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Babyhopeful - I would just do what works for you and your baby. I have listened to so much advice about Alex and just nodded then just done what works for us. I think if you listened to what everyone has to say, you'd go crazy. Alex is still demand feeding and gets solids once or twice a day (depending on how he is going).
I must be the slackest person here with introducing new food to their bubs. I am so disorganised... just wish I had a magic fairy to help around the place. Tired of carrying the load by myself... but I'm not going down that path again...
Shell - I think closure is a myth - but he got some resolution going back.. the birthday party sounded great.
Meg - :hug:
Sorry for the slackness with the personals.. I'm struggling a bit with workload at the mo..
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Malyna :hug: Hope the workload eases up soon.
AFM - this is going to be a selfish post, sorry girls :redface: I'm not coping very well atm with DS. Since the wonder night where he slept nearly 9 hours straight (Fri night - but I still only got 3-4 hours in a stretch cause I sat up waiting :wall: ) his sleep has been total ****. He followed the wonder sleep with a day in which he only had a 40min, 30min and 20min nap all day then fed three hourly overnight and woke at other times for resettling. I cracked it totally that evening because he was so grumbly and unsettled all day but nothing would get him off to sleep. I drove off and left him with DP for an hour :redface: but I'd been alone with him for the previous hour and just needed to be by myself for a while. So horrible to do that. So sick of hearing him crying and whining. Yesterdays day sleeps were much better - 1.5 hours x2 then 1 hour but then he was awake from 4pm to 6:30pm (not that long huh?) and only slept for 40mins then was awake for ages!! I offered a feed every hour but he didn't want to feed was just really unsettled and whingey. Finally he fed at 9:30pm and was asleep by 10:30pm.
Then he woke before 5am this morning (I fed him overnight in that time too) and he wouldn't re-settle after the feed like he normally does so he was up for a while and then in bed with DP and I for a while (something we have hardly ever done) and he slept for maybe 40mins. I fed him at 7:10am and he is still in there awake now and grumbling and crying every now and then. Given he's now been awake so long, he'll be overtired and won't sleep long when he finally does go down. What is wrong with him? What is wrong with me? I used to cope really well with his crying and grumbling, I just had patience and all of a sudden it's desserted me totally. I can't cope with any more than about 10mins at this point. There is no pattern to his sleeping - if I go out with him he may or may not have a good sleep when we get home, if he has good day sleeps he may or may not have a good night, if he has crap day sleeps he also may or may not have a good night. Sometimes he can get overtired and still sleep really well and other times he gets overtired and that's it, we're in the evil cycle from hell. I don't know what to do. He's not teething (I think), he's not constipated, he's loving his food and we're mainly giving him veggies and introducing one or two new things a day with the old stuff. He was still being wrapped but we're sacking that as of today - I was waiting until he had a decent day sleep routine happening but I've given up. He has rolled a few times on his own and summer is coming and I don't want to have him wrapped over summer. He has a lovey duck thing which he likes and the dummy. His bed is the same.
Anyway - sorry for the rant. Am feeling at a loss. I've had horrible thoughts about leaving DP with a tin of formula and booking myself into a hotel for a night just to sleep through myself. I'm sick of being so teary from feeling so tired all the time. The only thing stopping me is I'm worried that I wouldn't want to come back :crying: I feel like a terrible mum for thinking this stuff - please tell me it's normal?
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Just a quick one from me
Kaz and Malyna- :hug: you two do need a break. Its so hard having someone depend on you all the time.
Kaz- I am not sure about J's sleep. It jsut sounds so exhausting and you are not a bad mum for feeling the way you do right now. Make sure you tell DP how you feel. I have done the same thing with DD when I ahve had enough, I have just left her with DP and gone for a drive and told him to deal with her. Sometimes its the best thing as they arent going to settle with a stressed out mummy anyway. Do you think he is about to hit a developmental stage?? (ie, sitting, talking, rolling) I hope the other girls can be of more help to you. :hug: hun, you a good mum
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Kaz...Just popping in to give you a big hug....You are not a bad mum..just having a rough patch and you need a break even if it's just getting away for a couple of hours to do something for you..Not sure about the sleep advice, we are having a bit of trouble here too but have worked out some strategies with DH and we are following the same thing every night so L will get used the the consistency...I sat down one night with DH and said right we need to work together to sort this overnight stuff out and we came up with some stuff we would try.... like DH resettling first and that I won't feed anything less than 4 hours...also no co-sleeping...(we were doing a lot of that).. it seems to be working L getting better each night and only being fed twice in a 12 hour period..overnight he normaly wakes three times but DH deals with him if it's less than 4 hours...I know it's not sleeping through but that is our ultimate goal we are just making tiny step by step to reach the big goal...sorry for rambling..
