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Hot day here today so have to have the doors/windows open and even over music/tv/movies I can hear the neighbours new born crying.
My best friend is having her baby on friday (c/s) so I can't tell her about the m/c, I'm dreading the text from her DH, I'm happy for them I just don't want to hear about it right now, I feel like such an awful friend.
Is it bad that I now don't want to tell DH because I know his reaction, well lack of reaction will upset me? Why do I let it bother me that he's never cried over our losses but balled his eyes out when his sister lost her baby? I feel so ashamed for even thinking about it.
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Just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss :hug:
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Oh the pain you must be feeling. How are you going now??
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Honey I can definitely relate to this.
My DP never cried over our mc (not in front of me anyway), but cried when our 2y.o fish died. Yes, a fish. I was GUTTED. Don't try to deny your feelings, if you feel sad, isolated, whatever... it's okay. I still think you should tell your DH but the decision is ultimately yours.
I know it hurts when you don't get the support you need from your other half, but if he doesn't know then he doesn't have a chance to be there for you. Just my opinion.
And it's totally fine that you don't want to hear baby or pg news right now, don't beat yourself up over it! If avoiding baby-related situations helps you to heal, then do what you need to do.
I hope some of my rambling helped.
