird some people may no be supportive(at least that is what i found). But in my mind is i want to try again soon but i dont know how soon can i!! do i need my body to recover or something?.
This is my second miscarrrage. i have 1. 5 year old boy (first pregnancy full terms 41+ weeks), then i M/C at 8 weeks in 2004, 2 years later(becouse i wasnt ready before it took me long to recover from that lost, i got pregnant of my baby (20 months old boy 41 weeks + pregnancy). Ans this my last pregnancy which end in another M/C at 8 weeks. So after this loss i feel more ready than the last one...i dont know why.
I may feel guilty too that i wnat to try as soon as possible.
Any Ideas??
Thanks

Sandy..... You try when you are ready to try.... listen to your FS but at the end of the day only you know how well you are doing mentally. I would suggest speaking with your FS and then taking his/her info into account and then decide for yourself... dont listen to other peoples opinions or thoughts on what you should or should not do... only you know the best way to get through this pain.

So sorry WTH - I was hoping so much that this baby would stay. Sending you my love... :hug:

just a quick one...

any one know of a dr I can see in Bris that doesn't have a 2 or 3 week wait that can prescribe progesterone pesseries?

Check this out...

Phoned the infertility mob a few mins ago - couldn't get in till 19 Aug. Rang around a few other places, no luck. Rang back to see if they could put me on the waiting list if an appt was cancelled. Wol la! A cancellation had just come through for tomorrow morning at 9.20am!!!!

Meant to be!!! :dance:

I'll read thru the posts and do persies soon.

Angel - Hope AF doesn't come again for a year!!!

WTH - So sorry to hear your news :hug: I'm sorry that I am lost for words. Just know that I am thinking of you and I hope you get some answers soon. :hug:

Sandy - :welcome: But so sorry that you have had to join us here. Everyone is fantasic and they will really help you get thru this $hitty time. Hope you have a little bubba in your arms in no time. I too have just had my second miscarriage and I don't want to have to wait. Did you have a D&C? If so, your dr may tell you to wait a month. Other than that, it would be good to wait a month if you can - but I didn't. Fell the very next month and MCed again, but that may very well be coincidence. Many women don't wait and go on to have happy and healthy bubbas. Have a talk to your dr and unless he stresses to you that you MUST wait, then it's really just a personal choice. And you have no need to feel guilty wanting to try again.

AFM - Went to the Dr this arvo and he has referred me to a specialist (at possibly $210 later and we have no private health cover. Ouch!). Reading my posts above you will see that I only got into my dr today cause he saw me on the appt book with another dr and changed me to his books, and then only got into the fertility specialist tomorrow cause of a cancellation, and only cause i called them back at the perfect time!! Something very weird is going on!!

So I'm hoping that my DH won't mind me spending the $210 and I will go tomorrow (call in sick for the morning) and he will give me the progesterone pesseries and I will fall preg and bubba will implant whilst skiing down the slopes, and in June next year we will have a little bubba in our arms.

That seems pretty simple. Why not????

Feeling very nervous / anxious.

Just hope DH is ok with this. Still haven't told him I don't want to wait a month. :doh:

:pink-babydust::bluedust::pink-babydust::bluedust:

WTH - Im so very sorry to hear of your loss. I cant find the right words and im not sure if there are any, but I am thinking of you hun. You have been so strong throughout this. You are a strong, healthy and beautiful women - look after yourself hun and remember we are all here for you :hug:

Issy

WTH: I'm so sorry hon. There's nothing else I can say, but I wish there was. :hug:

WTH - I'm so sorry sweetheart, and I hear you on the hurt of changing the sig. That was the thing that really snapped me into feeling sad after my m/c last June. I'm glad to hear DH will be home to look after you and DD. Take good care of yourself chick, thinking of you. And good on your OB for staying optimistic and determined to get your baby to you :hug:

Ruthie - let us know how the appointment goes :) Lucky girl to get in so soon!

Jen - I remembered you mentioned about cramps after DTD..so that relieved me a bit. Still trying to hold on!

Joey - I'm glad to hear you got an appointment so soon. There's nothing worse than waiting! Good luck.

AFM - minor (?) crisis this afternoon. Had my lunch and bought a baby magazine (couldn't resist as I've allowed myself to get just a little bit hopeful and excited), and when I got back to work and went to the toilet, there was a little bit of watery spotting. I totally got depressed and was sure for the rest of the afternoon that my period had simply reverted to a 28 day cycle and she was here. But now I've come home and been to the toilet again and there's basically nothing there at all when I wiped. Just the tiniest pink tinge to the CM on the first wipe and nothing on the second (sorry if TMI). I'm also still having virtually no cramps at all, just very mild and infrequent twinges. So there's still hope. I'll buy a test tomorrow night after work if AF hasn't shown.

