TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 07 #1

Hello all,
I haven't logged on for a while and there are so many post... it's hard to keep up!
Dawnee - I am so sorry that you started bleeding. How are you going? I am sending you a big hug.
Satya - Sorry to hear that you have so much going on at the moment. Hopefully you and DF can work things out...
Treelo - Sorry to see that AF arrived for you. Mine was irregular as well this cycle. Very weird because I am very regular usually. As it turned out the spotting on Sunday was not the start of AF. I never started bleeding until yesterday which is when it was supposed to happen.
My naturopath reckons is break off bleeding and put me on Premular in addition to my other goodies.
Kbowman - thanks for the Vitex info. Premular is the same product but from Switzerland. I give it a go for a few cycles and see how I go... Hope that you have caught the egg this month. All your EWCM is very promising!!! Hope that you and DF have had lots of chances to catch up this month!
Pash and Lee - i know what you mean about obsessing with TTC. I have found myself obsessing far too much...

Hello and good luck with TTC to everybody else. I have decided to stop obsessing for this month. We are going on holiday in a couple of weeks and I might just leave my thermometer and charts at home and relax (easier said than done!!).

gosh! i havent been able to get on here for a few days (still waiting for MY puter!)
it has just taken me half an hour to read all the posts i have missed out on.
dawnee How are you? i read your post and my heart sank, i really hope that everything is okay, i will be watching for a post.....
littlescottish boy yes, the w(h)ine does help!! i felt much better this week, dp and i have sorted our ***** out, i need to learn that he is not a mind reader!
satya so sorry to read about your probs with df, i felt like that last week. I hope it all works out for the best
beaksie i have no idea where i am in my cycle, still havent dug out that themometer yet, still waiting for af and just :crossfingers: that she doesnt.
hello to all the new people, there are so many now im going to have to work overtime to remember!
my bros gf was admitted to hospital the other day, it turns out that she hasnt yet m/c the embryo as it is stuck in her cervix and has adhered to her cesarean scar, she was losing lots of blood and an us showed lots of blood in her uterus, she wanted to have a d&c but the docs wouldnt do it as the risk to her was too great, they wanted to give her an injection that they give to cancer patients to deteriorate the cells so it can pass naturally, she didnt want to do that so they sent her home!! if she still hasnt m/c by next thursday they will do the d&c.
i know it sounds terrible but i am so glad my m/c was "routine". That poor girl, i am trying to be supportive of her as my brother isnt and i think my mum would rather pretend she wasnt pg in the first place.
anyway has anyone ever heard of that before? i cant believe they didnt give her a d&c to start with, instead of all this stuffing around!!
Hope everyone has a fantastic weekend and wishing us all bfps xxx

Thanks for the support ladies. I feel my trust in him is broken and I just don't know if there is anyway I can get over this one. He's not even willing to stay at home with me tonight to discuss things so I truly believe that it is over for us.

Satya - Im sorry you're going through this :hug:

Satya - Thinking of you tonight hun, i hope you both get past this.

hugs
treelo

satya, I'm so sorry this is happening to you after everything. I truely hope you guys can find a way to work it out together.

Dawnee, you have been on my mind heaps since you left that msg. Are you ok?

Satya- I am so sorry to hear about you and your DF. I hope you are doing OK and I look forward to hearing from you soon. TTC or not. What difficult decisions. We are hoping that things work out for you.

Satya hope you are doing ok. Sorry about whats going on at home with you.
Dawnee, how are you hun? have been thinking of you lots.

Hi to everyone else, not much happening in TCC for me. Just bd'ing lots. The cm i was getting has stopped and it didn't turn EWCM, so hopefully this is still to come. DH thinks its great as the whold bding thing dried up when i was pregnant.

gee, sometimes i dont know why i bother....

Any news, Megan? Still in the 2ww?

Boy im really struggling to keep up with everyone here, so if i miss anyone then im really sorry..

pash - How are you doing sweety? Are your levels close to zero yet?
starrysky - I sure hope everything works out ok for your brothers girlfriend, it sounds horrible what the poor girl has had to go through.
Penny - Forgetting about ttc while your away is not such a bad idea. After my first m/c, we tried for 6 months and nothing happend, so we decided to have a break for christmas and new year and just enjoy the festive season, and low and behold i got pregnant as soon as we stopped trying. So i think you should definatly just go and have fun and not worry about it while your gone.
Megan - Is there any news yet hun? how is Kim doing? sending you both big hugs and i hope you dont have to worry about going through this all anymore. So bring on the BFP!!!!!!!
Jayney - Good luck with this cycle hun, i hope you catch the egg !!
Satya - I hope your everything is ok with you sweety, we are all thinking of you hear at BB.
Leila - I wish my DH was as happy about all the BD'ing?? he says its too much pressure being told when he has to perform !!!
Kiwigirl - good luck to you too this cycle, i think we are close together in our cycles so its nice to have someone to share the tww with. Maybe you can help me hold off on testing !!! im terrible.

Well hugs to everyone else and i hope you all have enjoyed the weekend, I had cooper's bday party yesterday and then went out last night and didnt get home till 3am ! so im a bit weary and am looking forward to a nap this afternoon.

hugs to all
treelo

Sayta , sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you and DF.

Good luck to everyone in the testing phase.