Take care of yourself...Love Pinny
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Shell, nah Geelong don't have any injuries (damn lol!). Eek at your friend being preg already! Someone from my bellybuddies group (I was in the March group) is preg again with #2!! We won't be TTC until L is in prep :( I don't want to wait that long but it's practical!
Malyna, you are doing a fab job as it is. It's so hard especially when certain DP's/DH's do not do their fair share around the place (like mine!). I am just as unorganised and beyond exhausted but don't worry, our bubs don't love us any less! :hug:
Kaz, you are feeling totally normal!!! I have even told my mum about my feelings of buying a tin of forumla just in case I run away one day. It is really hard!! No mother is bad for feeling like this. It is so overwhelming having a baby who is so unsettled and grizzly all the time. Even today I was holding Leon and just cursing and asking him why he can't just sit still and keep quiet :redface: I feel like a zombie most times just pacing up and down with him because he will just crack it if I put him down or if I even sit down holding him. I always think "wtf do people do with their babies to keep them amused?!" L is just a grumpy little thing so I really feel your pain and frustration. Can your DH or relative/close friend mind J for even half a day so you can get some peace? :hug:
Ali, how are things going hun? How is Ash doing?
Pinny, it's good that you and DH have come up with a routine. Hope L sticks to it :)
AFM, well just like Kaz I feel like I'm going to flip too :doh: I am so looking forward to uni tonight - 3 hours without hearing and carrying around a whinging restless baby who not to mention is getting quite heavy now! I love him to bits and I know I signed up for all this when we dtd unprotected in June last year (:ROFL:) but it's so hard being the primary carer and having no respite!!!
Also, L has totally gone off solids. He was going really well for a week or two, but the last 3 days he hasn't wanted a bar or anything. He screws up his face, clamps his mouth shut, puts his hands in front of his mouth to block the spoon and turns his head away oh and makes this growling sound LOL. Not sure what this is all about?!?!?!?
Sighhh! He's cracking it right now in his swing in front of me lol. ARGHHH!!
Gotta go xox
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Ali, Kaz & Malyna - just want to send you all the biggest :hug: right now!
Kaz - I think it's a wonder week time for your Mr J so it could be that. That one is supposed to be particularly noticable as it is a big developmental time for them. Don't feel bad - I nearly cried this week when the creche at the gym said it would be shut as it means I don't get those 2 days where I get an hour to myself!
Ali - I hope you are all going ok and your DP is recovering.
Malyna - I'm disorganised too but I think that's why Miss J is getting a lot of new foods - I just give her whatever I can find in the fridge at any given time :redface:
Holly - how are you going with the uni work and keeping up with it all?
AFM - caught up with Jols at NaeNae's baby shower yesterday so Miss J and Miss M got to hang out. Miss J demonstrated her bottomless pit eating :lol: I took her for a swim today and she thought it was great and I enrolled her for lessons starting next term. I noticed while I was at the pool that tooth #4 is about to break through the gum so she will have 2 bottom and 2 top by the end of the week.
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Kaz - hun :hug: you know I've instigated a saturday morning sleep in. I feed Alex but then I go back to bed and DH gets him. Last sat, Alex had his bath and nappy free time and play time with DH and I got to sleep for 3 hours. Can you get DP to do something like this for you? There have been times when I've just handed Alex to DH and said "I need a break".
Your not a bad mum... at least you are realising that it's happening to you, and you need help.. Just tell DP that you need a night off - call in the relatives and take yourself away for some sleep or a massage or whatever it is that will help you deal.
Alex is crawling. He started last week and he's off and racing now.. its not an official crawl its a "I'm going to fling myself around until I get what i want" crawl... and he's shredding the yellow pages as I type.
Take care girls
:grouphug: Your all doing such a wonderful job... your all brilliant!!
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Tarkine- wow, do you find he is happier now he can move? Emily is so close she has moved like an inch or 2 forward but she gets so cranky if she can't reach what she wants so I'm hoping once she can get around she'll be happier.
