My cousin put her two children into care almost two years ago, one has just turned 4 and the other will be 3 soon, one is a boy and one is a girl.
The mother was with the father she got pregnant, he went to jail, he got out she got pregnant with the second and he is now in jail again, when she first met him he had just got out of jail, he goes into jail because of theft and drugs I have heard to be true, the mother is now with a high risk offender, I think to little children, she see's her children 4 times a year, the children were in one foster carers home for one year and now have just moved to be with another foster carer, they have guardianship until the children are 18 or the mother or father could come forward and proove now they are fit and all that and go back to court to see if they can get them back.
Now I'm wondering is it a slim chance if I were to get them that the mother or father could just waltz back in after a couple of years with just this 4 times of seeing them a year and say judge I'm fit now and I won't go to jail anymore I have learnt my lesson or off the drugs won't do that anymore and just be able o get the kids back, because I would get attached to them, and they have already been through two foster carers before me, so it wouldn't be really fair on them to go back to their messed up parents would it? Would it be a very slim chance the judge would say ok I beleive the mother or father has changed, or would it be a big chance as the judge always favours the mother and I would get no say, or would they think that well I have four children of my own and they also would be upset if these children were to be taken from our family, upset on everyone. We had the department of community services come today, to check and see if we would be ok to look after them, we had to fill out form like criminal checks are done etc of my partner and I, now we have to wait which could be quick or not quick, depends how many other are getting done. I would like to get permanent care of these children without the mother being able to say I want them now
can anyone give me any advise on my circumstances here.