sounds very exciting Bella!
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sounds very exciting Bella!
Vic: Would be so cool if CJ's first word was "knees"! LOL! So pleased you are having such a good time and wahoo @ CJ going back to her normal routine after 2 days :)
Naomi: Congratulations for BF 6 months :) It really is an awesome effort. I'm glad you've let yourself off the hook... and particularly glad you are no longer devo ;) But seriously, sounds like you've made a fantastic decision for your family, even through enormous pressure (even though most of it probably was from yourself) - that's a huge win, mate.
Bella: Yay for being there for your sister! Heard the great news of Trista's birth on FB - congrats @ becoming an aunt again :)
DH's niece turns 18 in November and is having a party - the theme is pink and black. Yesterday we went shopping and found the most gorgeous dresses for the girls! My cousin is going to lend me a hot pink full skirt (woohoo!) so we are going to be a family of stunners, LOL.
Had a great breakfast out yesterday with mum and SIL and nieces (Natty and her cousin were both at childcare - it was great, LOL!) and then the shopping expedition, and then DH's 9yo niece came over and looked after P while I cleaned the house a little. Today we are off to playgroup for the morning then possibly catching up with a couple of my nieces this afternoon... school hols are busy times ;)
Hope you all have a great day. I am personally thrilled that the weather isn't going to be quite as crap as it's been of late! xx
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I think I am going to break down, I dont know how much more worry I can bear in relation to Bailey. Our paed rang today as it appears Bailey has 'developmental dysplasia' in his right hip. I am very concerned as it appears that treatment is much more effective if caught early and as we are nearing the 6 month mark some options may not be avail etc. Our paed advised that unlike congenital dysplasia which is picked up at birth or 6-8 week checks like CJ (Bailey was checked at these times and at his 4 month health check and nothing was detected) the developmental dysplasia occurs as the hips etc develop so there was nothing to identify earlier (If I have heard him correctly I think have this right, the whole conversation is now an emotional blur in my head now). Anyway, I need to take Bailz for an ultrasound on his hip asap (he had skeletal xrays which picked it up as you may remember I had to take him for xrays re his gross motor skill development) and then pending that outcome, then off to the orthopedic surgeon. I am devastated as I am concerned that this will further hinder his gross motor development issues and also as he is almost 6 months am concerned how agressive treatment might be if needed. I just want to wrap him up in cotton wool and run away. I just posted a similar post in the hip dysplasia support thread too
Vic - Now I know how heartbroken you must have been when CJ was diagnosed. I cant stop crying. I can only hope that what the Paed has seen in the xrays is not as bad as he thinks and the ultrasound is clear or that its mild and easily treatable. I have been having a look at info on line and am completely freaked out as it seems to indicate that for older babies surgery, traction and casts are common as well as harnesses/braces. How can my little boy cope with that?
I have had a massive cry with DH, I feel like I just want to punch someone in the head as I am so angry, distraught, worried. I know lots of people have much worse to contend with but currently it feels like the end of the world
Naomi
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:hug: naomi u definately need it :hug:
Hugs Naomi
i don't know what to say hun - i can only imagine how stressful this is for you. thinking of you DH and Bailey
BG
Oh huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge hugs to you Naomi. That sucks - for want of more eloquent expression. Cry all you need to. Hubby's have big shoulders for a reason.
Oh mate. :hug: So sorry you are going through this.
I don't want to sound trite, and please forgive me if this seems insincere, but Bailey is going to be great no matter what because you are there for him. I do TOTALLY mean that. Not that that changes your worry for your little guy, and for that I am so sorry. It must be beyond stressful.
We're here for you whenever you need us. :hug: xx
Oh Naomi!! That is terrible! No wonder it feels like the end of the world, it must be just awful imagining what he is going to go thru with treatments and stuff. He is so lucky tho to have two loving and incredibly strong parents, to help him thru. It may be the hardest thing that you ever do Naomi, but I am sure you will be the rock that your little boy clings to, when he needs you, you WILL be strong for him, because we all know how much you love him. And at the times when you are at the end of your tether and you don't know what to think, we will all be here waiting to listen. If you can imagine arms holding onto arms, which all link back into a circle, that is what the women here are for you. We are here to catch you and help as much as we can, even if only by listening.
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Bella.
Naomi - Fingers crossed for you and Bailey. I know for me the hardest bit was the waiting to see the orthapedic specialist, and once I saw them and they explained it all was so much better. Also remember it is much harder for you than it will be for Bailey - they are so adaptable babies that they just cope with whatever is thrown at them - and it is us mums and dads who get distressed by it all. Don't try to second guess the treatment either as all babies are different and grow at different rates so the age of the baby isn't necessarily an accurate indicator of what the treatment will be - it will be so hard for you waiting to hear what has to be done but I am sure like me once you know what is going to be done you will feel a whole lot better. It is so natural to want to find out as much as possible about what the possibilities might be - but really if you can I would try not to look into it online because all individual cases are different and you might worry yourself unecessarily. My advice would be enjoy Bailey as much as you can until you get to see the orthapedic surgeon, especially naked or nappy only cuddles because they might put him into a brace like CJ's for example the day you see them and I really missed her chubby little legs when she had it on full time and also enjoy bath time as much as possible.
Also my GP who gave me the referral made it sound much worse than it turned out to be when went to the hospital, she only sees a certain number of cases whereas at the hospital they see an awful lot of babies with hip complaints - so it could be similar with your Paed.
As for hindering his other skills, if CJ is anything to go by you might find while his lower half skills will lag behind if in a brace his top half improve as CJ has excellent head control compared to other babies her age in Mothers Group and I put this down to the additional tummy time I gave her due to brace and changing nappy challenges.
Anyway CJ and I are thinking of you and Bailey and keeping everything crossed that it turns out to be something that is easily rectified. (Oh and CJ even smiles at Mr Brace when I go to put it back on her these days - babies they truly are amazing). Feel free to PM me or message me on facebook etc if you want to chat about it at all.
Thanks guys, I had a bit of a cry reading your messages of support - they really mean alot. I think sometimes only another mother can understand how much we worry and stress over our little ones. We are off to have the ultrasound tomorrow then back to the Paed on Wednesday and then to the Orthopedic surgeon from there. Vic - you are right, I just want to talk to the Ortho surgeon and find out exactly what this means for Bailey, but the whole process takes a few weeks. If I thought the IVF 2WW was tough, I think I am going to find it was easy compared to this.
We had a rough night, neither myself or DH slept much, we ended up taking Bailey to bed with us, just needed the little guy to be close by. We have decided not to tell our families yet as a) We dont really have enough info yet and they will ask a million questions we cant yet answer, b)We dont want to have to report in every 5 mins as to whats happening and c) my Mum with be overly sympathetic which will do my head in and the IL will be at the other end of the spectrum and not understand our worry with their 'she'll be right mate' but then bombard us with their opinions - frankly I cant be bothered putting any energy into anyone other than Bailey and DH currently. I know this sounds completely irrational as it seems this way to me even as I write it, but last night I was thinking stupid things like 'is this our punishment for messing with nature' eg our infertility - DOH, so annoyed at myself for thoughts like this entering my head. I told DH and he said he had been thinking the same thing. :o Then I felt guilty as I was wondering what this means for our 7 day Gold Coast trip which is only 2.5 weeks away - obviously our sons health comes first but I was bummed that we may need to cancel that (and I stupidly didn't take out travel insurance). Sorry to rave on, DH is at work and I need to talk this out so typing it out is helping.......
I rang our Womans and Childrens today as I was trying to organise Baileys Physio appt for his gross motor development delay and the stupid woman nearly caught my wrath (I'm still looking for someone to punch in the head) as she told me off for only leaving my mobile number "as it cost the hospital money it doesn't have to call mobiles" - FFS woman, just make my frigin appt and get off your high horse. I always have my mobile in my pocket unlike my landline as you guys will be aware if the phone rings while you are at the change table, feeding etc, you ignore it if it is not right by your side. At least she gave me something to direct my anger at LOL. I still have my sense of humour.
Vic - I will definately send you a message later, I do have quite a few questions and would love to pick your brain, thanks for the offer, and Kat - you summed up my feelings exactly - "That sucks", however there were a few expletives between 'That' and "Sucks' :angry:
Better go and do something productive!!!!
Naomi
PS Bella - cant wait to hear about your experience at your sisters birth :)
Aw sweety. :hug: Will be thinking of you at the u/s tomorrow. I am one for filling my head with awful thoughts too, so won't tell you off... ;) Understand not wanting to tell the family too. Makes sense to just wait and see what Bailey needs, if anything. My thoughts are with you. xx
We braved the shopping centre today at Castle Hill with Natty's little mate from playgroup and my friend (her mum) for a coffee. The girls had a ball dipping their hands in the fountain! Played and squealed for ages. Then we had our coffee and the girls were all over the place. It was a bit embarrassing! We were those parents with the out of control children... We didn't stay long - it was a bit of a nightmare. At least the girls had fun.
Natty has been very headstrong in choosing her clothing of late. Today she needed to wear a dress (with no sleeves) and refused to wear a jacket (it's only about 22 degrees). Then she found her new sandals and decided she'd wear those even though it turns out they are still too big for her.
Phoebe has had a disruptive couple of days, but hopefully tomorrow will be more relaxing for her. I feel a bit guilty as she doesn't really have many sleeps at home, nor much of a routine. Hopefully she still feels secure enough. She is certainly a happy little bub most days.
Hope everyone else is doing ok.
Naomi - i'm a wreck everytime i think of what might be with E and her eyes - and that's something we already knew was a maybe - and probably won't result in much other than patching or glasses - so i can only imagine what you're going through hun! yes, it's silly to be thinking about whether you messed with nature by using IVF - but i've had the same thoughts! you know though that's not the case. if it wasn't meant to be, science would not be able to create life the way it does! we're just blessed to live in a time when it is possible hun. and Bailey is blessed with parents that wanted him so much that they went through this hell to have him, and will go through whatever else comes up, by his side, and offering him every ounce of strength they have
AFU - not much happening. E has stopped sleeping through which is doing my head in. for a while she was waking at 5 when DH was getting up for work - no drama - at least his sleep isn't being disturbed - but it's now back to 4am wake up's - and i'm stuggling to keep her quiet and get everything done so that he doesn't get disturbed... i think it's a growth spurt as she seems to be really hungry and really tired all at once. ah well, thems the breaks! she could do with some growing!
right now i'm feeling like absolute crap i cant stop crying
DH and i have decided to separate well if it was up to me then i wouldnt want this to be happening but i cant put up with being told to leave and then him changing his mind it was just hurting me and i couldn't do it and he told me he's in love with his ex and i cant be with someone who doesnt have the same feelings for me that i do for them
he picked her over me and im shattered im staying with my mum at the moment
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its the best thing for Jamie he doesnt need to see us fighting
Oh Sweetheart, thats heartbreaking, I dont know what to say except look after yourself and Jamie x x x
We are here for you :hug:
Naomi
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Ah Jacinta that's awful!!! If he doesn't love you like you love him then you are best being free to find happiness somewhere else. Good on you for knowing that it's not ok for him to treat you less than as a princess. But what a time to do it hey.. So sad for you sweety. I hope your mum is a great support and we are all hear for you
Bella
Well I had kinda put off telling you all about my sisters birth cos with all the saddness it didn't seem right, but there may not be a right time so I will anyway.
Pip called at about 5pm on Sunday to say things were begining to happen but not in a hurry. So I asked friends who were over to leave (typical isn't it cos I rarely have visitors), packed up J and headed over. I bought the family dinner and helped get her kids to bed cos it felt like it was still pretty slow at that stage. At about 9pm things got a bit more intense and her hubby set up the birth pool in the lounge room and she txt her other support people. there were 6 women plus one man. Lots hey, but she likes a party atmosphere. 2 were to looks after her kids and mine. one was her doula, one was me, 2 were there to photograph or video the event, plus Alan the midwife. So slowly people started to arrive and pip got into the bath. Her contrax kicked on and we helped her by rubbing her back and keeping her comfortable. The contrx slowed again and she got up and went for a short walk outside. by 3.30 they were slowed to 1/2hrly so we all laid down and so did she. at around 5.15ish they were getting intense again. She began to contract really regularly and the kids woke up. One of her women who was looking after the kids had to leave and so at about 8.30 I had to start helping with that. She was really working hard by then. The kids were desperate to go into the pool by then and so they did and I had Jemima strapped to me in a wrap,but still managed to be in the room for most of the time. At a little past 9 the midwife and doula said "get the kids!" so I did. they were being horrible little rats and so got a lecture at the door about calming down and chilling out when we got the call "Hurry!!!!!" When we entered the room again, pip was squatting and 3/4 of the head was out. she sat like that for 30-40 secs before her gorgeous little bub came out with a rush! Born 7p5oz Trista Grace was 1kg lighter than Pips other kids and is sooooo tiny! At least in comparison to her sister and cousin Jemima. It was lovely! I left to go home and have a rest and when i returned later I found out she had had a small PPH and had needed to have some fluids IV and oxytocin. So being a little concerned for her overnight, I stayed with her for the night and kept and eye on her and just helped with the kids in general.
Today I am gonna pop back over and give a hand with the washing and stuff and generally help out.
Miss Jemima is calling so gotta go
Love to all our ladies who are saddenned today. My thoughts are with you
Bella
ps........... Jemima is celebrating 4months earthside today!!!
Yaaah Jemima for hitting the 4 months milestone
Bella - glad you shared your sisters birth story - for every bit of sadness we need a bit of happiness for balance so I was pleased for the distraction to read it :) My thoughts too go to our Mums with Angel babies...... Re Pips delivery - How exciting, sounds like a busy birth with all those people :) Congrats again to your sister!!
Well about to head into the city for the ultrasound - of course Bailey is having an extra long nap today of all days so I am going ot have to wake a sleeping baby - DOH. (He was having nightmares last night and kept waking up screaming or crying, I think he is definately picking up on our anxiety)I am hoping the sonographer gives me some details, I know sometimes they wont and will wait for your referring Dr to give the outcome but I am going to be pushy if I need to. I'm nervous as hell and on the verge of tears so I need to suck it all up and just get on with it
May not be able to drop in later as my Dad is down from Broome so we are off to see him this arvo - so if you dont here from me it doesn't necessarily mean bad news
Hi to everyone else, I'll be good and get on some persies next time I promise
J - hope you are going ok mate :hug: again x x
Naomi
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