Babies Born April 2008 #3

Hi all,
just been to the mchn...
Bj has grown 3.7 cm, and put on 740g since his 4 week visit...he's still under 5kg and only 55.7cm though!!!

He's off to have his needles tomorrow...not looking forward to it, but at least I'm not doing the council cattle call...the Child care centre I worked at has a gp visit once a week (who bulk bills too!), and my fabulous ex boss has said that Bj can go and see her for his needles even though he doesn't go there!
She's gonna call me when the Dr is on her way to the centre, and I can leave home and meet her there, no waiting around either!

After his crappy night saturday night, and ven crapier day and evening sunday, Bj had a bottle of EBM at 9:30, followed by a big poo, then slept til 3:30, settled himself, slept til 4:30, settled himself, then slept til 5:30, had a feed and went back to sleep til 8:30...clever boyo!!

Hello ladies...

Its been a little while since Ive been in here I know...

Things around our house have been a little crazy lately our house has been turned upside down from Ryley, and with Lily just being Lily too. We've really had our hands full, or should I say I have anyhows, I look after both of them every day and night cause DH has to drive over an hour to work every day. Getting a litte run down and tired but Im getting there. Its all worth waking up in the middle of the night to a screaming baby when he smiles at me when Im changing his bum! hehe.

Kat, how are you finding things with your kids now? you would have an extra busy house now huh?

alittlegrubi: How are you feeling now this far after your c section you had yours around the same time as me i think didnt you? I am going backwards again now! Tried doing light exercise cause I was feeling great, and now I think Ive made things worse. my tummy is still sore, and my bleedings all stopped, but I get this real yucky white yellowish discharge all the time its not the usual discharge any woman gets, cause there is soooo much of it, Im hoping its not internal puss or anything, Ive already been on anti-biotics because my wound opened back up a little sooo gross! I am still doing alot better than last time though just extra sore still, it takes forever to heal properly:(

Things have settled down here tonnes! Ryley is happy and goo-gahing, and smiling to himself quietly in his rocker, he is like this most days i think his wind has settled a whole heap hey! he is a much better baby than Lily when she was newborn some say its cause he's a boy. He is now 5.5kgs and 6 weeks 4 days old, amazing how quick they change! He's growing up too quick! and I dont like it hehe.

hows things at everbody elses houses now settling down?

what about the sleep thing? anyone getting anymore? hehe.

Ryley sleeps from 8pm-1am then he is awake with tummy pains (poo pains) until he has a big poo around 5 am every morning, so I always miss out on the second half of the nights sleep every night, but thats life things will get better.

And how are all our babies doing... many smiling and making noises yet? :)

back to it... I'll try and drop in a little more now and then to catch up now things have settled down:D

ta-ta ladies:)

Hi Girls
Just a quick question.....
During Hunters night nappie changes, he has been getting a lot of green flecks like granules. He also has had such a tummy ache and wont settle. Does this sound like some thing normal, or should i get him checked out?:dunno:


Beatrix- So sorry about what's happened. Also glad MJ is OK.
(Men can be such pigs). DH had a similar prob when we first started seeing each other. I managed to cure him tho, and hasn't done it for years. Managed to get thru to him the improtance of trust.
Again, sorry you are having such a hard time.:hug:

Evening all,

** ME MAD POST **

Sorry to rant on here, but have no where else to do it without other judgeing me.

Wyatt is six weeks old this week and DH has not bother to help look after him at all. Which has been hard. Not only that I get NO emotional support from him. He was great in last few weeks of prg, really caring to the point where he would help me up of lounge, or give me a push if got stuck in bed.

He went away last week for work which I was fine with but he seems to be gotten the the baby blues now. He hardly talks to me, will palm Wyatt off if I give him to hold while I either fix dinner or other children. He just sits his big lazy ass on lounge and watches TV. I can understand he may have had a rough day at work, but god he doesn't even give me a thought...

Last night he wanted to fill in his spray record book which he has too for his contract. Anyway he leaves it until the day before harvesting to fill out a whole seasons of spraying. Then got mad 'cos Wyatt was crying he is my main thing at the moment not some dam record book. I was ment to send in the copy of the record book today and I forgot, running after 3 kids had too look after another one, and I also had to run a work mate of his out to the back of wop wop which to 2hrs their and back. If I didn't have to do that maybe I would have remember to post off dam copy. But his arms are not broken, he uses the excurse that he is in a big truck. Well park away and WALK back the exercise would hurt him.

Other thing, haven't had sex since what see likes forever. It's not a huge thing for me, but when I have a man that doesn't really express how he feels to me about me. Then it a major thing for me to feel close to him. I feel we are drifting further and further apart in the last few weeks. I didn't even get flower after Wyatts birth. However I go out and buy him new motorbike gear to go riding in, NO thanks for that dear. No kiss on cheek. I am so over it right now. I really don't know what to do. Worst part is I have no where to go if I want to leave.

Anyway I had better get off, pull self together and dish up dinner for kids.

Thanks for listening/reading

Cheers
Sarah

Hi girls

went and had Russell weighed today and hes now 5.3 kg which is good hes put on a 1.2 kg in 4 weeks and is 56 ish cm. Hes sleeeping has gone back to normal since Dp came back friday night, dunno whats up with that! any ideas on how to get him to sleep longer in the early morning , he seems to wake 2 hourly from his 12:30 feed and its teiring me out something cronic.

lisa: i would get him checked just to be on the safe side

sarah: my Dp was acting verysimilar, we ended up spending a few days apart. pert of his prob was he was feeling a bit neglected as was i and we needed to make time together even if its 5 min on the couch every second helps.

nellegood to see your in good spirits

russell also seems to struggle with his bowel motions and dont know how to help ease it --- help please

Zennie: I try I even get up at 5am in morning to spend some time with him while Wyatt is still asleep, before he leaves for work. But everything I seem to do doesn't help. We don't have alot in common and I am only now seeing it. Its me understand his world learning and doing things he likes. I have just gone alone with it up until now I have had enough. It's not that I am not happy to learn/do but its a give and take thing. He just thinks working 7 days a week is going to solve our problems, and one way it will 'cos if he doesn't talk about any problem then to him their is NO problem.

But at least I am not alone, others have gone through it and survied.

Cheers
Sarah

Kat 6 week check went fine, and just as I thought, I had to have a pap test (oh joy), my GP was able to get me into see the Paed on Wednesday lunchtime which is great as there is normally a week to a week and a half wait. Oh, as for Oliver's hair, there was a mum and bub at the Obs rooms today and her little boy had twice as much hair and it was close to 10cm long and he was only 6 weeks old too.
sarah there have been times when Oliver has nearly ended up in the wheelie bin. I am so sorry that you are going through this rough patch with your DH, I really don't have any advice, but I will give you this :hugs: it makes me feel so damn lucky to have a DH that is so supportive and helpful.
Beatrix my thoughts are with you, it would be tough having to get used to being a single mum of 3 kids under 4 :hugs:
BabyWrangler that's a nice weight gain for 4 weeks. Good luck with his needles tomorrow.
Danielle Oliver has been giving me the odd smile since he was about 4.5 weeks and he is just starting to smile a bit more now and the other day he was 'trying' to find his voice but he actually found it today and told me a little 'story' it was soooo cute. He tends to sleep from 6pm ish to 10.30 when I give him his 'sneaky feed' and he will then sleep through till about 4 or 5 ish will be great when that increases to 6ish.
LisyLee this may be a stupid question, but without actually seeing the granules/flecks I not sure what they look like exactly, but, are you sure they aren't the crystals that they put in disposable nappies to soak up the wee? I have a baby book that I read and it actually mentions crystals/granules on babies bum. Just a thought, tell me to shut up if you like. If you are sure it isn't that, then I would definitely take him to Dr's
Zennie sometimes Oliver has problems pooing too and the CHN suggested giving him some cooled boiled water in between feeds, she said to offer him about 30ml and most of the time the extra water will help. That's a real bugger about his nightime waking, hopefully it will sort itself out when his body clock starts working properly.

Feeling a bit down today, I was supposed to be going to see Sex and the City on Sunday with a bunch of GF, I was originally told that I didn't have to buy my ticket as one of them had purchased a whole heap, but have since found out that they have given mine away to someone else so I have to buy my own, then DH reminds me that we where going up the coast to see his dad on Sunday and I now don't have a good excuse for him to change the day because if the ticket had been bought for me I could have said I couldn't get out of it, but since I don't have a ticket, I have no excuse. But I am also sad because I don't know anyone else who wants to go and see this movie so I either don't go at all or I go and be a 'nigel no mates' and go on my own either way I feel like I have no friends (and here come the tears again). I know i'm just being stupid but I can't help the way I feel.

Sharon huge :hug: darl dont you just love how screwed up our emotions can be! If i lived anywhere near you i would go with you!
Wow at the other bub having even more hair than Oliver!
Thankfully i dont have to have a papsmear just yet, but thats only because i had one when Mitchie was about 2 or 3mths old! Some i guess thats something positive about having bubs this close together!
Hope you feeling better soon :hug:

Sarah Huge :hug: for you too darl, i also don't have any advice but wish i was there to give you a shoulder to cry on. The scary thing is it sounds just like my marriage to my ex husband. I hope you can work through it, although its very hard when they continue to run away from the problems by not talking! Maybe once the kids are in bed jsut lay your cards on the table and tell him this is how i am feeling and see how he responds, other than that mate i got nothing. I do feel for you though, our emotions are in major upheaval after having a bub as it is without the extra strain of relationship issues as well :hug:

Zennie sounds like Russel is doing really well with his weight. As for his sleep pattern changing while DH away and then retrning back to normal when he home it is prob just the vibes he is picking up on, you are probably just more relaxed with DH home. As for the wind he isnt letting go of in the early hours the only thing i can suggest is try the cycling motion with his legs. Hold his feet and ankles and peddle his legs as if he was on a bike and you can peddle up hill by slowly pushing his legs up into his tummy until his back is off the bed and then peddle back down again. do this slowly and hopefully it will get things working downstairs for him. IT workded for my DS when he wa younger. Good luck

Lisylee i have no idea as to what the granuals could be, i would jsut ring the help line and query it with them or your CHN. Sorry i got nothing


Danielle its great to hear from you. It can get a bit hectic here, but i jsut battle through. I love the times through the day when all the other kids are at school and its just Mitchie Molly and myself! We can jsut chill and be at home and not have to run around everywhere. Once the older kids get home from school thats when its full on hectic here! With homework and geting DS to work and having to go to town for stuff. I find that stuff much harder than being at home jsut caring for the two littlies!
You would be finding it much harder of course after having a c-sec, what were you thinking trying to do exercises :doh: (oh please dont take offence) i jsut know what my body was like after having my second c-sec and you must be soooo better than me cause i didnt even think about exercise until Mitchie was 6mths! Take it slow woman!Let yourself heal a bit more. Just running around after your two littlies is more than enough! I hope you feel better soon also hope you dont hate me for saying what i said :hug:


Shelley thats awesome that BJ is doing so well. Oh i hate needle time! I always have to take mine, DH will come when he can but i always get to hold them! Good luck and be strong tomorrow :hug:

Beatrix i bet you have your hands full! I so know what you mean with just getting on with it. When i left my ex i had 3 kids and youngest was 10mths and you do just get on with it, there is no one else there to rely on or pray that they will do it, so you just do it! (if that makes sense) I actually found my kids settled into routine much better too, my 10mth old actually started sleeping through the night form the day i left! So for us it was a good thing. I hope all works out well for you and your girls :hug:

lisylee, green flecks are normal apparently. i checked when Ci started getting them - like little flecks of spinachand/or green poo - and the answer was "normal". I'm not sure about "granules" though. If you do get him checked, let me know what you learn because sometimes Ci still gets poos like that. He doesn't behave like he has tummy pain, but I believe all babies behave like they have tummy pain when they cry so I tend to assume that's not it. It's how they cry, pulling up their legs and squirming as though they have gas, and then if they pass gas it seems to confirm it but may not necessarily be so. He only does skidmarks these days, with one big noisy wet one once every two days or more.

Sarah, men can get baby blues. just as an option. have you tried talking to him about your feelings? If he's just being a *****, then lay your personal boundaries on him, but if he feels withdrawn from family life, and a little off kilter, some gentle heart to heart chats might be what he needs to refocus.

Zennie, are the poos hard? I can't remember, is he on boob or bottle? (I am still putting the details together of each of us and I forget who's baby is doing what sometimes) Bottle can make poos harder. A struggling to poo boob baby is another thing though. To loosen poos: sugar. I'm not sure how to give a baby sugar though. Lactose in breast foremilk does the trick so expressing until an abundant supply helps in those cases, but with bottled babes, I'm not sure what would be the safe avenue.

Sir Eatsalot joined the feedathon last night. Jeebus. From 1am until 7am he was basically attached to the boob! Maybe a growth spurt, maybe just one of dem nights. Glad it's over though.

He is starting to pick up on his EC cues! I know, seems too soon. But a couple of times now I've seen genuine recognition when I cue him and this morning,... triumph! Since the week he was born I've cued him with "poos, ugh ugh" sound and word each time he poo'd. This morning, he was doing the morning "ain't I cute" faces and laughing and so on and I just said, "poos? Ugh ugh" and he started trying to strain and then pood!!! How bloody cool is THAT? Maybe coincidence, but so what, it felt good. I may have him out of nappies sooner than I thought.

Hey ladies again!!!

DD is at daycare today and DH is home today and tomorrow flooding here our main bridges are going under so thought would be safer he stays home incase he cant get home, and he starts a new job closer to home on Monday too, yaaay! Maybe then I will get more help with Ryley and Lil.

Sarah: I really feel for you! Alot of women have husbands that barely lift a finger or appreciate what they in the house, I had a bi break down a little while ago cause i was so exhausted and sore from doing housework and washing and looking after him and the 2 kids... I just told him... "look I know you drive a long wayt o and from work each day but I am looking after your 2 kids and you! around the clock, the kids need me more than you, so your going to have to make your own lunch and dinners cause you get home too late" Mind you he hasnt really been taking lunch or making tea but if a mans hungry he will eat hahaha! Its good you feel as though can come here for support it must be very hard for you. Your kids are more important we all know that so I would be making him lift his fingers a little more... its n ot like you dont work either... you work around the clock like the rest of us women here, and my god is bloody hard work!

Kat: oh thats so nice to hear you've settled in well with Molly, I can imagine the big rush arounds with school and kids and things... I want more kids but then I wonder... hehe, but hubby doesnt want anymore so thats it for us and i dont htink i could bear the thought of another c section, I dont think my body would handle it cause I had to have adrenalin to keep me going the last time.

Sharon: that sux about the movies... I would love to go!! hehe. I never geta round to going to the movies anymore but I told DH that once i loose all this baby weight I am goin down to the city to go shopping with friends and he's having both the kids!!! He's never had them both on his own before yet... sometimes i wonder if men could manage the things we do without loosing their patience. Us women have the ability to do 1, and 2 and 3 things at a time! Oliver sounds like he's getting a big boy now what size is he in now? Ryleys in size 00 already at 6 weeks, his got real long legs and huuuuge feet! Isnt it so cute when they start smiling! Oh my It melts me everytime! How is oliver going with his wind now? any improvements yet? Ryles has settled down heaps with his wind now.

Zennie: sounds as though you rlittle one is growing very strongly! No ideas to help on getting bubs to sleep longer mine wakes at 1 am and just doesnt go back to sleep so now my waking time is 1 am a little too early for me! but he goes back to sleep around 5 am then the other one gets ut of bed hehe. But my body is getting used to it all. Ryley gets bad poo pains and stays awake all morning until he poos. does your bub go back to sleep after the midnight feed, or are you having trouble getting him back to sleep? How well does bub sleep at the beginning of the night? Ryles sleeps from 8pm until 1 am and I wake up very tired at 1 am.

Babywrangler: Nice to hear Bj is doing great... aww he must be a little cutie sounds like he is thriving, but is still litle, I go all weak when I see little cute babies Ive never had any of them mine have been 4.5kilos and up since birth but they are still cute. Ryley goes for his needles soon too I hate it might make hubby take him yet cause I have the tendancy to cry! hehe.

Lisylee: I would probably get him checked Ryley had that for a little while too and had terrible tummy pains but it was only short lived, no idea what it was though but the doctor should certainly know. Let us know when you find out...

Fire: I would beleive that cause I watched a documentary that you can train your baby alot earlier than you think to do these things, they have noises and hand actions for almost everything they want or need they m ake different sounds and cry differently when they want or need something. It sounds so cool though I would stick with doing that and see if you can relate his milk poo's and other things with different noises and cries he makes.

Thank you to all who gave advice.

I couldn't talk to him last night as I was too wild, to top everything else off MIL turned up to see Wyatt for the first time. I opened the door at seen in was her, asked her want she wanted, then told her DH can deal with you cos I dont. And shut door in her face. This woman jst drive me mad. Doesn't see our 2 children we already have expect on birthday (maybe) and on Christmas (DH drags us along to her house). So of course I am not going to be impressed when she turns up after telling her she was not welcome. Worse yet DH didnt back me up, and let her in. So I went about feeding kids at 7pm (I know late) told DS to come away. And when she referred to herself as grandma, I quickly corrected her and said "Vicki not grandma". She left soon after, but you could cut the air with a knife. So I left it, 'cos I know I would say some hurtful and spitful things.

Wyatt was good last night, only he's normal times but then woke up at 6am. Wonderful...

We talked this morning, and told him how I was feeling. And what my problems were. He also told me he know's he been hard of late and apologetic about his behaviour, he did state he is trying to please everyone at once. We also agree on things which we are going to start and do like, have no TV 2 night a week and instead sit down and play board games with kids. Then we can watch TV after then have gone to bed. Also he will go dirt bike riding once a month (min) with mates. Will have 2 nights dinning out during a month as well. And one family day a month to go places, like animal park or the mazes.

So things a bit better, but we will see. He will need to take a stand against his mother to really impress me. The family you come is not as important as the one you will have. Thanks for all trying to help or be my shoulder.
Cheers
Sarah

Janine - Russell is a boobie boy and when he dose poo its runny. it seems to be the moving of it out the other end that hes having trouble with. hes fine after he poos but untill then hes like a worm. even while sleeping.

as for Ci picking up on cues,l i was recently informed that the synapses in the brain re bowel motions form at approx 8 weeks and if you do ur poo ughugh at about the same time everyday ,then the baby will pick this up and be like clock work. she had her DD fully toilet trained at 15months . she would hold her between her legs and gt her to poo in a potty though - dont know how effective that would be but it makes snse to hold them in a seated position Iykwim.

Danielle - i have no problems getting him to sleep between 8 and 1ish or going back to sleep its keeping him that way. he willsleep from between 12 and 1 till 3:30 for another feed and then till 4:30 whe Dp alarm goes off, then into bed with me till i get up, guess u could almost call it cluster feeding. i have started feeding him in bed though so that im not up and down all morning

Sarah - hope things start to take a turn for the better know. it always helps whenthey acknowledge that they make life difficult. make sure you hold him your plan though and dont let it slip away.

Hmm, not sure Zennie. BF do seem to have infrequent/weird/troubled poos sometimes. I'm not sure myself, I'd like to know though.

Hey, what do your days look like these days, gals? Ie, how many naps and how long are the awake times?