Holly- he prolly such a booby juice man that solids just can't live up to it! Ash was like that. Its funny how after kids work/ uni anything like that become a welcome break from kids.
Ali- How is your hubby? Have the booked him into sugery yet? I hope you get the thugs that did it, to do something like that they may be known to police already.
Kaz- :hug: Don't feel bad about that, we all have times like that, plenty of times I've said to Df how I am going to live with a new family! It very well could be wonder week like mentioned, Emily was terrible few weeks back but atm has really settled (touch wood) so keep telling yourself its a phase and in the meantime take care of yourself, forget about housework, do minimal you need to do, get take away, get Dh to help out with things, take naps or lie down when J does.
I feel bad mentioning after Kaz's bad night but we've had breakthru's. 11hrs Em slept Fri night and 12hrs last night but from experience I know not to get too excited as anything can easily turn it back to crap. I think solids might be helping cause she is such a little piggy, loves it gets stropy if I'm too slow, she is so different to how Ash was.
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Shell - he's more like "woohooo, now I can get to everything I've ever wanted" I think what got him moving was having the laptop on the floor and him trying to reach it. he's now going from tummy on the floor to sitting up... and he's so alert, soaking up everything... he's figured out that the remote gets the TV to work, so he's always after the remote.
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KAZ hows your day been today?? hope mr is sleeping better for you :hug: i remember cracking it with sophie around the same age, she wouldnt sleep and id had enough, i was due at the hairdressers and i remember DH getting home to us both in tears, i literally threw sophie at him with a bottle of EBM and walked out, i had to :( i needed some time to myself, he fed her and gor her to sleep.
its normal to feel how you do, doesnt make it any easier though i know.
ALI how is angus going???? has he had surgery yet??? thinking of you both!
PINNY sounds like your nights are going well, i remember getting DH to settle sophie during the night too at some stage, she knew then she wasnt getting boob! see you and A and L tomorrow!
TARKINE wow crawling :o scary stuff!! hows DH going
HOLLY with the solids id just pop some finger food in front of him and see what happens if he wont eat dont stress!!
SHELL hope ashleigh had a great bday, sorry to hear maccas wasnt good :( seriously how hard is it for them to do a kids party :think:
awesome sleeping em!!
NAI was lovely seeing you and J as well! and boy can that girl eat :o she was close to drinking the food from the container herself, milllie had the mistake of puttingher fingers in J's mouth :lol: bad move!!
AFU millie had her 6 months vax today, did well then slept well, shes not wrapped from under the arms down, arms out but i wrap a blankie up with her, slept til 4.30am this morning, so that was nice!!
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Hi just popping in to say hi!
I think a few girls need a hug in here. I really hope the bubba's get on track with their sleeping.
Holly - E really isn't that in to solids. I am lucky to get a teeny tiny bit in to her. She only likes fruit,
Ali - Hows hubby?
Shell - I bet you are all geared up for the weekend. What are you doing on GF day?
Malya - wow! E still hates her tummy, so she won't be crawling any time soon (Just like her bother!)
AJP - You just reminded me - E's vax are now 1 month overdue. I better get into gear and do something about it. Just with everyone being so sick here, I sort of put it off.
Ok - lights out time for me.
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Hi everyone,
It's been rather quiet in here!
Nai, I'm just coping with the workload! I'm quite behind though :( J must look so cute with 4 teeth! Glad she took to the pool. When it gets warmer I'm going to do the same and if his skin is okay I'll enrol him in lessons!
Malyna, wow at the crawling!!! They are growing up too fast! LOL at shredding the yellkow pages :lol:
Shell, woohoo on the sleeps!! Fantastic news! Yeah I think L is too much of a boobie boy. It's just that he was so into solids at the beginning and now doesn't want a bar of anything :dunno: Are you doing swimming lessons with the girls? Anywhere local? All I can think of is waves but it's so chlorinated!!
AJP, yeah I might just offer him so finger food for him to munch on at his leisure. I won't stress too much over it! Glad M went well with her jabs and slept well too!
Megie, L hates being on his tummy too so I don't think he will crawl anytime soon. He can *just* roll from tummy to back and can't sit up yet so I'm hoping he's not going to be mobile in the near future! How is James?
AFM...a boohoo...our baby bonus has run out :doh: I was expecting a payment today but nothing came through so I checked how many payments we've got and we have reached the max. Nevermind, I guess now I have to reassess our budget!
