The adoption of a child should NEVER EVER EVER cost money.
Children are not a commodity.
Well, they shouldn't be, but it happens.
I wonder if legal guardianship has the same monetary implications, because that is a better solution for creating a secure family for a child, but they also retain their identity.
Adoption not only dismisses that identity, but it creates so many barriers for the child, especially later in life when they are seeking information on their heritage and genetic connections. Open adoptions are not all they're cracked up to be.
Hardly anyone ever acknowledges the depth of loss that adoptees experience. The adoption topics tend to be about 'red tape' or 'how much they cost'. That shouldn't be an issue at all in my opinion.
Those children have just lost their mother and father. You can't buy them new ones.
Adoption should be about finding secure and loving environment for the child, not finding a child for those that are unfortunately unable to have children.
i seriously considered adopting ... BUT then i found out i'm considered too old (most countries the adoptive Mother can't be over 42) ... like i'm gonna love, care or financially provide for them any less because i'm 43
I'm sorry you are discriminated against because of your age. There are quite a lot of women who naturally conceive children in their 40's, it doesn't seem fair.
Have you considered fostering or legal guardianship?
When I 'adopted' my daughter I was told by DHS that i was to young to adopt her even though I had full consent by her birth parents and she had been in my full time care for 12 months before we looked into the legalities of it all (and her birth parents decided it was the best for her needs to be with me).
In the end we just went through family courts and I gained fulltime custody of her (with part of the custody order being that I could change her surname to mine. The only diference between adoption and the arrangement I have is her birth cert does not have my name on it, which in our curcumstances is not an issue (she was 8yrs when it all happened so she knows what happened).
If you are considering taking on someone's child whom you know (and there isnt DHS involvement) then that is the cheapest way to gain legal rights of the child. Only thing is you need to have both birth parents approval or if they dont respond to the application the courts may approve it anyway.
Hope this info is helpful to someone (and makes sense)
Is he adopting him to change his surname legally or are there other reasons?
My DD has been known by my DH's surname since she was 7 but legally got a birth cert in that name when she was 16, we had to go to court but it was very easy and since we don't know where XH is he didn't have anything to do with it.
Hope i didn't offend you in any way, my DH is DD's "dad" too, its what they do not just the donation of sperm I think.
I can understand the safety aspect, I lived in fear for years about the X turing up (he left when DD was 2 and we haven't seen him since) It has taken me many years to calm down and even feel brave enough to visit the state his family live in.
I would go and talk to the registrar of the local court, ours helped me heaps with DDs name change.
That is so sad there is a cost involved. How can some middle man be making money off a child being sent to parents? I find society so wrong in letting that happen.
Go to South Africa to an orphanage and see all the babies in the cots.. just wanting to be cuddled and loved, and there are not enough volunteers to mind them all.. VERY sad to see.
It is wrong that people make money from adoption. My understanding is in Australia it is meant to cover the legal costs (I may be wrong, I am not very well informed in that). I have heard of overseas adoption costing people upward of $100,000!!?!?!?! I dont know if that is true but it is so so wrong. As you said Didi, there is a lot of babies in orphanages in Africa (and also other countries, such as Russia and other poorer countries) but yet in order to give these kids a life outside of an institution is financially beyond the reach of most people who would love to adopt a child/ren.
$3000? Holy moly! That's ridiculous! My twin sister and I were adopted in the 70's and my dad swears the adoption fee back then was $8.00 per child (and he likes to joke that he paid too much for us). Not sure if he's telling the truth but seriously when did it get so bloody expensive. There should definitley be a price differnce too if one spouse is adopting the others children.
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adoptions up!!! more $$$
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