Babies Born December 2007 #24

Hi all,
Wow it is quiet in here! I have been trying to tear myself away from from the computer the last couple of days and get some stuff done... not easy ;)

Alicia- Awww that sounds so cute with the butterfly :D We took Ty and our dog down to the park for the celebrations, and Ty has his first ice cream cone. It was all over him and the stroller but he enjoyed it immensely :lol:

Nic- How cute- Jacob would miss him heaps, I spose that would take a bit of getting used to, after having him round all the time. But 6 hours with 2 kids, gotta love that ;)

Lauren- Yeah that's what I am thinking- just soemthing to do to get out of the house. I'm trying to organise the wedding for July so I think I'll do a course in something in the second half o fthe year. Photography is what I'm looking at atm, but we'll see.

Susan- :dance: Weather is finally a bit cooler and the bigger kids are at school you must be a bit more relaxed :)

Trish- :computer: Sorry to hear you'r ehaving troubles hun, unfortunately I know what that is like atm too.

I started a 'seniors' hip hop dance class last night. Me and my friends were the oldest there by about 10 years :lol: was good fun but I am so sore today...

And Mr Man still isn't walking, but getting very frustrated with crawling. He can walk but only if I am holding the back of his shirt! No balnce, poor kid (obviously gets that from his dad!)

Ok I am off to do some serious cleaning. I have my mum's group coming here tomorrow and the house is filthy!!

MoM - have a great trip. Sometimes a change of scenery is the best thing ever!

Nic - Awww :) I'm sure Jacob will soon adjust to being the 'big' brother at home - watch out Olivia!

Lori - Oh yeah, you are sooooooo old :lol:

I just posted some new pictures of Olivia on FB. The butterfly one is there :D Off to make some lunch now I think...

Hi guys,
Sorry I haven't been around, had to get my head straight. I started bleeding 2 days ago, so looks like another early m/c for me. I did another hpt this morning and the line was there but faint so not looking good. I'm ok, I still hadn't gotten my head around the whole being pregnant again thing, it was a huge shock and now it's been taken away from me I don't really know what to think.
Thanks for listening girls, and like I said I'll be fine!
Sorry for the lack of personals, I'll catch up sooner or later...

Oh my goodness. I have just read through 4 pages and so much is going on!

Hoody - I am so glad your sister is ok.

Adkins - OMG! Congratulations :leap: that would have been a bit of a surprise for you all.

Buzzie - That's great you went out on your date but not so great he didn't turn out to be a keeper. I'm sure you will have loads more dates. Get yourself out there girl!

Trish - sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch at the moment. Hope things look up soon.

Alicia - will have to check out your pics on FB. That sounds sooo cute.

Kitten - excellent work on your bargain dress buy.

MoM - how wonderful to be going to the coast for your birthday. Fingers crossed that there is nothing to worry about with your lumps.

Lori - I had a giggle with your 'seniors' hip hop class. Sounds cool and like a good workout.

Nic - well done on holding back on the tears for Isaac's big day at school. I would have lost it when I heard the screams.

Michelle - I hope the screaming stops soon. I know what you mean about going bonkers. Monique isn't doing it as much as she used to thank goodness.

I know I have missed lots of mummies so hi to everyone and I will catch up with you from now on.

Monique took 4 steps on Friday before I went to Melbourne it was so exciting. She now smiles at you and then takes a few steps. She has been walking lots between couches and other big things. So cute. I'm waiting for the day that she just takes off. She had her first day at childcare yesterday so DH and I spent the day with her which was really good to see how they operate (although it was their first day as well so a little bit of confusion here and there). The carers are lovely and great with the kids and the chef brings their snacks and lunch which looked delicious. I stayed with Monique for a couple of hours this morning and then said goodbye and I heard her cry when I opened the door to leave. I had tears welling up but held it together and left. It is weird because I'm home now but am expecting to hear her cry out from her room after a nap or something. I hope she is doing ok, I pick her up soon.

