Babies born October 1st - 15th 2008 #4

Well my perfect baby yesterday is still being perfect. I woke him at 8pm last night to feed him, put him back to bed at 9pm & he woke me at 5.40am by cooing & ga ga'ing. I would of left him till he cried but DH is working arvo shifts so he didn't get to bed till 1am & BJ would've woken him up. So I decided to get up & feed him. He only took a small feed again, then we played & he went back down at 7am. So I managed to get my bathroom clean! We have swimming lessons this morning. I love how it tires him out.

About the rolling... Remember when BJ was rolling at a ridiculously young age??? Well, he's gotten too fat & stopped rolling. I think it's cause he's real bottom heavy (like his mummy) & it's too hard for him to flip. Weird aye. I still do the rolling with him, everyday, though he's just not interested in doing it himself. I tell ya, he's gonna be a little character that's for sure.

SAMI What do you mean by FF to 7am? What does FF mean? BTW I don't buy Milo cause I KNOW I will have scoops of it on my ice cream. I LOVE milo on ice cream

TANYA How'd you go last night putting her to sleep? Did you get some ice cream?

BELFIE No, it's not wrong to put those comments together, anything goes here on BB

HOLLYE How's your sweat soup tasting?? Lol

TERU Congrats on the roll. It's such a good feeling when you see your little one make a milestone isn't it

Ok, off to shower

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KATONES Another bub? Wow, how many do you plan to have? Gosh, 2 is definately my limit
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will try for one more...is that OK?? my older 2 don't live with me..and DH & i only have the 1

Georgi - sorry hun - fast forward lol

Georgi - Yep finally got her to go sleep at 10.45pm! And then I went and had a well deserved ice-cream (and yep with ice magic too!). As for movies - I thought about going a couple of weeks ago and also saw they aren't on till the school hols finish. So I assume they start again in the next couple of weeks?! As for short feeds - Maya also has some short feeds. Does BJ feed longer in the afternoon or evenings? Maya has quicker feeds in the mornings (when my supply is greater) and longer feeds in the evenings (when my supply is lower). I'm not worried at all cos I think in the mornings she's prob getting the same amounts as in the evenings - just at a quicker rate. :)

BBL - Gonna have a shower and get dressed!

SAMI Lol.. Thanks

KATONES Of course that's ok:lol: I didn't realise the older 2 didn't live with you. Oh, I see. Not that there's anything wrong with having more than 3. I just take my hat off to anyone who battles more than 3 kids. Jack definately needs a play sibling

TANYA BJ might have a longer feed at night when he's really tired but only occaisionally. He's definately not getting enough, I can tell. I'm not TOO concerned as he's still in the 75th percentile for his corrected age but I'm really hoping he gets over it soon

Is anyone else's bub getting a flat head? BJ sleeps with his head turned to the left & has a bit of a flat head there. I decided yesterday to start sleeping him on his side during the day. I have a wedge that keeps him in place. Maybe that's why he has been sleeping so well. I haven't had to re settle him at all.

He did great at swimming again today. The instructor can't believe how well he kicks his legs when he is passed under water. The other babies his age don't kick their legs at all. Hmmm, maybe I have the next Ian Thorpe on my hands.

I had some old bananas in my pantry so have put together some banana & cinnamon muffins. They smell sooooo good

PP - Did you try expressing before the morning feed? I didn't do it this morning cos I was tired and it's hot again today! And Maya did 3 big spews afterwards. She never spews so it was a bit of a shock. I think it would be from too much milk shooting down her throat!

As for work: I didn't know how much maternity leave to take (I can have up to 7 years off!). I decided to put down Jan 2010 for going back. I thought I'd love being a SAHM, but TBH I'm not really enjoying it and I feel like I'm the only mother who doesn't enjoy it. :( I love Maya so much!! But I still find it so hard. I still have no idea what to do with her when she's awake and TBH I'm bored with the sameness of every day! I am so used to every day being totally different and never knowing what might happen. I also really miss adult company. I am basically on my own with Maya every weekday from 8am-ish till 6-7pm-ish.

