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Buffy - hmmm sorry no advice from me... I'm totally fresh at this parenting gig. You must be really exhausted you poor thing. Its easy to tell yourself to go with the flow alot harder to follow through when your sleep deprived. Good on you for being game and hitting the shops. I attempted a grocery shop today (usually do them online), boy did that end in tears and a dash to the mummies room to feed the little poppet. Yahoo for better head control! Does Willow like tummy time? Do you do it every day? Were a bit slack with tummy time. Needles are not fun... For bub, Mum or Dad. Yep tried the sling for day sleeps and sometimes it's a hit sometimes it's a miss, she mainly prefers the sling when I'm walking/moving round the house - not resting the little bugger. I'm sure when she's older I'll wish for these days again. It really is such a small window in time.
Fuzzywuzzy - wow your DD is late to bed isn't she. Do you spend most of your night trying to settle her? He he sorry I had to laugh at the shower poo explosion. At least you were in the right spot to clean up. Uni, Exercise, Dance & a newborn, I think you deserve a bravery medal :) . How are you coping with Uni? Ok really glad I don't buy a baby bjorn- thank you. Ergo sounds the goods, especially how much weight it can go carry. What swing do you use at home if you don't mind me asking? I've thought about buying one of those aswell.
How's everyone dealing on the domestic front... Cooking, cleaning etc? I manage most of the time to get the housework done on a Sunday when DH is home, he offers to do it but I quite like to clean. Dinner usually resembles something edible most nights... I find I have to do it in stages though, usually with DD in the sling while I chop and peel veggies then later I pop her down when she is happy & awake for as long as she will tolerate while I do the hot stuff. Which often gets burnt as she cracks it half way.
Wishing you all lots of sleep tonight...let tonight be the night one little munchkin in this group sleeps through :)
Sent from my iPhone... Probably while feeding our poppet.
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Hi Mylitta.. You posted while I was typing. Thank you for the tips on the carriers. It seems I've got a bit of research to do :) . That's really cool to know, I love hearing/reading about the reasons babies present certain behaviors. They are amazing little creatures aren't they. I'm so glad your DS is a good little sleeper & did it all by himself. Must have been from all the positive reassuring you offered him when he wanted those cuddles.
Sent from my iPhone... Probably while feeding our poppet.
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rosey - it's so rough when they're not sleeping well, isn't it! and while those snuggles are just beautiful, it can also be wonderful to have some time alone with your own body, and some sleep ... first, make sure you're on top of all of their tired cues, so you can get them prepared for their sleep *before* they are too tired ... this is the first thing I'd be concentrating on ... if you're already doing that, then by all means, find out whether there is actually something specific upsetting your LO when laying down (like silent reflux, or gas) and whether there's anything you can do to help (like gripe water, or raising the head end of their cot to make a nice gentle angle, or tailoring your diet if you might be eating something which is giving them a sore tummy or painful wind) ... you can also try different things of course, like a baby rocker or glider (ours was an absolute God send with DS1, who would happily sleep it it for hours at a time with a gentle steady rock, angle, and some sweet repetitive music on ...) or hammock or whatever ... try different things, to see if any help ... try a deep warm bath followed by a massage ... try different combinations of wrapping and singing and soothing and feeding in dimply lit rooms ... try getting them more natural light during "awake" periods, without overly stimulating before nap time ... just keep trying different things until you find something that works. and ultimately, you might find that you then have lots of tools in your belt, ready and available for you to use - or you might find out that being held is the only thing that works! and then you figure out how to make that work for you ;) But you'll find little things which help along the way - like for me, changing the nappy half way through the feed helps, so they're nice and drowsy and milk drunk from the second half of the feed when it's time for cuddles and the next lie down ... etc ... just find what works for you and them, and go with that :)
As for your Q re housework, DH is a SAHD and so he does a crapload of the housework. But when I'm home without him, after DS2's first feed, he normally goes down for at least an hour and DS1 will play reasonably happily by himself with a bit of supervision - so that's when I get all the laundry, dishes, and kitchen organised. Sometimes though, realistically, that's the only serious housework that gets done, depending on the kids. If the boys have a nice simultaneous nap, I can get 2-3 hours worth of serious housework done - the bathrooms, the general pick up, gardening, cooking up batches of hearty meals to pack away for lunches ... but if they're not sleeping at the same time, then realistically I am playing with them, teaching them, taking them outside, singing and dancing and bathing and feeding ... sometimes you can get housework done at the same time, but don't bank on it! I'm a very organised person, I'm a very clean person, but I can handle clutter ... piles of paper and books and so forth are not "mess" in my house ... they are life. But DH and I agree on what the priorities are, and between us, they get done consistently and well and often. So my view personally is have a chat, decide what the standard you're both happy with - and can maintain - is, and go from there.
sloane - done ;)
elocin - it's official! you have a baby!! woot!!
buffy - thanks, hun. I've only technically been back at work one day!! I got a lot done though, and I gather I'm very missed by my team which is nice :) but I need to get back ... but first, I need to get better. yay for head control!! DS2 is still working on this one - total opposite of DS1 who had neck control literally from birth!! result seems to be that DS2 is not very fond of tummy time, though ... DH and I need to persist more on that front ... with pushing the sleeps back later, have you tried getting her up for some skin-on-skin and cluster feeds a bit later? just a thought ... may or may not work for you! And ah, Costco ... I remember being there with a very young DS1 and he was having a bit of a booby day! Thank goodness for strategically placed display furniture ... I'm sure that's what it's there for, breastfeeding mothers, yes? ;)
fuzzy - hello there, girl!! DS2 is closer to yours - feeding around 10-12pm and meaning that we're in bed late, too ... I think I need to start just going to bed whenever he does ... it might be the only way I get some sleep! Good on you for keeping up with your uni, Ms Superwoman!! And the gym!! Make sure *you* don't get Glandular, though ... please don't overdo it :hug: And expressing is awesome. Get it into you, if you can ;) I've only just got back to the gym and exercise etc (I walked 2.5km today though, outside, which was totally lovely) but I don't see myself getting back into uni for a while ... I finished one course before DS1, and I can continue it to get another degree which would be really good, but it's Just. So. Time. Consuming.
bedtime for me now :bedtime:
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sloane: hasn't come through ... there must be two of us! want to PM me your details, and I'll add you?
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Anyone treated thrush in bubs and nips? Skye, think I remember you may have had it...? Gah.
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Nilstat drops for bub, daktarin gel for your nipples, broad spectrum fungal cream for when it comes out on her bum.
YouPoor bugger, it.sucks!
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Well my theory on Addison having longer more regualr naps has worked, she's having more happy awake time and gracing us with the most beautiful big smiles!!! i was starting to worry as she didnt really smile much, except in her sleep!
Does anyone elses bub love having their hands clapped together?
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Rosey- there are some great advise and ideas been given already, tough trying to work out which one is going to work for you but anythings worth trying isnt it. trying to get bub settled before she gets too tired cause once they get over tired its so much harder to calm them down. on average a bub between 6wks-3months will have 1- 1 1/2hrs awake time so if you can start getting her ready to have a snooze before that time it might help? looking at things like awning, more jerky movements with her arms and legs etc.
peanutter- so glad its not glandular fever and hope you feel better soon
buffy- i hope the trush clears quickly how horrible for you both. as for sleeping patterns, i guess ive resided to the fact that Ryker's fussy period is gonna happen no matter what and lucky that its in the early even and not middle of the night.(even thouse its still a sucky time cause its dinner/shower/bed time etc) but because of this fact he only has small cat naps and hardly sleeps between 4-8pm but then he seems to go a good block after that. he often has double feeds or a top up within the same hour for those few hours, we cant put him down often within this time.
housework- well each morning i try and get the mundaine same old stuff done before we leave the house for school drop offs, i find if i dont get them done then they dont seem to get done. i put a load of washing on the night before so i only have to hang it in the morning, do the dishwasher sometimes the night before, beds etc for bigger house work stuff just bits and pcs when ever i can. If we dont have much on the weekend i usually get more done cause either dh is home or he can take ds1 and ds2 out somewhere.
also i have been getting dinner started or cooked by lunchtime (depending on what it is) cause Ryker's fussy period is at the time dinne rprep etc usually happens none of us would eat, so either a slow cookiung put on in the morning, or cut up the meat and vegies at lunch time so half of its already done, or if like a stir fry etc cook it early then just reheat at dinner time.
i have my 6wk check up tomorrow with my ob, once i get the green light to go 'im keen to get back into exercising. I will start with my ex phys at my work, help me get those tummy muscles switched back on, then prob pilates and walking, wanna get to the gym, just dont know when i can slot that into the schedule yet!
ALso getting my chiro to see Ryker on Friday see if he can help with his reflux. ive had hiim on zantac for a week now, starting to notice some improvements, less back arching and painful cries when he is asleep or settled.
whats everyones plans for mothers day? we are having our family over here for lunch, then the males and the kids are going to the sharks V storm game (stadium only 5min from our place) cause my 7yr old nephew is playing a game at the stadium before the main game. so all the females (me,mum,mil,sister and 2 x sil) plus Ryker will have a nice relaxing arvo once they all head to the footy! (There will be 5 guys and 6 kids going, good luck to them lol)
Nixon has a mothers day stall at school today so dh has secretly given him some money etc hehe so cute!!
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thrush we both used daktarin gel as nilstat doesnt work for us, but ou need to be really careful giving the gel to bubs as its thick and can be a choking risk. Sterlilise pump and dummies frequently
skye yay for bigger sleeps, have just started clapping H hands together and she seems to like it, we are getting more smiles now :)
rosey the other girls have some great suggestions re sleep, hope you get some unattatched sleep time soon. Im coping ok with housework although it isnt getting done in one day, the dryer is getting used a bit too often
We seem to have a rough night routine, bed at 9 feed at 2 then feed/awake 5.30-6. H is much more alert and cooing and snmling, very cute. Older girls were feral last night, fighting and carrying on, DH didnt get home until late as he went to donate blood but couldn't. Im hoping for a better night tonight Im finding evenings really challenging when DH isn't home
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skybie - yay for improving naps and more smiles :) DS2 isn't very smiley yet, but he'll get there, I'm sure. Poor DH hasn't had a proper smile yet ... ! all in good time, I guess ... with hands, DS2 does this adorable thing sometimes in his sleep and sometimes when feeding, where he grabs his hands together - kind of looks like a supplication pose, or about to wring his hands ... the look of concentration is bliss
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nickers - thanks! trying to get some rest, but how the hell are you supposed to do that, with babies and housework coming out the wazhoo, family members expecting to get fed, photos to be organised, paperwork to be dealt with, etc ... yay for getting back into physical exercise! I am technically back at the gym but haven't been in a week, because I've been sick ... but in general, I go straight after DS2's dinner feed. DS1 is in bed, DS2 is good for a couple of hours, I have time to get there, work out and come back and possibly even have a shower before DS2 needs his next feed ... and yay for improvement on the reflux front :D woot!!
thrush - with DS1, we got that daktarin gell stuff that you pop on your nipples and then let them suck off while you feed ... it cleared it up pretty fast, and it didn't spread anywhere else :) good luck!
mothers' day - we're seeing DH's family for brekky, mine for lunch. not sure what I'm getting ;)
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i bought my own present last week lol, i need a new wallet and thought it would be better if i found the one i like so go that plus some slippers. whats a mother day without slippers hehe. knowing dh he will prob buy something else, just cause he cant help himself. i swear he should be the female in the fashion deptartment, i am not a fan of shopping, i never know what to get or try or so end up not getting anything usually.
Rykers sleeps at night sound the same as Helena, last feed is around 8-830pm then he sleeps until around 2is, back down then he wakes at 5am but comes in for cuddles and i push him out till 630. sometimes thats easier than other times, like this morn he woke at 430am and i was really working it to get him past 6am lol
peanutter you sound like the way i am, even when not well and know u need to rest u still need to function and do stuff, but seriously make sure u do get extra extra while your not well ok!!
ive just spent 2.5hrs tidying while Ryker had a big snooze. poor boy must love his bassinett sleeps cause during the day they are usually few and far between, like when he goes down again next it will be in the capsule cause then will have to do the school run. So ive been mostly putting kids stuff away the whole time. even though they pack away there always seems to be bits and pcs around, stuff under beds, lounges etc and omg wait for it....i did some dusting!! lol i hate the dust around but i also hate dusting :)
oh yay my Avater has been updated!! thanks heaps Sarah i love it with Rykie in the HAB :)
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Nickers your welcome
Our mothers day will hopefully be girls making me breakfast (they like doing this) then DH will take them to swimming. Mums for a BBQ lunch the the in laws for a takeaway dinner. DH has been asking what I want for mothers day I've trying to get him to take the girls shopping to pick something themselves, I have ask ed him for a letter H charm for my pandora bracelet from Helena :)
Helena has been wanting to be held most of today so I gave up trying to get stuff done at home and we went shopping :) I also opened her first bank account today. Tomorrow's plans include cleaning the floors boo! And making bakeded mini bailey's cheesecakes if we have a good day
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OUCHHHHHHHHH - how can such tiny nails cause sooooo much pain? Man I am super grumpy after trying to feed this little terror tonight, its just such a hit and miss situation lately. I just want to cry along with him :(
I have to get to an ABA meeting, pronto.
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Oh hunny big big hugs, its a tough gig. You're doing so so well though. Clear your head and count to ten.
MuchLove xx
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and clip their nails, or pop socks over their hands before a feed ... we use socks instead of mittens, because mittens are too easy for them to shove off!!
socks seemed to stay put, and stopped my boobies from being torn to shreds by itty bitty (but oh so sharp) nails ...
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Thanks guys, have changed Dr Yves-il into a sleepsuit with the pull-over mittens, and will attempt to clip his wee nails tomorrow when we are both calmer...
In the meantime I have been reading everything I can about what could possibly be causing this nipple pain... thrush, staph, vasospasm etc. I know I first need to check out our attachment to be sure its not contributing, but the pain feels like something else to me. For example, getting undressed hurts like hell, even hours after the last feed; my bra rubbing on nipples is painful, despite no bad cracks, bleeding etc; light touch causes the absolute worst pain; and my nipples being cold also hurts a lot - a lot of this sounds like vasospasm?
Yves' fussiness is a separate issue I think, but because I am so sore and tense it is excruciating to have to keep reattaching him when he is kicking and scratching and punching at my boobs. I wont give up on BF, but my goodness I am dreading each feed.
Buffy - what are your thrush symptoms? I certainly hope you aren't having this sort of pain hun :hug:
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Oh LCT, get yourself to a dr babe. My boobs are sensitive to touch and I still have to be careful when I'm drying myself after a shower, but that pain you're describing just doesn't sound right. Maybe an LC would be the way to go?
I think some of Yves' fussing would come from him sensing your pain and discomfort as well.
Definitely wait until you're both calm to do his nails. I can usually do C's when he's feeding, or DH bites them.
Big, massive hugs honey :heartbeat:
Buffy, I'll be thinking of you today when miss W gets her check up... Take tissues and get DH to hold her is my advice. How are you feeling about your DH going back to work next week?
I hope you can get the thrush treated :hug:
Nic, nice avvy! I hope your check goes well Hun.
SaraRose, that's not a bad routine for H to be in. I hope you're doing ok with your DH not being home... I still don't know how you girls with more than one do it - totally amazing!
Rosey, you have to become a platinum member to get an avvy. There's a thread about it, but I can't link as I'm on my phone. Housework? When I can put C down, I try and get bits done... Luckily my DH and DSDs' are awesome and do most of it. The drier seems to be used more when I'm doing the washing - its just easier to chuck it in there!
Miss E, how's Coops going?
Peanutter, how is work / pumping going?
Hi to everyone else!
All is well here with my gorgeous chunker. I weighed him at the shops on Tuesday... 6.49kg!!! Holy chubby thighs Batman!
Getting heaps of smiles now... Big gummy grins that send all of us into gooey messes. He doesn't really know what's happening if I clap his hands, he looks at me as if to say 'WTF was that?!'. He smiles at his little bathroom wall stickers and at my dressing gown that hangs next to the change table... He's a bit of a flirt this one!
Parents were good. I felt a bit bad because C seemed to cry every time dad held him... But would settle on mum straight away!
I've got my check up with my Ob on Friday and DH has decided to take the day off which I can't wait for! We're going to go out for an early Mother's Day breakfast beforehand. Not doing anything on Sunday, but we're having a nice dinner with my DSDs' on Monday night when they are back at our place. No pressies though, I'm going to order some books from the States next week, so that's my present from the family.
xo
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lcyt:hug: hun. I have had my chest shredded by little hands, the sleep suits with buikt in mittens are great, H normally wears one after her bath so i she is fussing in the evening I can cover her hands and I always put them up at night to keep her hands warm. Sounds like a lactation consultant is the way to go and from riends experience the sooner the better. I get vasospasm when its cold and its a stop me in my tracks sharp pain, where as for me thrush left me with sore nipples and occassionally shooting bb pain after a feed but everyone is different. A LC could check your attatchment and make sure thats contibuting. You always hear breastfeeding is natural but you dont often hear that its not always easy!
Elocin enjoy your longweekend with your DH!