Melbourne was awesome and we had a really good time at the tennis. I feel for the Melbourne girls this week though with 40 degree temps all week - Yukko! We have high 30's which is gross too.

Righto, better be off.

Adkins 0- So sorry...:hugs:

OMG its 43 today!! :( :( :( and tomorrow too.. will be 40 till next tuesday!

Adkins - so sorry to here about the bleeding. i hope it stops and it was just nothing.. :(

Tinsel - it sucks the childcare thing hey...

I was glad ash was in care today.. it was nice and cool. we dont have an aircon here and we are melting!! i have relised today my photography course is going to have to wait and an aircon comes first... :( im so bumbed but i cant settle ash at all so i dont know how hes going to sleep! going to be 29 tonight... dont know how anyone would sleep!

better go, the laptops making more heat LOL take care everyone...keep cool!!

Sorry guys for lack of posts i am just so busy at the minute and am finding i have had no BB time.

Adkins- :hug: You know where we are if you need us.

Sorry i'll try and come back later to catch up properly

:hug: Adkins.. I hope the bleeding turns out to be nothing..

Hi to everyone else.. just been busy busy busy. Will try catch up later..

Kids doing well at school. Isaac cried again but was ok. I couldn't walk him in today. I was so close to crying it was better if I just said good bye at the car

anyhoo.. Catch up soon..

Oh Janine big :hug: hun. PM me if you wan to chat. Thinking of you.

Lauren- You must be melting you poor thing... heatwave!! Kinda glad it's you not me ;)

And awww Nic that must break you heart, with him crying like that... :(

Kellie- Glad you had a good time away and yay on the steps!!

Hope I haven't missed anyone. Alicia I will check out you r pics on FB, I want to see the butterfly one :)

I have found my computer time has gone out the window because Ty can now climb on the lounge to get the lappy so I have to pack it right away when he's up and it's a pain inthe bum hookign it all up again. But the goo dnews is my house is clean for the first time since I upgraded my membership :lol:

Hello Ladies.

Hope you are all doing well.

Well i am not doing very well at the moment and TBH am a bit of a mess. Things are really bad between DH and i again and i am thinking about leaving but its so hard to actually do, where would i go, i have NO money etc etc. Neither of us are happy. I am willing to work on things but he doesnt know if he wants to and says all he wants is to be able to see the girls. So to me thats him saying that he doesnt care if i go as long as he has contact so i'm left thinking 'is that what he wants' I am starting to feel like he wants it to end but doesnt want to be the one to actually walk out iykwim. I just cant get my head straight and poor DD1 is picking up on the vibes and keeps asking me if she can make me happy. I dont even know where to start with our issues as he says i am a perfect mum and perfect housewife but he loves me like a sister and isnt attracted to me anymore. He blames me and says i've done it to myself as for the last 6 months all i've done is reject him sexually. To an extent this is true but i have felt he only wants me for that one reason. He never wants to do things as a family and the stuff he is interested in doing is too hard to do with 2 young children. So then i feel he resents them and the circle continues. He is a fantastic father and often helps with the girls but then he throws it back at me saying none of his friends have half the responsibility with their kids and i expect too much. Maybe i do but i thought parenting was and should be an equal partner ship. He tells me i hate him and i've made him feel like that so its all my fault. I dont hate him at all but he wont listen to reason. He is the type of person that you cant argue with or really say what you want as it all gets turned around. Nothing i say is ever really taken in iykwim i just get made to feel like i am the one who's in the wrong. I missed him like crazy when he was away but TBH i wish he wasnt home. When he's here i feel like i'm walking on egg shells. I have tried to kiss and cuddle him but he pushes me away and says i only do it because he whinges i dont and tells me i dont want it so dont bother. I know when he comes home he wont say anything he will just mope around and i have to go to work at 10pm so i dont think it would be a good time anyway as i cant cancel work with too little notice. I just cant pretend all is well anymore when it so clearly is not. I jsut dont know what to do from here. He wont tell me what he want but tells me if i have to leave then to go. I am so confused. He said 3 yrs ago he had the perfect life and marriage- funny DD1 is almost 3. My heart is breaking and i'm crying again but thanks for listening. I know this really isnt the place for this thread but i had to get it out and could do with some support from you girls.