It seems Ci has very little ability to stay awake, and starts getting miserable sometimes only 15 minutes after he has woken. I don't know if it is tired or he's fussing about something else. I try to entertain him a bit so he doesn't decide to take more awake time at night. He struggles to stay awake, as in, he has to be really helped to take a nap (in sling, bouncing on fit ball or boobed to sleep - rarely). I thought they only needed 14 to 16 hours sleep at this age but I've tried counting his awake time and it isn't very much, esp if I don't count that I have sometimes forced him to stay awake probably, without realising he really is tired already. I have a chart I made on the computer of his feed/wake/sleep cycle, started today. It seems he is up at about 7am (would go longer but I usually have to wake him for school chaos) crying by 7.30 or so, asleep by 8/8.30 ~ ~ feed at 10, down by 11 (which was too late for him today he was inconsolable by 10.30!) ~ ~ usually then 1p feed, 2p sleep ~ ~ 4p feed 5p sleep ~ ~ 6p wake, arsenic hour, feeds poorly, cries a lot, bathtime calms down, try another feed... etc by 7/8pm usually asleep. 10pm dreamfeed, 1am dream feed, cluster short feeds of 3am, 4am, 5am and 6am. That's us! Seems like a lot of sleep (yet FEELS like a lot of wake, if you catch my drift :lol:).

Just a quick one before my mothers group this arvo, then going to Dr's for my check up and U/S results.

For two nights in a row Liam has slept more than 5 hrs between 9pm - 2am (was more like 3.15 last night!)... I'm hoping this continues!

Will check back in later...

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Hello ladies...
I am going backwards again now! Tried doing light exercise cause I was feeling great, and now I think Ive made things worse. my tummy is still sore, and my bleedings all stopped, but I get this real yucky white yellowish discharge all the time its not the usual discharge any woman gets, cause there is soooo much of it, Im hoping its not internal puss or anything, Ive already been on anti-biotics because my wound opened back up a little sooo gross! I am still doing alot better than last time though just extra sore still, it takes forever to heal properly:(

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Danielle i had the yucky white yellowish discharge for about 3 days last week, so maybe it is normal - maybe we both should worry. I too have gone backwards a bit, but I'm not doing as much as you are. Lifted DS on Saturday night and am paying for that. Went for a 15 minute walk 3 times over the weekend with DD in carrier and paying for that too. I keep gettingpains on and off. My SIL's SIL told me on Saturday night that she still gets them 16 years after her last c-section - like I wanted to hear that!!!

Sarah, Beatrix, Sharon Wonder if it is a full moon or hormones.... I too had a meltdown over the weekend, culminating yesterday - public holiday here. Was at the point of packing a bag and yelling at and hitting DH, DS kept saying "I come with you Mummy" Anyway after a lot of crying and eventually getting a big hug from DH I became somewhat more rational. I was feeling like he has a life and I don't and certainly no friends, the one friend I have text and I even rejected her. Maybe we are all just feeling the pinch. When I stopped and thought about it I'm the problem not DH, DS, DD or the lack of friends and family.

I ended up apologising for my part in making myself the victim of circumstance and that it's just hard for me, I feel like we never have time together. I think that because it is our wedding anniversary on Friday I'm expecting he will have something else to do. He agreed that we don't have enough us time and said that he misses me, but we haven't worked out how to change that. Think my DH has the baby blues and I do too ATM.

Anyway I'm a bit better today, but am feeling like a failure as a parent (like Sharon- tears are starting as I type). I know I am doing all the wrtong things this time, but I can't seem to help myself. My biggest issue is that I seem to have a baby attached to me 24/7 except when DH gives me a break. I need to change that and get her sleeping in the cot at the least, but she just doesn't seem to settle without the touching - need help changing that before it's too hard, but I can't deal with the crying.

Sorry for the not so happy post.

not much time left before i have to leave to pick up jordan but just wanted to give alittlegrubi a big :hug: and let you know you are not a failure as a mother.

oliver had hi paed appt today and the dr called him a 'piggy' lol

bbl for more personals and a better update on us as it is too hard to type one handed with a squirming bub

hey there again all you very talented mothers!!! hehe.

How are we all lately?

Sarah: thats a great start talking with DH and making a plan to help make your family time a little more functional, I hope you all find peace soon with each other and things get to normal in no time. MIL's can be a dam right pain in the butt sometimes, I have had a really bad MIL once but this one I get along with fine thankfully except I can only handle her in small doses cause she is a bit "out there" and when they come to our house they always total it and never help to clean up but thats minor compared to what your going through, but look on the bright side you have your beautiful little boy, and your lovely kids, its what we all live for... Its nice to hear you both are trying to make a go of it though with the kids. It is hard these days though getting any family time with the main worker in the household with the price of fuel and groceries and bla bla bla... my DH has been working so much overtime lately I have been cross at him for it but if he didnt do it, we wouldnt be getting by, so it does make it a difficult situation, I think many families are experiencing the same thing at the moment.

Fire: their sleeping patterns when they are little are funny arent they? although our little boy has a routine worked out for night time he doesnt sleep much during the day he is a little busy body, wants to sticky beak at everything thats going on during the day and if he does sleep its not usually for a great deal of time... I wonder if we have any other sticky beak babies out there? Should be plenty of them by now.. hehe just the look on their faces when they see something new.. such excitement.. like whoah!! hehe too cute!

Nettie: that is fantastic!!! sounds like Liam is getting into a nice routine for you there... how hard is it the first week or two or even the first few days??? gee they tend to wake alot for feeds! but it is true that things settle down, I think we need to allow our bodies time toget used to it all too. Even when Ryley doesnt wake up now I do anyway cause Im used to it.

alittlegrubi: Oh thank god you've been getting that too maybe we shouldnt worry then... I just dont remember getting it with my 1st bt that was 3 years ago... so who knows. Yeah you sound like me the first time around it took me something like 3 months just to be able to walk properly again and by 6 months I still couldnt bend over or reach up from the pain.. so I am doing alot better this time, they say your 2nds meant to be better dunno how true this is but I sure am doing way better. Been out gardening this morning and hasnt seemed to of bothered me when I get sore now I sit down right away and do nothing else for the rest of the day. I still wear those attractive granny undies too haha they are growing on DH! hehe, so my actual scar is still sore and I wont let anyone touch my belly or I will scream and I still do things at a slow pace, but I am healing alot better than last time. My MIL also told me she still gets pain in hers too, and I still did 3 years after but nothing severe just sometimes it would ache or sting a little, and even after 3 years I still couldnt wear anything too tight over my scar or by the end of the day I would hurt. sounds like you are doing ok though lovey.. keep battling on it will get better.

Oh and regarding the clingy baby syndrome... I know what you mean! my 1st was like that and she was a girl they say girls are worse for that than boys again.. dunno how true it is but this one was a boy and he is happy to just sit and watch me all day and happily smiles at me as I pass on by... every time I put Lily down when she was newborn > about 3 months... she would scream her lungs out like someone was stabbing her!!! And MIL used to say put her in her room in her cot and leave her there! Like hell! no way she doesnt know wrong from right she is a baby... so just stay patient she may grow out of it DD did around 3 months, and what helped more was putting her in daycare 1 day a week to. It sure makes it hard with a clingy baby for washing.. cooking.. and housework its so frustrating oh I am glad my newborn days with her have passed all she ever did was scream unless she was rocked or held, some babies are just that way... its nothing you've done dont blame yourself they just come out that way, I dont beleive parents set themselves up for this at all! unless they keep on doing it 6-12 months down the track... babies are babies they dont know any better and they are born with the temperement and personality they are born with and thats what makes them so unique and so special... so maybe she just loves her mummy a whole heap hey???

Hello ladies,

No time to post lately!!! This mummy business is one demanding job :lol:

I've just posted a few pics of our little boy "Ryder Jayden" in the birth pics section. There's also a 4wk old pic (which was taken a week ago as he'll be 5wks tomorrow!).

You should see all the beautiful smiles my little man is giving us... they make it all very worth it don't they! Melts my heart every time....