three weeks ago my daughter Lola died, she was stillborn at 41 weeks. Since that time I have been reading everything I can about stillborn babies and looking for others stories, I think maybe so I can see if my thoughts and feelings are normal. I have been reading on this forum. I thought maybe I would share my story with others here and hopefully get and give support to others who have been through a similar experience.
I viewed your blog and watched your beautiful slideshow and am bawling my eyes out
im so so sorry for your loss she was beautiful
I wish you and your family all of the best in such a hard time
all my love
Last edited by christy; May 24th, 2009 at 07:13 PM.
Hi Kristalee, I am so very sorry for the loss of Lola.
I am sure you will find a great deal of support and understanding from the women on here. Thank you for sharing with us.
i too just read your blog. What a terribly sad, but beautiful story you shared. Lola was gorgeous. The family time you shared sounds really special. I am so sorry she's gone.
Thankyou for sharing the story of Lola's birth. She is absolutely beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss. Will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts
Hi Kristalee, and welcome to BB. I am so sorry about your loss, it just breaks my heart to read of others who have lost their precious babies. Lola is so beautiful, I am sure she is now watching over you and your family.
It must be so hard to come so far in your pregnancy, only to come away with empty arms. I've lost my little son Joshua at almost 21 weeks, and I can't imagine losing him at full term. I too read so many books about miscarriage, stillbirth, dealing with loss, you name it, I read it. I must say it did help me to understand why things sometimes can go so horribly wrong. It's still so unfair though, no matter how you look at it. I wish I could take your pain away hun, and heal your heart. In time it will happen, but the grieving process must happen, and when will it end? I don't know. I'm still grieving for my little one, and I don't think I will ever stop.
I wish I could reach across the screen and give you a huge hug
Take good care of yourself, and please seek help if you need it, don't take it all on board yourself, it is so much for one person. I started to see a grief councillor straight after I lost Joshua and still see her to this day. She has helped me enormously, she's helped me to understand and deal with my loss. I also attend the SANDS meetings monthly, which really help too.
Beata xxx
Kristalee: Hun I am so utterly sorry that Lola couldn't stay with you and your family. I lost my first son at 36weeks so I know the unbelievable pain you are suffering. As I was reading your blog it all sounded so similar to my experience. My heart is breaking for you and your beautiful family.
Please know that you are not alone, sadly there are many of us here who have sufferred the ultimate loss. Please join us in the Miscarriage and Stillbirth forums, I have found the support of those ladies to be a life saver.
For now grieve your baby girl, let yourself feel the deeps of emotion you are going through.
I am so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing your story, Lola looked so very beautiful and peaceful.
I had tears in my eyes reading your words, and they streamed down my face while looking at your pictures.
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