P.S. I don't feel old, I got asked for ID SIX times at the one place!!! LOL - I think having a baby made me look younger!
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P.S. I don't feel old, I got asked for ID SIX times at the one place!!! LOL - I think having a baby made me look younger!
LP, I can imagine that 0 to 3 kids in a matter of months would cause a bit of strain. Glad you got a bit of time to yourselves and hope that it settles down for you when the school routine starts up.
Sherie, I guess part of it is that DD1 was brought up pretty much like an only child until now, she relates to the world as an only child and being pretty extroverted she has often felt lonely as a result. The age gap is now so big that E will also spend a lot of her childhood "like" an only child (H will be off doing teenagery things) and that just seems like a shame really. I guess I want both of them to grow up with some sense of sibling closeness - not sure if that's dependent on age closeness or not. Plus I'm just clucky as hell - she's soooooo gorgeous and it's terrible to think that it will end, four months have just raced past and then that will be it - no more babies! EVER! But I'm realistic enough about the demands of small children, I find the toddler years particularly draining & challenging. But like I said to DH, we can't really say we've chosen to have 2 chn if we haven't really considered what having 3 chn would be like.
Arte - DH is not keen to have another but I could talk him around ;). He's worried about the effect on my health mostly.
ETA - got distracted and missed a few posts, I'm supposed to be working this morning but it's like grand central station in here, I'm just enjoying the family time right now! LP - yay on your night out, sounds like it came at a really good time for you...I have the opposite problem, I *never* got asked for my id even when I was barely 18 - maybe I just look wise beyond my years LOL or more likely DH has a theory the bouncers don't ask if you've got really big knockers cos there's no time for them to get that big if you're underage (!) ROFL. IDK what goes on in men's heads, I don't think I want to know either sometimes...
Hayley, that's great that you got to go out. Its so nice to just do adult things and have adult company sometimes. as much as we love our kids, it's OK to want to be *just* an adult again. With the brought baby food, they have such a high water content, that even if you leave it in the fridge for a while, it goes really watery, so I imagine that would happen if you freeze it? Maybe try it with one jar and see what happens?
Noni, yay for the bugman working LOL. It must have been so annoying. And I only said I thought about it all LOL.
Marydean, its a tough call to know how things will pan out when they are older. I'm not particularly close to any of my siblings and never have been, despite there only being an 8yr gap between myself and my sister (with my brothers in between) and with our youngest brother (half) there is 17yrs between he and I, so we aren't that close either. You might find that they get closer as they get older - H will be the one E goes to to talk girly things she might not be able to talk to you about (because we are parents and soooo daggy LOL) so they will have a bond, but it just may not be as kids kwim? I often wonder how the boys will go, being so far apart in age but only time will tell. I can totally understand your logic behind it all.
Thanks Sherie, That makes sence - I'll have a go... in a few months... LOL
MD ~ I grew up like an only child & i have to say the only time it bothered me was when i had no one to go on rides with at amusement parks or have fun with on holidays, I had alot of really close friends always at my house as a kid though. My sister is 10 years older then me & we're best friends... She made a massive effort to keep close to me though, even when she was going through all the teenage years, moved out of home, had her own family & all that so i guess if she didn't we wouldn't be so close. DF & Bil are also 10 years apart & we make a huge effort to include him in our lives so the bond is still there.
Thanks Sherie and LP - You're both right. I agree LP it goes to how much effort you put in, doesn't it (as well as how good you are at loving unconditionally!) We were just sitting around doing a jigsaw when i suddenly realised I have *no memory* at all of my parents ever playing with us kids. I know my mum organised a playgroup when we were little but after my parents split up she was just flat out earning a living and keeping the house going. After that I think she was just horribly burnt out. Anyway I've been in other families where they enjoy each others company and do stuff together and it's a very different family bond.
Realistically I'd have to say that if we had another it would shortchange H (in terms of how much of my time and attention she would then get) in favor of E having another little playmate. Because their needs are so different when they're spaced that far apart. Doesn't really seem fair when you put it like that!
Hey all!! *wave* MD - we're on at the same time! Yup, I was reading but not posting as it's been a pretty hectic week - lots more waaaa for some reason. She's been really unsettled for several days, whoch could be the heat combined with a growth spurt. I am second-guessing our "routine" (not that we have one, it's just the way things have panned out): she sleeps from 10-12 until 6-7am, feeds then returns to sleep until 9/10am. This means I slump back into unconsiousness without having a shower or breakfast and then it's all go from when she next wakes. Am wondering if we should be getting her up at the early wake and putting her to bed earlier... I just would liek to avoid the 4am wakes again. Am not v confident trying to manipulate her sleeps - I just want to do what is right for her adn I am gfeeling liek a criminal shoving the dummy in so I can get an extra 45 mins sleep myself, even though it works... I have also had an awful off-and-on bout of nausea. I was beginning to wonder if it was morning sickness, but hey, to be pregnant one kinda has to have had sexual contact :cryinglaugh: so phew for that!
LP you are doing a fantastic job. I am in awe of you!
Hi Gracie, your coffeetable sounds great
Hi Sherie *wave* is the "green green grass" location true or sarcastic? Any rain? How are you all holding up with the hot weather up there?
Is a bumbo/bebepod similar to a rocker?
Gettign a bit stressed about chldcare - have only just put in a request for my return to Uni later in the year. Have I left it too late????
Arte how did your open house go? Bet you had it looking fantastic!
Days ago I meant to say HAPPY ANNIVERSARY CALLY!! Yay for the January wedding! sorry these congrats come late!
It was our anni on Friday - and I was completely stunned; DH handed me a bag with 2 boxes from Tiffany's containing matching earrings & necklace to commemorate 5 yrs & the birth of our first child. Wow. As you can imagine I was speechless.
Oh - and the big knockers thing - not sure it always holds, I'm convinced some of them ask for ID so they get an extra few seconds to perve at your norgs.
MD - so you're not sending DH to the vet just yet? I love the idea of another MD junior running around... not putting any pressure on, but remember that decisions are sometimes made to be challenged...
on a similar topic, ladies, how long will you/did you all wait before you had your second child?
Queeeeeeeeenie darlink! Yes we're online at the same time!!!
Don't fret about your childcare place, just ring them up frequently and tell them nicely what you need and I'm pretty sure a place will come up. I have only ever heard of one instance of a colleague who couldn't find childcare when needed (it was in Darwin) but she was the sort of person who complained incessantly without being very resourceful in finding solutions so maybe that was the reason? Good to be on a waiting list now though.
Wow about the jewellery, someone sure loves you a lot (and knows the way to his lovely wife's heart)! :D Try not to fret too much about a routine, although if you always feel like you're hopping around on the back foot in the mornings it can help to get (yourself) up with an alarm clock - even if it seems like a crime when bubs is still sleeping, you get a better jump on the day and it can lead to an increased sense of being in control (LOL even though it's probably only an illusion :cryinglaugh:)!
DH still scheduled to see the Vet in late in March - that's why it's come up.
Queenie, I only see egg-blue boxes in my dreams *sigh*. The reference is actually true LOL. It is very green around here, even if it is only heliotrope weed LOL. So there is water water everywhere ATM. If you feel like you *need* that extra 45 minutes then do it - I do and not for one second do I feel guilty. Sometimes I do get up though and get a head start on the day before everyone wakes (I am loving these holiday sleep ins the kids are having ATM). I'm always a night showering person though since I had kids LOL. can you put her down at her feed before the one where she goes down at 10ish? (clear as mud? ;) ) and then use the 10pm feed as a dream feed and see how she goes then? If she isn't sleepy then don't worry about it. It's probably not easy ATM with the hot weather and yes, she would be having her 3mth growth spurt to just to add to the fun.
hello all :)
decided that relactation is not going to be the way to go for us.. done alot of soul searching and well Asha is happy and healthy and i dnt want to go through the stress of everything it takes to relactate when i could stress her and myself out.. if down the track i have another baby i will revisit path of breastfeeding and hopefully have more success if it is what i want at the time..
with all the anxiety i have atm anyway it probably would have slowed milk production as it is.. this upcoming plane trip has me in a spin.. before nz id never been on a plane and i was nervous and had a little tummy upset but nothing major.. this time i feel utterly beside myself with fear of getting on the plane to the point where i sometimes find myself thinking of excuses to tell my friend so we dont go... the flights are booked and although insured i even sometimes think even if we dont get the money back i dont care.. thats how bad it really is... the dr has perscribed me some valium for the day but i worry if i start taking it now it can become addictive so trying to wait till the flight i dnt know whats wrong with me its terrible!!!
Asha tried some apple today and she liked it :) think i need to boil it before pureing it next time though so the texture is nicer she didnt seem to mind though lol..
sherie - ditto i shower once asha has gone to bed for the night lol so much easier
md - as has been said i think the girls will have a nice relationship when they are older with E being able to go to H and talk about boys etc etc etc :)
queenie - i put the dummy in for extra sleep because if i do it she goes back to sleep and she wouldnt sleep if she wasnt tired so i figure i am not only doing myself a favour but i am doing her one too so she wont be grumpy and tired later :)
lp - well done on adult time i cant even begin to imagine what its like for you with how much youve taken on ur a superwoman and deffinately deserve all the adult time you can get!!!
Noni I heard it is bedt to boil the fruit before trying to puree it. Glad Asha is enjoying her food. I think it was great of you to even consider relactating, with the next baby you will have a better idea of how it works and will be able to get the support you need.
Queenie wow are'nt you spoilt, sounds like you have a wonderful DH. Dont feel bad trying to get soem extra sleep, if thats what you need then do it. I bring Logan into bed with me of a morning so I can try and get soem extra sleep. We all do what we need to. RE bub number two, DH and I are talking about trying once Logan has turned one.
MD what a tough decision you have in front of you, I am sure you will come to the right conclusion. My two sisters are only 18 months apart with 4 and 5 years between myself and them, they were always closer growing up and shared the same friends but we are now best friends and very close.
LP glad you had a good night. You are doing such an amazing job, my hat goes off to you... I dont think I could take on what you have.
Arte we have been using the crawler size nappies for a while now.
Hayley we were going to get a Bumbo while they are on special, but not sure how much I will use it. I prop him up on pillows when he is on the floor and we are going to buy a high chair that straps to normal dining chair soon so he can sit with us while we eat.
Had a melt down last night, Logan didnt sleep yesterday and was so over it by 5pm. I had to put him in his cot and let him cry a little while I composed myself. Then had a massive blow put with DH and again had to compose myself before making up with him. Have had a great day today though, we blew up Logans pool and sat in there and let him tire himself out. It was so nice to see the sunshine, they have predicted rain agian this week, I am begining to feel so trapped at home. Better go and have a shower and an early night. Hope everyone had a great weekend.
Oz - Hope that Logan slept well last night for you. If you are going mental trapped in the house all the time just let me know and we could meet up if you want. I don't mind driving down to the GC, the only day I am busy is Wednesdays.
Morning all :)
S was sooo sleepy, She went to bed at like 3pm yesterday (after sleeping most the day anyway) then she woke up at 7am this morning & has just gone back to sleep!
Tying up the school shopping today, getting furkid's stitches out & going to go to the beach if by the time i've finished everything it's not too hot for the kiddies.
Argh! You all made me want a bumbo but i've decided to stop buying things for Scarlet that will only last her a short time - She's just growing way too fast & has way too much stuff. I'm sure she wont mind though.
Noni ~ Good on you anyway for trying the relactation, I know how bad it can feel sometimes - not BF'ing, I think about it heaps but one of the plus sides of not getting my milk in is DF feels closer to Scarlet because he can feed her too :) How on earth did you puree un-cooked apples? lol
Arte ~ We've been in crawlers for a while now too & Scarlet is almost in a size 0, I can't believe how fast they grow!
Katie ~ :hugs: Sorry about your melt down, It's hard to feel trapped inside all the time. Did Logan like his pool? It's a bit bright for Scarlet, even in the shade - I think we need some little sunnies for her.
Better go grab a quick shower, Have a great day everyone.
LP Logan has baby bands sunnies, he doesnt seem to mind them and looks adorable in them. He loved the pool, although it was a little cold at first.
Arte, meeting up sounds awesome. I would love to meet little Will (and yourself of course lol).
The sun is our for now so I better go and hang some washing out, bet it rains as soon as the last peg is on.
Morning Ladies,
LP- Olivia is the same she was sleepy yesterday and was a little restless last night but woke this morning around 7am and she is now sleeping again.
Well I have to clean the house today and the boys are pulling everything out after me. Now I just want to sit on the lounge and not move.
Hello to all and have a great day
lp-lol i just put it in the blender food processor thingo n it was fine it was pretty nice actually
those of you that are married if u dnt mind me asking how much did u spend on ur reception?? dp and i are looking down the marriage path (just at a registery as i have said before we dnt agree with the whole ceremony thing) and then a ****taily reception somewhere nice hopefully in the mountains.. we are looking at about 40ppl i think but i am wondering how much it will all cost.. i know parents traditionally pay and maybe i will talk to my mum but i feel kinda slack u know ?
Hey LP! I thought of you the other day when I saw a Littlepixie number plate haha :)
Hayley (I think it was you...im so lost with all the posts right now) - I hear you on the little tiffs! DH and I have been having lots of stupid tiffs! Life couldnt be better at the moment but yet we still argue! ARGH!
Ozstar - Where did you get the sunnies from???
Sherie - Christmas was great thanx. Did you have it at your house or did you visit family?? We had it at our house this year EEK! We had everything set up outside but because it was so hot everyone just stayed in the lounge room. It was soooo packed....but cosy LOL! Did you see the photo on facebook? We are like tin sardines :)
DH and I arethinking about booking a holiday to Phuket next week for some time together. Would we be the worst parents in the world if we left ROry with my mum for 5 days??? We have been so undecided. I know Rory will be fine because he never cries, sleeps through the night (even in strange places) and he adores his nanny and poppy. But i dont know if its the right thing to do when he is 11 months? Guys whats your honest op? DH and I really need some couple time.
Well Rory is asleep. I better mop the floors and jump into the shower. Its 11:34am and I havent even got out of my PH's HAHA
Renee I got the sunnies at a normal sunglasses shop, they are made by the cancer council. I dont think it would be slack of you at all to leave Rory. Having some time just the two fo you sounds nice and in my opinion having a break can ponly make you a better parent (less stressed etc). So I say go for it.
Noni my reception was about $80 per head and included everything. Ring around or even jump on some websites and have a look whats out there some are really expensive just check what they include like a DJ, table setting, chair covers etc.