I feel like I'm being such a terrible mum for her at the moment cos I am just not enjoying it and all I want to do is be able to put her down to sleep or to play. But to put her down to sleep I still have to rock her to sleep. Plus I still don't know what her tired signs are! So I just go by how long she's been up for (1 1/2 to 2 hours).. which may or may not be enough awake time for her. So I'm prob either putting her down when she's still happy being awake or over tired! And as for putting her down to play - she doesn't last long on her own plus I feel guilty that I'm not entertaining her and talking to her.

No one comes to visit me and I can't visit anyone cos she hates being in the car! So I feel trapped at home. And at the moment I don't want to even go for our daily walk cos it's ridiculously hot outside - so I really am stuck at home. I don't have any routine at all and I don't know what kinds of activities I can do with her.

What do you do with your babies when they are awake? I feel like I should be talking to her more than I do. I swear she doesn't smile as much as she used to. I think maybe she's picking up on the fact that I'm not happy. :( But I have no idea what to do! I love her to bits and I want her. But I don't want to be with her on my own ALL THE TIME! I want to be able to get out and do things. But when I take her to the shops any time I stop to look at anything she starts crying. I feel like I can't go out for a coffee, shop, library, anything. Just long walks. And at home I try and do some exercise with her, read to her a bit, give her a rattle to play with, do a little tummy time, put her in her rocker sometimes when she's happy to be there, walk around with her, and yet there are still so many hours to fill and I'm out of ideas on what to fill them with.

It's funny though cos I do think about having more kids.. so obviously it's not all bad. But I think it'll be when Maya's a lot older!

I think I'm just not a 'natural' mum. :( Which is what I thought I'd be. And I feel guilty and sad that I'm not enjoying it like I thought I would and that I just feel at a loss nearly all the time as to whether she's tired, hungry, etc and what to do with her when awake?! And I am bored and tired of having to entertain her, feed her, everything for her all the time, when all I want is time to myself - which just makes me feel even less like a good mother and more guilty. :( I think I really need some time to myself though!

hmmm.. prob can tell.. I'm feeling extra down today. :( But have been feeling this way for a while now. It seems to be getting worse though. :(

And she's awake again!

well Jack seems to be pooing every 2nd day now..although i thought before he was constipated AGAIN..so used a suppositry and turned my back for afew seconds...and there was a mountain of poo everywhere!!!! on his legs feet, up his back...charming...and it was mr whippy consistancy (sorry girls TMI!!) sooo definatly NOT constipated :D
Tanya hun you are a good mum...just takes abit of getting used to...I have relaxed alot more which in turn has relaxed Jack alot :) I have only just figured out his little things.."when he is tired (signs etc) daddy has burping him down pat (when he is home) It takes time hun..you'll get there.

Itsme - i dont have alot of time his arvo :rolleyes: BUT I wanted to let you know what you feel is perfectly normal. I still feel some it even with my third. I really miss "me" time - i don't mean packing up and leaving home for the day - I mean 30 mins, just me and a book with no distractions - the mental drain of being "switched on" all the time is enormous - that's why I too love going to work - I get to think about me, me, me - can go to the toilet by myself, drink a coffee whilst it's hot and say the bad word for poo if I want :lol:

Zander is a bit easier to entertain as such cos I have the other two - just talk, even if you are cooking, doing dishes etc - and reserve some special floor playtime when she has your undivided attention and it is FUN. That way, she knows she gets time with you, but sometimes has to watch you as well.

I feel a bit opposite than you sometimes in that I feel guilty I don't do enough play or as much as i did with the other kids cos I have the others to feed, clothe, brush teeth, tell off (:)), get out of the house - drag around to and from school - I think how boring it must seem for him!

She is now at the age where she will enjoy sitting on your knee singing silly songs - Zander loves (now this will sound very silly :redface:) - I say tick tock goes the clock, and I have hold of his waist in a seated position on my legs and move him from side to side - he cracks up every time .... yes we are weird :ROFL: Twinkle twinkle - they will love the finger movement - Z is just starting to twinkle his own fingers, roly poly and movng their arms round & round - that type of thing.

I have to go, get some dinner organised - DH away still until tomorrow night - i am sure some of the other girls will give you some of their treasure bits too.

Tanya - i am with sami. As i have another.. i often let the 2 play together. E thinks A is just fab lol!!

Otherwise when we get 1 on 1 time, we will play tickles or peek a boo and he loves to be sung to and it doesnt matter what i sing! lol

More than anything he just loved eye contact.

But i hear you on feeling isolated. I am having issues now that with 2 it is even harder. Since we moved to brisbane in march last year, fitting into a mothers group is hard. all my friends are single and my family arent close to me here. I keep trying to meet new people though. :)

Well Expressing no... i didnt before this mornings feed. He did a huge poo at 2am, and then took a few hours to settle so i threw him on at 4am.. he did fine.

Did have a spew today though, but i fed him laying down.. so there you go.

I almost just went screw this and got the formula out, then my conscious got the better of me and i kept with the boob :(

Tanya - Big:hug: your way. You know what I miss just me and hubby talking and relaxing.

Cathie

Well it happened!
I opened the tin...!! lol

Ethan only took 50ml... mmm so not sure what that means. will try tonight a little more

(ashley drinks the left overs so nothing is wasted hehehe).

Cathie - i have no idea what hubby and me time is.. i am actually going to see if my parents can babysit and we pop out to see marley and me on monday or tuesday.....

we went out last night PP left the kids with MIL and went to the club for dinner...
chinese/coffee afterwards with cake... made me feel like a real person again..and time alone with hubby..although we did ring twice to see how Jack was doing :)

lol my parents are only visiting for 2 days lol (they live 600km away)... i will have to be subtle lol

Well Ethan just took 120ml formula and no spew yet... fingers crossed. DH doesnt know yet

yeah I know pink try having 5 children, But I would'nt have it any other way. My choice.

Cathie

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lol my parents are only visiting for 2 days lol (they live 600km away)... i will have to be subtle lol

Well Ethan just took 120ml formula and no spew yet... fingers crossed. DH doesnt know yet

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I'm with you again PP - no family here - and when we do see them no-one ever offers - maybe we should be pushy too.

And re DH doesnt know yet - what does that mean - is he gunna be cranky or just surprised or something?

must say i do miss 'us' times but wouldnt have it any other way. just waiting on the day when our kids (we're planning on 5) grow up then we can have all the 'us' times we want :D it wouldve been nice to have do alot more with DP before the baby, but even if i could, i wouldnt change it any other way

Thanks girls. I'm feeling a bit better after getting all that off my chest. Plus I had a good cry this afternoon which helped! Oh and I decided to sign up for mums and bubs yoga which starts next Tuesday! Hopefully that will be OK! And it'll give me something extra to do each week and maybe meet some other mums. :)

Yeah I miss hubby and me time too.. as well as just me time. I had a big talk to DH tonight about all of this and he took Maya out with him while he goes picks up some take away for dinner. So now I feel like I'm having some me time. :)

As for us time, we'd need someone to babysit to have that! And even though Maya now drinks from a bottle she won't always take it and also she's afraid of everyone cos she never sees anyone!

Sorry - selfish post.

OMG HE ROLLED OVER! He was having a super chat in his cot this arvo... then started shrieking more than chatting... he'd flipped onto his tummy!!!!!!

And then he had a huge laughing session... well more of a snort-laugh-giggle-snort laugh. It was hilarious!!!!

Tanya :hug:

BBL if my PC allows... :rolleyes: