123 ...

thread: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

  1. #1
    Moderator

    Dec 2007
    Hork-Bajir Valley
    5,722

    Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Following on from HERE

    =)


  2. #2
    Registered User

    Mar 2008
    North Northcote
    8,065

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Aw thanks Arte i reckon that what has hurt the most is that my dreams of having that big extended family to be immersed in are now 100% dashed. even though i knew that it didnt really exist it is really confronting to not even have the pretence.

    mmmm choc chip cookies mmmmmm.

    we had a lovely day yesterday; Miss L was having a rather tough week with friendship blues and went to bed crying for her old friends (it was heartwrenching ). i had no idea what to do, but the gods of awesome listening must have overheard as yesterday morning TWO lots of old friends from melbourne turned up for playdates! both unannounced and super welcome and exciting! Happy Days!

  3. #3
    2013 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2006
    Winter is coming
    5,000

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    I know that dream Cass - you just want your kids to have cousins and aunts and uncles etc, a big family base to grow up with. For starters when you grow up without a father half of the potential family is gone already. It must be tough to lose the other part as well. I don't have much family (that I consider family) but I do have a few and I am grateful for that. My two cousins now have a few kids and my children really love going to see their cousins (second cousins, but they aren't getting any real ones any time soon!). That was a consideration in the move, but I am determined to get up a couple of times a year to visit so it should be alright. At least we will be close to an airport down there.

    Bummer about the friendship blues. I can see some of that coming my way. W has a really good friend and is in tears at the thought of leaving. I have been trying to amplify the positives and make sure he knows they can Skype and we will be up for visits but he will take it hard. A is very happy about the move but when the reality hits of not seeing her bestie she might feel a bit differently. It is hard, that is for sure. Yay for the visits though, that would have been awesome

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Mar 2008
    North Northcote
    8,065

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    have you noticed that out of 2 replies there are like, 82 views lol?!

    Yeah i think that we are hitting that real time of transition point IYKWIM. where the kids are realising that this is sorta for keeps. i am really confident that they will settle in really well eventually as in all seriousness this place is just gorgeous and full of kids and offers such a free lifestyle for them once they are just that bit bigger ITMS.

  5. #5
    2013 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2006
    Winter is coming
    5,000

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    That is freaky about the views. There are only a few of us posting in here now, certainly not anywhere near 82! I wonder if there are stalkers following our little thread?

    How is baby E going now?

    Had a good chat with my bestie today. I love how he can put everything into perspective so easily and logically.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Mar 2008
    North Northcote
    8,065

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Miss E is pretty awesome. She had a bad turn yesterday but it was the first in about 6 weeks.

    And *snap* me too lol! i had a great day just chewing the fat with my old neighbour. i needed that too.

    having a meeting with the principal at Miss Ls school today...eeep!

  7. #7
    2013 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2006
    Winter is coming
    5,000

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Tragedy!! The company aren't paying relocation! Cheapest quote so far is $7k and that isn't even including petrol, ferry, accommodation etc to get us and the two cars down there! Looking at somewhere close to the 10k mark. For someone too cheap to pay the extra dollar at the supermarket if something isn't on special it is painful. It actually hurts!! Frantically hunting the web for backloads/hire trucks/some way that won't cost a small fortune. It was cheaper to move from Australia!!

    And we have been looking at houses to buy and I can already see that any alterations that I want to do are going to get trumped by what FIL thinks is better. Sigh.

    How did the meeting go Cass? Was the little school not a viable option?

  8. #8
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jan 2006
    by the beach,NSW
    1,767

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    I may be a couple of those 82 views.....

    Arte, wow that is a expensive move. My last move was when I came down here and I just loaded up the car a few times and dad brought down the trailer. We have accumulated a few more items since the though.

    Cass, was that the principal of the school you are having second thoughts about?

  9. #9
    2013 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2006
    Winter is coming
    5,000

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Our furniture is leaving in 5 weeks and we have no where for it to go lol. Think I might be on to something though. This will be a lot less stressful when we have a house to go to.

    Someone gave us an old 50cc motorbike and W is loving it!! DH saw W when he thought he was alone and he had pulled to a stop and was patting the bike lovingly lmao.

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Aug 2006
    On the other side of this screen!!!
    11,129

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    I think I might've been some of those views too - I read on my phone but it's easier to reply on the lappy.

    Cass I've just been re-reading the last thread - horrified on your behalf at the extended fam's behaviour. Not cool. BTW Good luck on your lotto - John Marden's school plan lol. So nice for L to have her playdates turn up like that.

    Arte - gosh, it's all happening and quickly! Can't believe they're not paying for the move though (!!). Good luck with finding a house. Skype is awesome for keeping in touch, the kids love it. W's new ride sounds awesome.

    Cally, how are things in your corner of the world?

    Oz, it was great to see you pop in - in the last thread :wave:. Hope all is good with you. xxx

    Well, big week here. DH is away, major changes happening at work, I worked at home for the first time (YAY), exhausted in a narcolepsy-fuelled way - and Miss E managed to fly off her scooter this afternoon and knock her 2nd front tooth out (!!). Alarm stations, but it must've been on its way out already because it didn't bleed a lot. Poor kid has been having a rough trot, she seems tired & cranky a lot. Growth spurt? I dunno. I'll drag her into the dr to get her ears etc checked. I hope it's just a phase. Pls let it be just a phase!!

    That reminds me, I need to go and do tooth fairy duties. I wonder if she pays extra on account of the traumatic tooth removal...?

  11. #11
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jan 2006
    by the beach,NSW
    1,767

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Arte - gosh that is happening quick.

    MD - all good down here. I had to do tooth fairy duties too last night.

  12. #12
    2013 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2006
    Winter is coming
    5,000

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    MD, did the T-Fairy end up paying extra for trauma? I hope the grumpy is just a phase at your place. I just got slapped with some 2 year old tantrums from my previously agreeable and lovely Miss E. Not impressed. And to top that off she has decided she isn't going to wee on the toilet any more so she is having multiple accidents (although not really an accident when she is not making any effort!!) each day. I can't bribe nor force her to go so I have no idea what to do.

    Cally, how is your dad doing now?

    Cass, what was your protest about? Seems there is a lot to protest about over there lately - you guys really picked a dud government! But then you didn't really have a good choice. You should go into politics - I am sure that people would like to have the option of voting for someone intelligent.

  13. #13
    Registered User

    Aug 2006
    On the other side of this screen!!!
    11,129

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Hi ladies!

    Arte, yes the TF did throw in an extra goldie for the trauma - the lavish sum of THREE WHOLE DOLLARS! lol. And E banked it straight away, she's "saving" her money towards an ipad, she has more savings than DD1 (who gets $$ every fortnight) LOL.

    The grumpiness seems to have subsided a bit since DH got home again. It was a really rough absence for E this time. She was in tears a few times at school, bad dreams, the whole works. She's still seems pretty tired. I took her to the dr who looked in her ears, etc, but I'm not fully convinced that she's hearing us properly.

    Arte, how's Miss E going with the toilet now? I hope that was a temporary phase. And have you found a house yet? How long until it's action stations for the move?

  14. #14
    2013 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2006
    Winter is coming
    5,000

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Still haven't found a house. I have cancelled the movers for now because although we could stay at IL's empty rental, we can't enrol in a school not knowing where we will end up. So at this point the kids and I will be staying up here a bit longer until we can find somewhere to live. There is a house we are close to putting a tender in on but it is on a flood plain and I can't seem to find anyone that will insure it. It isn't near the school I prefer anyway but we do need to live somewhere! Very stressful actually. I like to have a clear plan. My old kindy teacher pointed out the other day that I don't deal well with change - I think she was politely suggesting that wherever W sits on the spectrum that I am not far behind him lol.

    The toilet thing is slowly righting again. I hit her where it hurts - she only gets one dress/skirt for the day and if she wee's in it then she has to have.....pants!!! Apparently this is the end of the world, so seems to be working for now lol.

    Three bucks!!! W was sadly trying to wiggle his slightly wiggly tooth last night - he knows that tooth fairy cash is so close, yet so far away lol.

  15. #15
    Registered User

    Aug 2006
    On the other side of this screen!!!
    11,129

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Arte, I think anyone would find it stressful staring down the barrel of a move without finding a house to live in!! I wish you good hunting - house hunting - and may it be something lovely right near the best school. I'm glad your toilet strategy is working - that's quite a clever example of using the best leverage, really.

    Yeah, I think the TF is getting generous in her dotage. Back in the DD1 day, she used to pay silver, the gold coins were few and far between (and DD1 was pretty much oblivious to the value of cash anyway). Oh how having a teenager in the house changes the scale of economies! We can't be quite so stingy now, H is all cashed up, plus here in SA they have the 10c deposits on cans & bottles, so there's some diligent collecting of recycling going on here. The grandies save all their bottles and cans for my girls too, so while E's still slightly confused about the difference betweens dollars and cents she's getting pretty good at counting them LOL.

  16. #16
    2013 BellyBelly RAK Recipient.

    Apr 2006
    Winter is coming
    5,000

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    I think W was born knowing about the value of money lol. The girls have no idea and you can give them any old coin and they are happy.

    We went out to an engagement party last night and heaps of people commented on how well behaved my kids are It is getting so much easier these days. They were so great, there was only one other kid there but they played with her for about 4 hours until E fell asleep and we went home. It was a scottish thing and they didn't even make a scene with all the bag pipery going on. The woman that the party was for was also called E and I spent all day explaining to my E that it wasn't her party but she ended up in tears so I told her it was lol - bonus party for her!

  17. #17
    Registered User

    Mar 2008
    North Northcote
    8,065

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    Hello!

    Sorry I have been off the radar as I totally believe that my brain lately is incapable of retaining any train of thought or commitment to a task at hand...blergh!

    Arte: that is a super crazy amount of $$ to move. I think our last move was 2.5K. man, when we moved to Fiji (whole house) that cost us 10k! (ok, that was like 10 years ago though lol).

    I do like looking for houses though...i am a realestate porn junkie haha.

    bahahaha! I love the pant thing lol. I think that i will have to try something similar. Poor Miss M has started wetting her pants. it is so strange! i am thinking that she might be a bit tired and stressed as there have been so many changes lately and she has been quick to meltdown. it really breaks my heart as she is such a happy go lucky kiddo. but yeah, even she is getting worn down with the transition to new kinder and new friends.

    OMG! that is so funny about the party lol....in years to come she will recount that really weird party with bagpipes that her mum threw for her

    MD: hmm that is a worry about Miss E. Has she had a school nurse visit yet? Miss L had one where they checked her hearing and all that (apparently Miss L told them that she has a hearing problem because I kept telling her that her ears 'must have fallen off' all the time bahahahaha).

    Miss L knows that GOLD outshines silver any day lol. she even noticed that the TF didnt cough up as much this last tooth...oops. the darn tooth came out before I realised and I had NOTHING lol. I had to literally scrabble under cushions and carseats and came up with a $1!

    AFM: well it has been a hellish few months TBH. the whole family being nasty no0bs and unleashing all their hate at me (yay for me!) and DH getting bogged down with work anxiety and bringing it home and on my front just a general hump that I am needing to make whole new social networks and *stamps foot like a toddler* I dont wanna!! Well, i do, but i just dont want to work for it lol. I have also been in a hump as I am doing a job that is ok, very flexible and all that but isnt in my field and TBH is a bit boring. And then doing all this unpaid work for myself just so i can keep my mind active and occupied. but i feel guilty taking that time of unpaid work off and leaving the girls blah blah blah. not fun!

    Miss L is doing slightly better at the school. we had a big chat with the principal and the teacher and they are really on the same page. i just think that culturally they are coming from a different viewpoint regarding children and their capacities for understanding and learning (not bad, just different). we are used a self-directed learning model that was run through the old state school and this is much more class based directed learning. they run an 'integrated learning' program but it is still rigid (but at least gives voice to the kids in the class). I do know that the school is working to implement more self directed learning strategies but there is some obvious resistance within both the parenting and teacher ranks...but even those are lessening as some of the new changes get implemented and they are able to see the results for example.

    It's just a bit weird as the kindy and childcares here are just superb and really on the ball in terms of the child and learning. they are streets ahead. and then there is this disjuncture as they head into school. i really feel for the preppies (foundation kids) as it must be such a harsh shock (i am grateful that Miss L had her first year at the old school for example...the transition was seamless).

  18. #18
    Registered User

    Aug 2006
    On the other side of this screen!!!
    11,129

    Re: Babies Born ~ September 2007 #75

    How are all my lovely September mummies tracking these days? I know the thread is getting progressively quieter, I'm sure we've all got huge lives going on these days, but I do think about you all often.

    Arte - I LOL'd about W being born knowing about $$$. Some kids just do. Even now H is permanently baffled by her complete lack of funds, while E knows her piggy bank balance down to the exact cent. PMSL

    Arte, it's awesome you're getting compliments about your gorgeous kids' behaviour. We all know you've done some very hard yards on very little sleep, so it's a really positive reflection on your efforts! LOL at the bonus bagpipe party. My E thinks there's an entire suburb of Radelaide named after her (excitment every. single. time. she hears it on the telly).

    Re E, they don't have a school nurse thing here (I don't think). There was a kindy health check before she started school, but that was before all this happened. She's a bit more settled now that DH is back, but I'm still not convinced about her ears. They are doing swimming this week as school - which might give them a bit of an extra wash - and she gets a stick of gum to chew every morning (to promote eartube drainage through the jaw action). I think I might have to suss out whether there are any positive psychology programs for her, she does have that tendency towards anxiety - but she holds it in (so other people are oblivious to the fact that she's wigging out on the inside). Her teacher is lovely this year, and E seems to be doing well academically (ie, just jumped from reader box 11 to 16 in one fell assessment), but I've booked a parent teacher interview anyway, specifically to talk about this anxious/perfectionista streak.

    Cass, are you going ok? Breakdown of cognition is a good sign you need more sleep or relaxation pool-side or at least some kind of chocolate binge. Massive hugs re family poo-poo-heads. Hang an imaginary ba-gua mirror on the front of your aura so that hate just bounces straight off. I guess the move was always going to be a huge transition - and the sting is that the change process is never over as quickly as we want it to be! I've always found the 3-month mark to be pretty gruelling - I've never really settled in by that point but I think I expect that I should have. Give it time. Make yourself a vision board or a brain-map or something of what you want your life to look like... and then do something to take a tiny achievable step towards that.

    Re the less-than-ideal school. OK, drawing deep on my lived experience here: during my childhood, I attended 3 kindies, 6 different primary schools, and (thankfully only) one (less-than-ideal) high school - and educationally I turned out pretty damn ok. Once I'd mastered learning to read in prep, and had left the painting drawing and singing of lower primary behind me, I was pretty much bored ****less for the remainder of primary school... BUT what kept me going was the exploration I undertook in my own time. I *know* for certain that you live a full and interesting life with your little family, you expose them to a huge variety of sensory and cultural experiences and people. Seriously, that counts for more in your children's brain development and learning than all the high-end pedagogies on the planet. Sure, strive for improvements if you can, but take the angst/pressure off yourself. Your kids will be ok, and more than that they will thrive, just because of the fantastic family they are a part of. xxx

123 ...