Oh Hoody :hug: I just don't know what I can say to make yu feel better.. I don't knw how counselling works but have you thought of giving that a go?

:hugs: Hoody - i know it can be sooo tough to contemplate being a single mum. Money is such a heart ache. If you know its over which sounds like it well and truely is for your hubby, (i have been in that situation where a guy says he loves you in a different way, not they way 'normal' couples do and its just pathetic) and your ready to decide its over also, can you look into exactly what goverment support you can get and getting the girls in care so you can go back to work full time?? I dont know your finanical situation but with me im hoping once im full time i can find a small unit for me and ash again, do you think you could get a small place somewhere?.. Maybe spend some time budgeting and see where your at. Im glad hubby still wants to make an effort to see the girls though,... might be worth getting an estimate of child support too, - I know its prob the LAST thing you want to think of, but it REALLY helps in knowing ALL your figures before you make any solid decisions. Ive know ive had to make a tone and hate it, but im glad i researched as much info as i could.

I hope your ok hun, im here if you need to talk. Sorry this is all breaking up stuff, i really dont know what to say to offer you advise on making it work, kinda seems hubbys made up his mind already. :hug:

OMG just got this txt msg from DH (he

Hi babe, I'm sorry for how i've been acting i'm just down at the moment. I dont mean to hurt you please forgive me. I do love you and have been thinking of you and us all day. Love DH

Grrr now i'm even more confused. I am relieved though as although we DO have major issues its a bit of a break through for him to admit he has a problem. Maybe now instead of thinking about becoming a single mum i can think about staying and working on things. Nic- i would go to counselling in a heart beat but DH wouldnt. He believes in keeping private issues private. He wont even raise his voice when we argue incase anyone hears etc. I got the msg and started crying again. My head is seriously messed up but i am going to write him a letter explaining how i feel etc and all my issues as like i said i can talk to him them maybe we can move forward.

He must have just realised how hurtful he's been and had time to think about what it would mean if i left as last night i told him to think about what he wants. He's lucky i was on hold to centre link and had rung a friend to organise a place to go if need be. Still might come to that but i hope note. At least now i have some hope

Hoody - Hugs sweets. I really would give couples counselling ago. I am sure you guys don't want to give up your family without trying to get help. My parents broke up without seeking help and I resented them for not trying hard enough. Just so you know DH and I have had our rough patches, particularly in the intimacy area (my issues apparently). I am trying but I am at the point of seeking some advice as well, although I won't address this until after bub is born. We are trying to rekindle our love affair by going on dates and trying to have a laugh with eachother. It is hard when you have your babies so close together, they tend to take over your existence and Mum and Dad as a couple get pushed to the side out of sheer necessity.

hi all bbl

Hoody. thats great to hear, i hope he sticks with it and you can work it out! just be careful, once a guy starts saying things like hes not inlove with you.... theres a always that chance hell do it again.. sorry im am a bit of a pessimist and have alot of men anger but just look after yourself too..

Hi everyone! I just wanted to pop in and say hello tp all my belly buddies! It has been a while not sure if any of you remember me? I have to do lots of reading to catch up on everything thats been happening, congrats to all of you that are pregnant again (hopefully soon I will be too)

Hope your all well!

Hey shell_bell its been ages!!! thats great tohear your TTC again.. how exciting.. keep us posted if you get some news!! hope your all doing well!!!

Hi Shell__bell - i have thought about you a few times!!! Where did you go? Goodluck TTC?