i am almost 35 weeks pregnant and my son is almost 4
over the last few weeks and more so the last week he has been sooooo naughty and winy and clingy and i am finding my self loosing my temper with him and i can not handle it ,he wont listen, i feel like a bad mother because i don't feel like i can handle it
i know that they can sence something is coming and they feel funny as well and can not understand it, and i know im prob having trouble because of my hormones ,
has anyone else had this prob or an i just a bad mum
you are NOT let me repeat your NOT a bad mum, that was me 1 year ago with a 3 year old. I found the more closer i got to full term the less energy i had to play and keep my son busy. Can u maybe get some string and macaroni and let him make some necklaces while you sit down and have a cup of tea and watch him. Maybe try to get him focusing on other things. Try to distract him with activities like cooking or making stuff. and WHEN the first sign of good behavior is there praise him so much. Some times its like all they do is wrong and u dont get the opportunity to change the mood.
You are not a bad mum, ofcourse its because of your hormones. He probably realises that bubs will be here soon. Try and relax it will all work out in the end:-)
Have a look in the punching bag / boohoo room - You will see that there are quite alot of us like this. I am finding it extremely difficult coping with my kids atm. I have zero patience with them and I am certain that I am only dealing with them so badly because I am pg. Unfortunately I don't know what to do about it - except to repeat over and over to myself that things aren't really as bad as I think they are and that it is just the hormones. Failing that I have been sending them to bed alot lately, Angelica is allowed to play quitely in her room or read a book and Nate has a sleep - gives me a chance to calm down and ground myself and stop yelling at them both for a moment (which is all i seem to be doing lately).
No, you are not a bad Mum, just a Mum without much energy.
Has he helped much getting things ready for the baby. Get him to draw some pictures to take with you to hospital and put in the babies room and on the fridge.
Playdough is a good one to do together or just watching while you do something nearby.
You are not a bad mum! I have a 3yo who is seriously clingy and doesnt like sharing his mum with anyone. He throws punches at the other kids if they try and come near me when he is on my lap. Obviously this was a little concerning, so I have made a point of including him in all the info about the baby. It really helped to show him that inside the bump was a little person, which I did by getting one of those "your babies progress" side views from a baby webbie. A really good one shows up by googling "40 weeks pregnant". We sit down together and read stories to the baby. I always make sure I give him the opportunity to feel her kicking when she is awake. It does seem to have worked as now when he wakes up in the morning he givs my belly kisses and a big cuddle. He really is going to be a good big brother.
I plan on ensuring he stays involved when she is born too. That way he will always know that baby time isnt taking from him.
I think my children think their mother has been replaced by some crazy insane woman who LOOKs like mum... but isn't...
My 14yo & 11yo are having a hard enough time dealing with my moodiness & irritability, but it's the 7yo I feel sorry for (mostly cause the other 2 DO drive me nuts!) but he gets this look on his face... I can't describe it, it's like a mix of horror & sadness, he just doesn't know what to make of it... and yeah, I totally hear you about the guilt.
the other day I threw a loaf of bread....DH is still finding scattered pieces....
Oh Gosh, sounds like my household..I am 38 weeks and my twin girls who are almost 3 have been the same..I feel so bad because I am tired, hormonal and can't do alot of the things with them I usually do..I was actually saying to my sister today that I look forward to babys arrival and being able to at least sit on the floor and do puzzles with them...
please help :(
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