so so hard

Hi Starrysky

Sorry to hear about your brothers GF especially so soon after yours it must be so upsetting for your family right now. was it your first day back? i had 8 weeks of work altogether and going back was so hard as everyone new i was pregnant before as i had a biggish bump well i was 20 wks pregnant so coming back was hard i was scared if people were gonna ask question or say something like oh you have had the baby then but they didnt there was just one lady on reception who said arnt you due soon when is it and then i said no i lost her at 23wks i think she felt worse than me but it is still very early days for you and you will find things will upset you i still get upset now. As to your DP how insensitive sounds just like my DH let me just say that it was a person and it was still this little baby that had grown however long in your tummy you still had a connection it doesnt matter how far along you were it was a baby and he should see it as a baby you still had all the hopes and dreams for your family with your bub so ignore any comments like that sending big :hug: to you take care of yourself.

Munchy xxx

thankyou so much munchy, it is so nice to have people like yourself who understand xxx

Thats ok honey anytime it always helps when someone truely understands take care.

Munchy xxx

hi starrysky
i am so sorry to hear about yr brothers gf and i did read your forum for poem brought tears to my eyes it's a really great way to exspress ur emotions

hi munchy
i hope you and hubby have a nice time on ur holidays we will miss chatting with you while ur away

big hugs to you both

how are you babyhopes?
let me know how you go at the doc if/when you go.
i think the poem made me feel worse when i was writing it, but felt pretty good yesterday and even better today, mind you the nice weather makes it easier, it is 28 here today but windy, going to the beach later.
even if you are only thinking about ttc again you are more than welcome in the ttc threads, would love to chat with you there.
take care xxx
starrysky

hey starrysky
well i went back to the doctors today and they are finally gonna do something i go for blood tests tommorrow and i have a u/s next tuesday hopefully it won't be all bad news it will give me peice of mind about what's going on now though

so how you holding up hope everythings ok hope your brothers g/f is doing ok aswell i can imagine you still have yr down days like i do i have to say though i was at my worst the first week i came home sometimes i still think about things alot i would have been two weeks off my u/s to find out what bub was but i know in my heart bub was a little girl and in my heart bub will always stay take care of urself

big hugs

that is so true babyhopes, i hope everything goes alright at the docs today, let me know how you go....
i havent heard from my bros g/f will be seeing her on sunday i think, i had a bad night last night, i was howling....oh well, we can get through this.
love starrysky

Baby Hopes
I too am so sorry for you loss and have been exactly where you are now. You will come out the otherside of this but please allow yourself time to grieve. Take care of yourself and your partner as it is a really difficult time. BB is a great place to be, I for sure come back for my fix of bravery.

hi starrysky
how are you doing well i hope?

well i went for my u/s and they didn't say it was bad but didn't say it was good either the only thing he did say was they couldn't see my endometrial linning which didn't sound good it's been 5wks now and nothing i'm wondering does that mean no more af's at all or that i'll be waiting mnths? the weird thing was it was the day i should have had my 19wk scan and the same guy:( anyway i'll get the report tommorrow

take care hugs

Hi Baby hopes
Sorry to hear about your loss. I also have been through the crap and I finaly feel that I am starting to feel better. I don't cry as much at night, I found myself happy :cryinglaugh: the other day (it hasn't happened for a while).
Do I understand correctly that you haven't had AF for 5 weeks since M/C and D&C??? Have you had any pain???? How many weeks between MC and ultra sound??
If you want send a personal message to me and I will explaine why all the Questions

Cheers
Chris

hi chris first of all sorry for your loss

i am not sure how to send a personal message i had a d and c bleed for nearly two weeks after and it's been nearly 6wks now and no af yet the doctors have only just sent me for an u/s yesterday so any advice would be really appreciated

take care hugs xxx

Hi Baby hopes
I worked out how to do a Personal Message just the other day. You click on the underlined privatemessage up the top of your screen between the welcom and the mood.
When you said they found no endo lining do you mean there was a endo line but no thickness to it???
Its only 3 weeks since you finished your bleed from D&C so don't push the panic button yet. I didn't get AF for months after my D&C (had D&C sept and got AF in june) but that is because I had probs. I gave birth to my baby in emergency rooms at local hosp and it was the worst thing that I have ever done, I thought I was going to die. People say you don't know pain till you have a baby well my M/C was worse than my 2 deliveries. I have been on a real bad roller coaster ride since the M/C with alot of twists and turns, highs and lows, now I think it is ending and I hope the ride from here on will be a smooth one.
I hope you don't go through what I have been through.
I hope that its only hormones that is causing this delay as they still could be out of whack.:crossfingers:

Take care
Chris

hi chris

the guy who did the u/s never told me much at all he just said they couldn't see the endo lining properly i am hoping it's not a big problem either i forgot to mention last night [sorry was tired as] yes i have been in pain almost every day since one night i had pain so bad it was in my stomach and my back and i really thought it was my af but then got nothing as for the hormones i havn't even had those checked my local doctor has done nothing so far i am hoping to get back there this wks and get things sorted out it is a stressful time when you don't know what's going on

take care hugxxx

Hi Baby hopes
did the u/s guy give you a cd at all with your results as that is what I get at my visits.
I understand how stressing it can get :wall: if I were you I would go see GP ask for results of u/s and for a blood test to check hormone levels.
If you did get cd from u/s check it out it might give you the thickness of your lining.
If your GP is not so good try and get a referal to Royal Womens hospital at Randwick. They will help sort things out.
Let me know how you get on.
Take care
Chris

hello babyhopes,
sorry i ahvent been on for awhile, how is everything? sounds like chris is giving you some good advice, im so glad we have bb! (suck,suck)
i have read on here elsewhere that when the docs do the d&c they sometimes scrape too much, taking away the endo lining meaning it can take months to regenerate enough to get af.
This week has been the best for me so far but has also had its drawbacks, my bros g/f was admitted to hospital because she was still passing big clots, when they did the us they realised that the embryo is actually stuck in her cervix and has adhered to her cesarean scar! they were worried becos she was losing so much blood and on the us they can see her uterus is full of it too, they wont do a d&c cos they said it was too risky, they wanted her to have an injection to deteriorate the cells, she refused and they sent her home! i cant believe that! anyway, if she is still bleeding and hasnt passed it by next thursday, they said they will do the surgery. What a stuff around, the poor girl! i dont understand why they didnt just do the d&c in the first place, the docs she had sounded like right morons! sorry im having a vent.... i just cant believe that it got to this.
i am trying to do the right thing and be supportive of her as i dont think she has many people who she is close too, not that we are but... well, shes almost family!
anyway i will check back to see how you are doing, have a good weekend
xxx

Hi Baby hopes
I've been thinking about you today I hope everything is ok.

Hi Starrysky
Thanks for the compliment!!!:redface: The condition your talking about is called Ashermans syndrome. (I have been told by Dr that I have it and was at the RHW last month). You can get it a few different ways but most common is during a D&C.
Some Drs make me wonder how they passed medical exams!!!!!
Dr at hospital sent me home at begining of m/c and told me to go to GP to get u/s next day. (that was the start of my night mare its been 1 yr this monday and it is still going).
I hope your bro's g/f goes to a different hosp and gets a second opinion (I have choice of 2 hosp). It's great that your there to help her. She probably feels very lost and helpless at the moment if she has no one she is close to.

Take care
Chris

hi chris,
so sorry for your loss and the nightmare you have had to endure.
my bros gf has had 3 different opinions and they are now definately doing a d&c on thursday.
babyhopes, how are you chickie? hope you are doing alright, havent heard from you for a awhile...
talk soon i hope.
xxx

Hi Starrysky
Your bros g/f is probably turning to you because she knows you have been through it already. She is going through a really bad time by the sounds of it I really feel sorry for the poor girl.
Is the baby still stuck and adheard to her cesarean scar???

Take care
Chris

Last time we spoke it was all still the same except they agreed to do the d&c now.
The poor girl is convinced that she will die under the anaesthetic but she didnt want to have the injection.
I dont know, i dont like to think how i would have coped if it was me, i wanted the d&c straight away, i could not stand the thought of having my poor dead baby inside me, and that was only for 12 hrs.

hey girls

how is every one doing starrysky i am so sorry about yr brothers g/f that's awful what they are doing she must be taking it hard and it wouldn't be easy on you since you have just been through it yrself i am so sorry for both of you:hugs:

well as for me i went to the gyno today and i am fumming with my local gp the gyno said it looks like infection so i had to go get more tablets and bloods today it's been 6 wks now and he said i am no were near getting my af yet :( that's gonna be another 3 to 4 wks and if i still don't have it i have to go back again then on top of that i have to wait another two mnths before i can even think about trying i'll get the blood results next wk please don't let it be more bad news don't think i could cope with anymore atm sorry for the long post

take care :hug:

hey babyhopes,
well thats not good! well in a way at least now you and they know something is wrong and what it is and now you can get on top of it.
Take things a day at a time, by the sound of it, this is really all getting on top of you, you sound a bit overwhelmed. I understand, i would be too!
It might sound a bit naff but all this is in preparation of getting your body back to its healthy self so you can carry the baby i know you so want.
There is light at the end of the tunnel and i am always not far from the puter if you need to vent, talk, whatever.
thinking of you
xxxx

Hi Baby hopes
My heart goes out to you as I have been where you are now.:cry:
At last your got someone helping you, not stuffing you around.
The tabs you got are they 2 anti biotics??
My word of advice is take it day by day as it could be a rocky road. I agree with starrysky as that is what I have done (I'm not saying that you will take 12 months like me). Its better to be healthy so you can have a trubble free preg plus there is less chance for another m/c (heaven forbid).

Starrysky How is your bro's g/f ???

Take care

Chris

hi chris,
i spoke to her on wednesday, her mum ended up taking her back to hospital that day (wed) as she started passing big clots again, they did a us and said that the embryo has now passed but there is still a lot of retained "product", meaning she has now been scheduled to go back for a follow up us this tues and if it is all still there she will have the d&c then.
The whole thing seems so bloody ridiculous, just do the d&c already!!!! sorry minor outburst!
babyhopes? are you still around? thinking of you......
xxx

hi girls

thankyou for all the support you have givin me it has help me alot i feel like a weight was lifted off after my visit with the gyno anyway i finished my tablets and surprise surprise i got a fertile day two days later what are the odd's of that anyway makes me feel a little better as i know my af should be due in 2wks now hope all is well with you both starrysky nice to hear you got yr af

take care hugsxx

Hi baby hopes, sorry to hear about your m/c. Not sure if this helps but when i had my m/c my GP told me to keep taking the folate/ folic acid tablets & to up the dose. Hang in there, i hope everything works out for you.:pray:

Hi girls
Jo Jo - I was also told to take more (than what I was taking) folate after my miscarrage. I think it must be a standard thing as they say that it is supposed to prevent a miscarrage from happening.

Baby hopes - I also am waiting the 2 weeks for af as I (and my 2 monsters) had a bad case of food poisoning so the ttc was put to the side. (I can't win!!!!:wall:)

Starrysky - I feel so sorry for your bro's g/f. the Quacks she is seeing should have helped her b4 this. They have made her life a missery for too long. She should have had a D&C when they found out her baby had passed away not way down the track.

Hope you are all well and happy
Take care
Chris

Hi Babyhopes

i am now back from my hols i had a really good relaxing time just what i needed i have just been trying to catch up on everything and work at the same time you will have to let me no what the report says and like chris said hopfully its a hormone things and nothing much more i am gonna have to go as i am finnishing work now gotta do foos shopping and lots of washing and catch up with my sister i will speak 2morrow take care and hope you are feeling ok.

Munchy xxx

hi munchy

glad to see yr back and had a nice time you have to tell us all about it i hope you did get a extra surprise and just don't know yet [fingers crossed] anyway all my hormones and everything came back fine my iron is a little low but other than that i am just waiting to get my af now i think i have been coping with things alot better just a few things at home getting to me a bit anyway take care and look forward to catching up soon

hugsxx