I have a lot of catching up to do with uni work so I might be off the forums for a while. Hope you all have a good week! xox
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holly ours has finished too!!
with the finger food, millie is eating what we/sophie eat for tea!! she had spag bol the other night, vegies and sausage last night, i have to give the meat in very small pieces for her to pick up and eat otherwise she gags on it, but so far so good, she will only eat off the spoon is she can hold it and do it herself, so i have to hold one arm and she helps with her other hand to shove it in her mouth, i still hold the spoon as well. tonight were having roast chicken and vegies so she'll have the same!
she slept til 5am this morning, themn only napped on and off til 7am, then went back down at 8.30 for a grand total of 20 mins :doh:
meg millies vax were late too due to her been sick, hows J and DH going?
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Thanks girls. :grouphug: I should stay away from the internet when I'm feeling like I was the other day. :redface:
Nai - I just got my wonderweek book back from a mate and I think you could be right. He is so much more aware that we can leave him.
Shell - Don't feel bad hun - that's awesome sleeps you're getting and you so deserve it cause you've had a rough trot in the past with Em. Hope it continues for you!
Tarkine - whoohoo on the crawling! Go A!!!
Pinny - Thanks for your thoughts. I hope that you're still seeing improvement. I kind of took your advice last night and instead of feeding J at 5:30 (only 3 hours since last feed) I just sat in his room. He cried and fussed for 10mins but then put himself back to sleep and all I did was re-insert the dummy once!!! Might be onto something so ta.
Ali - been thinking of you and DP heaps darl. Hope the surgery went well. Take care xoxoxo.
AFM - Things have slightly improved since yesterday and last night he went down at 7pm, fed at 10:30pm, 2:30am, I waited him out at 5:30am and he slept til nearly 7:30am. Don't mind feeding him once or twice overnight but any more feels a bit ridiculous. It's also the constant napping and inability to self settle after the first day sleep and being really tired but not sleeping, fighting sleep and then crying for ages that does my head in. Oh well. We've all been there I know. I feel a bit silly that we're still having day sleep issues, like I should have been onto it sooner rather than just waiting for him to improve on his own. I actually went and weighed him yesterday cause I was starting to think he was maybe hungry but he feeds 2 hourly for half the day! I've just called Tresillian actually to get their view on his routine so I have lots of food for thought now!!
On a positive note, he has been rolling heaps in the last couple of days and can purposefully do it now without needing to follow a toy. Just does it on his own when he's sick of being on his tummy.
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It has been pretty quiet in here but I'm guilty of just not being able to type and just reading the posts :redface:
We went to the Melbourne Show yesterday from 9.30 - 3.30 so we were all shattered last night (pics on FB for those who are on). I went to the cry baby session at the movies this morning with playgroup to see Young Victoria. It was really nice then we went out for lunch afterwards.
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I really want to see young Victoria. I didn't think they were running cry baby during school hols.
Fergie produced the movie, and either Beatrice or Euginie are in the movie at some point. Fergie is obsessed with Queen Vic, in fact both her kids are named after Queen Vics daughters
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Hi girls just a quick one. Going to have to come back later and re-read everything as life is a bit of a whirlwind at the moment (kind of like the weather in Sydnay today! Wasnt it strange Kaz!).
Thankyou for all thinking of us. :grouphug:
Kaz- the beautiful flowers you sent are on our coffee table and DP and I just love them. Really helps to brighten up the place and our lives. I hope J's sleep has gotten better.
DP still hasnt had the surgery. We go in tomorrow to meet with the surgeon. It is quite extensive surgery so it scares me a little but I think I am in a bit of denial at the moment and DP and ma jsut trying to cope by being busy.
We are thinking of making a formal police report and maybe going to court. Just trying to weigh up a few things at the moment. Cant really say much in the open forums bit as probably need to be careful what I say.
Will let you guys know what the surgeon says tomorrow. Poor DP though, all the cruises on his face have gone a purple/yelloewy colour and look terrible :(
My diet has gone out the window and I am jsut eating anything and everything. I am such an emotional eater! grrr!
Ashlyn is coping quite well. Not having day sleeps at all the last few days but last night she went 7pm until 5:30am without a feed. She woke once but I was tooo tired to get up for her and then she went back to sleep! Happy about that.
Thinking of you all. :grouphug:
