I've told a few people I am thinking about going back for no.3. Every time I've told anyone all I've heard is negative stuff about having 3 kids. How if I have 3 then I will HAVE to have 4. I don't want 4, I only want 3 plus dsd's. My brother went on for about an hour on why you can't have 3 kids. I was excited about going for number 3, now I just feel guilty about it.
Anyone here have 3 kids? Are you happy with 3? Is it really as bad as people say having 3? Is 3 much harder then 2?
Thanks for any replies.
Last edited by AwesomeFoursome; October 31st, 2009 at 02:40 PM.
I'm one of 3 and although there are times where 2 will get along better then the other one it's okay. 3 is a good number. Plus I don't think people have a right to dictate to you about your choices.
Ill never know as Ive jumped from 1 to 4 but I think if your happy with your decision why do others feel the need to judge? If 3 is the prefect number for your family, you'll know
That statement is just way to broad for you to take much notice of. It all depends on the situation.
I think some people think that one will be the odd one out - but that doesn't apply to me - mine are really spread out. It doesn't apply to my GF with 3 either and hers are closer together.
Start telling them you are going for 5 and see what the reaction will be then
Ah for goodness sake who should it matter to but you & your partner?
I used to get the same thing when I talked about wanting another & it irritated me no end. They aren't raising them, not their problem
Nope, 3 are cool, so are 4 (I ended up with my other ) and if you & your partner are happy to do it then go for it
ETA - thought I'd answer the original question, lol - we had 'just' 3 for 7 years... I think maybe DD was the odd one out being the only girl. But you could get that in a family of 10, so
I was happy with 3, I wanted 4 but that was just me, you know? Yes three are harder than 2 but only as you would expect. Some people think the jump to 4 is harder because then you have to go for a bigger car etc. What I am getting at is there are always reasons for & against something. In this case I think you follow your heart. HTH
Honestly, I have noticed a big increase in work - but mainly cos my DH travels alot with work so it is just me alot of the time Getting out of the house sometimes can be difficult if one wont get dressed, the youngest wants to be nursed or hit his head and DD is having a wanting to wear a dress only day ....
I also think logistically people think it is so much more - might have to rethink housing, or perhaps car - which for some people is not possible.
I also think that some of my friends that have scoffed at three are secretly a tad jealous we had three, cos their DH's didn't want another one. Remarks like, gee you are back to where you were 6 years ago blah blah.
I love my family and having 3 kids - simple as that.
Well, TBH, it depends on your life! If you've got a supportive DH, & family, why not?
Its not impossible, plenty of people do it. I always thought 3 to 4 would be harder coz you need a bigger car & everything.
Its hard on your own, but you gotta do what you gotta do
I've found going from 2 to 3 so much easier than from 1 to 2!!! Generally the only thing I find hard is going out on my own with all three and that's mainly cause I have two under 2.
I have 3 but like Lulu my first and second are spaced out by 9 years... so maybe it doesn't count short answer: 3 for us feel right. It does get crazy but it's also lots of fun. Never a dull moment. It's fascinating to observe so much variety in your gene pool! Our blend of personalities are so diverse too... it all fits together nicely. ETA: um, yep, to be honest it's not all a bed of roses... the noise is incredible... but it's worth it.
IMO 3 kids is fine as one of the ladies said each play a part in the family. And id say the average family have between 2-4 kids. I'm one of 4 and my mum at times had trouble but she doesnt regret how many she had.
But its really none of anyones business, have as many kids are you want!
My 3 girls can be gorgeous one minute, feral the next - but I love them anyway!
My youngest 2 are only 18m apart, wich is a bit close for my liking, and I probably would've preffered my eldest to be at school (she was only 4 when #3 was born).
It can be crazy at times, you learn to just grin and bear it. The main thing that gets to me at this stage (I have 5, 3 and 18m) is that sometimes I just don't have enough hands, which means 'high risk' outings like swimming and the beach are off the agenda unless I have someone else with me.
Since being pg with #3 we had moved interstate away from any family and friends. I find sometimes not having that support hard, but mostly I am independent and would prefer to do it on my own without unwanted advice and interference anyway.
I love my family of 3 DD's, and wouldn't change it for the world.
3 is it for me!!
To be honest i have found it harder with 3. Having them close together so oldest one wasn't even at kindy when youngest was born was hard. Having no family around to help is hard. It's very difficult to get any kind of break in the day as you're very lucky if they sleep at the same time. The house looks like a bomb site and i'm tearing my hair out some days. but i wouldn't change it. if i knew before i had 3 what i know now i would still have gone for it. 3 times the smiles, 3 times the snuggles (but also 3 times the tanties).
So you can only know yourself. if you want 3, go for it, if you don't you'll only be left wondering. It is hard now but i'm hoping it get a bit easier when they get a bit older. At least next year my oldest will be in school full time and my middly will be in kindy 2 days so i am looking forward to that :-).
good luck with your decision
Julie x
WHAT????? Is there a rule saying you cant have 3 kids!???? Unfair...we are planning ttc#3 next yr. Boohoo. I think those that are neg are either jealous or had a neg time with their 3rd child!
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Is having 3 kids really that bad??
) and if you & your partner are happy to do it then go for it
Getting out of the house sometimes can be difficult if one wont get dressed, the youngest wants to be nursed or hit his head and DD is having a wanting to wear a dress only day ....
short answer: 3 for us feel right. It does get crazy but it's also lots of fun. Never a dull moment. It's fascinating to observe so much variety in your gene pool! Our blend of personalities are so diverse too... it all fits together nicely. ETA: um, yep, to be honest it's not all a bed of roses... the noise is incredible... but it's worth it.
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