going away without toddler

[shon95]

My husband is encouraging me to leave my toddler with his parents so we can have one last get-away before no. 2 arrives. My son will be 17 months and DH wants us to go away for 4 nights. Feels a little long to me. I'm after some advice/opinions???

[MantaRay]

This is a really individual thing and there is no right answer. I agree with your DH that it is important for the two of you to have some couples times before the baby arrives, but I personally would be unable to leave a toddler for that long. Perhaps you could compromise and go away for just one or two nights instead? Or go somewhere where his parents are nearby so that you can spend some time with your son and some time alone? The main thing is that you are comfortable with the plans, otherwise you won't enjoy it. GL hun.

[Rach75]

all I can offer is I haven't left Jack at all except with hubby then its like ducking to shops etc

I did leave him for 3 hrs for a wedding and with a friend so I could get my hair done for 3hrs but thats it, everyone keeps saying we should go away before our # 2 is born but I am like nup

it just depends on if you feel comfortable...

[amberj]

I would say its a bit long, although it depends on how familiar your LO is with your husband's parents and whether you have spent time away from him before. I think you have to make sure that both he and you would be comfortable.

We recently spend the first night away from our son, who is 13 months. I knew he would be ok as he knows my parents who he stayed with well, but I was a mess, which really surprised me! There is no way I would have coped with 4 nights! I think you need to work up to that, and if you haven't, then its too much for both of you.

[feeb]

Personally I couldnt go away for that long.

DS has only been with DH when I am not around. For me to go to shops or to work 1 day a week.

I would not be comfortable going away overnight as when he is upset it is me he wants.

[~Kim~]

I agree with MR, if you aren't 100% comfortable, it won't be worth going away as you'll be miserable.
Do they look after him now?
Has he ever been anywhere else overnight?
Is he happy to be put to bed by anyone else?
Could you just have a few days where you both do day trips/stay at home and PIL look after your little one and then still have him with you at night?
Is it important to you to have time away?

We didn't and never even thought of it really, so I guess that's why we didn't miss it, but when Nate was born my mum offered to take Darcy to Sydney (we live in the country) with he so we could have time together and time with Nate. I was sooo nervous as she's a real mummy's girl. DH gave her away eagerly lol, but in the end it was me who enjoyed it the most and DH who hated it. Darcy had a great time and was as good as gold HOWEVER she was nearly 3. I doubt I could have done it and enjoyed it if she was any younger.
HTH

[shon95]

Thank you all so much for your help. Your advice has really helped me to build some perspective.
Thanks again!
xx