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Hi Rose - yes you're right, I just got a text to say it may be cancelled due to the weather, will know more in the next hour. How awful to have to postpone it when you've got yourself all geared up for it - poor girl. I've just found out it's a burial service, I thought it might be an indoor cremation service so I might have to use the baby bjorn today - too sloshy for prams on the lawn. It's a Pinnaroo, which is lovely - well, for a place to be buried and cremated anyway. :o Dreading seeing the tiny coffin, I feel sick thinking about it to be honest!
The storms were crazy! What a shame about the UWA library, I didn't hear about that. Is there much damage to the books etc? I'm glad I wasn't trying to get home on the train yesterday, imagine being pregnant and dealing with that!!!!!
Our house is drying out now, thank goodness! Oh and I'm so glad you enjoyed the movies and Liam was so good for your in-laws. He's so adorable, cheeky smile. Amelia's on the floor playing and all I can hear is her little voice, she's getting more vocal by the day, watch out DH, two of us lol!
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Hello all! Thanks for all your lovely birthday wishes on fb :)
Willow - I hope you got to have a bit more sleep last night and not feeling so sleep deprived! Must have been exciting picking colours and stuff for you extension tho!
Suz - thanks for the info re wonder week. I hadn't had chance to sit down and read that chapter yet. I started reading it last night, sounds pretty common the feeding issue. He has actually seemed better today, almost normal (apart from feeding - but have so far got around that by walking while I feed him...don't ask, it just works for some reason! Gives me bloomin sore arms tho!).
Alison - yes, I have got the book, its fantastic isn't it? Really helps put your mind at ease that its all very normal. I think it would do my head in if I didn't know about the wonder weeks, I"d be freaking out thinking there was somethign wrong. I'm dreading any disturbance to his night sleeps tho, I really hope he doesn't go back to night feeds, I've got so used to having relatively undisturbed sleeps...tho I still wake at 4am and can't really get back to sleep, but at least I can still lie in bed! How was Amelia after her needles? I was thinkikng of you last night, hoping she wasn't having a bad night because of them, on top of all this trouble with the weather! When will you hear back from teh Ob about your tests? As you said, maybe its just ovulation pain since you haven't ovulated for a while perhaps its all just a bit rusty! I hope it gets better for you :pray: Thats very sad that the funeral has been moved, they will have been all prepared for it and now they have to wait :( But Pinaroo is just beautiful, I went to a funeral there about a month ago. Just stunning. I can't believe you got flooded! Same thing happened to my SIL too. We were really lucky and didn't get any damage (that we know of anyway!), just a bit of flooding on the paving and stuff.
Rose - Glad Liam had another good night, go Liam! :clap: I was expecting to have a rough night too with the storms, but they seemed to ease off just in time for him to go to bed and we didnt' really get much thunder after that. I wodnered how you went at the movies! Yeah, we're planning to do the same thing, go and see it in an afternoon, that way his night routine isn't disturbed. But I worry leaving him with the in-laws...FIL keeps going on about trying him with real food..."just put a bit of icecream on his tongue", etc :o Um....don't you DARE!!! Anyway, we'll see. Jolly good job your DH wasn't driving, I drove to Carousel this morning and the roads are still pretty bad. Branches and stuff everywhere, just about every light was out. People are still without power too! Crazy! Thank goodness we have been spared so far :pray:
Hello everyone else!
AFM - well, yes...was my 30th yesterday. RAther depressing. I kind of don't care, but I'm sad to not be able to say 20-"something" as my age. Ho hum. Had a nice day shopping with DH and Michael...well, kind of. We were rushing around trying to find outfits to wear for our photo's (oooh, when are you having yours Alison?), plus Michael was getting cranky and I couldn't find anything to wear, and we had to feed him there and feeding is a nightmare at the mo, so that was really stressful. But still, it was nice.
Hope everyone has a lovely day!
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Hi Beany - I'm glad you had a great bday! I felt depressed when I turned 30, especially as at the time I was newly single after a long relationship but my life really began in my 30's so I ended up loving it! Now I'm freaking about hitting the 40's in a few years lol, now that sucks! Amelia is having her pics done on Friday, can't wait, just deciding on an outfit to wear, we have the little ruffle tutu skirt but I will need a "normal" outfit too, not sure whether to go a cute onesie or a little dress, suggestions anyone? I haven't done any tests yet, was going to see how I feel in the next couple of days, it's all done through the GP as my midwife didn't really seem interested....perhaps I should've asked outright to see him but anyway. I really am thinking it's ovulation, it's subsiding as the day is going and I used to get it for a few days before. Fingers crossed that's all it is. If I still feel it by Thursday I'll book in for an ultrasound. I'm not overly keen to spend money on an ultrasound without giving it a couple of days first. The GP was very young so I think she was just being thorough....we shall see!
Well, the funeral is still going ahead, a big part of me really doesn't want to go but I will, it's going to be so depressing, even though I don't really know her, to see a little baby's coffin is going to suck, still feel strange taking Amelia but she wants kids there so.......wish me luck. Will let you all know how it goes when I get back. This is going to be the suckiest funeral ever!!!! :cry:
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Hi Alison I have been lucky enough to never have had to go to a funeral for a baby or a child, and I hope I never have to! I hope you hold up ok, like you said seeing that tiny coffin makes me want to cry thinking about it. Some things are just not fair!
Hi Beany No not much more sleep here. Harry has pretty much done 2hrly feeds the last 3 nights. But yes it was exciting choosing stuff for the extension. We got the quote back for the kitchen and it came in at half of our allowance! We were extremely happy with that, so far the builder seems to have over quoted everything, which is fine by us! we've saved about $10,000 already:dance:
Hi Rose Glad Liam had another good night! It would have been nice up at 3 during the storm I love hearing the heavy rain at night and love a storm, just as long as it's not reaping too much havoc, which it seems you guys in Perth copped a lot of!
Oh Alison How cute was Amelia in her Jolly Jumper!:D
Hi to everyone:hello: hope all is well.
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Tilda - I also think it's fine to decline other people having a hold. Especially if you've only just arrived, just to give Matilda a chance to settle in to the new surroundings. I don't think you'd be encouraging shyness either. Once she trusts that you and DH will always be there when she needs you, she'll feel secure enough to venture out. As for the sleeping, I'm now reading the No-Cry Sleep Solution. Amelia still has her days and nights mixed up and I want gentle ways to help her switch them back (I don't believe in sleep training because I'm sure that as soon as she gets sick, starts teething or hits another wonder week, it'll all go out the window anyway). But as you say, if its working for you, then don't change it. I've also read Pink McKay's Sleeping Like a Baby which was great for taking the guilt I was feeling away. I'm so over people (ie my mum) telling me what I'm doing wrong.
beany - Happy Birthday for yesterday! It sounds like a wonder week to me too. My book arrived last week. Thank God! 'cause Amelia started acting up a few days ago.
suz - I think all we can do is ride out these fussy periods.
willow - Ooh extensions. How exciting! And you came it under budget. Fantastic! DH and I are trying to fix up our place but are now toying with the idea of knocking our house down and rebuilding. We have a corner block and the house as it stands isn't very well placed to make good use of the land. We love the area and don't really want to move, but it all depends on finances.
Alison - I hope it is just ovulation pain and nothing more serious. It's good that it's easing. I'm getting Amelia's needles done this week too even though its a bit early. I want it out of the way before Easter. I wouldn't worry about being a week early. The nurse who did Amelia's last time wrote the 25th for her 4 month ones even though she won't be 4 months until Monday.
I was devastated to read about your friend's baby. I'm sure she would've appreciated the gift you sent. Sometimes people think that babies who died too soon shouldn't be mentioned which can make the parents feel alone and as though their child never existed. I still have the toy that my mum bought for my first pregnancy....I still haven't decided whether or not to give it to Amelia. I hope the funeral isn't too hard today.
Rose - That's great that Liam was good while you and hubby got to have some time out just the two of you. I hope Liam's needles go okay.
Hi BS, Carmey, kanda, sesame.....
AFM - Well I've finally decided to give the nappy hunt a break (have found 95 icons so far) for a day. It has been great to have something to keep my mind busy though...I feel like my baby brain is getting worse not better lately. Amelia still has her days and nights mixed up. It doesn't matter what I do, DH gets home from work and as quiet and dark as we keep things she still thinks its playtime. I've pretty much given up and just hand her to DH so I can get a couple hours of sleep before he goes to bed. Friday night, DH actually remembered to not make a sound when he got home while I was feeding Amelia. That actually turned out to be a BIG mistake. After her feed I desperately needed to pee, so I gave her to DH to burp. She started screaming. I don't think she realised it was him, even when he spoke to her and we turned a light on. It was 2 hours before she would go to him. I really won't be able to cope if she won't go to DH so I hope it was a one off thing.
I'm pretty sure she's heading for the next wonder week (I'm so glad my book arrived last week). Her nights have been worse. She used to go down at 3am, but now its usually 6 or7. She's fussy feeding and she bites! I thought I had a couple of months to wait before I had to worry about biting from teething. Hmph not so! There's also been plenty of crying for no reason. One minute she'll be laughing then she just start crying. She's also less happy to play by herself. I'm trying to just ride it out and let her feed when she wants to. I just hope we're over the worst of it by the time we go away for SIL's wedding.
One good thing though is that her we seem to be over the worst of her reflux. We went and saw the paed last week anyway. He thought that that bad week may have been some sort of bug. Which, when DH and I thought about it, we had both been feeling pretty off that week. So how's that? I may have gotten through her first illness and not even realised it! I've been dreading her getting sick for the first time.
Okay, better go and wake miss sleepy head. I'm trying to make sure she feeds enough during the day so that she won't need it at night. If only she would sleep like this at night....
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I forgot to mention 2 things....
Perth girls - I'm glad that you all made it through the storms unscathed. Incredible! Although I hope there isn't too much damage in your dining room Alison.
Also, I finally got my glider chair on the weekend! I wanted one initially, but DH couldn't see the need for one and even I doubted how useful it would be after attending breastfeeding classes. But I've been saying I need one for a couple of months. My back can't cope walking the floor anymore. It normally retails for $500 but we got it for $360 and I love it! If I have to be up all night, at least I am comfortable now.
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Hi girls. I lots yet another post and I'm starting to lose track of what has made it online and what hasn't! I've given up on our new computer!
Willow - Thanks for sending the link to that article about feeding to sleep. It made me feel a lot better. It was nice to read something that wasn't telling me I was doing the wrong thing for once. You must be so excited about the reno. I would LOVE a brand new BIG kitchen. I'm sick of working in small kitchens.
Hannah - It's great to hear from you. It must be so tough having your days and nights switched around. I'm sure she will eventually revert. I haven't heard of anyone that has never grown out of it. But it sounds like you're doing really well. Let me know how you find the No Cry Sleep Solution book since I really don't think I'll have it in me to do any of the controlled crying techniques (mind you if I have too many days like today....).
Alison - hope your tummy troubles go away. It sounds like ovulation to me but its a good idea to keep an eye on it after your uterine infection. I hope you're not feeling too ragged after the funeral today. It must have been just awful.
Beany - glad to hear Michael has been a bit better. I think we're definitely hitting the fussy period leading up to the next Wonder Week. I think you asked me about the different cries the sleep consultant was talking about. Basically she said that if the baby isn't over tired their crying will peak fairly quickly (4-5 minutes for little babies) then you will start to hear pauses. You might hear the cries getting shorter and the pauses longer. This is called "wind down" and the baby may drop off to sleep. However, if the cries keep escalating you will probably need to assist the baby to sleep with patting, rocking etc or in emergencies, walking, feeding, pram, sling etc. But it sounds like Michael is a pretty good sleeper usually.
Rose - sounds like you had a great afternoon out at the movies and Liam sounds like he's settling down a bit. I hope that keeps up for you!
Suz - yep definitely leading up to a Wonder Week! I hope Ryan isn't still beating you up and is feeding a bit more calmly. Its amazing how rough such little things can be!
Hi Brussels, Kanda, Carmey, Sesame....
AFM - I've had a really full on couple of days. Matilda has only had 3 half hour naps both yesterday and today which has given me no time to do anything and has made for a bit of a grumpy baby at times. But she's been going down OK in the evenings thank god. We had a bit of a false start tonight but she seemed happy to just snuggle in front of the TV for half an hour before another feed and off to bed. I'm not sure whether to put it down to DH being away or the lead up to the next Wonder Week. But you know, I'm actually getting a bit passed worrying about it. There doesn't seem a lot of point since she'll probably change again just as quickly. That seems to be the way. And as long as she sleeps relatively well at night I can cope with the harder days. It's also really helpful hearing that everyone else is going through a similar time at the moment. Most of the babies in my mothers group in Hobart are quite a bit younger so I dont' get that same feedback. The sleep consultant also mentioned that babies between 3-4 months are notoriously demanding of attention. So I think its all probably very normal. But hard work none the less!!! Mind you its also really lovely that they're getting so much more responsive. Matilda is loving getting big kisses, thrown about, jiggled, tickled. It's just gorgeous seeing her having such a good time. We had our first mothers group meeting outside of the child health center today which was nice. Originally it was only going to meet fortnightly, but I actually emailed people saying I was happy to meet weekly informally at a cafe if anyone else was interested and it seemed most were. The suggestion of the fortnightly meet was made by someone that's studying and doesn't have a lot of time. But for those of us not working, studying and relatively new to the area (of which a few of us are) we really need the weekly outlet! Anyway I think I might try and get some dinner. BTW the Perth storms sound terrible!!!!!!!!!!
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Hi Hannah, Hi Tilda - thanks for your kind thoughts re today. Hannah, I must ask, what is a nappy hunt? I've heard a few people mention it now and have no idea what it is?? xx Kisses to Amelia and Matilda for me. xx
Well it was a lovely service, very very sad though, I've never seen such a teeny tiny coffin, the dad was carrying it on his own with just his two hands like he was carrying a plate.......the baby was born at 1.1 kgs. I couldn't help but feel so sad for the girl, her husband kept it together but she was so upset, although was definitely more together than I think I would've been, mind you, she's probably still numb. She gave everyone a little poem (written by her baby Willow) and a Willow tree seed to plant in her honour. We're going to put it at our property, ironically she was addicted to green apples when pregnant (same as me) so buried her with a few items along with an apple which she got from Donnybrook - where our property is! It's known as the apple county of the west. She also gave me a thank you card for my gift I gave her before the bubby died and it has a little copy of her hand print on it, my god girls, it's teeny tiny, about the size of my thumb. I burst into tears as soon as I opened it. I tell you what though, it brings everything into perspective and I've never kissed and cuddled Amelia in one day so much as I have today. Cherish your bubs girls, sleepless nights, crap milk supply (me!), wonder weeks, teething, tantrums, you name it, because at least we have them here to go through all these things with. :grouphug: She said to me, cherish your little girl because you don't realise how precious they truly are until they're gone........I just wanted to scream for her.
Apparently they had a viewing for family and close friends this morning, the girl I met her through went and had a little cuddle of the baby and took some photos, she said she'd show me if interested. Sounds morbid but I'd like to put a face to the name, I feel somewhat attached to the situation really so would like to. She told me today the girl and her husband (the parents of the baby) didn't even hold the baby at all, they didn't want to, I found that a little unusual but each to their own. I just hope they don't regret it later, I think it would be sad to know you didn't get to feel their skin on yours etc. I couldn't imagine NOT holding my baby could you?
Anyway, that's my afternoon, let's hope tomorrow is much happier!
Hope you all had a lovely day.
Nighty night.
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OMG, Alison. You just brought me to tears. So unbelievably sad. I feel so much for that family. You're so right - we need to cherish every moment with our little ones.
As for them not holding their baby, I do kind of understand. Perhaps it would be all to painful for them? They may never want to let her go? I don't think we know until we're put in that situation, and you don't know how you're going to behave or think. In any case it's an incredibly sad situation and I do feel for them.
Ahhhh, I need a cup of tea! And I might just go and kiss my little man right now... xx
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Hi Alison,
What a whirlwind of emotions your post stirs up! I wanted to cry, yell and hug my boys all at once. You're a brave girl for going and I'm sure the family appreciated your support. The thank you card was a lovely touch (how on earth did she have time and energy to do them?). I personally have never wanted to attend a 'viewing' as I prefer to remember the person as they were living, but there are people who need the chance to say goodbye. It isn't weird to want to see a photo of little Willow, but I personally think the friend of your's who went and cuddled the baby (and took photos) was a bit strange. I can understand her parents not wanting to hold her, like Carmey said, it might just be too painful and they may never want to let her go. I thought that you didn't get to hold little premmies, but that if they know things are dire that they let you have a cuddle before the end. It would haunt me forever if I never got to hold my baby :cry:
Oh dear, got the tears coming, better go hug my kids :)
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Hi Girls - sorry to make you all sad....it was just a sad day but today is hopefully a happy one.
Hi Suz - that's what I meant, they were given the opportunity to hold her before they switched off the breathing machines but they chose not to - I just think it would be something you might later wish you had've done, I just can't imagine never holding the baby you carried inside you and loved, it almost seems sad to me to think that baby wasn't cuddled by her mummy and daddy. But like you said, everyone has a different way of dealing with things. I agree with you too, it was a little odd for the girl I know to hold the baby at the viewing and take photo's, I think the parents asked her to take the photos though.......still a bit creepy though isn't it.
I'm off to the city with the other girl at work who had a baby 8 weeks ago - the one who annoys me at times lol. I really can't be bothered to be honest, bit drained from yesterday but I promised and I hate breaking promises. I need to learn to say no me thinks!!
Hope everyone and their beautiful bubbies are well. xx
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God Alison, have to say I got all teary too. How sad they didn't feel they could hold her and cuddle her before she passed. I feel so lucky to have such a healthy, happy bub. I hope your friend has the baby she wants some day.
AFM - I can't believe I did this but I just told the lawn mower man to go away (nicely of course). Tilly is asleep in the front room right next to the lawn. She didn't actually seem to flinch and I probably should have told him to keep going, but I was worried that if she transitioned into a new sleep cycle and heard the mower she'd wake up. And this is the first decent sleep she's had in days. She actually woke up earlier after 45 minutes crying so I did something I don't usually do which was to resettle her and it seems to have been the right thing to do. I read somewhere that if they wake up upset they probably haven't had enough sleep (common sense really but sometimes it helps to be told!). Well I might try and do some reading while she's down for the count. I've started reading the Dream Baby Guide which someone recommended to me but its 700 pages long!!! And at the start of the book she stresses its not a book to dip into but to read cover to cover! Where does she think parents with babies with sleeping, eating or behavioural problems have time to read 700 pages cover to cover??? Anyway, the bit on communication I'm reading at the moment is interesting. All about giving your baby warning about what you're about to do so you don't catch them by surprise with events they don't enjoy (like the car seat). Hope everyone is having a lovely day.
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Hi Tilda - you go girl!!!! I would've done the same, if she hasn't slept in days that's all you need is for that to wake her up. And I like your comment about the waking up upset thing, I never thought of it like that and it totally makes sense! Amelia usually wakes in the morning chatting away, if she wakes through the day after only 15 minutes she wakes up crying or sometimes has a little scream like she frightened herself! I've given you rep points for your post as I really liked it lol! Also, I love reading and haven't read anything other then bits of baby books since I had Amelia, I have a great novel about a murderer (I love true stories) sitting there, that's 300 pages and no way have I even had time to start it let alone read 700 pages non stop, WTF!!!! Has the author even had kids? :o
Have a great day lovely and give Matilda a big kiss and cuddle from me...when she wakes up of course. :)
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Hey Tilda and Alison - I reckon it does make sense that they haven't had enough sleep sometimes. After going to one of Dr Chilton's talks at the hospital (he's the author of Baby on Board), I decided to give it a go. And it totally works. Jack often wakes during the day with red little eyebrows and crying and I just know he's still tired.
And good on you for speaking to the lawnmower man. I wish I could do the same with the annoying police sirens around here! :)
ATM - We're thinking about introducing Jack to solids! He does all the things they say he needs to do (hold his head up, watch you eat, open his mouth when you bring a spoon near him etc) so we'll probably start next week. Anyone else thought of the same? I've read Jools Oliver's book Minus Nine to One (Jamie Oliver's wife) and she started her girls on baby cereal (like Farex) and then went to pureed carrots. I think I'll try pumpkin first.
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Hi Carmey,
We're going to wait until the recommended 6 months. After a lot of research and reading it seemed like the best thing to do to ensure their digestive system is mature enough. Craig seemed ready earlier, but I thought it would be best to wait just in case and I had no sleep or BF supply issues. We started him on one meal of Farex & EBM a day. He didn't enjoy it much so we moved him to pureed fruit and veg after a week. Our MACH Nurse gave us a booklet on introducing solids that was really good and Baby Love by Robin Barker was also good (and has a couple of recipies worth trying).
There's no reason why you can't try solids at 4 months, after all our Mums did. You just have a higher risk of adverse food reactions, allergies and coeliac disease, which if neither you or DH have then it's probably not a big concern :)
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Suz, I know what you're saying. When I spoke to my midwife about Jack feeding so often she suggested it, as did the nurse who gave him his immunisation shots. Plus, as you said, our mum's did, and mine keeps mentioning it. She started me on solids at this age and as far as I can tell I'm okay! :)
I will still give him the breast as usual and just a teaspoon of solids once a day. Well, that's if he likes it! He's such a hungry little hippo and I just bet he'll love it.
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Hi girls!
Carmey - We're going to wait until at least six months as well, just to be on the safe side. But I have noticed lately that Liam's started to show interest in what we're eating. As suz said, lots of us were started on solids at 4 months, so there's no reason why not if your intuition and knowledge say that it's the thing to do.
Tilda - Go you with the lawn mower man! I don't blame you one bit - having a bub who sleeps badly during the day as well, I know that I'll pretty much do anything to get that sleep in. That totally makes sense about them waking crying, too. Liam wakes from pretty much all of his naps crying - and usually only sleeps 30-40 minutes at a time, which I don't think is enough.
Alison - You're an absolute sweetheart for going to that funeral. It must have been so hard, and must have made you just want to cling onto Amelia, especially after the infection you had.
AFM - I have a velcro baby at the moment. Since the weekend he's wanted to be held pretty much all the time, and for the last two days hasn't been napping at all unless he's being held. We decided to try stopping his reflux medication on the weekend, too - I'm guessing that it wasn't such a great idea. Though we're pretty sure that he's started teething as well, and is heading into wonder week territory, so it could be any of those things. I spent all of yesterday pretty much on the couch with him, either playing or holding him as he slept. Weirdly, he's been sleeping pretty well at night still - he takes a while to settle down, but once he's properly asleep he's good - he's only woken once for a feed the last two nights.
We started him back on his meds last night. And today he seems to have wind instead! He hasn't done a poo for a couple of days, either, and seems to be straining to try to do one. Poor little bub. I did a bit of reading, and am doing another experiment right now - I let him fall asleep on me, then tried to put him down on his back in his crib. He woke up crying straight away. Picked him, up rocked him back to sleep and held him for another ten minutes or so. And then I put him down to sleep on the couch on his tummy. And for the first time, he stayed asleep. I know it's a SIDS risk and I'd never do it at night or while I'm not there to watch him, but he's literally right in front of me. He's been asleep for 45 minutes, and the most he usually naps during the day is an hour (thought more usually 3-0-40 minutes) so we'll see what happens.
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Hi Carmey - I'm with Suz and going to put it off for as long as I can - Amelia doesn't seem ready yet anyway but given I have a wheat intolerance I don't want to introduce it too early due to the research done on the affect foods can have if their digestive system isn't ready - like Suz mentioned. Although again my sisters' kids all started on solids at 4 months and they're fine...........we do have eczema in the family though as well so I'd rather not take the risks. I would HATE for Amelia to have a food intolerance like me because it really sucks! I might start trying her on rice cereal in another month but right now she doesn't seem interested. If Jack is showing signs though they say that's when they're ready, my CHN said if they stare at you eating, try and grab your food etc they're ready. Good luck! He'll be fine! Boys and their food lol.
Hi Rose - lol a velcro baby, isn't it nice to be so wanted and loved ;)
I took Amelia in to see the work crew today, yet again they were all asking when I'm coming back. I didn't say it but I was thinking it was the last thing on my mind right now and they won't see me before October if at all lol! It's quite muggy in Perth today though and how bad, when I was feeding her at the office she flung her head back and in the fold of her neck was a heat rash, I felt so awful! I guess you don't see in there. Poor thing, didn't seem to bother her but I feel so bad. Will give her a bath in a minny and get the sudocream onto it.
Hi to everyone else, Suz, Tilda, Hannah, Willow, Beany and anyone else I've missed. Hope you are all well. xx