I was sure AF had come to punish me for buying that magazine! I get so superstitious, I suppose we all do. I've been tring to think 'If I'm not pg, it's an opportunity to lose weight before conceiving', but it's not quite enough to replace being pregnant. Fingers crossed.

Lisa xx

Hi
thanks for every1 words of support.....
Joel123- Hi, thanks, no i didnt have D&C and im not sure if that was better, when i had my first m/c i had one and then everything was ok no pain no bleeding etc.
but now is only pain...bleeding feeling bad....this is physically...i didnt have the choice they said it was only 10% of "baby" or conception tissue and i didnt need tgo have a D&C...im scare something can go wrong i read bad experiences & good experiences....i feel today like this is no over yet (a lot of cramps) an strong painkillers:(..so i called my doc and ask for an appoitment.

Thanks!!!:

Hi Sandy - I really hope you feel better soon. I'm not sure, but I think may be it's better when your body cleans itself rather than having intervention. With a D&C they scrape the walls, so you would definately need to wait at least a month for the lining to thicken up again. The pain should go away soon, but if it doesn't, make sure you go and see your GP.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

Take care of yourself. Rest up.

:hug:

WTH - I am so so sorry to hear your news. Big :hug: hun and make sure that you are being very kind to yourself. I am glad to hear that your dh can take some time off to look after you. Hoping that the additional procedures will give you some answers...

Joey - sounds like the universe is really looking after you with the appts. GL for tomorrow and don't leave the room until you have all the answers you need and lots of scripts for lots of progesterone :)

Acria - fingers crossed that it was just implantation bleed and not the witch AF! When will you test? Completely understand the superstition thing too :)

Ruthie - wow - congrats on the bfp :hooray: Unfortunately the pics were removed before I could see them but sounds as though everyone that did see them said YES! Yay!! GL with getting an appt to get the pg confirmed.

Tutmae - I have also just read your post on Lilah's story - and I'm just so sorry to hear just how difficult that journey was for you.Big :hug: I can see that o is fast approaching - have fun bd and hopefully the 2ww will be very gentle on you

Easha - I am so sorry to hear that AF made an appearance. Hope you are doing ok...

pbstar - have fun bd'ing and catching that eggie!

Angel Babies - that bfp sounds so very very close....

Jen - Thanks for your bloating story (did that just sound very strange !?!). I'm starting to get people glancing at my tum - when I finally do tell they'll be so surprised I'm not due until Feb!! I hope you are doing ok - not good to hear those cramps have made you throw up. And can I just say that "brain fart" is the best thing I've ever heard :rofl:

Krystielove - thinking of you and hoping that you're doing ok. Good to hear that you have picked up extra shifts - makes the time go quicker as well as adding to that baby fund!

AFM - left work early today - we got evacuated because of fumes (eek). Thankfully it was fine on my side of the building and it was just a precaution for us really but jeez, not really what I want to hear! Bit nervous about going in tomorrow but I think I'll call my boss before i go in to check that its all safe (she knows I'm pg). Otherwise doing pretty good, still feeling sick and have sore bbs (yay) - and very very keen for my 11 Aug scan to roll around

Loads of :pink-babydust: and :stickyvibesboy: for everyone - waves and hellos to those that I missed. I'm thinking of you all...

sandy... I also had a "natural" mc and what you are explaining is the same as what I went through... the bleeding took over a week to stop and the cramping required pain killers for about a week. The day after the second twin I went to the A & E who confirmed the MC was complete and perscribed strong pain killers. It then took about 30 days to AF and then cycles have been normal since then. I have not had a D & C so I dont know how to compare the two.

Cycle List

WTH - So sorry sweetheart :( :hug:
Sandy - CD2 (ish)
Easha - CD2
Joey - CD6
Jodsan - CD7
Issy - CD9
Mollycat - CD9
KrystieLove - CD10
pbstar - CD10
Toccara - CD12
Smilanatu - CD13
Chappas - CD14
Tutmae - CD15
Sandygirl - CD16
megsmum - CD27
Kittens - CD28
Acria - CD29

Vanaithi - 11DPO
Jen - 11DPO
Angel Babies - 14DPO

Ruthie - BFP
Tina - 5w4d
Bettyboop - 6w6d
SaraJane 10w
Jenushska - 10w2d
Laura - 10w6d
AJC - 13w1d
Mel A - 12w6d
mmteacher- 14w3d
Canary - 14w6d
plc - 15w3d
Katiegirl - 23+wks
Nickster - 25+wks

Have had a little more spotting and still no cramps :worry:

Lisa xx

Arcia....Fingers Crossed for you Hun :2ww:

Tutmae - What did your naughty temperature do this morning? I said it should go UP! Pffft, why didn't it listen to me?!

Ruthie - Huge congrats honey!!!

Jen - I'm going to Borders tomorrow! Guess what I'm going to buy? Oh actually, I'm only going to buy it if my work mate doesn't have it at home. She has a suspicion that she might have it! :D

Smilanatu - You are exactly right! Every symptom IS a sign! That's why I often ask DH how his symptoms are :ROFL:

LJ - Hope your "jumping" plans worked out well last night! :ROFL: Is it summer yet?!

Toccara - Geez, thanks for rubbing the hot weather in our faces while we are freezing downunder! :p Hehe. Your hair sounds pretty! My hair never holds curls :( Mine just gets stupid kinky waves!

Joey - That's a big YES on the snow posting! :ROFL: I want to make a snowman, but I want to give it two carrots ;) :ROFL
Sounds like the doctors are scheduling themselves just for you!!! Good luck at your appointments!

Angel - Stop using the tests that have been taking my pills! Find a drug free test that will stop messing around and show you the two lines!! :D

WTH - When I read your post my heart dropped honey. I am so very sorry that your bubba was not destined to be your earth baby. I wish I was with you so that I could take you in my arms and make the pain go away. My thoughts are with you and your DH. :hug:

Sandy - I am very sorry for the reason that has brought you to our thread, but very glad that you have found us. We are all in this thread for a shared reason, and because of that you will find that everyone understands what you are going through and will show you compassion and support through this hard time. Please don't feel guilty for wanting to conceive another baby straight away. There is nothing wrong in wanting to make a baby that you can love with all your heart. When DH and I lost our angel I had to have a D&C and was recommended to wait 2-3 cycles before TTCing again. We made the decision not to wait and at my post-op apt my obs did an ultrasound that showed a nice thick uterine lining. He also admitted that he has had many patients that have fallen pregnant the first cycle after a miscarriage that have gone on to have healthy full term babies. So when you feel that you are both ready, then I think that is the right time to try again :hug: I hope your journey with us is a short one :)

Acria - I wish AF would stop teasing you and just go bother someone's ex... ;) Hopefully tomorrow AF still won't show and you'll have to do a test to stop us all from bugging you until you POAS ;)

Jenushka - Thank you for your kind words and thoughts :) I think it's definitely a good idea to call to make sure your work is safe tomorrow before you go in!

KL: But it's still higher than my lowest temp, so I think that is still classed as up, if you know what I mean....

Morning Ladies!

jen...LOL we have a Hits & Oldies station that plays Manic Monday EVERY Monday...I can't lie though I lOVE 80s music

plc *wavin* how ya doin?

Acria...I got everything crossed for you gurlie!!! I am very superstitous too...

Angel Babies...I know that's NOT negativity coming from you - NOT allowed!!! It ain't over till AB arrives and she has been forbidden

WTH...OH hun...I am so very sorry...I wish I had the words to make it all better...unfortunately I don't...just know that many of us really do know the place where you are right now...

Sandy...welcome...so sorry for your loss...may your stay be short...

jenushka...glad everything is going well and moving right along for you!

Krystie...I will be sooooo happy when Lee ever gets some pg symptoms...he is so sick right now AND I've been raping him daily...hope he forgives me :lol:
Umm it's like 105 here with the heat index...how much heat did you want? I am bottling it as we speak...

Alright ladies...you know what time it is...time for me to get back to the pile on my desk AND time for some :bfp: there have been too few this month!

:goodluck2:

get busy :whip:

:pink-babydust::bluedust:
:stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

WTH--Thinking of you today... hope your procedures go well and you get some questions finally answered! I'm so sorry you're going through this again... Sending lots of :hug:



pbstar--:woot: O time is the best time! Go catch that egg, girl! :whip:



Sandy--So very sorry for the loss that brings you to our little thread... :hug: My dr. wanted me to wait 2 months to TTC, but I knew pretty much right away that I wasn't going to be following those orders. I did lots of research on the web, and found that most of the time there's no medical reason why you have to wait to begin TTC again, and that some women never even had AF before they were pg again. I felt desperate to begin right away... just felt robbed of being pg... I'm sure you're feeling the same way... I think you just have to do what's right for you. You'll know when you're ready! I pray that your TTC journey is a quick one, and you're blessed with a BFP very soon!



joey--LOL @ infertility mob! :lol: Looks like it's fate... everything's working out in your favor! Good luck at your appt. today--don't leave without that RX!! Keep us posted on how it goes...



tutmae--:wtf: your temp was supposed to go up! Maybe you're being punished for not temping those couple days! :lol:

Jen: But I try and be good. I promise!! Maybe I am going to o at the right time (ie the next couple of days) and FINALLY have a normal cycle. But, you know, minus the af part.

Ruthie--Good luck with your appt. today! Can't wait to hear some good news!



Acria--(To AF: Stay away biatch!!!!!) I'm praying so hard for you, you have no idea! :pray: We need at least 1 more BFP for July!!



Hey, Krystie, another really good one by Sydney Sheldon is "Master of the Game"--see if your mate has that one, as well! That's my second favorite by him--read that one 3 times! You can't really lose with any of his books, but I think those 2 are his best! I'm SO excited for you to read them! It's pretty ridiculous, actually! :lol: Looks like you're getting close to O--almost time to break out that *whip*! Ooh, and don't forget the latex! :rofl:



jenushka-- :lol: @ brain fart! Never heard that one? Glad to hear things are going well! I'm excited for your upcoming u/s!! :cheer:



Angel-- :hug: :hug: :hug:

Hey tut! Didn't know you were still awake!

I am for now.... thinking of going to bed soon.... but DH is taking his time, so should be on for a little bit. My damn temp is doing my head in, but there are a few charts that are similar to mine, so maybe I'm not such a bbt freak after all.
How are you hon?

:hello: smilanatu! It's Tuesday, that pile is supposed to be getting smaller! Missed chatting with you again this am! How about all that big hair from the '80's? Cracks me up to see it now! I can remember LOVING Duran Duran! And Madonna was SO much better in the '80's--a little trashy...but I think that's why most people liked her! And Cyndie Lauper! :lol: We got my DSD a record player 2 years ago for Christmas, and she has SO many cool old records that I used to have (as tapes). The Go Go's, Hughie Luis and the News, Duran Duran, Madonna.... Even Michael Jackson was cool back then! That was before he turned white! :rofl:

tutmae--Doin' good, hanging in there... How about you? Other than your temps doing your head in? There're doing my head in, too, BTW! :lol: Mine's been naughty this month, too...

But you've only got 3 days until you poas!!!! YAAAAAYYYYY!!!!!
I'm doing good. Rent inspection was weird (they said the house was ok, even though my mother, who is the biggest clean freak I know, gave it her thumbs up before they came). Aside from that same ol same ol. Just want to o already!!

And I just looked at you chart- did you O on cd12 or 13? Stupid FF.

Pretty sure I O'ed on CD14, but FF seems to think I did on the 16th. I altered a temp to get it to show O on the 14th, cuz I had such bad O pain on that day! My temp this am looks like it's heading down... unless tomorrow's temp is high, I'm pretty sure there won't be a July BFP for me either!

Still wondering if something is wrong with your thermometer--have you done any research on the difference between a regular thermometer and a BBT one?

Have done a bit of research and it's all said that a digital thermometer (as long as it shows 2 or more decimal places) is fine. I'm not sure if it's the thermometer or just my crazy temps. But I have seen others that look just like mine, so I'm not super concerned.... yet!
Going for my second round of BT's on Thursday to test my oestrogen and check that I actually am o-ing and I get the results back next Wed. So :crossfingers: for me and for another high temp for you tomorrow!!

Good luck with your BT's--but you have to wait almost a week for the results? Damn! :crossfingers: for you! How can they tell from a BT if you're O'ing?

They're testing my oestrogen and she said she just wanted to make sure my cycles were doing the right thing and I was o-ng, so I assume it's in the oestrogen. I think I can get the results the next day, but can't get in to see my doctor until the next week. Because she's awesome. And everybody loves her. And she takes lots of holidays.

Just read on another thread that you can get a BT on CD21 to see if you've O'ed? Does it have to be on CD21?

Hi all, tis me again. Im on day 19 and ov on day 12! so erm no idea yet and not getting hopes up

Rachel--Hope your :2ww: ends with a BFP!! :goodluck2: