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I'm not sure what I would do if DP and I ever got married which we have vowed not to LOL so this is entirely hypothetical.
I think my view would be that it would have to be all or nothing. I would either choose somewhere totally child-friendly maybe like Werribee Mansion and organise for the kids to go around the zoo for an hour to break it up a bit, or hire a huge reception centre and turn a breakout room into a mini creche for people to use as and when they needed to.
Or make it very sophisticated (for me) and just make it adult only.
It would also depend very much on the family situation and who we were inviting. If people were coming long distances and that meant that they would have to organise babysitting for the night, or more to the point, would not see their kids for a night, then I would feel very sad about that and that would influence my decision.
But I wouldn't be at all upset right now if DD wasn't invited to a wedding. Infact, we have been invited to a wedding in a few weeks time and DD isn't invited. That is fine by me because it would be exhausting to take her and I really wouldn't enjoy myself inbetween policing her. Nor has DSD15 been invited - and that's fine too. Really, it's the couple's day and they should be able to have whatever they want.
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Our wedding was pretty much child free. We were very young and the first of our friends to marry so there were no friends children to worry about. DH's niece and nephew were invited as they are imediate family, and my baby cousin too (FF but still only a small baby and 120km from home) but her brothers stayed with their grandparents. It was a day wedding so they were home that evening as normal.
The biggest upset was that we didnt invite cousins. We had 92guests +the 3children with only the immediate family and aunts/uncles. All the rest of the cousins were primary school aged at least or adult, many of them already had their own children. If we had invited them all it would have doubled the guest list. One of DH aunties didnt come because her children and their children werent coming but everyone else was very understanding. In fact we had sooooo many compliments, that it was the nicest, most relaxed wedding they had been to.
The toddler neice/nephew made a total pain of themselves the whole day as it was hot and boring for them so they spent a lot of time being walked around outside by their dad and my baby cousin didnt make a peep.
We have been to two weddings since having DD. She was invited to one at 11months and not BF anymore as there were 2 other babies coming. It was quite easy entertaining her and she loved being passed around but we did leave early. The other she wasnt invited to and that was a major PITA as it was 130km from home, 40km from my parents who were babysitting and when we got there we found half the babies were there and half were not. They were also cousins babies just like we were so I dont know if there were mixed messages or maybe if we had asked, she could have come.
I think people have very strong feelings about this topic and often take offence when it surely is not intended to be that way. If someone loves and wants you at their wedding they are surely not likely to deliberately NOt invite your child just be be nasty and upsetting to you. It is for some other reason, maybe not to your thinking but then it is THEIR wedding.
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Hi guys,
I dont think im going to be very popular here but seen as though you were asking for opinions I thought i'd give mine. We got married 6 weeks ago and made a very cut and dry rule that we were having no children at our wedding whatsoever - Breastfed or not, apart from my three neices who were flower girls and old enough to behave themselves.
Its not thats we dont like children (obviously if we are trying for a baby haha!) It was more that we have a lots of friends with children and that if you do it for one you have to do it for all of them. We only had one person kick up a stink about it and she made things rather difficult between my husband and I. My husbands cousin from over east was bringing her mother over to look after the baby while they attended the wedding (by their own choice not because we said they had to) so we could hardly say yes to the others.
Children were more than welcome at the ceremony but we said no children at the wedding. I practically got abused by one guest for not writing no children on the invite. It was addressed to her and her partner and it is considered rude to put no children on an invite. Not to mention that a few friends have had babies scream the whole way through the speeches, first dance, video etc.
I understand that its a very personal choice but our choice worked well for us.
Amy :D
