#2 Loss... Great!

HPL,
Fingers x'd it's all ok now.
How many weeks were you at the first scan? It sounds like the ultrasonographer was expecting to see more given your LMP or EDD. But that your clever Ob worked out that your dates were wrong and that the scan showed what it should for the dates you were. If HCG less than 1500-2500 it is very operator dependent whether you can see a pregnancy on a transabdominal
Scan. I guess that's why the Ob did a transvaginal scan?
Good luck. X


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HPL
that is an amazing story! I can just imagine the emotional roller coaster you are riding just now. It sounds like you have a strong little one in there and your Ob sounds great.
*super sticky vibes* & :hug::hug:

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for the encouragement and sticky vibes - it has been a tough few days to say the least.

Happy1 - all of my ultrsounds have been V ones, i knew the date of intercourse - so i knew what the dates would be approx - so not sure what happened there - the OB said I am around 5.5wks - 6wks which matches perfectly with conception - 6wks 1day going by the day of intercourse - my LMP is 8weeks but I ovulate late and expained that the ultrasound tech - to which she replied - that doesnt matter going by LMP you should be this - which i thought was strange as I knew when intercourse happened I assumed they should have taken that into consideration - there are lots of holes in thsi story as things progress which i feel the tech should not have commented on or wrote bout in their report - my Ob made point of sayin they are not trained OB they shouldnt be in a position to state whether a pregnancy is viable until that woman has seen an OB nd they have confirmed a non viable pregnancy.

I am really grateful to my OB for doing his own ultrasound otherwise who would know what would have happened.... We are still not in the clear yet, another 6 more weeks, but it looks a lot better than it did a few days ago. I will be sure to keep everyone updated

Thanks for your words of support they have meant a lot to me and DF

that is great news!!!! I am so happy for you!!!! I am sure everything will be smooth sailing from now, thank god you have a fantastic OB.... keep us informed :)

oh wow! amazing...

I swear I must have done something is a past life to have been given all of the stress and sadness in my life the past few weeks. I can not believe I am back here AGAIN, I am so P*SSED OFF I just want to screeam, I can't cry becuase I feel like all i have done is cry for the last month, this has been the worst experience of my life and it all surrounds my wedding say, which oh did i forget to mention is in 2 DAYS!!

I had my OB appt today to confirm that this baby is alive and a-okay - um the look on my Ob's face i just wanted to die literally die - we had a baby, a live baby, that baby grew but didn't grow enough AGAIN - no heartbeat - which we were meant to see - there has been bleeding in the sac but I have no had any spotting or cramping, I have been taken progestrone (sp) to help this baby along and it hasnt worked.

I am getting married in 2 days and I have to mourn again? really?? Yay we're pregnant, no your not, yes you are, no im not.... this is what I have gone through for 4 weeks, and its not over yet, i had a BT today and go back again on Monday to see finally what happens - then on Thursday D&C - feel like I have just wasted 2 weeks being grateful this baby will be okay, getting my hopes up, dreaming about my baby boy (hoping for blue) and what he will bring to our lives and now now I have to mourn him all over again! I HAVE ALREADY DONE THIS!!!

I just dont know how much more I can take, my Ob is wonderful, fantastic, he said that I need to focus on what is about to happen and how wonderful that is, and that what I am going through, well we DF and I is terribly sad and heart renching but that if i dont enjoy my day i will never forgive myself or this baby, and he makes sense - but then i feel guilty to think i am about to hae a spray tan at 230 for goodness sake while all i am thinking about is this baby that may or maynot be alive in my tummy....

I just can't stand it any more .... I just, I'm broken, I am broken and I dont know what to do

Far out, I only just read that your OBS confirmed a baby was growing & I was floored to say the least but over the moon for you & your DF but now your post I just don't know what to say hun. The timing of these events is just blardy awful and I wish, no pray that your baby is alive. I just want to send you love, hope, positive light & wish you all the best outcome, of a live bubba.

OH MY GOD! I just can't believe this H.P.L! I mean really! This is so hard to even explain let alone go through... I am so so so sorry to read this. I was so sad when I read you original post as it was and then so amazed when it all turned around for you and now this! Well this is too much and just before your special day!

I really have no idea what I can say to make you feel any better. I am tearing up just thinking what you are going through...... I am just so so so sorry! :(

I am so sorry HPL :(

So sorry to hear this, i really hope you can have a wonderful wedding day xxx

I am at a loss of words luv. I can't believe these tragic events. Noone should have to indure such experiences. I'm so so sorry. I wish there was more I could say. :(


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Thank you ladies, it has been a very traumatic few weeks for us I think I'm still in shock or trying to hold out hope that somehow this baby grows a heartbeat by Monday ... I just feel ao gutted - I thought something like this would ever happen - another loss would have been difficult but to be shattered and have our hearts brown twice in the same pregnancy it's such so silly to even think...

Oh HPL, I am so so sorry. Far out :(

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Oh my god, i am at a total loss for words. I cant imagine what you must be feeling....The highs and then the lows...And your wedding........its meant to be the best...that fake tan is meant to be so exciting.....all of it, its just not meant to happen like this...

I am SO sorry, so very sorry, its all just up the poop :(

Big hugs, i have no idea why you are on this rollercoaster ride but i do hope,wish it has a happy ending...

Please i hope you also have a beautiful wedding!

HPL. Wishing you all the best for a beautiful wedding day. The beginning of the rest of your lives together. Hug.

Oh HPL, :hug: :hug: :hug:

HPL - I just wanted to add that you shouldn't feel guilty at all about enjoying your wedding day.
This is a very special time for you and DF - soon to be DH - to celebrate your love for each other.
Be happy that you have each other, especially through this difficult time.
:hug: :hug: :hug:

Oh Ladies,

I am in tears reading all your messages, thank you so much for your kind words and hugs they do help....

I had a call from my Ob today, basically confirming what we already know, my HCG levels 9 days ago were 16900 (excellent at the time) however now, they are only 18300 (not really that good :( ) so I will go and be told formally Monday that I will need a D&C... in saying that, I think, I think, I want to try and see what my body does and see if I can go naturally, I guess in my heart I am praying just praying that a hearbeat is going to appear one day....

I just - I went from being so scared about falling pregnant bad timing and all to falling head over heels in love with my baby a baby who we know (hope we know) would be a boy and then this is what happens I just feel blah...

Ok enough about that, I have to stop coming on here now until AFTER my wedding, sorry ladies I just cant keep doing this to myself...

I will be back on after my wedding is done and i have had a wonderful day.. I am going to remember that tomorrow is baout my DF and I becoming Husband and Wife and to treasure our moments with our daughter who is so very special to us...

Will chat again in a few days..

Thank you again for all your support ladies

Hi there HPL, just wanted to drop in and send you some love :loveshower: So sorry you have gone through a mc, you will get through it with your (husband) :D Tomorrow concentrate on YOU and your beautiful future together xo BTW your inbox is full ;)

What a roller coaster ride you been through :hug: You have coped in the best way you know how, be proud of yourself for that. All the best for your wedding day. I hope it's all you guys dreamed it would be and more. Look forward to hearing about your special day xo

Hi Ladies,

This is the end of the road for us now, we got confirmation today that our little one was not meant for this world just yet. DH ( :D ) and I have decided, well DH is supporting my choice that I want to try and give this baby ever chance to pass through me naturally, I will go back to my Ob in 2.5 weeks time and see how everything is progressing...

My ob has given us a very high chance of naturally passing the baby so I want to see how that goes before we decide on anything - in the ultrasound he said that the sac had already started to separate from the wall so it may happen very soon. I have started to cramp and have some pain so we will see. I feel that I need to do this for my own sake knowing that I have done everything in my power to try my best to keep this baby, it will help me heal... I hope....

On the plus side I had a wonderful wedding on the weekend, it was perfect DH and I had the best time couldnt have been better.....

Congrats on a beautiful wedding HPL!
Be kind to yourself and let your body do what it needs to xx

HPL & Mr HPL - congrats on your wedding, and I am so glad you had a wonderful day :)

:hug: :hug: for your little angel.

FWIW - I have had a D&C and a natural m/c, and I found that I felt so removed from the D&C that it all seemed very sureal - with the natural m/c at least I was part of the process. Gentle hugs, and do take care. :hug: :hug:

Many many hugs HPL :hug:

I passed naturally with all my m/c and have to say that i found it an important step to take. I had issues after one, in that the bleeding took awhile (this was later in the first trimester), so I recommend a follow-up scan regardless to check that baby has completely come through ITMS.

Sorry to hear you didnt get the outcome you hoped for.

Im pleased you had a good wedding though :)

HPL - I know this is so very late... but you are not weak my friend. Not at all. We all do what is right for us at the time. I hope that you are starting to heal, and I hope that both DD and DH ( congratulations on a lovely wedding too) are treating you well. Go gently.