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Hi Sally,
I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. :hug:
I too was recently pregnant with my first pregnancy and had a missed miscarriage at 10.5 weeks, of twin baby boys who stopped growing at 9.5 weeks. I'd been on shaky ground since 6w1day when I had a big bleed - it was then I found out I was having twins :) Despite two strong heartbeats being found after the bleed and again one week later, and my obs telling me he felt "very reassurred" all my hoping against hope just wasn't enough. I tried as hard as possible to be strong from my 7 week scan until my next appointment at 10.5 weeks, and was just devastated when my obs didn't say anything to me for what felt like an eternity, only then to say there were no heartbeats. It was without doubt the worst moment of my life. :cry:
That was now 10 weeks ago. It's been hard for me, as it will be for you. I've cried bucket loads, the biggest tears ever, and have felt barely able to function - forever thinking that I just want my babies back. I'm slowly getting better now, though I still don't feel "right". But I'm trying each day to get that little bit better.
I'm thinking of you. :hug:Go easy on yourself, and don't let anyone tell you what to feel. It's important for you to grieve in exactly the way that comes naturally to you. I found my most comfort in my DH. He's the one person who truly understands how I feel. I hope you find that comfort to. Look after each other, hold each other and just be close. Take your time.
All my thoughts,
Soulmate xxxx
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Leila, So sorry to hear about your loss :hugs:
I also had my first m/c at 11.5 weeks. It is definately a tough time you go through so give yourself time to greive. There is light at the end of the tunnel. We are all here for your support so come in anytime if you need to vent.
xo
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thanks leila
was good to hear back from you.its good to talk to someone that understands what your going through.this week feels like a bad dream.i too find comfort in hubby who i havent left my side.i keep seeing my little baby on the u/s screen and its little fat tummy.i thought it was so beautiful.i hope he or she is in heaven watching over us and knows that we love it more that anything.
thanks again for your reply,
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That is hard i have the u/s of our little one and seeing the head and fat little tummy arm and leg buds - just looked so perfect. I started to feel there is no way out of this - i cant see myself getting back to 'normal' but reading other stories offers reassurance that it can be done. I have an obs appointment on Tuesday as a follow up from d&c - dont know what to expect but i am starting to think that i will get the "its just one of those things" speech that seems to be the most common answer to mc. This has definitely brought my hubby and i closer - he is just such a special man and nurtured and cared for me in a way i didnt think possible. You know the saying "it all happens for a reason" i was laying in bed last night and i wondered if this was the reason??? Dont know i dont usually believe in that sort of stuff but at times like these i think you look for any thing to console you. Hope your doing ok today Sally.