I've got soft/wobbly boobs atm (like I had before I m/c). Been very moody too. I hope it is what I think it is but tested and no positive but it may be too early.


Haven't been BDing as much (we were BDing heaps) but I am quite stressed and moody atm, less than 8 weeks till wedding.

Hi everyone,

My DF and I are living apart at the moment. We are trying to work things out but it is very difficult. I saw him today and it was great to feel his arms around me but after a while he got angry again and left before we got fighting.

After waiting all this time for a lap, now I'm wondering if I should bother having it at all. Is there any point putting myself through it if we break up for good? I just don't know.

I hope everyone's well.

Dawneee - I so hope everything's going OK with you right now.

:grouphug:Oh Satya i am so sorry for what you are going through hun. You need the biggest hug in the world!!!:hug: I hope you are in a position to take good care of you at the moment. I believe that all things happen for a reason and i hope that you guys are able to work through this is that is the best thing for you. You are in my thoughts matey.

Everyone else, i will catch up and do personals during the week - we had the most HORRENDOUS weekend ever - we had to take Angus to emergency ward with non-stop spontaneous nose bleeding (very scary), six hours of testing for the poor little darling (he was screaming down the corridors cos they couldn't find his veins for blood tests and they kept jabbing him and digging around), x-rays then found out he has pneumonia!!!!:crying: All related to previous infection which he hasn't shaken (and we just thought he had a cold and cough). So....three days in hospital with a little 18month old toddler who was thinking why am i here, why does everyone keep poking m, what is this painful drip in my arm and why won't Mummy help me. Anyway, i am off work for the week to care for him cos he is a very sick little boy. Please send us positive vibes everyone that the preumonia goes away real soon.

Hugs to you all and i hope you had a better long weekend than me. So emotionally drained - BDing is definitely the last thing on my mind.

Oh, how awful! I hope Angus recovers very quickly for you. You must feel wrecked. Sending hugs and kisses.

Satya, I'm so sorry that you and DP are going through a rough patch. I hope things are sorted soon and that you find yourself back on an even keel again. Had you booked the lap?

Dawnee, I hope you're all right and that everything's ok. Thinking of you.

Wowser, hope that your symptoms lead to a BFP for you. :pray:

Treelo, hope you got that nap! How was the party?

Twomums, sounds like you need some hugs too! :hugs:

Half your luck, Leila!! I'd love some more BD opportunities! Hope you've caught the egg!

Starrysky, what your brother's girlfriend is going through sounds horrendous. I'm so glad that you're there to be kind to her and to help her through it. The poor thing.

Penny, it will be interesting to see what effect the Vitex/Premular has, won't it. Enjoy your holiday, you lucky thing!

Hope you've caught the egg too, Lee. It's greeeaaat when the libido's back, woohoo.

I'm going to be taking a backseat this cycle too, as DP and I didn't manage to get together until the day after O. So I will be your vocal and supportive cheer squad! Hoping to see some spring BFPs in here! :D

littlescottishboy - that must have been quite traumatic. I send best wishes for a very speedy recovery for Angus.

kbowman - I'm still waiting for a public lap.

It's my aunt's funeral and I'm going alone. I am devestated that my DF wont come with me but from day one he used the excuse that he wouldn't be able to get time off work but I don't even think he asked to be completely honest. One of my neighbours offered to go with me and I barely know the man, yet my own DF can't make the effort. He's had a lot of time off work lately and reckons he'll get sacked if he takes another day off, surely not for a funeral??? I didn't realise it was going to be this hard to go to the funeral alone but it's really hit me this morning. I will be going to my parents first so it's not exactly alone, but I really need his support and I'm just not getting it.

Hi Everyone! firstly Thanks so much I have been re-reading the posts and to see how many of you have left me messages and were thinking of me has been over whelming.
Satya: I am so sorry for all you are going through right now and I hope things start getting better for you real soon.....all that is going on in your life the fact you still asked how I was was lovely Thanks!
Same for everyone else too!
Well I can't say I've had the easiest few days and I haven't even been able to post on here either....Well the bleeding got worse then the cramps and clotting I was devastated...I had to go to Brisbane to pick my friend up who was coming for a visit (A friend that doesn't see why we want another Baby anyhow) also I hadn't told her yet that I was Pg...and the clotting had started an hour before she landed so I guess I was in the middle of it.....so I thought as usual I have to act normal and play Hostess all weekend "Groan"....I did tell her on our trip Home and she ranted and raved that 'she bloody knew" blah blah! but oh don't worry NO "sorry how are you etc" we had an influx of visitors all weekend and they all Drank and socialised.....I felt so bloody isolated as usual they all just thought oh Dawn'll be ok and lets not mention it! My hubby even said he's not too sure he wants to try again as obviously something is wrong now.....That got me right in the guts (and we still haven't had alone time to discuss it)as my friend leaves today then I honestly feel like curling up in a ball and having a melt down! I am just Thankful we didn't tell the Kids as they would be devastated! So there you go I was 5 weeks exactly and the one before was 5wks 3 days....not sure how I feel yet but am starting to feel really down today!
Anyhow better go I still have a house guest......:(
Take care everyone! -x-

Hi Dawnee,
I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. Its terrible that youve basically had to deal with this on your own, but you know there's always someone here that cares, and understands how you feel. Sorry, getting a bit too sad to offer anything meaningful, but huge hugs to you an Dh.
Take careXX