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to true!
oh... and it appears that while I was writing my long winded post... i forgot to read the rest of the replies.... der..... I'm glad you are going to do it :)
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:rofl::
to true!
oh... and it appears that while I was writing my long winded post... i forgot to read the rest of the replies.... der..... I'm glad you are going to do it :)
I organised both of mine (Ianto's obviously didn't happen). You were at the one for Amelia, remember how much I hated it? I'm definitely not saying you'll hate yours, you know my reasons why I was miserable, but it was an experience I don't want to repeat :( Next time, even if I'm ultimately calling the shots, someone ELSE is organising. I am not inviting most of my family. I will only have people there who are supportive of my plans. And I will NOT have it on a 40 degree day!!
FWIW, I loved your blessingway with Miss I, even though I was the only person who was there :hug: Nice and small and intimate... It was beautiful.
i organised my own too. only female family and a few friends invited. i organised a few games, but then got my sister to run them. it was probably a bit lame, but i had a good time anyway.
I would have loved a blessingway, especially for DS, but my real life friends aren't really into that sort of thing - most wouldn't know what it was. would love to have been comfortable enough to get my belly henna'ed.
have fun!
Dude. that is the ONLY way that i have EVER gotten a baby shower/celebration lol. I guess i am sad.:
I am totally devastated that what with the preterm labour threats etc that i havent had time to organise something. this time around i wanted something smaller and intimate and just a kind of 'sharing circle' between women ITMS. but yeah, just havent had a chance and definitely no one else that would organise one for me lol. funnily enough i find it weirder to organise my own birth blessingway than to organise a tradition baby shower...
I *think* that what i will do (I still live in hope that i can get my A into G and organise something for the weekend lol) in the coming weeks is organise with my 2 girls to have a wee paint party where I will draw a pregnant lady and the baby and they can go sick on it with some paints and then I can hang them up in my birth space to gaze and zone out with during labour. i really want to include them in this celebration and will be a nice way to do something meaningful but still special for this baby...
I never had one. My family have thrown them for my sisters but never for me which was hard, especially for my last pregnancy where we were 6 week apart :-(
I have promised my DD's that I will throw baby shower or blessing ways for them.
Didn't have one, don't regret it, usually don't go to ones I am invited to. :D
I figure what, will all the kids parties, concerts, playgroups and full time work, my weekends are already full enough.
I like to buy something for mum and bubs after the birth, take a cake, have a coffee, shoot the **** one on one.
KWIM
Hope you get the day you want though PZ.:)
Initiated and planned my own here, no one can host a party as perfect as I. The beauty these days is there are NO rules, do whatever YOU want.
Funnily though I didn't have one for DS, because I felt a bit guilty about being preggers again so soon ;)
Sorry not much help, but wanted to encourage you to have one if you feel you do. xx
Haven't had one for either DS. Have only been to 2. Both were nice just girls sitting around chatting and eating!!
I think its either a thing your circle of friends have or don't know right or wrong. Maybe if more of my friends had them I would have maybe had one but I did see lots of small group of friends for get togethers before baby born.
Didn't have one with either, never really thought about it lol. Haven't been to one although have been invited to a couple I haven't been able to make it for whatever reason.
Didn't have one with my DD - I think my sister half heartedly asked if I wanted one but I said no, so didn't have one and given this is my second child never thought to have one as I have alot of things I kept from DD, so don't need a baby shower for gifts. Might have a dinner before bubs is born but it will be with just gfs.
I didn't have one and have never been to one.
Hi PZ, it's not a stupid thing to be emotional about at all. I didn't have one for DS and just thought I'd have one with my 2nd but now it doesn't look like there will be a 2nd baby and that means no baby shower! :crying: I had it all planed out in my head too.
I think it's a very valid thing to feel upset about it. We all have our own views on the matter and some things mean more to us than they do to others. Personally, I have never had one and I don't regret it and TBH, the idea of it kinda ****s me - I'd much rather buy something for Mum and bubs once the baby is here, not do it first. Maybe its a silly way to think and probably even a bit negative/superstitious but I think it's better to wait. I do love the idea of a blessingway however, but they are far different to a mainstream babyshower.
Never had one, never been to one. Just. Not. My. Thing.
Totally not weird organizing your own so I say go for it!
FWIW, I banned visitors in hospital and got a girlfriend to organize a high tea at her place on the way from the hospital (city) to home (country).
I really enjoyed welcoming DD2 to the world with my closest friends, eating yummy sandwiches and scones and not in my jim jams.
Go ahead and put it on yourself PZ! I wouldn't think anything of someone organising their own. Some people just aren't organisers, they might all love to come and enjoy the day but just not be the take over and organise type. Maybe they're all assuming someone else is doing it and didn't want to interfere. You could even start the ball rolling then delegate duties around. :goodluck: I hope either way you get the day you'd like xx
PZ throw one for yourself!
I've never had one either - and yes I had have and sometimes I still feel sad about it.
Of my best and closest girlfriends, none of them have children either by choice or it just hasn't happened - so I guess they don't think of it and I've always felt like maybe they would have their own personal reasons for not wanting to attend.
My friends that do have kids - kids are generally same age as my eldest about 10 yrs old.... So they have finished having kids and I think baby showers would be the last thing on their minds (that's what I've always thought anyway).
I'm sad I didn't have one this time, I'm still feeling sad I'll never be pregnant again, that I won't have any more children - but that's probably post preg hormones and blues more than anything..
Go for it - throw the kind of party you want to have and invite people who will appreciate it and celebrate with you.
X
I would definitely throw something for yourself. It's a fantastic opp to catch up with people & have some yummy food & just an afternoon with the girls to chat 'babies' & stuff.
I just had one on Sunday - no games or anything, just lovely food & champers /wine & was great to see my friends & chat/relax & feel a bit special too.I wouldnt think twice if someone threw a gathering for themself.
Most friends will ask if they can bring something to help aswell.
Good luck x :D
Although I don't regret not having one... I am miffed. A friend of mine offered to do one for me and I agreed, but then she never did anything. I got all excited that someone wanted to do something nice for me and she didn't, she just liked the idea of a babyshower and did nothing about it.
I didn't want presents, I just wanted people to want to spend time with me and maybe even talk baby.
I never got one. It was organised, but I had my DD really early and we weren't sure she would make it home.
No one else "rescheduled" it for me either, even though I'd said a good time for it was probably welcoming her home. She came home, but I was disappointed to find nothing had been planned by my family or friends.
Now I cant go to any baby showers without thinking "oh, this is what I missed out on"... Puts a real downer on the situation!
is it sad that i didnt even realise that there was a protocol where other people are meant to organise these things :ROFL:
I didn't have a baby shower with any of my three! Not my thing either.. I have organised them and been to them but I just didn't want one. We didn't have an engagement party either...lol I obviously don't like the attention to be on me :)
:rofl: But that's what I was getting at PZ maybe it just hasn't occurred to anyone :) Not because they don't want to, but just because they don't know they should. Or they think it's someone else's job.: