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Hi Everyone
It has been a while since I have written in here as well - just too exhausted ... I am also struggling away with a colicy baby. Some days are better than others. Today is not one of the better days. I love her to bits, I just wish she wouldn't cry so much. DD2 is sleeping well at night which is my only reprieve. She is really unsettled until about 11pm when she finally goes to sleep for the night and she only wakes once between 4.30 and 5.00pm which is great. She then sleeps until around 8am and then she is ready for a day of very unsettledness till 11pm again. My first baby didn't even stop at night time so I am counting my blessings that she is not as bad as that. At least I am getting some sleep, but I am getting nothing else done all day - no washing, no dishes, no cleaning - nothing so we are doing a bit every night once DD2 is finally asleep. It's the only opportunity we get.
My DH is copping a bit from me at the moment too. We have all had a horrible headcold for the last week and a half and it has really knocked all of us. Even the kids have been extremely emotional and tired while they have been sick so I know it is not entirely the hormones. DH didn't get sick thankfully but I am not being a very understanding and because I am not getting to spend anytime with him at all alone until we collapse into bed each night, I am just being plain rude to him. Poor guy. He is handling it well though and understands that I am very tired and not feeling well.
I know this is a stage and it will pass - it is my mantra at the moment.
Henri - I have Hug-A-Bub and I love it. I only got it for this baby, but I think it is incredibly useful for shopping trips because she is quite calm when she is that close to me (although she has given me a couple of hickeys when she thinks she is hungry). I have an Infantino (like a Baby Bjorn) and I don't like it as much. It is not completely hands free because if I lean forward I have to hold the baby so she doesn't fall out. The HAB keeps baby in the one spot. If she gets unsettled while I am shopping, I can still pat her and rock her to settle her and she is very safe - no risk of dropping her etc. I highly recommend the HAB.
Anyway, DD2 is screaming again so I am going to have to go. Sorry that I didn't do more personals, I will try again some other time.
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Just a quick one from me as we're about to serve up dinner.
Shopping - I either take a blanket to put under Anelise, or I take her in either the Baba Sling or the HAB.
I looooooooooooove the HAB, it is seriously the best thing ever. I use it whenever & wherever I can. It actually stays folded up at the bottom of the nappy bag when not in use JIC I need it when I am out. I used it loads when Harrison was little and he loved it when he was old enough to face forwards as he would help to push the trolley (lol)
Hope everyone is well. I am sooooooooooooo constantly tired but I will try to come on asap to do personals.
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Hi girls just a quick one Henri I did the groceries today and I just had Laicee in the Hug a Bub she slept through the whole thing and it was fantastic I have it on all the time and pop her in it when she gets grizzly...this is normally her witching hour but since I bought the HAB I have popped her in it, I have dinner on and am even catching up quickly on here and she is fast asleep on my chest...gotta get yourself one they are fabulous..she hasnt had colic for days.
Hope everyone else is doing well.
Loooooovvve the HUG A BUB!!!! did I mention that????? lol
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hey girls!
TG - my bub has really bad reflux and is very unsettled he wakes 3 times a night then ends up in our bed by 5 am we put him on zantac from the GP and its much better, does xanthe spew alot? perhaps she has heartburn like my little bub does.
AFM- i finish my degree on the 2nd of december i cant wait! 4 years done! oh and my bubba is now doing BIG smiles at mummy and daddy i love it!
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MHB - DD2 does spew a lot (but a lot less than she was a couple of weeks ago) - all my babies have spewed heaps. I think she does have a bit of reflux but it seems to be mainly wind issues of not being able to get her wind up. Lots of her spews are wind that finally comes up and brings some of the contents of her stomach with it. Very sad. DD1 was exactly the same as a baby. It resolved itself around 2 months in her so I am hanging onto that. Yay for your little man giving you smiles - I can't wait until we start to see some smiles from DD2 that aren't because she has wind :) It makes it all so worth it.
Nina - I am so with you on the HAB. I wish I had discovered it with my other 2 babies - it is brilliant and such a life saver for an unsettled baby. I love the feeling of closeness with it too.
AFM - We had a great night last night!!! After a horrible day yesterday, DD2 had a big feed at 8.30 and went to sleep. She slept through until 3am, woke up for a feed and went back to sleep until 9am. Pure bliss!!! I was a bit full and uncomfortable by the time she was ready to eat this morning, but all worth it for a very settled and lovely night. We are paying for it a bit today as she hasn't really stopped crying all morning. She is very overtired at the moment because she didn't go to sleep when she needed to. It is a vicious cycle really. I am hoping that we only have a few more weeks of this and then it will all settle down as it did with DD1.
Hope everyone else is having a good day.
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Hi All,
We have had a vey busy time haven't we... so little posts until now.
Brooke - I hear you on the sleep thing. Planning an wedding too - you must be super women. How funny you bub was perfect with your mum. I saw midwife about breastfeeding as Jaida and I fight on occasions as she wants to stay 'little mouthed' which my nipples just love... and she perfectly attached and didn't fuss once :doh:. The lady thought I was crazy.
Nina - buggar about the colic, hopefully a routine and less crying happens for you soon.
Henri - I know what you mean by bored... so busy so tired but require some sort of adult stimulation. I have also had a few bad days with DH.... I am sort of jealous I think, he can come and go as he pleases and has just started a gym program.... wish I had the time or the energy to get back into shape. Sound like a complete
B%^&ch dont I??
Mehimbub - Love the comments on the triple chins... Jaida has just formed a double chin over the past few weeks - she loves her milk !!
Townsvillegirl - Love the sound of your sleep pattern... hope it continues. Hope the colic resolves itself soon.
AFM - Trying to be kind to DH.... I try to get an extra hours sleep after Jaida's morning feed but this can also be an unsettled period for her and its like DH just gives up rather than perservere (sp??) and I have to get up. Or he goes outside when its his turn to listen out for her - men !!! I am trying to be kind cause he was outside cleaning my car !!! How awful of me.
BF seems to be getting much better now. Jaida is feeding 3 hourly during the day and 4 hourly at night. On a few occasions she has slept from 7pm through to 3pm which was bliss but then the weather really heated up and she found it hard to sleep. Crazy weather... one day was 18 deg and the next 33 and then back to 20???? How do you figure out what to wear and wrap her in when the weather changes so much!!
Looking at trying to express for 1 feed a day.. would love to get away for a few hours. Any tips
Went to Babes in Arms and we both loved it ... trying to get out atleast every second day.
And..... I am getting great big gummy grins now, sooooooo gorgeous. I could just eat her.
Ohhhhh and my boobs decided to leak when I went shopping today LOL!!!!! Huge wet patch for all the see. Dont forget the breast pads.
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Well our little man has been officially diagnosed with reflux and is on losec. Hopefully this will decrease the hour or so of uncontrollable crying about 2 1/2 hours after a feed (fingers crossed).
Hopefully it will also stop some of the advice coming our way about how I should be feeding him more cause he is a big bub and that's the only problem, and nothing else. Grrr. He's putting on close to 300g per week, I think he's getting enough! Grr at people and their 'advice'
Poor little Joshy also mild conjunctivitis / blocked tear duct, so have some drops for that if washing it with saline does not do the trick.
It's like having Kaitlyn all over again. Sigh
I'm starting to feel down and doubt myself as a mother - need to focus on the positives. Don't really want to go down the PND road again.
Hope all is well for all - Personals soon
I'm off to bed.
Nite.
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leanne dont stress my bub is on zantac for reflux and is always unsettled i feel bad too because i do formula and breastmilk and feel its my fault somehow! i also get comments but mine are that he is too fat! he isnt even 2 months old and was extremely underweight almost a kilo underweight when we brought him home so just let him enjoy his milky! ppl will always have something to say!
AFM im actually very upset, my sisters best friend had a bub a week after me and her and her partner were only 18 and despite all the pressure to abort from both sets of parents they decided to try and make it, he got an apprenticeship and stood by her the whole time, on the 15th of october little layla died from sids at 2 weeks old :( i get goosebumps just writing this, she was so cute and the sad thing is me and DF had that name set in stone if we had had a daughter, it was meant for her though. im terrified now for my son i dont want it to happen to him.
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Lydia I am so sorry to hear about baby Layla. My thoughts and prayers are with your sister's best friend and their family. That's devastating news.
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MHB - I'm so sorry to hear about poor little Layla, it's something that I think we all have a terrible fear of in the back of our minds, but to hear of it happening to someone close to you must be heartbreaking.
I know it's hard not to worry, but please try to remember how rare SIDS is these days, therefore the chance of it happening to your little boy, or any of our little ones for that matter, is extremely unlikely. Please try not to worry.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Angela
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Hi All,
Hope you are all well - I'm finding it really hard to find time to post, but I'm still keeping an eye on everyone's posts. I'm sure I'm not alone there :D, having a 5 week old is amazingly hard work..........
Leanne, sorry to hear about Josh & his reflux, at least having him on losec should help the poor little one settle, it must be terrible not being able to help him when you know he is in pain.
Emily had a blocked tear duct right from when she was born - we persisted with the saline washes for about 3 weeks before it cleared up so hopefully that will do the trick for you. Try not to let it all get you down, just remember that you can and will only do what you think is best for your little boy - that's what being a mother is all about, it makes you a great mother!!! So don't doubt yourself, just go with your gut.
Take care all.
Angela
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Hi Everyone
Sorry I haven't posted for a while - my computer crashed (it was only 2 years old grrr) and we had to get a new one.
MHB - I am so sorry to hear about your friend's little girl :hug:. It is extremely hard to deal with the death of a baby especially one that is so close in age to your own. My heart goes out to you and your friends.
Leanne - I hope that Josh's reflux is getting sorted out and he is starting to settle better after feeds. You are not a bad mum at all - you are fantastic. 2 and a half hours of screaming after every feed in enough to do anyone's head in. Good on you for persisting.
AFM - We have all finally recovered from our head colds, but now have a gastro bug. DH has taken DD1 and DS to my mum's today so I can rest. I am soooooo over being sick. I don't think I have been sick as many times over my whole life as I have been in the last 5 months. It is unbelievable!!!
Xanthe is sleeping really well - she has been going the whole way through the night for the last week. She is still really unsettled during the days but I'm not sure how much of everything is to do with us being sick. We have had a couple of nights of 8.30pm to 6am which is an incredibly long time for a small baby but much appreciated by her sick mummy :). She is still gaining weight so I am not concerned.
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Hi All,
MHB - so sorry to hear about your families loss... my heart just sank when I rad your post and I gave Jaida and extra long hug.
Leanne - of course your a good mum... remember this is a normal thing for some bubs :(
Townsville girl - Love the long sleeps.... Jaida is also sleeping from long at night which is bliss. Jaida also has unsettled periods during the day - yesterday she slept only 2 hours however slept from 7pm to 4am and then after a feed woke again at 8am. I would prefer Jaida being awake during the day than at night (although nothing else gets done during the day)
Everything else is going quite well. I realised yesterday I had not been away from Jaida for more than 1 hour since she was born. Sounds awful but I need some time out for me. Dont get me wrong I am so blessed and would not change a thing but a little person needing constant attention can be a little draining. IYKWIM. I feel guilty saying this. I think I will have to set some 'ME' time with DH. Does anyone else feel like this??
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Easha- i know exactly how you feel, dont get me wrong i love being a SAHM with Oscar and realise i am quite lucky being able to do this and still live day to day, but i find myself atm longing for some alone "me" time. i feel terrible saying it :(
i had a talk with my DP and have decided that i have "me" time on tuesday/thursday afternoons for 90mins. My first session is today! haha :)
is this bad of me to be looking forward to it?
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Easha - You need time out for yourself. Caring for another person 24/7 is very rewarding, but can also be demanding and draining. Breastfeeding can also put extra pressure on you because no-one else can take over that role for you unless you express first. Don't feel guilty about needing 'me' time although guilt really does seem to come with the territory of being a mum.
Brooke - I hope you have a great 90 mins 'off' :)
AFM - Had a horrible night last night as I was really sick. Thankfully I have a freezer full of expressed breastmilk from the first few weeks after DD2 was born when I was making HEAPS. So DH looked after her and our other two children (DS is teething and not sleeping well) all night last night so that I could sleep. I didn't feed DD2 myself for 24 hours because I had a temp and my skin was so irritated I couldn't bear the thought of breastfeeding. I expressed milk when I was up to it so have replaced some of what DH used from the freezer yesterday. I have breastfed for all feeds today as I am feeling so much better! DH has been amazing and I am so thankful to him. DD2 has been a bit sick too so didn't sleep much last night. I think DH is running off an hour sleep today.
DH also starts his new job on Monday. He is going to Adelaide for 3 days so I am moving in with my parents while he is gone. I think it might be a bit lonely here on my own with 3 kids. My brother and his girlfriend are living with my parents at the moment and they had a baby girl 2 weeks ago. It should be a very full house next week.
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yay, my 90mins was great :) went and got a lovely massage it was absolutly fabulous.
exactly what i needed. i feel very refreshed!
On returning home i was welcomed by a very bright eyed DP telling me as soon as oscar is walking he would like another :shakehead: arrrgh, give me time.
then he repeats to tell me he likes the name "MEGA" mmmhmm over my dead body!
i honestly have nooooo idea where he finds these ridiculous names as he wanted oscars middle name to be "danger" :doh:
im not sure if im game enough to leave them alone again, it seems they get up to to much mischief!
hope your all having a wonderful night
sleep tight
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Hi all,
Had to post to get out thread back to the front page !!
Me post today
Not having such a good day. It had been 37 degrees here and poor little Jaida didn't cope so well. No sleep all day and just grizzly and thirsty. Syd houses aren't built for this type of heat. I have finally put her down to sleep with the only fan we have. Its still 31 degrees at 8pm :(.
Still have issues with breastfeeding. The problem nipple seems to change every few days - few days left and then a few days right ??? Jaida drew a little blood today so I have been trying to just express that breast to give it a break - go a whole 30mls :doh: Will try again in an hour or so.
Jaida continues to sleep between 7 and 4am-5am which is awesome but my breasts are so engorged and leaking by 2-3am I cant sleep. Anyone know when the body will figure out we no longer feed at 2am??
Hope you all are well and are getting much sleep
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easha - OMG you bub sounds like an angel mine goes down at around 8 pm then wakes at midnight then 3 am then around 5 am for a bottle each time its the same every night! he is soooo not a sleeper!
hope everyone is doing ok! jonathan AKA shrimp! had his shots and he was so brave i almost cried though and daddy had to hold him still :( he has big smile now and is starting to squel and can roll on to his right side all by himself now :) he is also on lactose free formula and it seems to be working great no projectiles now so it seems he may be lactose intolerant :( but its expected daddy, auntie and grandma are all caeliac and lactose interlorant.
Anyone else allready thinking of having another bub? we are on the count down to TTC again and cant wait!
