TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ August 07 #2

I'm so sad, one of my best friends txted me to say she's having a D&C today, she was 16 weeks pregnant but didn't want to have a scan at 12 weeks. Sounds like it's molar/partial molar from the scan she finally had today :(

hi kiwigirl, that is sad news. hugs to you and your friend.
at least you can tell her about a great forum where she will get the best support and advice.
hope your day gets better.
starryskyxxx

Hi everyone, hope your all travelling Ok...
Satya - Gday. Funny about the freaky dreams. I actually dreamt I was preg last night too! Had this big round tum with wiggly baby inside. Very odd.When I was preg with DD I always dreamt I was holding the baby in my hand and it gradually shrank to the point of being so small I couldnt see it, only to disappear altogether. Always freaked me out. Was wondering (excuse my ignorance) how the temping thing works, and what your temp diff after O might mean?
Nellsbells_ Hi. Sorry all those hideous pregnant people are stalking you. Makes life rather hard when you've got to have a fake smile plastered to your face, when all you really want to do is run and hide (maybe thats just me lol)
Starrysky- Go the retail therapy!! If Im not on this site, I'm on ebay. Bad, Bad, Bad.
As for me I'm doing OK. Told DP if he really wants a footy team (yes he really does), then we have to get serious, and bd when I tell him etc.I think he finally sees that if we dont get on with it, I may just chicken out, and give up, so surprisingly he agreed, and all systems GO.
Whoa, what a long post.....catch yas, ebay is calling......:D

Hi Kiwigirl. Just wanted to say I'm so sorry for you and your friend. Please give her lots of hugs, she'll be needing them. Take care.

Thanks heaps. I'm over the initial sick-to-my-stomach feeling and had a little cry for my friend. She's the third friend in 3 weeks to have a m/c but she's the friend I'm closest to and the most far along of them all.

This happens far too often.

Satya, I'm no dream expert or anything but I wonder if your dream was that you are subconsciously wondering why other people who don't deserve it in your eyes are getting pregnant???

Beaksie, I take my temperature every day at the same time before getting up, talking, or doing anything. I chart it. The first half of your cycle your temp. is lower than after O. If you're pregnant, your temps stay high for the first 12 weeks or so - so people can read into higher temps after O than normal as a possible early sign of a BFP. Hope that makes sense! You can see my chart by clicking on my ticker.

Kiwigirl-thanks for the info, but it looks far too much like maths to me! I envy you your patience, I dont think I would last a week. Just looking at your chart gives me a headache (lol). Think I will have to stick with the oldfashioned way. Does temping show WHEN you will O, or do you already know that?

Hehe yeah the top chart is confusing since it's overlaying them all. Temping doesn't predict O, just tells you afterwards that you have. Checking your CM type to see if it's fertile is actually way more reliable way to predict O and I find it easier to read than my temps anyways.

Starrysky - gee that's all a bit awkward with your brother.

Kiwigirl - sorry to hear about your friend.... you will be the best friend she's ever had because you know what it's like.

Beaksie - they were weird recurring dreams you had! As kiwigirl said a 2nd rise a few days after O is a good sign but as this is my first cycle after m/c it probably doesn't mean much as my temps were all over the place prior to O. That said though it helps keep me positive just the same.

I had a bit of a difficult moment earlier. The friend from work that had the baby recently just showed up unexpectedly with both kids. I goo'd and gaa'd for a little and made my exit out to the storage room where no one could see my tears.... only a few, but I just felt so sad. I should be around 6 months gone now, or around that many weeks if you go with the next pregnancy.... and she had to arrive on the day I had to go and get my karyotyping test done and all the other BT's I have to get done. Typical.

Just thought in and pop my head in and say hello.

satya - how are you going??

hey satya, thats the way it always happens, its the universes funny little way of trying to make us stronger, i am sure you coped beautifully.
good luck with all the testing, i hate bts.
xxx

nellsbells- I know exactly how you feel (as I'm sure most, if not everyone here does) when everyone around you seems to be having babies or falling pg. One of my friends is due a week after my first baby would have been due in Sept and another friend is due a week after the second one, in Jan. Both are doing fine. I am happy for them but do keep wondering "what if..."

There is a baby crying next door as I type this infact. They do seem to be everywhere.

Satya- I'm glad you were so brave with your workmate and her baby. It is hard to do so don't beat yourself up about being sad.The dream you had is just making you aware of your frustration. I think the most frustrating thing about m/c is seeing people drink and smoke and take drugs and have healthy babies. Sorry for the vent but I know someone who took drugs throughout pregnancy and beyond, and thenm through the second one and has two beautiful children. Not fair! Unfortunately, we do have to try and let it go. We will get there. It's your turn next! I'm sorry about your SIL being so inconsiderate.

LizJessie- has AF left yet? I hope so.

Kiwigirl- I'm sorry about your friend. :hugs: for her. Hopefully this site can help her too.

Beaksie- I'm glad your DP is keen to get cracking on his footy team again!

Starrysky- Some people just manage to fall pg so easily, don't they? Sad for your brother though, if they'd decidied against having a child. It must've been hard for her also, not being able to be excited. Poor thing. Good on you for your retail therapy spree. I hope you enjoyed every minute of it. 30cm's off your hair??? How long was it?

As for me, still bleeding and it's been 10 days. When will it stop?! I'm ready to move on now. Seeing my Ob on Tuesday, so hopefully everything will be gone of it's own accord.

Hope you're all having a good day.
Love Ems

Hi everyone
This is my first post here. I m/c one week ago today not TTC just yet but will be soon just wanted to pop in and say hi. If you dont mind me asking how long after mc did you TTC???

hi ems,
i am back now a lot poorer, but hey it was worth every cent!
my hair was pretty long i was just about sitting on it, i only get it cut every 3 years or so cause its too expensive.as soon as the hairdressers see my hair their eyes light up $$$$$!!!
i am so over the bleeding too, 16 days and counting, i am sure yours will stop before the big day, i hope so for you.
xxx

ems - yeah, she's on her way out - still spotting a tad, but I'm not complaining

hey lizjessie just wondering........i saw in your ttc journal that you were near mandurah? do know a chickie named kosha at all?

leila hi, glad to see you here. The docs said to wait 2 weeks to minimise chance of infection, couldnt wait that long though (sorry if tmi!) but i am still spotting, have not yet had af, dont really want to think too much about ttc yet, does my head in, but hey if it happens, it happens, and wouldnt that be loveley!
hope you are travelling on alright, these girls are all fantastic and my inspiration to continue.
xxx

Hi girls,

There are just too many for personals today.....i just wanted to pop in and say hi to everyone and wish you all a wonderful weekend.

hugs
treelo

hi treelo,
read your update, hope you have a fantastic weekend too
hugs for you
xxx