Another wedding question... hehe

It wasn't the case of deliberately leaving my niece out, no way.. shes my niece, i automatically love her from day 1, can't wait to see her. it's just that my other friends are not bringing their bubs under the age of 12mths due to the fact they are using the night as a break away from their little ones.. you know... to relax and party a bit. fair enough. in saying that, i would be able to give my sister the option of asking her did she want to leave her little girl at her MIL's place (she is very close to her MIL)....
I've decided now that I can't ask her if she wants to do that because it's not my place to ask her... i just have to go with the flow and i welcome my niece to the wedding of course.
in return, i ask that my sister can be respectful on my day and not have the baby crying when we are in the middle of the ceremony etc as it would be rude and would upset me because the last thing i want is a baby crying while we are saying our vows... hey,it does happen.
don't get me wrong, I LOOOOVE babies otherwise i would not be on this website LOL! :)

Perhaps I'm just worrying about something that may never happen???? I just need to relax a bit i think... I should just be happy that my sister is no longer ignoring me! yay

Thanks heaps girls xx

Renstar, you are being very thoughtful to go to such an extent to include your niece and consider your sister's feelings. I wouldn't worry too much about baby making a noise. In my experience, it's the parents who think the baby is noisier than anyone else around them! My DP couldn't get Lucy quiet or out of the church fast enough if she cried when she was little! (Love your niece's name, btw!) At 4 months she probably won't be that loud.

It's the 3 year olds running up and down the aisle that tend to be more disruptive... Just as well you don't have them!

LOL just as long as the day is about ME and my FIANCE LOL then i'll be happy :)
well, its our my wedding aint it? hehehe I probably sound silly but ah well....

yeah she named her Lucy Charlotte...

Know exactly what you mean, Ren - I felt exactly the same! I was soooo annoyed that the day before the wedding was all about my silly sister and her feeling poorly and "oooh, the dress is a halterneck and I have whiplash." Luckily she was so excited on the wedding day that she forgot about the so-called whiplash LOL. (I'm well used to being my sister's second fiddle, that's why I live so far away from my family LOL.)

Just remember, for every aunt who loves a baby there's an uncle who can't give a toss: my dad visited us for the first time since DS's birth today and had to be forced to hold him! And no-one will even mention the baby to you, so you will never know. And can assume no-one talks about the baby behind your back LOL.

We didnt have children at our wedding....just my DD and my niece (so immeidate family only).
Our friends were 'thankful' they got a night off from their children....of course if there was a request from a couple that they bring their child due to b/f we would have agreed.
When your being tight with numbers (as we were), people dont realise children, even toddlers take up a seat as such (or a highchair).
Its your day.....invite whom you want.

I had my bridesmaid on my left DH on my right, then the best man.
Becuase we did not have anyone else in the bridal party, and the table was massive, we had their partners up on the bridal table as well.

I'd invite the new BF and your neice, which it sounds like you have anyway.
Our wedding was over 18 only, but under 6months was OK.

I know if it were me with a small baby I would be anxious through the whole ceremony about him/her crying and would have an exit route planned!

Also as a side note - I am glad you are finding planning the tables/seating arrangements exciting! It was a nightmare for us, and two tables had to get rearranged on the day cos my family (extended) can't manage to be civil.

oh Ryn! She sounds like my sister, pretends to be interested yet she really only cares about herself! LOL. I mean i love her but gosh, everything usually revolves around her and now that she's just had her 1st baby, it's going to get even worse :doh:
I will listen to her, talk about her new baby with her, ask questions etc and hear her out but i won't get to tell her our exciting news for a few weeks, probably not for a few months, if ever. We moved house, moved business locations AND went overseas.... she hasn't asked about any of it :( She is also very competitive but in a sly kinda way... she won't let on that she is being competitive but she is... KWIM???

Rayray - that's a shame your family couldn't even be civil to each other on the day of your wedding!!! How annoying that must have been, i hope they didn't spoil your day for you and your DH? You would not let them!!! Yeah we are just putting people at tables and then on the night if they want to swap so be it but don't let it bother us sorta thing!!!

Oooh i can't wait for it to be OUR day!! :)

we managed to avoid it by switching the tables, but if no one had told it who knows. As it was one cousins husband swore at the wait staff (we were at a reception centre) all night, dropping the F word etc, and to top it off he threw wedding cake at my bridesmaid. This was after DH and I had gone and I only found out afterward (she would never have told me, one of my relos fessed up)

I am sure since you aren't related to me, your wedding will be fabulous! :D

it's a shame adults can't be adults, esp at a wedding! My god! ie the cake... the F word was bad enough!! but the cake at the b/maid?? poor thing...

Just because they are family, doesn't mean we chose them huh??!! can't choose your family but you can choose your friends thats for sure...

Me too Lindsay, I am going to get embarassed saying my vows (go red!) :redface: but at the same time, i want everyone to know how much we love each other!!!
Just pretend all the guests are naked and watching you! ;) that's enough to make anyone laugh hehe Although i wouldn't want it to be a reality!! eeww!

My DF jokes about me being a bridezilla and i'm like "no i'm not! no i'm not!" I will not allow myself to be one!! hehe

For my wedding I had the bridal table with the couples together and us in the middle.Once invites were sent out and catering planned we said no more guests at reception, pack them in for the ceremony. Guests dont like it, too bad it's YOUR day.
I had my wedding different to others, so do it your own way.
Enjoy it, it goes way too quickly.

Thanks Cruemum - we are finalising our invites this weekend and they should be printed in the next 2 weeks (we are printers so can do them ourselves!) once they go out thats IT! ;)

We had 4 kids at our wedding - 5mths old (My sister was a bridesmaid - her son), 2 and 1 (my other bridesmaids son and daughter) and my dh's cousin's son. We only had a small breakfast wedding, but the morning was definately about us. My aunts and cousins seemed to want to pick up and play with my nephew, after all the officialness and photography was done, my sister got him back.

About the vows, I said mine, but apparently everyone, incl my husband, had difficulty hearing me! How embarrassing! If I could go back and do it, I'd def say them louder - you only get to say them once!

Seating: if you stood in front of us to look at us, it was boys to the right and girls to the left.

There were so many more things that went wrong with my day (and the days leading up to it) but when we look back the day was perfect. The setting and company were perfect and couldn't have asked for more, even if we'd have had more time to plan!

If you'd like to see my wedding photos, look me up on the members list, my msn space has a link there. I don't know if I was allowed to put a link on here, so i put it in there.


Hope you have a fantastic Wedding Day!

Thanks Ren!!!! We're so excited about it!! :P cant' wait!!!!!!

Renstar, take a deep breathe babe, you sound like a typical blushing first time bride, Your ceremony will be beautiful, the reception will be a blast and it will be the time of your life because it is your day.
Now stop stressing the little stuff,

My DF jokes about me being a bridezilla and i'm like "no i'm not! no i'm not!" I will not allow myself to be one!! hehe
......Maybe not a bridezilla.....just a tad stressed.....lol. It's perfectly okay to want the day to go off without a hitch.

LOL just as long as the day is about ME and my FIANCE LOL then i'll be happy
Lol you made me remember ........:rolleyes:My Geat Grandmother told me that Weddings are for friends and family to come together to celebrate your union it belongs to everyone especially your parents but not to you. Your marriage however is yours and nobody elses business. I rolled my eyes and said Ok Nonna, but in reflection she was right, however we didn't pay for our wedding. Although it was a fantastic wedding. We had 180 guest including children Only 40 of them were friends the rest was family, we fed our DJ, I don't think you have to but we just thought it rude not, to he also had unlimited softdrink, we were so generous;), lol.

Yes you should and I'm gad to read that you are inviting your neice. Yes I think that is the right thing to do.
i ask that my sister can be respectful on my day and not have the baby crying when we are in the middle of the ceremony etc as it would be rude and would upset me because the last thing i want is a baby crying while we are saying our vows... hey,it does happen.
Honey a little unrealistic as she can't really control her, She'll probably sleep right through it. Most parents will get up and leave. It would be rude of them to stay and let them scream.

Don't want to add to your stress......
But it's a beach wedding right, is it a private beach.... just asking because if it's not you can't stop sticky beakers from coming down for a sticky and they may have screaming children with them, so maybe you need a game plan there.
Anyway don't sweat the little stuff, it will be fantastic!!!

Hi Renstar

At my wedding to now XH, we had bridesmaids on the left and groomsmen on the right.

With the children thing - we initially said no children and sent invites out without the childrens names. However, we had one couple rsvp with "wife & I will be coming with bubs as well cause wife is breastfeeing". They didn't ask me, just told me they were bringing their baby and I felt bad telling them no so I ended up ringing the other 2 couples to say it was ok to bring their baby. Only one of them did though. The other was happy to have a night out with her DH without the bub.

It's your and your fiance's special day, so do it however YOU want to. You will be the one to remember it.

Best wishes :)

Hi Renstar

gee weddings are fun aren't they. NOT. All the politics and everything, makes you wonder why you didn't elope:redface:. But you will have a great day and just enjoy.

We didn't have a bridal table as we only had 1 attendant each. Instead we had a special friends table with the attendants and another couple who are really good friends. We had 2 extra seats at each table, that way everyone could easily mingle and we chose to have entreee with the special friends, main with our parents, dessert with other family?. In between we could go and sit down and it worked for us and guests too. I find there is nothing worse than mingling and pinching someone's seat and them or you squatting down to talk to the people. That way couples - the best man's wife wasn't separated from her hubby either. I have hated that at weddings as I have never known many others so it is sometimes boring for the partner. But it is all about what you want.
Enjoy your day